Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Abuse and Recovery Articles
We are currently looking for an Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to "Abuse and Recovery". If you have expertise in Abuse and Recovery and your own website and/or product for this topic, please review this form for complete details. The Official Guide Position is part of our Premium Placement Package
- For Millions, Every Day is 911 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2009 from Anna MossEight years ago, in a matter of hours, the face of society changed because of what the few did to the many. As we reflect, let us also be mindful of the millions who suffer daily at the hands of those they once trusted. 11 September 2009 Today, we pause to honor the dead and shake our ...
Views: 1650 - Distinguishing Responsability, Blame & Fault - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Danish AhmedHi Everyone!! In a previous newsletter, some of you wrote back requesting clarification on how all of us can be "100% responsible for our lives" when there are certain obvious things which we cannot control, such as sexual abuse or a physical disability. First, let's distinguish ...
Views: 2301(4 votes) - Dealing With Child Abuse Past & Present - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Diane BabcockChild Abuse To know about a person's open wound on the outside is obvious. To treat it we apply a bandage and some TLC To know about a person's open wound on the inside may come from observing a person's demeanour which requires more study or by simply being told about it. To treat ...
Views: 3174 - If he hits you once, he'll hit you twice!! - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Christina HallTwenty-one is the age where teenagers are turning into young adults and most young adults at this age love to go to parties and have a good time. Maybe because they know that they won’t be able to do this for much longer. Well, at least for most people that is. I was one of those people. I ...
Views: 2372(1 vote) - Toxic Words: Verbal Abuse Can Hurt You - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Linda Pucci"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" Remember that old saying that we used as kids to try to cope with name-calling? It probably wasn't very successful then, and in fact, just isn't true. We now know that words can hurt. We always knew that words could ...
Views: 2517(3 votes) - School speaker and addictions expert, reflects on his life as a bully - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Scott GallagherBullying is growing problem in Canada and the United States. In recent years bullying behavior has spawned needless school violence and adolescent suicides. This article details what the life of a bully is like and how it affects everyone involved. The life of a bully is not what it seems. On ...
Views: 1668 - HEALTHY OPPOSITES - Change Your Behavior, Change Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Donna TorbicoFor ACoAs- (Adult-Children of alcoholics, abusers, abandoners & other narcissists) ACoAs know how they would like their life to be: TO have a fulfilling career, loving relationships, less pressure, a little fun... and they try, struggle, obsess - but not much changes. They become more & more ...
Views: 2873(5 votes) - Domestic Violence On The Rise - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Joan HangarterDOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON THE RISE- HOW CAN YOU PROTECT YOURSELF Just this summer, Governor Schwarzenegger cut funding for all Domestic Violence Programs in the state of California as part of his $489 million in budget cuts. You certainly don’t need to be a psychic to predict an increase in ...
Views: 1917(4 votes) - Your power is NOW - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from shayne hammond"NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Heb 11:1 Whether your'e thinking about yesterday, pondering the events of today, visualising your future in ten years time, or remembering an experience in your childhood, you are creating NOW, in this ...
Views: 1061(4 votes) - IDENTIFTYING PTSD FROM CHILDHOOD- And 3 Steps to Begin Healing - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Bettina Sparkles ObernuefemannIDENTIFYING PTSD FROM CHILDHOOD ABUSE And 3 STEPS TO BEGIN HEALING Bettina “Sparkles” Obernuefemannn I’ve learned during the past 20 years that almost all of us on planet earth have experienced some kind of trauma or loss, now more commonly recognized as POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER ...
Views: 1569(3 votes) - Standing Up For Change! - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsTomorrow morning, Thursday May 28th, I travel to Oregon’s Capitol in Salem, to testify in support of House Bill 2827. This bill will lengthen the Statute of Limitations for those who have suffered sexual abuse. It is being met with much opposition from the Catholic church, the Mormon church and ...
Views: 1012(1 vote) - Extra, Extra, Read All About It! Ten Million Children on Drugs! - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Regina MurphyAlthough this headline will not appear in The New York Times or The Wall Street Journal maybe it should. The chances of a child being addicted to drugs to alter their moods in adulthood increase exponentially if they are prescribed medication by a psychiatrist or doctor at an early age. Parents ...
Views: 2084(2 votes) - Do Rejection Fears Rule Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealAre you one of those people who’s very confident, who makes new friends easily, who has no trouble asking someone for a date? Or are you a person who lacks confidence, who fears rejection, who is constantly worried about whether other people really like him, or will reject him? Does your ...
Views: 1353(2 votes) - Ritual Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Neil BrickRitual abuse exists all over the world. There have been reports, journal articles[1][2][3], web pages[4][5][6][7][8][9] and criminal convictions of crimes against children and adults [10][11][12]. Contents * 1 Definition * 2 Origins of the term * 3 Evidence * 4 ...
Views: 5872(7 votes) - Surviving Abuse: Part I - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2009 from Loretta HallWhy did this happen to me? How could God let it happen to me? These are the questions we often ask ourselves when we are victims of any kind of abuse...whether it be spousal abuse or stranger abuse. Now that I have your attention, allow me to introduce myself. I am Loretta Hall, victim of ...
Views: 1439(1 vote) - Power and Sexual Arousal in the Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossWhen we think of children who have been sexually abused, we think of fear, anger and violence. Most sexual abuse survivors talk of the terror and disassociation surrounding the abuse. Many still feel that way as adults and don’t enjoy sex now, even in a loving relationship. But there are ...
Views: 1975 - Rape Victims: Deal with Guilt and Shame - Release Anger and Heal Pain through Personal Journaling - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from Cindy L. HerbChild abuse stories, including those by victims of physical abuse, rape and sexual abuse, can be very compelling. Others are likely to be shocked when you tell them about your story of abuse. However, if you take an attitude of observation, instead of judgment, you too can write about your ...
Views: 4311(2 votes) - Michael Jackson: The Tragic Consequences of Child Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2009 from Stephanie MannMillions of people enjoyed Michael Jackson’s genius as a showman, however, his legacy is even greater if we learn from his life story. During a TV interview, “Living with Michael Jackson,” Michael stated he was beaten by his father. He was so terrified he became physically ill when he saw ...
Views: 3598(3 votes) - Is Suffering Optional? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Dr. Kathleen YoungMy title is prompted by the oft repeated phrase: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. What is your experience of this? Is suffering optional? Is that even a desirable goal? Or are there experiences that automatically cause suffering? Is there a function to “suffering” or feeling one’s ...
Views: 1384(2 votes) - Identifying PTSD from Childhood Abuse-3 Steps to Healing - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Bettina Sparkles ObernuefemannI’ve learned during the past 20 years that almost all of us on planet earth have experienced some kind of trauma or loss, now more commonly recognized as POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD). We become trauma victims when we experience natural disasters, murder, suicide, gang fights, robbery, ...
Views: 6365(3 votes) - Stop Being Abusive in Your Marriage and Be Assertive Instead - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2009 from Angie LewisHow can we stop being abusive with our spouse and be assertive instead? It’s easy once we learn a few simple communication techniques. When we are frustrated, disappointed, stressed, or angry what happens? We use our emotions in negative ways with our spouse. This causes a chain reaction and ...
Views: 5497 - *** Could Therapy Have Helped Michael Jackson? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Kathy SeifertMichael Jackson must have been under tremendous emotional stress in recent years. He went through a difficult trial. He had a strained relationship with his father. Additionally, being in the spotlight 24/7 can put tension on your emotional state. News reports imply that Michael may have had ...
Views: 3647(1 vote) - Child Abuse Doesn't Take A Day Off and Neither Can We - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt kind of trails off after the holidays. We would love to keep the issue in the front of everyone and that child abuse happens all year long. Abuse doesn't take a holiday, doesn't take a day off, and we can't either. (Jane Donovan) The it referred to in the quote is child abuse. It was in ...
Views: 1704 - Michael Jackson: The Lost Childhood - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Jim HagueNow deceased, Michael Jackson is more powerful than ever before. This story has made frontline news in all the world’s paper for 3 days straight now. No other news is seemingly is so captivating; not Jon and Kate, not US economic woes, not even the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. Michaels’ ...
Views: 5032(3 votes) - Finding Clarity - Dealing With An Addicted Loved One - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Joe WhiteIt was 15 years ago and my life was different. Growing up I didn't plan on being a drug addict. I came from a good family, parents who loved each other and their kids. As a matter of fact this year they are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. All the love and good upbringing didn't ...
Views: 2640(2 votes) - Mentoring Youth Involved in Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Todd HicksAre you familiar with any young people who have a domestic violence background? Would you be honored to instill in them a message that discourages inflicting harm against others, especially the ones they live with? You will learn methods you can use to mentor youth who have committed domestic ...
Views: 1390 - Night Night, Sleep Tight: A Look at Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn every story worth telling, there is a colorful beginning. This one begins with me… When my stepfather started caressing me, and lightly tickling my arms, legs, and back, it felt nice. I felt loved. I was often watching television when he would cuddle with me on the sofa. My ...
Views: 3288(1 vote) - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 4 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorLooking deeper If you take a spiritual perspective, assuming that every experience in life is a potential healing lesson, an invitation from your higher self to learn and to grow, then challenges in your life may have a different “feel” to them. This is a major reframing! If someone does ...
Views: 1411 - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 3 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorBlaming others Scapegoating comes into common practice through processes that have been repeated throughout recorded history – in family, classroom, interracial and international settings. The targets of anger are always dehumanized. These “others” are painted by the blaming group as being ...
Views: 1556 - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 1 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorEach of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit. William James Introduction Anger is a natural response to being endangered or hurt. Challenges that commonly elicit anger include: Being attacked verbally or ...
Views: 1374(1 vote) - Domestic Violence Counseling: When the Counselor Becomes Your Enemy - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.I often hear domestic violence survivors complain that the counselor they are seeing with their partner has sided with him/her. These victims expected to seek therapeutic remedy for the dysfunction that they live, and they discover they have gained another “enemy.” Here are some things you ...
Views: 1433(1 vote) - An Alien Encounter: A Look at Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI am in my therapist’s office, after finding out about my daughter’s sexual abuse, and I am slowly recalling the morning after the first time I was sexually violated by my stepfather….. I saw myself as a young child, sewing a cloak of many new colors, a cloak of artificial self-esteem and ...
Views: 2175 - I Saw the Enemy - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Keith BrayAlways interesting to see what thoughts run through my head as I try to shut down my conscious thinking and spend quiet time in the morning. About fifteen years ago I sat in a treatment centre, Homewood, in Guelph, Ontario. I had been alcohol and drug free for about 3 months, and this did allow ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Domestic Violence Resources – The 5 Essential Resources for Domestic Abuse Survivors - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic violence help comes in all shapes and sizes. There is the crisis hotline to get you where you need to go ASAP. Then, there are the community domestic abuse support groups that assure you that “you are not alone.” Your domestic violence shelter will give you all the resources for your ...
Views: 1271 - Clapton: The Autobiography - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Sigrid MacdonaldThose who are looking for sensationalism and all the pomp and glory that go along with being a rock god may be disappointed in Clapton: The Autobiography. Some people think that Eric Clapton came across as shallow in this memoir and that his behavior over the years, particularly to women, was ...
Views: 1688 - Childhood Abuse: When the past is present - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Dr. Kathleen YoungWHAT IS CHILDHOOD ABUSE? Child abuse can take the form of any act of emotional, physical or sexual abuse perpetrated against a child. Child abuse can also take the form of neglect: ignoring the child's emotional and or physical needs. Child abuse can take place inside and outside of the ...
Views: 1744(3 votes) - Psychological Abuse and Divorce: Mental Illness by Layman’s Declaration - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.For almost every battered woman and abused man I work with, there is a layman’s label attached to the core of their self-perception. This label is typically bestowed upon them by their battering partner or by allies supporting his/her plight to save face and to discredit and silence the ...
Views: 1720 - How Can the Trauma of Childhood Still Be Afffecting Me? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Margaret (Maggie) KerriganEvan exploded. His one-year-old son had dropped cereal on the floor for the third time. Usually, Evan has lots of tolerance when his son dropped things, but today he had none. He knew his reaction was over the top for something relatively minor. Later, when he thought about his reaction he ...
Views: 1534 - Child Abuse: When Will We Do Away with This National Recognition? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsApril is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. We take one day to remember mothers and fathers, those who gave their lives for this country, the signing of The Declaration of Independence, a man who gave his life in the name of civil rights, and the day Christ was born. I have often wondered ...
Views: 1120 - Overcome Addiction Immediately - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Michael GeorgeThere is a method that any person can use, in any situation, to overcome any addiction immediately. That is a powerful statement - one that you might have a hard time believing. The very idea seems rather ridiculous, doesn’t it? I am not just talking about the more common addictions such as ...
Views: 1561 - Tips to Help You Reduce Alcohol in Social Situations - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from GARTH DELIKANTalk to a partner or friend – they could help you highlight some self-help ideas. Try to stop drinking alcohol on weekdays and make some minor lifestyle changes like increasing your physical activity. When you are drinking, try to substitute every second drink with water, non-alcoholic beer, ...
Views: 1991(1 vote) - Psychological Abuse: 6 Tips to Counter Being Improperly Labeled with a Psychiatric Diagnosis - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.As a psychologist, domestic abuse consultant and one who has known domestic violence personally, I’m frequently approached by battered women for “psychological truth.” They are eager to know if the names and labels given to them by their abusive partners, or by the court agents acting on their ...
Views: 1451 - Every Month Should Be Child Abuse Prevention Month! - by Submitted on May 29, 2009 from Miss Becka MarschEvery month should be Child Abuse Prevention Month. As a parent educator, mother of three children and former preschool teacher, I am appalled by the growing rate of child abuse, neglect, maltreatment and murders in our country. Why is it that, in a country such as ours, where we are always ...
Views: 1731(1 vote) - Motivating the Village to Protect the Children - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Lisa SiegleChild abuse is a painful reality, but one that is preventable. As caring, thinking adults, we could have a profound impact on the lives of vulnerable children if each and every one of us reached out to other adults and inspired them to help protect kids. As a community, we can make a difference ...
Views: 1649(3 votes) - The Childless Scarlet A: Healing from Family Violence and Legal Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Some wounds are so severe that words cannot capture their complete pain. Being pushed out of one’s children’s lives or the lives of your grandchildren is one of these. When this is yours, the depths of it take your breath away. I hear women tell me the cries that come out of them over their ...
Views: 1013 - When We Help Ourselves, We Help the Helpless - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn my freshman year of high school, one of my closest friends suffered severely from a clinical depression that required both therapy and medication. Not only had she even attempted suicide, she was confronting the repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse by her former stepfather. It was ...
Views: 1129 - Psychological Abuse: 3 Signs of Crazy-Making by Family, by Friend, by Enemy - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We know it happens; yet when we see it, we’re in shock. And when we experience it, we’re numb. How can a family member, who once claimed to cherish you, plot to back you into a fabricated psychiatric label and sentence of craziness? That is the question that dumbfounds anyone who walks in these ...
Views: 3906 - Getting Past Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAll of us have been emotionally hurt at one time or another—it doesn’t matter who and what you are, really. However, there are also people who seem so totally unreceptive to emotional pain. These are the type who doesn’t give a smack when someone tries to get close to them with a bit of an ...
Views: 4520(3 votes) - Life Coach Relationship Advice about Abusive Relationship: Look into Your Self Esteem - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamThere is no ‘cook-book’ Relationship Advice solution for an unhealthy abusive relationship. Being involved in a relationship that has reached the point where it’s a constant cycle of abuse is not healthy for either partner and unfortunately there is no ‘quick-fix’ for this type of situation. ...
Views: 1715 - Addiction Bible Scriptures - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Robert And Shelley JakobsenAlcoholism, drug abuse and eating disorders are often misunderstood. These diseases include a soul-sickness. The people in the grips of these afflictions are spiritually ill, too. The illness can even spread to family members and friends. The recovery process has produced countless untold ...
Views: 7773(3 votes)