***Until Death Do Us Part

By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.

When we take our marriage vows – “until death do us part” – we never imagine that some day it will all come to an end. But all marriages and relationships do end, of that you can be sure. So, how do we celebrate life?

At the end of every interview we have conducted with happily and successfully married couples around the world over the past 32+ years, we ask the most powerful question of our interview protocol – “Can you imagine life without your spouse?” The question always draws tears to the eyes of the couple we are interviewing. We have asked them a question they have repressed. It is a question no loving couple wants to think about. The answer is, however, nearly always the same – “No!”

Our advice is, never dwell on or contemplate the question. It doesn’t matter. What is important is that we love our spouse, that we enjoy our spouse, and that we live our life with them to the fullest.

Here is how it works. If you spend your time imagining the end you will never do all of the things required to deal with the beginning and the middle. You will lose the richness and beauty of each moment. You will, in the end, misplace the essence of your relationship with each other. Your relationship will be based on the end instead of the possibilities.

When you cannot imagine life without the one you love, you have reached the “nirvana” of your loving and committed relationship. But to dwell on the inevitable end of your life together diminishes the here and now and spoils all the joy that lies ahead.

If you are one of the lucky ones, you will grow very old together with your spouse. If you are lucky, you will live to celebrate your Golden Anniversary – your 50th – wedding anniversary. Those in love for a lifetime cannot imagine life without the one they love.

Love well!

Creating a successful marriage is not always the easiest thing to do. Your visiting our blog suggests you are highly interested in making your marriage work! And truthfully, we have learned over 30 years of marriage research that there are proven effective ways to ensure a happy and healthy marriage. In fact, we took hundreds of tips from the thousands of happy couples we interviewed and put them into our award-winning and bestselling book, Building a Love that Lasts .

**Today, you can see how you stack up to the best marriages around the world. Take the Marriage Quiz to assess your chances of achieving a successful marriage of your own and read How to Marry the Right Guy, to find out if your guy has the essential characteristics to be a great husband.

By Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz
America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts