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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance on spreading kindness - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on spreading kindness Spreading kindness is the best way I know to be happy. If you want to spread kindness around, here are some ideas: *Kindness begins on the inside – learn to be as kind in talking to yourself as you are to others – then, keep improving. Self-talk sets the bar ...
Views: 1585 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life. Of ...
Views: 1876 - ***Until Death Do Us Part - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. When we take our marriage vows – “until death do us part” – we never imagine that some day it will all come to an end. But all marriages and relationships do end, of that you can be sure. So, how do we celebrate life? At the end of every ...
Views: 1472(7 votes) - Codependency and Power - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Darlene LancerPower exists in all relationships. Having power means to have a sense of control, to have choices and the ability to influence our environment and others. It’s a natural and healthy instinct to exert our power to get our wants and needs met. When we feel empowered, we can manage our emotions, we ...
Views: 2185 - Moving forward begins with making a decision… - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2014 from Larry CraneIf there is one thing that we would like to change, it would be the notion that we can change something that has occurred in the past. Perhaps you may agree that if something occurred in the past, we can accept what happened and choose to begin moving forward. We can decide to change how we ...
Views: 1556(1 vote) - ***The Perfect Wedding Is Only The Beginning . . . - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Weddings are so joyous! The memories of such a marvelous moment will linger in the minds of most who witnessed it for a lifetime. The photos of the wedding will hang on the wall of their new home, be stored in the photo albums of many, and fill up ...
Views: 1867(6 votes) - Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ...
Views: 1954(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Our Past Relationships Affect Our Present Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne can enter a new relationship with the idea that it will be a completely new experience and unlike what they have gone through in the past. But while this might be their outlook in the beginning, this can soon come to an end as the relationship progresses. This could be because of what is ...
Views: 4103 - Save My Marriage Advice - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferCouples having marriage problems want simple save my marriage advice that they can implement quickly. They want a neatly packaged marriage miracle. The problem with that is most marriages in trouble need more than a quick fix. A band aid fix will not work in most cases. Most marriages ...
Views: 1302(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: he said I was expecting too much from this relationship - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: I can't get over this man, he is 61, I'm in my mid thirties, he is Europe and I'm in North America, we started corresponding and we stopped I was suffering but time healed me after a year. This year we re started talking back, by facebook, and when ...
Views: 1896 - ***Character Matters In Love And Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an essential character element in love and marriage. People who say they love each other and then lie on a regular basis or cheat on their spouse aren't really in love. Oh, many think they are, but they really are not. People who love ...
Views: 2762(8 votes) - Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaHappy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving to create a year of peace? Peace begins inside yourself. When you ...
Views: 1587 - New Year’s Resolutions for You and Your Partner - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2014 from nancy traversA happy relationship takes a little thought. I hesitate to quote the cliché that you have to work at your relationship—it sounds so onerous. And it’s really not work to make an effort—it’s an investment of time and energy to make your relationship as great as it can be. Here are a few ...
Views: 1175 - ***It’s O.K. To Be Angry! Hostility & Aggression Is The Problem. - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffAnger Management skills can be helpful for people ranging from the mildly miffed to the violently vengeful. You do not need to be in a physically violent relationship to benefit from understanding and learning about communicating anger and hurt feelings constructively. Secondly, if you are ...
Views: 2014(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Feel Trapped In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women prefer to be in relationships more than men do. And while this can sound like the truth, it is not always the case. There are going to be men who appreciate being in one, just as there are going to be men who don’t. Some women will enjoy being in them and then ...
Views: 2428 - Relationships: What Two Needs Can Define How Someone Behaves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have all kinds of things that they look for in a relationship with another person. And some of these are going to be more important than others; this means that some of them will be able to be overlooked. But if this relates to what truly matters, then conflict is going to arise if they ...
Views: 1709 - ***Does Trust Matter In Marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Being honest and trustworthy is at the heart of all the best loving relationships we have studied. In our thousands of interviews with happily married couples, we are always struck by their undying trust in each other. They literally trust each ...
Views: 2014(8 votes) - ***How to Find Love Again - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Following the death of a spouse or the loss of a spouse through divorce, many individuals are “thrown on the street again” when it comes to finding love. And let’s face it; finding love again can be very, very challenging. Finding love the ...
Views: 1925(6 votes) - Do You Know the Purpose of Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Yol SwanDid you know that relationships are eternal? They reflect the energetic ties and karma to be played out incarnation after incarnation, as we carry them along on our soul journey. In truth, we’ve been meeting pretty much the same souls over and over, trying to heal our wounds and learning to ...
Views: 1201(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Ending your Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaRelationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go: 1. Your partner keeps going out of ...
Views: 1819(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress. I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, i used to break things, yell at ...
Views: 1627 - ***Finding a Co-Author for Your Life by Marrying the Right Guy - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Anyone who gets married and doesn’t understand that their life will be altered in an unalterable ways, henceforth, doesn’t know love – doesn’t understand love. Love and marriage changes everything. Love and marriage changes everything about your ...
Views: 2053(7 votes) - Relationships: Can We Ever Truly Know Anyone? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThroughout one’s life, they are naturally going to meet people they feel close to and people they don’t. And the people who they don’t feel close to are going to be in the majority. Special connections are going to be rare and this is because one won’t meet people like this all of the time. ...
Views: 1977(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am the one who becomes unbalanced - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am married 19 years and my husband and I have two children. We have a good marriage in so many ways yet we continuously cycle to a low point every couple of months primarily due to my change in mood and feelings about the relationship. A bad case of ambivalence on my part. ...
Views: 1432(1 vote) - ***How To Marry The Right Guy - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Women often ask, "What is the secret to a happy marriage?" Our immediate answer is always the same, "Marry the right guy!" On the surface this may seem like a flippant answer to such a serious question, but it really isn't. Did you ever wonder ...
Views: 2053(10 votes) - ***The Health Benefits of Being Happily Married - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. A recent report out of Israel suggests that a successful marriage substantially reduces the chances of stroke for men. It seems that if you are a man and UNhappily married, you have a 64% GREATER chance of having a stroke! The report concludes ...
Views: 2099(8 votes) - Fight Technology Overload With These 6 Tips - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Michael RosenbaumYou love your smartphone – right? How many good things has it done for you today? From connecting with friends to getting restaurant reviews, our phones are invaluable. However, there’s also a downside to our phones. As we focus on our phone, we often neglect dealing with things in the ...
Views: 1514(1 vote) - Cherish People Not Perfection - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from MaryEllen TribbyIt’s Christmas week and we are all busy. Unfortunately, many people hear the word ‘busy’ and think ‘stressful’. Well, this does not have to be the case. As a matter of fact, busy should mean fun, joy and excitement. I want you to have less stress and more joy this holiday season. ...
Views: 1549 - But My Parents Divorced...Will I? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 Must Do's If You Want To Break The Cycle If you're the adult child of a divorce or simply trying to improve your marriage, here are three tips to help you cultivate a good relationship with your partner. 1. Weekly State of the Union discussion. This is not an argument or complaint ...
Views: 2096(1 vote) - Dr. Romance video: Ask Dr. Romance: Should I Start a Family? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick here for video Many men think it's exciting to be a "serial single guy" but at a certain point, life begins to feel empty. That means it's time to grow up emotionally, and consider making a commitment and building a life with more real satisfaction. The ...
Views: 1547(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear That Their Partner Will Cheat? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges that can arise in a relationship and while some of these are fairly insignificant and can be overlooked, others are far more significant and can’t be ignored. And while there is going to be external challenges, there is also going to be internal challenges. So ...
Views: 2084 - ***Is Your Prince Charming The Right Guy to Marry? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We all know the Cinderella Story. For sure, it is a wonderful story worth telling and re-telling. The story does indeed warm the heart, lift the spirit, and it gives all young women the hope that they will find true love for a lifetime. The ...
Views: 1886(9 votes) - Dealing with Rejection - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2013 from Dakota HandzlikDating can be a scary process, and the potential rejection that sometimes accompanies it is many people’s greatest fear come to life. It can be painful to be turned down by someone, especially when you get your hopes up. However, any suffering caused by dismissal can be avoided; all you need to ...
Views: 1166(1 vote) - Letting Go of Past Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2013 from Dakota HandzlikAlmost everybody has at least one past relationship that they can't seem to let go of. There's always that one love that left under unpleasant circumstances, that one person whom you still long for. While these feelings are by no means uncommon, they can have some very adverse effects on other ...
Views: 1847(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am on MAJOR pain pills. - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 49 year old disabed vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ...
Views: 1726(4 votes) - ***Do You Need Time Alone In Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our interviews around the world over the past 30+ years we have come to appreciate the wonderful advice we have received from happily and successfully married couples. At the top of the advice list from these couples is this simple notion – great ...
Views: 1976(25 votes) - 4 Tips for a Cheater: Get Your Marriage Back on Track - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo recover from infidelity and save your marriage: 1. Tell the Truth. Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions. 2. Give your Spouse the ...
Views: 1846(2 votes) - *** Why Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it. ________________________________________ Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important ...
Views: 1544 - ***Are You a Real Friend? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have good friends? Are you a good friend – both with yourself and with others? ________________________________________ "A real friend is one who helps us to think our noblest thoughts, put forth our best efforts, and be our best selves." ...
Views: 1334 - ***When Women Fall for Bad Boys: The Allure, Danger and How to Manage It - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishBad boys have edginess. They’re risk-takers, a trait that’s present in successful, charismatic men of power, status, wealth and savvy. So, what’s wrong with being attracted to them? The answer is “almost nothing,” as long as you don’t allow the exhilaration ...
Views: 2020(1 vote) - Childhood Abandonment: What Are The Consequences Of Childhood Abandonment? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the first few years of one’s life, they are emotionally dependent on their caregivers. And so it is vital that they are not left alone for prolonged periods of time, because if they are left it can be extremely overwhelming and therefore traumatising. But this doesn’t mean that one’s ...
Views: 1967 - Long Distance Relationships....Making It Work For You! - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferYou can make long distance relationships, including a marriage, work if you and your spouse are willing to work at it and be flexible with one another. Personally, we have never had to deal with this ourselves, but we know several couples who do, including a brother and sister-in-law, and they ...
Views: 1138(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader: "Handling the Green-Eyed ...
Views: 1737(2 votes) - ***Making A New Year’s Resolution You Can Keep - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Are you tired of making New Year’s resolutions you know you won’t keep? We all do it. How about we do something different this year? This is the time of the year when so many of us make promises to ourselves and to others that we rarely ever ...
Views: 1865(17 votes) - ***The Trials and Tribulations of Having Children in a Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. One of the many important caveats about marriage is this – children change the dynamics of a marriage. Make no mistake about that. Kids! We love them. We cherish them. They bring joy to our lives. When we have children in a marriage, we ...
Views: 2179(44 votes) - ***Love Is Saying You’re Sorry - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The most famous line from the wildly popular 1970 book (and subsequent movie), Love Story, by Erich Segal is, “Love means never having to say you are sorry.” As a New York Times number 1 bestseller, the book became the top selling work of fiction ...
Views: 1898(12 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just got my girlfriend pregnant and I might be gay. - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help? Dear Reader: Your girlfriend is right to want you to know what ...
Views: 1726(4 votes) - Are You CEO Of Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're Fighting About Money, Read These Five Tips In our society, money represents power, success, and often even your value as a person. We say (misquoting the Bible,) “Money is the root of all evil," or “money is power;” or “he who has the gold, makes the rules.” We consider it ...
Views: 1562(2 votes) - ***First-Date Blues – What Can you Learn? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Dating is challenging for many. Here are some tips to turn it into a learning adventure. ________________________________________ Sometimes, dating can be discouraging, or it can be a learning experience. One of the things I encourage my dating ...
Views: 2749 - ***Standing Strong In Your Own Truth - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you able to stand in your truth, or do you let others talk you out of what you know is right for you? ________________________________________ When the biblical floods hit Colorado on September 12th, I texted my daughter to see if they were okay. ...
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