Dear Dr. Romance:

I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress.

I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, i used to break things, yell at him and asked for a divorce in anger. He was too much into his friends and work. He had no time for our daughter or me, and we were living in another country where I had no family or friends. I used to fight him to come to my home country at least 2 times a yr, but he didnt like it. Last time I went home to finish my graduation exams, he divorced me by email a few years ago, even though I begged him not to.

My daughter is almost school age. she lives with me, I am back in school to have a better future but I have a lot of anger. I feel like I was ditched and thrown forcefully. My stress increases when I hear his voice when he calls to talk to my daughter, and I hear him saying he hopes to marry someone else, and that I didn't truly love him and I left him. I feel angry when my daughter asks him why he doesn't live with us.  I still have feelings for him but i know he doesn't care. When try to date  another man, after few days i compare him to my ex, and end it.  I want to be happy.  Please help me.

Dear Reader:

You are a mom now, it's time to grow up and stop throwing temper tantrums.  It sounds like you're not mature enough to have a healthy relationship, and you don't have a good role model for what a healthy relationship looks like.  "10 Reasons for Not Falling in Love" will explain why you're pushing men away.  "Anger Management" /a> will help you understand and express your anger in a more effective way. "What is a Dysfunctional Relationship"  will show you what's wrong with your relationship model, and "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships"  outlines a new model for love.  Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage contains information and exercises that will help you learn the skills you need to make a marriage work.

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.