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The World Health Organisation estimates that around 76 million people globally currently suffer from some kind of alcohol-related condition. Alcohol remains the world's number one killer causing almost 2.5 million deaths a year or just about 4% of the world's total. On average each human being ... Views: 1109
Pennsylvania DUI driver's license suspensions are handled by the Pennsylvania Department of Transportation (PennDot). The Department has the authority to suspend or revoke the driver's licenses and driving privileges of those arrested for DUI. Driver's License suspensions are not imposed by a ... Views: 1589
Despite what you may have been told, there are defenses to a D.U.I. charge and the charges that go along with it. Like any other criminal defendant, you are presumed innocent and have certain rights guaranteed to you by the constitution. A good DUI defense attorney will be familiar with ... Views: 1105
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After an accident in which I injured my back, I was ill health retired. This has given me the time ... Views: 1653
Gang / group rape is when an individual is raped by two or more persons. It has a high occurrence among teenagers and is usual motivated by adolescent boys with a strong sex drive.
As with most rapes, they are not reported due to trauma and shame. However gang rapes are normally more physically ... Views: 3402
Over my 18 years as a psychotherapist, one of the most frequent issues my clients bring to me is a concern about their drinking, or perhaps their drug use. There is a wide range; some people don’t have large problems with drinking or using, but they have some concerns about it after a ... Views: 1358
When most people hear the word “abuse,” they think of bruises left from an angry person’s violent rage. Very few, though, understand the mental and emotional scars resulting from emotional abuse, and even fewer understand those which are caused by the lesser-known Narcissistic ... Views: 6388
Recognizing you are being abused is difficult when you love the person who is abusing you. This is true for both children and adults. The mind will go to great lengths to protect a person who cannot emotionally accept that they are being abused. The greater the abuse, the more elaborate the ... Views: 3779
Alcohol and drugs can have a lasting and devastating impact on our lives. Unfortunately, by the time you become a statistic, it's already too late. In fact, by the time a statistic is even developed, it's probably too late.
Here are some interesting facts about alcohol. In a recent study ... Views: 954
Getting alcohol and drug addiction or abuse under control is no easy task. Most addicts tend to minimize their addiction and state they can stop any time they want, its simply a choice they are making. Here are a few suggestions to make yourself more aware of what you need to look out for in ... Views: 1147
Emotional abuse results in damage to the hippocampus, a brain area involved in learning and memory ability. This damage results in associated memory deficits, according to studies from Yale University School of Medicine, Yale Psychiatric Institute and the Department of Biological Sciences at ... Views: 16919
Purple Drink
Promethazine and Codeine containing cough syrup abuse has become popular in certain circles, especially in Houston and the South. Mixed with soft drinks and soda, it is drank and taken in high doses creating a euphoric effect that can "slow" people down. This relatively new ... Views: 11444
April is Child Abuse Prevention Month in the US, where 906,000 children are victims of abuse or neglect every year.
Risk factors include family history of abuse, stress and lack of support, alcohol or drug abuse, and domestic violence. The majority of children in out-of-home care are victims ... Views: 1573
NEED A RECOVERY PROGRAM?
I am blessed to be acquainted with a great group of people who are involved in addiction recovery and helping others.
Patrick Meninga who operates the web site www.spiritualriver.com is one of those people. Over the years, Patrick and I have collaborated on several ... Views: 1468
Among the many nightmares that parents encounter is catching your adolescent child has been drinking. This might have happened when you smell vodka on their breath after coming home from an activity with friends Or perhaps it's actually catching them drinking at a party, or in your house. ... Views: 1300
Many people are deciding, for various reasons, that they should give up drinking alcohol. Tea is becoming increasingly popular as a substitute due to the natural health benefits that it provides. Like the fact that all wines come from grapes, all teas come from the Camellia Sinensis plant or a ... Views: 5969
Article By:
Jason Freedman
Po. Box 496
Salt Lake City, UT 84110
JasonFreedmanjournalism@gmail.com
The Tragedy to Triumph Story of Teal Scott
It was a cold, gray March morning at Greenhouse Effect Coffee in south Salt Lake City. I had arrived early so as to set up my notes and ... Views: 4639
Article By:
Jason Freedman
Po. Box 496
Salt Lake City, UT 84110
801-949-9651
JasonFreedmanjournalism@gmail.com
The Tragedy to Triumph Story of Teal Scott
It was a cold, gray March morning at Greenhouse Effect Coffee in south Salt Lake City. I had arrived early so as to set up ... Views: 1043
When does drinking alcohol become a problem?
When you begin waking up with a bit of a headache each Saturday morning? When you begin waking up with a headache every morning? Perhaps it's when you start drinking every morning simply to get out of bed? Or perhaps it's when you once again find ... Views: 1136
Hank Hayes author of the book “You’ve been lied to… the untold truth about the alcohol and addiction mainstream treatment industry and the secrets on how to eliminate the problem for good” due to be released at the end of May 2011 say’s…
“I absolutely identify with why Charlie Sheen and ... Views: 1370
The Internet has surely changed the whole concept of marital life. Getting married online is no more a shocking headline for us. There are hundreds of couples who have never actually met their spouse beyond their virtual avatars. Of course, that doesn’t mean that anyone can settle for such a ... Views: 697
Did you ever hear this statement made around the rooms of recovery? Did you ever wonder where those statistics came from? Well I have a revelation for you. Read this and receive it. Ask your self where the other nine are? Go to the lost sheep!
This is where the sponsor should come into your ... Views: 2115
SERVANT or MASTER of YOUR CASTLE
Who’s the boss of you?
ACoA SYMBIOSIS (S.)
An unhealthy attachment to others as a way to:
• compensate for emotional abandonment in childhood
• to cope with deep anxiety of being a separate entity
• escape having to face the struggle of growing up ... Views: 3135
AM I ME, AM I YOU & ARE YOU ME?
I hate myself, but I also want you to be exactly like me!
SYMBIOSIS
As infants, all humans are born with a built-in biological & psychological set of tendencies, which interacts with & responds to their specific environment in their own unique way - but ... Views: 2733
ACOA DOUBLE BINDS - Either way we lose ourselves, to stay loyal to the family
If you’d like to know about double binds, go to pg. 10 of www.acoarecovery.com.
ACoAs have a terrible dilemma:
1. On the one hand we desperately want to be loved, acknowledged, seen, heard. We complain bitterly ... Views: 1666
LONELY CREATURES
We’re all social animals, even when we sometimes need our privacy
Many people in the mental health field, spiritual practices & new-age wisdom say we shouldn’t worry about what others think of us. Yes, OK, but it’s not that simple! What they don’t tell you is that there’s 2 ... Views: 1858
A substance abuse evaluation is an assessment of an individual to discern whether the drugs or alcohol use is a problem in the person’s life. There are basically three general categories of using drugs, which are social use, abuse and addiction.
Social Use is either the experimentation of ... Views: 1731
If you reckon that something is shady in the retirement facility where you have a beloved one taking supervision, but you're not confident, don't be depressed. Neglect in nursing homes is infamously difficult to anticipate. Employing a worst-case situation as an illustration, envision that you ... Views: 1431
I don't know the percentage of people who come into my office living in abuse or needing to work through past abuse. The ratio is astoundingly high. When I worked in substance abuse residential care, the percentage was probably 99%.
Physical abuse and verbal abuse are easier to recognize ... Views: 3663
Often when people come to one of my alcohol awareness classes, they know that they need to stop drinking alcohol. But they don’t know exactly how they should stop. Here are some tips that you might find useful:
1. Don’t hang around people who are drinkers or who might tempt you to ... Views: 5370
Self respect = Self esteem
Last week I had the opportunity to talk with you a little bit about the meaning of RESPECT.
Ultimately, in the addiction world, we have to add SELF into the equation. How important is self respect/self esteem and have I got it?I have had the opportunity to ... Views: 1347
By The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online.
By 2008, there are more than 115,000 people who are rushed to the ER because of illegal drug abuse. The country has spent as much as $180 billion from drug-related crimes and health care costs. Simply put, drug and alcohol abuse are such a ... Views: 848
ABANDONMENT PAIN IS FROM THE PAST
It hurts, but it passes
DEFINITION
• the DEF for Abandonment (A) is : “Not getting enough of your legitimate childhood needs met, & some needs NOT at all”. This applies to all 4 categories of NEEDS: Mental, Physical, Emotional, Spiritual. (A) is NOT just ... Views: 1567
“I HATE YOU - DON’T LEAVE ME!”
I know I don’t deserve you, but I’m desperate
✶ Un-healed ACoAs have only 2 speeds about most things: Too Much or Too Little, black or white, very high or very low. ‘Gray’ is NOT even thought of, or is seen as a cop-out!
✶ Mental Health is about many ... Views: 1539
LOVE vs FEAR?
Fear is an emotion caused by either outer danger or inner false beliefs
• Like so many popular ‘spiritual’ saying there’s some truth in it but NOT the whole story, so people can get easily confused & also misuse it.
• Generally, this statement means that if we have enough ... Views: 4178
MAKE THEM SUFFER !
The same way they made me suffer!
This post, of course, is about those of us raised in a variety of abusive,
dysfunctional families & communities
AS CHILDREN
a. External CAUSES - Growing up, our parents & other adults:
• blamed us unfairly, for all kinds of things ... Views: 1442
YES, I WAS HURT BY MY FAMILY,
but they were hurting too, poor things!
This is a phrase I’ve heard over the years, & it always makes me mad.
You may at first think this post is harsh or unfair, BUT please remember that everything our parents were - WE internalized into our Negative ... Views: 3660
Suzanne Toro shares an introduction to a Self Help Series for Women and Men who have been abused or violated. She shares a simple over view on how to identify if you are still holding on to the trauma and the fears.
She will share how you can identify where you might have buried you pain. ... Views: 1462
pgs. = http://www.acoarecovery.com – Then click on SITE MAP
ACoAs = adult-children of alcoholics & other abusers
A = Abandonment
(A) = Adult
As = Actions
A/A = Abuse & Abandonment
AC = Adapted Child
AEC = Adult Ego State
B = ... Views: 1425
We hear a lot in the ‘spiritual’ community about forgiveness- ie - not blaming. That applies to the present - if you’re an adult. And that’s a discussion for another blog.
BUT this entry is about what happened TO US as children. A hallmark of alcoholic (& other emotionally unhealthy) ... Views: 2387
OWNING MY T.E.A
You may push my buttons, but I’m responsible for my Thoughts, Emotion & Actions
WHAT IS IT?
In it’s simplest form: honestly admitting, to ourselves, first of all, what we feel, think & have done - or - not. (Review T.E.A. - Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, pg 54 ) “I cannot ... Views: 1610
NOBODY LOVES ME -
I’m going to eat worms & die!
Part 1: Essence, Source - Past & Present
PURPOSE for S-H - TO:
• protect our ideal of having good, loving, safe parents
• protect us from feeling our old abandonment pain
• keep from risking change (fear we’ll die if we S & I)
• keep us ... Views: 1976
I’M NO GOOD & EVERYONE KNOWS IT
so I have to be perfect to make up for it
Self-Hate is the #1 deterrent to growth for all ACoAs. It undermines our ability to function well, to have self-esteem & to be happy. Some people call it being ‘hard on yourself”, but it’s much more than that. It’s so ... Views: 1553
THE BAD SEED
I was born bad & I’ll always be bad
Guilt is about actions - it’s the emotion which is caused by disobedience to rules we deeply believe in. On the other hand, SHAME is about our identity - about who we are, fundamentally. It says that our very essence is bad, unlovable, ... Views: 2179
Guilt is not a primary emotion, like anger, joy, sadness... But it is one of the most intense & often-felt emotions by ACoAs. It is a familiar companion of negative self-talk & to actions we believe to be bad, but may not be.
Guilt is connected to self-hate: since our default position is that ... Views: 1351
Jeanette really wants to have a “normal” sex life with her husband Carl. The problem is her memories of being sexually abused as a child by a neighbor.
It seems like whenever Carl touches her or talks to her in a sexually suggestive way, she freezes up. This has been a struggle for the two ... Views: 2064
Betrayal, big or small, trashes your heart to bits. You do survive and heal. When it has been shattering, your scar will usually be deep and render you hyper-sensitive. You may have a tendency to armor yourself in order to protect yourself from any other injury. This armor may be so ... Views: 1767
My appreciation for the gift of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is enormous. I've been using it in my practice for about 4 years mostly over the phone and on myself and I've yet to see a condition that it cannot relieve.
While relief of pain and suffering and even major increases in peace ... Views: 1012
"I LIKE HELPING! As long as I take care of myself in the process"
✦ Many ACoAs are trained from birth to be helpers, regardless of their native personality style & interests. There’s an ironic saying in recovery circles: “ACOAs are born with an MSW (Masters in Social Work) and get their Birth ... Views: 1156
"I KNOW WHAT YOU NEED! I can take care of you, but not myself"
Growing up in dysfunctional families, ACoAs were not allowed to fully develop their own personality & identity, attend to their own needs, or have their own feelings – about anything.
We had no choice but to focus on our ... Views: 2136