Bad relationships are all too common. In the beginning, it frequently appears to hold so much promise, but then it falls apart. It’s a mystery as to why some relationships turn sour, until you consider the spiritual side of things.

Mystics suggest that life is largely about spiritual lessons. While relationships may not always give you what you want on an ego-self level, spiritual growth is often part of the plan.

Below we outline five spiritual and mundane reasons why people experience terrible relationships.

Past Life Connections and Karma

The laws of reincarnation and karma lead to specific life experiences and much of those tend to be relationship oriented. By the way, even though many people misuse the word karma, it’s often tied to reincarnation. Past life ties, including toxic ones, create current life bonds. You’ve been together before and sometimes you need to balance the scales.

That inexplicable initial draw can include hidden karma waiting to be played out. Karma, which can be good too, can be immensely complicated and it’s frequently more than just “you dumped him in a past life so now he dumps you.” The experience might be for many reasons, and probably been together before in multiple lifetimes.

Shared Mission

A higher, shared purpose, such as having a child or work that will have a significant impact on others could be part of your relationship plan. Once you really get to know each other, what if the compatibility is terrible? On a soul level you both knew before incarnating that your combined energies were necessary to accomplish the goal and that would be worth it to grin and bear it until the mission is accomplished.

Early Life Programming and Issues

Although early life experiences and trauma certainly affect later life relationships and the reasons for them may be considered more mundane than spiritual, our findings show that core childhood circumstances and events (including both the good and bad ones) are often contracted and agreed upon by our souls before birth.

“If you have a smothering parent, the effect it can apparently have on a child is to give them, in equal doses, a sense of too much self-esteem, because they are mummy's little princess or prince, and low self-esteem. It affects future relationships.”
Hugh Grant

Fear of Being Alone and Personal Timing

Many people so dislike the idea of being single that they enter into a relationship just to avoid solitude. Everybody’s personal timing is different, and sometimes your collective timing isn’t conducive to love life relationships, but instead to work, family, or other concerns. When you have horrible love life timing, reject the signs that it’s just not time for good love life experiences now, and force a relationship, you could find yourself in a mess. It’s like trying to plant your garden in winter.

“If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company.”
Jean-Paul Sartre

Relationships Change

Just as you may outgrow a friendship, it’s possible to outgrow a love relationship, especially when you consider how people change at different rates and for different reasons. Lifelong, mutual compatibility in all areas of life, including sex, just isn’t as common as people want to believe. Resist natural change, and the outcome is unhappiness, so it pays to go with the flow and accept that sometimes circumstances change.

“We're very reluctant to change, even though we know that all things change, and especially our relationships are just determined to change.”
Nick Nolte

If your partner is detrimental to your well-being and the bond is beyond repair, it’s time to end it. However, if the connection is relatively symbiotic, be wary of ending it for the allure of a new romance like those portrayed in Hollywood movies.

It seems like refusing to accept your partner as he or she is and comparing your relationship with the ideal relationship is a widespread problem. It’s easy to find flaws with this type of thinking. But nobody is perfect, and the perfect relationship is an illusion. Consider yourself very fortunate if you’re in a mutually rewarding connection, and even more fortunate if you’re humble enough to appreciate personal differences, and strong enough to love unconditionally.

“There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it ill behooves any of us to find fault with the rest of us.”
James Truslow Adams

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