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- Patt Manna's "Experience Strength and Hope" - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Patt MannaI am a believer who struggled with co-dependency and alcohol. The first time I was exposed to the Twelve Steps, it was in Alcoholics Anonymous and they gave me sobriety from alcohol. I was on the 4th step working this program, when my sponsor sent me to Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA), and ...
Views: 1896(2 votes) - Serentity Prayer - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Patt MannaFrom Chapter 6 of my book Spiritual Infusion:Twelve Step Recovery and Revival Inside and Outside The church, you will find my study and commentary into the depth of this marvelous prayer and what it offers us in recovery. This is the long-form of the Prayer and warrants study of the words so ...
Views: 2961(2 votes) - Your emotional journey in the early days following your relationship break up or separation-What to Expect! - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from James RichardsonFollowing your divorce,relationship break up or separation,you may be surprised and alarmed to experience both the strength and range of emotions that you are currently feeling. You may notice that your emotions are different to other people who are separated. This appears, in part,to depend ...
Views: 2950(1 vote) - Alcoholism - Is There A Medical Cure? - by Submitted on May 08, 2011 from James FrithThe World Health Organisation estimates that around 76 million people globally currently suffer from some kind of alcohol-related condition. Alcohol remains the world's number one killer causing almost 2.5 million deaths a year or just about 4% of the world's total. On average each human being ...
Views: 1219(1 vote) - PENNSYLVANIA DRIVER'S LICENSE SUSPENSIONS and D.U.I. Cases - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Steven TabanoPennsylvania DUI driver's license suspensions are handled by the Pennsylvania Department of Transportation (PennDot). The Department has the authority to suspend or revoke the driver's licenses and driving privileges of those arrested for DUI. Driver's License suspensions are not imposed by a ...
Views: 1690 - DUI Defenses - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Steven TabanoDespite what you may have been told, there are defenses to a D.U.I. charge and the charges that go along with it. Like any other criminal defendant, you are presumed innocent and have certain rights guaranteed to you by the constitution. A good DUI defense attorney will be familiar with ...
Views: 1234 - There's a fine line - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI am a first time author and I have written a book about my own personal experience. My direct web page – http://chipmunkapublishing.co.uk/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&products_id=1822 After an accident in which I injured my back, I was ill health retired. This has given me the time ...
Views: 1794(1 vote) - Gang / group rape - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2011 from Jungle BitesGang / group rape is when an individual is raped by two or more persons. It has a high occurrence among teenagers and is usual motivated by adolescent boys with a strong sex drive. As with most rapes, they are not reported due to trauma and shame. However gang rapes are normally more physically ...
Views: 3524 - Drinking: The 'Relationship' to the Bottle - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Ken HowardOver my 18 years as a psychotherapist, one of the most frequent issues my clients bring to me is a concern about their drinking, or perhaps their drug use. There is a wide range; some people don’t have large problems with drinking or using, but they have some concerns about it after a ...
Views: 1483(2 votes) - Narcissism and the Stepford Wife - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Lady SarcasmaWhen most people hear the word “abuse,” they think of bruises left from an angry person’s violent rage. Very few, though, understand the mental and emotional scars resulting from emotional abuse, and even fewer understand those which are caused by the lesser-known Narcissistic ...
Views: 6542(1 vote) - SEXUAL TRAUMA - Loving Your Abuser - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossRecognizing you are being abused is difficult when you love the person who is abusing you. This is true for both children and adults. The mind will go to great lengths to protect a person who cannot emotionally accept that they are being abused. The greater the abuse, the more elaborate the ...
Views: 3925(3 votes) - Get the Facts About Alcohol and Drug Abuse before it's Too Late! - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Ari NovickAlcohol and drugs can have a lasting and devastating impact on our lives. Unfortunately, by the time you become a statistic, it's already too late. In fact, by the time a statistic is even developed, it's probably too late. Here are some interesting facts about alcohol. In a recent study ...
Views: 1017(3 votes) - 6 Steps to Alcohol Awareness and Education - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Ari NovickGetting alcohol and drug addiction or abuse under control is no easy task. Most addicts tend to minimize their addiction and state they can stop any time they want, its simply a choice they are making. Here are a few suggestions to make yourself more aware of what you need to look out for in ...
Views: 1229(2 votes) - Emotional Abuse and Brain Structural Damage - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Michael LocklearEmotional abuse results in damage to the hippocampus, a brain area involved in learning and memory ability. This damage results in associated memory deficits, according to studies from Yale University School of Medicine, Yale Psychiatric Institute and the Department of Biological Sciences at ...
Views: 17086(1 vote) - Purple Drink, Cough Syrup Abuse - What "Syrup" Does to Your Body - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from ChooseHelp.com Addiction TreatmentPurple Drink Promethazine and Codeine containing cough syrup abuse has become popular in certain circles, especially in Houston and the South. Mixed with soft drinks and soda, it is drank and taken in high doses creating a euphoric effect that can "slow" people down. This relatively new ...
Views: 11626(2 votes) - Child Abuse Prevention Month: Prevention and Education Resources - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Lisa SiegleApril is Child Abuse Prevention Month in the US, where 906,000 children are victims of abuse or neglect every year. Risk factors include family history of abuse, stress and lack of support, alcohol or drug abuse, and domestic violence. The majority of children in out-of-home care are victims ...
Views: 1714(3 votes) - Need A Recovery Program? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Keith BrayNEED A RECOVERY PROGRAM? I am blessed to be acquainted with a great group of people who are involved in addiction recovery and helping others. Patrick Meninga who operates the web site www.spiritualriver.com is one of those people. Over the years, Patrick and I have collaborated on several ...
Views: 1619(2 votes) - When Your Teenager Has a Drinking Problem - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2011 from Mike MillerAmong the many nightmares that parents encounter is catching your adolescent child has been drinking. This might have happened when you smell vodka on their breath after coming home from an activity with friends Or perhaps it's actually catching them drinking at a party, or in your house. ...
Views: 1432(2 votes) - Substituting Alcohol For Tea - Different Types Of Tea - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from James FrithMany people are deciding, for various reasons, that they should give up drinking alcohol. Tea is becoming increasingly popular as a substitute due to the natural health benefits that it provides. Like the fact that all wines come from grapes, all teas come from the Camellia Sinensis plant or a ...
Views: 6111(2 votes) - A Story of Forgiveness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Jason FreedmanArticle By: Jason Freedman Po. Box 496 Salt Lake City, UT 84110 JasonFreedmanjournalism@gmail.com The Tragedy to Triumph Story of Teal Scott It was a cold, gray March morning at Greenhouse Effect Coffee in south Salt Lake City. I had arrived early so as to set up my notes and ...
Views: 4775(2 votes) - A Story of Forgiveness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Jason FreedmanArticle By: Jason Freedman Po. Box 496 Salt Lake City, UT 84110 801-949-9651 JasonFreedmanjournalism@gmail.com The Tragedy to Triumph Story of Teal Scott It was a cold, gray March morning at Greenhouse Effect Coffee in south Salt Lake City. I had arrived early so as to set up ...
Views: 1147 - Gin or the Tea Cup? When Are You Drinking Too Much? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from James FrithWhen does drinking alcohol become a problem? When you begin waking up with a bit of a headache each Saturday morning? When you begin waking up with a headache every morning? Perhaps it's when you start drinking every morning simply to get out of bed? Or perhaps it's when you once again find ...
Views: 1239(1 vote) - Why Charlie Sheen and others are so angry at the mainstream treatment culture and society. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Hank HayesHank Hayes author of the book “You’ve been lied to… the untold truth about the alcohol and addiction mainstream treatment industry and the secrets on how to eliminate the problem for good” due to be released at the end of May 2011 say’s… “I absolutely identify with why Charlie Sheen and ...
Views: 1476 - When Does Using An Online Divorce Site Make The Most Sense? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2011 from Justin MachlaneThe Internet has surely changed the whole concept of marital life. Getting married online is no more a shocking headline for us. There are hundreds of couples who have never actually met their spouse beyond their virtual avatars. Of course, that doesn’t mean that anyone can settle for such a ...
Views: 783 - Only One Out Of Ten Will Make It - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Patt MannaDid you ever hear this statement made around the rooms of recovery? Did you ever wonder where those statistics came from? Well I have a revelation for you. Read this and receive it. Ask your self where the other nine are? Go to the lost sheep! This is where the sponsor should come into your ...
Views: 2238(3 votes) - AUTONOMY & ATTACHMENT - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoSERVANT or MASTER of YOUR CASTLE Who’s the boss of you? ACoA SYMBIOSIS (S.) An unhealthy attachment to others as a way to: • compensate for emotional abandonment in childhood • to cope with deep anxiety of being a separate entity • escape having to face the struggle of growing up ...
Views: 3291 - SYMBIOSIS & ACoAs - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoAM I ME, AM I YOU & ARE YOU ME? I hate myself, but I also want you to be exactly like me! SYMBIOSIS As infants, all humans are born with a built-in biological & psychological set of tendencies, which interacts with & responds to their specific environment in their own unique way - but ...
Views: 2869 - PEOPLE SHOULD TREAT ME BETTER - But I WON’T LET THEM - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoACOA DOUBLE BINDS - Either way we lose ourselves, to stay loyal to the family If you’d like to know about double binds, go to pg. 10 of www.acoarecovery.com. ACoAs have a terrible dilemma: 1. On the one hand we desperately want to be loved, acknowledged, seen, heard. We complain bitterly ...
Views: 1805(2 votes) - “WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS” - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoLONELY CREATURES We’re all social animals, even when we sometimes need our privacy Many people in the mental health field, spiritual practices & new-age wisdom say we shouldn’t worry about what others think of us. Yes, OK, but it’s not that simple! What they don’t tell you is that there’s 2 ...
Views: 1991(2 votes) - Substance Abuse Evaluations. Who Needs One? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2012 from Dean SunseriA substance abuse evaluation is an assessment of an individual to discern whether the drugs or alcohol use is a problem in the person’s life. There are basically three general categories of using drugs, which are social use, abuse and addiction. Social Use is either the experimentation of ...
Views: 1888(1 vote) - How to Know If Your Elderly Relatives are Being Abused - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Jeff RasanskyIf you reckon that something is shady in the retirement facility where you have a beloved one taking supervision, but you're not confident, don't be depressed. Neglect in nursing homes is infamously difficult to anticipate. Employing a worst-case situation as an illustration, envision that you ...
Views: 1538(1 vote) - ***Abuse is a Bad Word - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2011 from Janet NestorI don't know the percentage of people who come into my office living in abuse or needing to work through past abuse. The ratio is astoundingly high. When I worked in substance abuse residential care, the percentage was probably 99%. Physical abuse and verbal abuse are easier to recognize ...
Views: 3793(11 votes) - Top 10 Ways to Stop Drinking Alcohol - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from Mike MillerOften when people come to one of my alcohol awareness classes, they know that they need to stop drinking alcohol. But they don’t know exactly how they should stop. Here are some tips that you might find useful: 1. Don’t hang around people who are drinkers or who might tempt you to ...
Views: 5479(4 votes) - SELF-RESPECT = SELF-ESTEEM. Want some? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from Keith BraySelf respect = Self esteem Last week I had the opportunity to talk with you a little bit about the meaning of RESPECT. Ultimately, in the addiction world, we have to add SELF into the equation. How important is self respect/self esteem and have I got it?I have had the opportunity to ...
Views: 1478 - 4 Steps to Freeing Yourself from Substance Abuse - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online. By 2008, there are more than 115,000 people who are rushed to the ER because of illegal drug abuse. The country has spent as much as $180 billion from drug-related crimes and health care costs. Simply put, drug and alcohol abuse are such a ...
Views: 900 - ABANDONMENT Pain, Now (Part 2) - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna TorbicoABANDONMENT PAIN IS FROM THE PAST It hurts, but it passes DEFINITION • the DEF for Abandonment (A) is : “Not getting enough of your legitimate childhood needs met, & some needs NOT at all”. This applies to all 4 categories of NEEDS: Mental, Physical, Emotional, Spiritual. (A) is NOT just ...
Views: 1705 - ABANDONMENT Pain, Now (Part 1) - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna Torbico“I HATE YOU - DON’T LEAVE ME!” I know I don’t deserve you, but I’m desperate ✶ Un-healed ACoAs have only 2 speeds about most things: Too Much or Too Little, black or white, very high or very low. ‘Gray’ is NOT even thought of, or is seen as a cop-out! ✶ Mental Health is about many ...
Views: 1681 - “FEAR IS THE ABSENCE OF LOVE” - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna TorbicoLOVE vs FEAR? Fear is an emotion caused by either outer danger or inner false beliefs • Like so many popular ‘spiritual’ saying there’s some truth in it but NOT the whole story, so people can get easily confused & also misuse it. • Generally, this statement means that if we have enough ...
Views: 4335(1 vote) - ACoAs’ Need for REVENGE - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna TorbicoMAKE THEM SUFFER ! The same way they made me suffer! This post, of course, is about those of us raised in a variety of abusive, dysfunctional families & communities AS CHILDREN a. External CAUSES - Growing up, our parents & other adults: • blamed us unfairly, for all kinds of things ...
Views: 1574 - “THEY DID THE BEST THEY COULD” - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2011 from Donna TorbicoYES, I WAS HURT BY MY FAMILY, but they were hurting too, poor things! This is a phrase I’ve heard over the years, & it always makes me mad. You may at first think this post is harsh or unfair, BUT please remember that everything our parents were - WE internalized into our Negative ...
Views: 3816(1 vote) - BeSimply...Strengthened and Renewed - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Suzanne ToroSuzanne Toro shares an introduction to a Self Help Series for Women and Men who have been abused or violated. She shares a simple over view on how to identify if you are still holding on to the trauma and the fears. She will share how you can identify where you might have buried you pain. ...
Views: 1627(4 votes) - ACRONYMS for all HEAL & GROW Articles - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna Torbicopgs. = http://www.acoarecovery.com – Then click on SITE MAP ACoAs = adult-children of alcoholics & other abusers A = Abandonment (A) = Adult As = Actions A/A = Abuse & Abandonment AC = Adapted Child AEC = Adult Ego State B = ...
Views: 1584(1 vote) - PARENTAL BLAME - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoWe hear a lot in the ‘spiritual’ community about forgiveness- ie - not blaming. That applies to the present - if you’re an adult. And that’s a discussion for another blog. BUT this entry is about what happened TO US as children. A hallmark of alcoholic (& other emotionally unhealthy) ...
Views: 2530 - Personal RESPONSIBILITY - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoOWNING MY T.E.A You may push my buttons, but I’m responsible for my Thoughts, Emotion & Actions WHAT IS IT? In it’s simplest form: honestly admitting, to ourselves, first of all, what we feel, think & have done - or - not. (Review T.E.A. - Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, pg 54 ) “I cannot ...
Views: 1757 - SELF-HATE & ACoAs (Part 2) - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoNOBODY LOVES ME - I’m going to eat worms & die! Part 1: Essence, Source - Past & Present PURPOSE for S-H - TO: • protect our ideal of having good, loving, safe parents • protect us from feeling our old abandonment pain • keep from risking change (fear we’ll die if we S & I) • keep us ...
Views: 2129 - SELF-HATE & ACoAs (Part 1) - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoI’M NO GOOD & EVERYONE KNOWS IT so I have to be perfect to make up for it Self-Hate is the #1 deterrent to growth for all ACoAs. It undermines our ability to function well, to have self-esteem & to be happy. Some people call it being ‘hard on yourself”, but it’s much more than that. It’s so ...
Views: 1693 - What is SHAME? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoTHE BAD SEED I was born bad & I’ll always be bad Guilt is about actions - it’s the emotion which is caused by disobedience to rules we deeply believe in. On the other hand, SHAME is about our identity - about who we are, fundamentally. It says that our very essence is bad, unlovable, ...
Views: 2336(1 vote) - What is GUILT? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoGuilt is not a primary emotion, like anger, joy, sadness... But it is one of the most intense & often-felt emotions by ACoAs. It is a familiar companion of negative self-talk & to actions we believe to be bad, but may not be. Guilt is connected to self-hate: since our default position is that ...
Views: 1496 - A Couple's Guide to Intimacy...When One of You is a Sexual Abuse Survivor - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Susie and Otto CollinsJeanette really wants to have a “normal” sex life with her husband Carl. The problem is her memories of being sexually abused as a child by a neighbor. It seems like whenever Carl touches her or talks to her in a sexually suggestive way, she freezes up. This has been a struggle for the two ...
Views: 2223 - Heightened HYPER-SENSITIVITY A by-product of Betrayal - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Elizabeth McNallyBetrayal, big or small, trashes your heart to bits. You do survive and heal. When it has been shattering, your scar will usually be deep and render you hyper-sensitive. You may have a tendency to armor yourself in order to protect yourself from any other injury. This armor may be so ...
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