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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance on Love and Chemistry - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many of my clients want to know: What is a safe surrender to love? They have been in love before, and have gotten hurt. While we all are aware of the joy and beauty of love, and the profound pleasure of being in love, most of us are also afraid of mistakes, of making a wrong ...
Views: 575 - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to get married - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I already know my heart's desire; it reminds me daily. I want to get married. I want a mate. I want children. My problem is, this is not happening now. I have been single for a very, very long time. I don't need to get to "know myself" because ...
Views: 591 - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help, our family is growing apart - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Q: My father died 1 1/2 years ago. My mom always snaps at me and my older brother and I think she has a serious problem. I personally think it's a power struggle because she feels like she is loosing control over my brother and I. But, what she ...
Views: 569(1 vote) - Overwhelmed, how is your support and collaboration? (PT5) - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2021 from Emma ViglucciIt is not easy to live a successful and meaningful life. It takes intentionality, focus and dedication to stay the course. Our life Journey has ups and downs, and at times it can feel like an obstacle course. With the many demands of today’s modern life and specially recently as we’ve weathered ...
Views: 566 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hate His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for someone to understand why a man would be happy to focus on his mother’s needs and ignore his own. This could be something that his partner could find confusing, that’s if he has one. Along with this, his mother could treat him badly and feel entitled to his attention and ...
Views: 428 - Spirituality: Five Reasons For Terrible Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2021 from Scott & Stephen PetulloBad relationships are all too common. In the beginning, it frequently appears to hold so much promise, but then it falls apart. It’s a mystery as to why some relationships turn sour, until you consider the spiritual side of things. Mystics suggest that life is largely about spiritual ...
Views: 597 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man Need To Have A Relationship To Realise He A Mother Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be strange if a man has the tendency to focus on his mother’s needs and to be there for her. He will be ignoring his needs and his own life, so this should be something that stands out. However, although he will be out of balance, what is going on won’t be ...
Views: 391 - 5 Secret Thoughts A Man Has When He's Totally Into You - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2021 from Jessy JohnsonI face this, so I don't have this flaw, or if I'm in this situation or can't spend much time with you because I'm going to school, you might get bored. You may want to date other women. You may not remain like other people in the past. This is, of course, if you challenge him like that. She ...
Views: 638 - NRI Marriage | NRI Marriage Services | NRI Marriage Bureau - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2021 from Angel SmithImagine meeting your significant other through an online platform. Imagine someone setting up your date like the ultimate wingman. Imagine finding matches while sitting at the comfort of your home instead of going on hundreds of blind dates and ending up disappointed. Yes, now you can do all of ...
Views: 495 - Meet Herpes Person -The TikToker That's Raising Awareness About STIs - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from Jessy JohnsonMeet Herpes Person -The TikToker That's Raising Awareness About STIs Every time a woman shows she's comfortable in her skin, she inspires another woman to be very pleased in hers. Still, you don't know what a sti's panel looks like. You could never do a raw diet. Still, you love some ...
Views: 581 - Missing love, how is your connection and intimacy? (PT4) - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2021 from Emma ViglucciNobody likes to feel disconnected from their partner. Partners might like to have time to themselves and do their own thing. But they like to have that while still feeling connected. Feeling disconnected, not in a good place, not on the same page, not in alignment, not together or not close, ...
Views: 578 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he may have the need for it to end and/or want to get as far away from his partner as he can. This is not to say that that he won’t like or even love her; it is due to the fact that he will feel trapped. When he first started spending time with her, ...
Views: 371 - Change is Now or Never - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2021 from Guy FinleyVictory over our own lower nature is now or never. We can't end conflict later. We can't stop being sad, cruel, angry, scared, or anxious later. Thinking, or hoping, that any destination we have in mind is going to be superior to where we're presently standing is exactly why we're still standing ...
Views: 756 - Repeating arguments, how are your relationship dynamics? (PT3) - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2021 from Emma ViglucciIt feels terrible when we have the same arguments over the same disagreements, over and over again… Doesn’t it? It’s so frustrating to feel like we are living in the twilight zone, or that we are having a Groundhog Day experience… It’s tough to know that we’ll have the same conversation without ...
Views: 588 - How can I reduce my risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2021 from Jessy JohnsonHow can I reduce my risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease? I would like to know the spirit of the study. Many viewers asked us about risk reduction. So we are talking about how we can reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections associated with sexually transmitted ...
Views: 597 - Dr. Romance: It’s a Dirty Job - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Richard and I have been married since 1982 It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s definitely been worth it. In the first year of our marriage, after a difficult struggle between us, I gave my husband a card. On the front it said, "I love you", many times, and inside ...
Views: 640 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Dating a Dad with kids - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've run across your Happiness Tips and am enjoying reading them. I'm a divorced woman in my late thirties and I do not have children. I've accepted the fact that most of the men in my age group will be divorced and most of them will have ...
Views: 551 - Bickering and fighting, how are your communication skills? (Pt2) - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Emma ViglucciHey, we can all relate to being annoyed by our partner at one point or another. But sometimes this goes beyond our idiosyncrasies, quirks or habits. Sometimes we just pick, pick, pick and go around and around. We argue to make our point and prove ourselves right. We get into fights about how we ...
Views: 565 - Find your needs on the right online dating site - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2024 from Ida ZhongWhether you are looking for a simple date, a future spouse, or a threesome unicorn, knowing where to find someone can have a major impact on the types of people you meet. That being said, the same is true for online dating services, and know which service is best for you. If you want to meet ...
Views: 589 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Man Weak If He Is Enmeshed To His Mother? - by Submitted on May 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and unable to live his own life, other people could end up commenting on his behaviour. This is something that his partner could do, assuming that he is in a relationship. She could often tell him that although he spends a lot of time focusing ...
Views: 391 - Feeling stuck, how is your relationship mindset? (Pt1) - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Emma ViglucciIf you are feeling stuck in your relationship, resentful, cranky, and easily annoyed by your partner, your relationship lens might be a bit smudged… Partners have a tendency to blame their partner for the status of the relationship and how unsatisfied and unhappy they might be… They tend to ...
Views: 608 - Feeling stuck, how is your relationship mindset? (Pt1) - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Emma ViglucciIf you are feeling stuck in your relationship, resentful, cranky, and easily annoyed by your partner, your relationship lens might be a bit smudged… Partners have a tendency to blame their partner for the status of the relationship and how unsatisfied and unhappy they might be… They tend to ...
Views: 600 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Change His Perception? - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is “enmeshed” to his mother, it is likely to mean that he didn’t receive what he needed to receive during his early years. Therefore, he hasn’t simply chosen to become entangled with his mother as an adult; he has always been this way. What this means is that it is not just about him ...
Views: 319 - 6 Ways to Enjoy Your Single Parent Life - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Mia JohnsonIf you are a newly single parent who doesn’t quite know how to handle these sudden changes in life, these 6 useful tips will help you enjoy your single life while maintaining a healthy relationship with your kids. Take it easy on yourself A single-parent life surely is challenging. There ...
Views: 473 - Exploring the Link Between Positive Mental Health and Happy Relationships - by Submitted on May 27, 2021 from Mary Kay CocharoMay is National Mental Health Awareness Month. Often, when people think about mental health, they tend to focus solely on mental illness. Mental health does, of course, include anxiety, depression and other diagnoses — but it encompasses much more than that. Positive factors, such as resiliency, ...
Views: 538 - Dr. Romance on To Help An Addicted Friend - by Submitted on May 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I’ve been talking with clients a lot recently about what to do if someone you love or care for is self-destructing through addiction, or is making it difficult to be a friend because they’re out of control. We all have had some dramatic examples on television and in ...
Views: 680 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Put Their Mother Before Their Partner? - by Submitted on May 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that his primary relationship will be with his partner. No, there can be someone else, and this person will take up a lot of his time and energy as a result. What could come to mind at this point is that he is having an affair, with this ...
Views: 420 - My Truth - I Have Herpes - by Submitted on May 25, 2021 from Jessy JohnsonMy Truth - I Have Herpes I am ready on one level even though my body is reacting to have such a powerful effect on me still. So I want to share my pretty little secret I have herpes such a simple little sentence, three little words, and so hard for me to say for a long time. I didn't even ...
Views: 618 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Getting Close To Others With Being Annihilated? - by Submitted on May 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one will have the need to form close connections with others, it won’t have been possible for them to do so. Thus, the need will then be there but they won’t have been able to fulfil it. What they could find is that their life has been this way for as long as they can remember. And, ...
Views: 373 - What to Do When Your Loved One Is Struggling With Addiction: 6 Dos and Don’ts - by Submitted on May 21, 2021 from Ikhraaf QaiserApproaching a loved one who is struggling with substance abuse is never easy. Being addicted is a mechanism that evolves over a long period of time and it often is caused by underlying, co-existing disorders like anxiety, depression, or personality disorders. Often, treating substance abuse ...
Views: 594 - Importance of personal and partner character strengths - by Submitted on May 21, 2021 from Emma ViglucciIt is uncommon to speak in terms of Mothering and Fathering in the context of our relationship… Unless of course we are talking about raising our children. But I’ve been presenting this concept as a way to continue to heal and grow ourselves. As a personal development tool, and more recently as ...
Views: 631 - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work? - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "From Friends to Lovers and Back" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situation I am facing currently. I am a young male and I cannot handle having sex for a while ...
Views: 651 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married but I love somebody else - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I really admire how you advise people, please help me too. I'm married and I love my husband very much, but I love somebody else so much I don't know why although people say you can't love 2 people at the same time but I do. coz I love him very much and ...
Views: 570 - Dear Dr. Romance: My mother-in- Law wants to be a grandma - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been having some serious problems with my mother-in-law. I really think that to her, all I am good for is breeding! All my husband and I ever hear from her is, "When are you having kids?" I'm 26 and not ready. I am enjoying working right now, and want my ...
Views: 563 - First Date Tips For Women You Must Know - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Jessy JohnsonI want you to be successful, happy, and well in the early days. So I'm going to give you five great first-day women's T-shirts. So, we're talking about the early days, but the truth is that dating can sometimes feel annoying. Sometimes it may feel inappropriate, but I do because we haven't taken ...
Views: 540 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on May 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for someone to look at relationships would be to see them as a vehicle that will allow them to become more whole and complete. The reason for this is that when they are with another person, some of the material that is held in their unconscious mind will be brought to the ...
Views: 376 - 5 Things Men Need In A Relationship In Order To Commit To You - by Submitted on May 14, 2021 from Jessy JohnsonYou are suffering from your love life. You can find attractive people. You can find someone who treats you well. You can find a person to whom you want to devote yourself. You cannot find them all in one package. But have you ever wondered why? After all, more than 50 million people are married. ...
Views: 663 - Create safety, security and trust in your relationship - by Submitted on May 13, 2021 from Emma ViglucciA lot of people have difficulties having trust in their relationship, and in general… Mistrust in our relationship is not just about wondering, or obsessing about, if our partner is cheating. But not trusting our partner usually has the flavor of not trusting we can count on them. That they have ...
Views: 554 - Create safety, security and trust in your relationship - by Submitted on May 13, 2021 from Emma ViglucciA lot of people have difficulties having trust in their relationship, and in general… Mistrust in our relationship is not just about wondering, or obsessing about, if our partner is cheating. But not trusting our partner usually has the flavor of not trusting we can count on them. That they have ...
Views: 619 - Dr. Romance on: Resolving Couple Fights over Finances - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on Resolving Money Fights: Money talks need to be a part of scheduling weekly meetings - not just for money, but also for catching up with one another. Bills, social planning, long-term goals and working on your relationship are just some of the issues you'll discuss. Just ...
Views: 565 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
Views: 612 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't decide if she's as in to me as I am her - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So in between the on and off, ...
Views: 562 - Mothering Vs Fathering - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Emma ViglucciMothering Vs Fathering… This is not a competition! First off, wishing all the Moms a very Happy Mother’s Day. And here is an invitation for all of us to embrace more Mothering in our own lives, of ourselves and our loved us. We can all stand to be more compassionate, nurturing and loving… ...
Views: 605 - Prevent drama with self-regulation and co-regulation - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2021 from Emma ViglucciYou know when you don’t feel so hot physically or emotionally, how you are more sensitive to most things? And, even more so with your partner and how they are being? The things that you would normally let go or that wouldn’t necessarily bother you, in this state they are actually experienced as ...
Views: 644 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind; however, the latter is largely overlooked. Not only does mainstream society ignore this mind but a lot of people in the helping professions, those who are doing what they can to help peoples “mental health”, also do the same ...
Views: 323 - 5 important tips to find a cheating spouse - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Ravi DashIs your spouse on the phone for too long? Do you suspect they aren’t being honest? Are they emotionally or physically distant? Then chances are there might be a third person in the story. No one wants to be cheated on, but unfortunately it’s not a fair world. If you’re suspicious of your spouse ...
Views: 568 - Tired of Fighting? 5 Ways to Show Your Spouse That Your Apology Is Genuine - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2021 from Anita GinsburgWe all make very serious mistakes from time to time. However, sometimes your mistake hurts someone you love, like your significant other. When you mess up, you need to apologize, but you also need to apologize properly. Here are five ways to show your spouse that your apology is genuine. Look ...
Views: 700 - The key is embracing a relationship enrichment lifestyle… (Video) - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2021 from Emma ViglucciDo you feel like you are spinning your wheels and getting nowhere fast in your life? Do you feel like your world got turned upside down and you don’t know what’s up or down? Do you feel exhausted and completely unmotivated? Do you feel like are banging around without purpose and alone? Do you ...
Views: 565 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
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