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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Get Over Being Dumped - 7 Helpful Guides Towards Successful Moving On - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2011 from Johnny WayneTo get over being dumped is a challenge for you! You will have the biggest fight with your EMOTION, so be ready. It might be too painful for you to recover easily especially on facing the fact that you're done and it's over.You always suffer from the pain he caused you, you feel worthless and ...
Views: 3844(2 votes) - Getting to Yes - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from Tina TessinaThe average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using "attentive speaking" a ...
Views: 2981(2 votes) - Guidelines On How To Save Your Marriage - Putting your Relationship Back in control - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2012 from Olivia PeterMarriage can certainly be full of pleasure, but it can also be full of pain. For many people, it seems the happiness has actually been gone for so long that it's impossible to ever get it back. Even so it doesn't have to be like that. When considering how to save your marriage, there are several ...
Views: 1433(2 votes) - Heartbroken? Roll the Dice! - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Nicole NenningerHere’s some interesting advice: If you are looking to get over a broken heart and can’t seem to get your ex out of your mind, keep thinking about them! It sounds counterintuitive but in a recent study, participants found relief from incessant thoughts about their ex by consciously thinking ...
Views: 1551(4 votes) - How to Build Charisma and Draw Others to You - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2011 from Ashley ArnYou've probably noticed that some people just radiate a wonderful energy, drawing people to them with seemingly little effort, and chances are that you've wondered how you can build charisma to radiate that same great attitude. Perhaps you've been thinking that charisma, magnetism, or star ...
Views: 1410(2 votes) - How to Change Your Love Life This Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Dr. Diana KirschnerIf you're single and looking for love, Valentine's Day can be one of the most FEARED days of the year. While everyone else is having candle lit dinners, there you sit watching a sitcom or cruising a dating site. Being single on a day that is dedicated to romance can be more than a little bit ...
Views: 1667(2 votes) - How to Save Marriage From Divorce – 3 Uncommon Ways to Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Lisa Penn-JamesI was so happy the day I married my husband. We were both sparkling eyes and hearts full of love. We swore to be together forever and we meant it. Cut to 11 years later. Every day I ask myself how to save marriage from divorce. We hardly ever talk or see each other. A silent anger is between ...
Views: 1523(2 votes) - How to Win Back Your Ex-Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainEvery relationship experiences up and downs and goes through difficult stages. Sometimes you are incapable of handling them and you break up with your boyfriend. But some time later, you realize that your ex-boyfriend was the perfect one for you and you are ready to do anything to get back your ...
Views: 592(2 votes) - How to Win Back Your Husband or Wife - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe Beam“You actually want to stay married to this guy?” She didn’t hesitate a moment. Yes, she wanted to save her marriage. She and her husband were 40ish, married about twenty years, with a couple of children. One evening he told her he was in love with his assistant, that he already had a lawyer, ...
Views: 7943(2 votes) - How Well Do You Know Your Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2004 from Dave ShieldsFor my birthday last year my wife made up a beautifully framed picture of my name, and then underneath it she listed 32 positive qualities I possess. Needless to say, it was one of the finest gifts I have ever received. Some of the qualities even taught me about me. After that ...
Views: 11603(2 votes) - If We're Honest About Physical Attraction - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamWe did an online poll for my visit with on-air personalities Woody & Jim today on 107.5 The River in Nashville. The question was, “Which is most important to you?” The choices were: 1) your mate takes care of his/her body and keeps looking good, 2) your mate fulfills your sexual desires but lets ...
Views: 3696(2 votes) - If You Think an Ultimatum is Your Only Option… Think Again! Marriage Advice - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2016 from Nicola BeerAre you sick and tired of your spouse’s behaviour? Do you have no more to give? Are you at the end of your tether? Do you think an ultimatum is your only way out? We hear people giving ultimatums every day. “If you don’t stop doing X then Y will be the consequence.” However, more often than ...
Views: 1536(2 votes) - Is Love a Drug? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeWhat makes people fall in love? We find someone we are in love with, but two years later we wonder what we ever saw in them. No one can say this hasn’t happened to them, whether it was a high school crush or our first romance. Unrequited love is harsh. IT leaves us feeling rejected. Our feelings ...
Views: 1572(4 votes) - Is Your Relationship Failing? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Ryan D'eathWhen a relationship begins, it can be positively thrilling! We get so tangled and engrossed with each other and think that it will never end...sometimes however it does... So how do you know if your relationship is going down hill? No. 1: Are you spending less time together? When you ...
Views: 880(2 votes) - Keeping Your Female Partner Happy - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghThis article is aimed at my masculine readers. If you are of the feminine race, please read this as well, and set me straight if you disagree. You certainly know this subject better than I! Let me start out by stating that this post is a hopeless generalization. When I refer to relationships ...
Views: 1950(2 votes) - Listen Up (2013), Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from nancy traversCouples who learn to actively, mindfully listen to one another have a better chance of having a deep, intimate relationship. It makes sense: When you listen well enough to understand your partner’s point of view, you understand him or her better, and the bond between you strengthens. So how ...
Views: 2125(2 votes) - Live and Let Live - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghLive and Let Live “There will always be war, famine & poverty as long as anyone believes that he has the right to impose his will on another.” I wrote that on Twitter a few weeks back and it seemed to resonate with some people. That sentence is my conclusion of what people like you and I must ...
Views: 1670(2 votes) - Long Distance Relationship Can Remain Alive - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Donna MartinKeeping a long distance relationship alive can be a real challenge. In addition to the usual relationship drama there is the added stress of not having the physical contact with your partner. Dealing with the distance in a positive way will require some creativity and a true commitment to making ...
Views: 1290(2 votes) - Love Addiction Recovery: Detachment, Boundaries, Self-Care - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallLove addiction recovery is about reclaiming our own lives. One part of our path to recovery learning and owning our right to focus on and take care of ourselves, build on our strengths, and ask for and accept help with our limitations. Many of us find it difficult even to begin this ...
Views: 3127(2 votes) - Love Tarot: What The Fool Can Teach Us About Love - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from Carolyn NaimanOne of the most common inquiries I receive as a Tarot reader is the question of Love: When will I meet Mr. or Mrs. Right? Although the Tarot often refers to future possibilities and potential outcomes, finding love is really up to each individual. The Tarot is a reminder that we are the ...
Views: 3455(4 votes) - Observation of Love - by Submitted on May 17, 2011 from Eddie CorbynYou’re sitting in your garden appreciating the beautiful trees, fauna and flowers all around you and you’re feeling very good. The sun was low on the horizon and a loving breeze enveloped you. Suddenly, without warning, you’re aware that you’re still to meet and connect with your soul ...
Views: 1518(2 votes) - People are Innocent - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Mary Dee FreemanI have to tell you about this friend of mine. She’s been driving me crazy lately. Don’t get me wrong; she’s one of the nicest people I know. The problem is that she is a consummate fixer and can be a little pushy about it. You know the one… She always knows what’s best for everyone. ...
Views: 1201(2 votes) - Rebuilding Trust After Lying - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonHas someone close to you broken your trust by lying? Is it difficult to get back on track and reestablish that trust relationship you thought you had? If so, there is hope! It's possible to get back to having a healthy and satisfying relationship with a person who has been lying. Understanding ...
Views: 21813(2 votes) - Relating To People When You Have Changed - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoDo you find yourself stuck in the same role in life, not only with yourself but with the people you know? Because people see you in a certain way, do you keep acting that way? Sometimes it is hard to be who you really are when the interactions you have with people keep you locked in a certain ...
Views: 832(2 votes) - Relationship Advice - How to Keep Marital Satisfaction High After Children - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2016 from Nicola BeerThe effects of having a child are immeasurable. Whilst most parents say the greatest moment and thing in their life was the birth of their son or daughter. The effect that having a child can have on your marriage is immense. Marital dissatisfaction can ensue after having a child and it can ...
Views: 1237(2 votes) - Relationship Needs: Are Your Needs Hurting Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Richard NicastroNot everyone realizes they have relationship needs (emotional and physical needs that you expect your spouse/partner to meet). This is especially the case for older couples I work with who were raised in a generation where the phrases, "emotional needs" "emotional intimacy" and "need for ...
Views: 1352(2 votes) - RELATIONSHIPS LIVE ON THE TIP OF YOUR TONGUE! - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Stanlee PanelleHow, what and when we say what we say to those we love makes an impression that lasts. Words cannot be taken back. Nor can we read the minds of our lovers. How many times have you heard: “Oh … I didn’t really mean it.” Or, ”I’m sorry I said that. I take it back.” Or, “I was just angry and ...
Views: 1590(2 votes) - Remove The Distance In Your Relationship - by Relationships usually start out great. People treat each other with love and respect. Then something happens and we get upset.
When you are upset at someone, you can’t be with the person. There are a million miles of distance between you and the person you are upset with.
Before long, ...
Views: 17536(2 votes) - Romantic Relationships are the Ultimate Teachers for Spiritual Growth - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Ralf FritzingerNamaste beloved friends of Love and Light! I send you streams of love from my heart and I hope you are doing fine! Today I want to get into romantic relationships and personal sharing a bit for I AM actually in a wonderful divine relationship with a fine Lady and such a ...
Views: 2463(2 votes) - Saving a Relationship can be as Easy as 1-2-3! - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Andrew HunterTo begin, let's realize that adult relationships are intricate in nature. No two relationships are the same, and thus they cannot be treated as if they are: everyone is different, taking different approaches to the same set of circumstances. Because all relationships are unique, there can't be a ...
Views: 2460(2 votes) - Self-Centered & Demanding - When It's All About Me - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Krystal KuehnTo be demanding isn’t all bad, but there are many ways in which it can be unloving. It is one thing to be persistent in asking or requiring something, but excessively demanding one’s own way regardless of others’ rights or how they are treated indicates self-centeredness. Overly demanding people ...
Views: 14749(2 votes) - Stupid Cupid - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2012 from Tina TessinaMiley Cyrus is only 19, and she's just gotten engaged to Liam Hemsworth. Will it last? Well, the fact that it's a celebrity match is not in its favor -- celebrity couples don't have a great track record. As a little pre-wedding gift, here's what Miley and Liam can do to make sure they're ready ...
Views: 1942(2 votes) - The Last Word - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2010 from Azzrian VisionsDo you like to have the last word when in a debate, argument or confrontation? Are you able to just let it go and let the other person get the final word off their chest, have their say and be done with it? Some people feel a need to have that “last word” while others can simply walk away ...
Views: 18728(2 votes) - The ONE Major Cause of Relationship Problems! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulWhat if there really is ONE major cause of relationship problems, one issue that if you address, would change everything? The good news and the bad news is - there is!The good news is that it makes it easier to understand why you might be having problems in your relationship.The bad news is that ...
Views: 4922(2 votes) - Three Steps for Surviving an Affair - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Kim OlverMany people ask, “Can my relationship survive an affair”? My answer is yes when you follow the three- step process outlined below. Step One: Prioritize Your Relationship The first step is for both people to realize that their relationship is important enough for them to attempt to heal ...
Views: 1740(2 votes) - Toxic Seeds That Feed Love Addicts Delusion - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallFrom the beginning of our childhood- we are planted with seeds in our conscious. These seeds are the messages on love, romance, and relationships love addicts (and all of society) have been consistently bombarded with- that feed the DELUSION of addictive relationships. These fabricated seeds are ...
Views: 2219(2 votes) - Trust - The Road To Love - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Anatoliy KoychevPeople speculate a lot with the word trust and they do it on purpose. I would like to make a few clarifications about it... Many times trust is mixed with faith. But to have faith is one thing and to trust someone is something completely different. Faith is pointing outwards, it is created ...
Views: 1259(2 votes) - We Must First Love Ourselves - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2010 from Beatrice ElderExperiencing change helps us to engage and see where and how we have been living our lives. We face so many challenges and the ones that hurt the most are those which affect us personally. Relationship hurt affects us all differently! Some people can recover quickly and move on to the next ...
Views: 3366(2 votes) - Who is in Command? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Elsabe SmitI am always fascinated about how our questions get answered - and sometimes how we are steered in a direction without even asking the question. Someone very dear and close to me is at a point where he has no dignity or quality of life left. He had told me in so many words that he is not ...
Views: 1333(2 votes) - Why Love Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from Bob MakranskyLove relationships fail because at no time in our training by society are we given a factual model of what a love relationship is, or how to make one succeed. There are fundamentally three levels on which intimate relationships operate, and our social training only prepares us to deal with one ...
Views: 1817(2 votes) - Why Snoring Is The Silent Relationship Killer - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2010 from Jennifer Ross-TaylorWhy Snoring Is The Silent Relationship Killer Snoring isn’t called 'the silent relationship killer' because it doesn’t make any sound. On the contrary, the sometimes raucous sounds that are called snoring could often rival a freight train going through the bedroom! Snoring has earned the ...
Views: 10264(2 votes) - Why the single life is best - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomI will tell you why the single life is best. We live in a modern age where anything goes. Marriage has become unnecessary but sometimes advantageous or wanted. There are more people than ever having children outside of marriage or choosing to live alone and not have children at all. The good ...
Views: 3388(2 votes) - Your Job on Earth - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn Peace, Love and Healing, Dr. Bernie Siegel says: “Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path... your ‘job on earth.’ This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an inner awareness, that says, ‘This is ...
Views: 1477(2 votes) - Your Personal Growth and Success with Intimate Relationships Depends on Your Being True to Yourself - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Doron GilAre you a person who tells yourself stories in order to justify to yourself why things go one way and not another? Do you convince yourself that whatever happens in your life happens because of such and such reason, unwilling to look reality in the eye and acknowledge that after all, things are ...
Views: 1070(2 votes) - Your Relationship Broke Up - What to Do? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Jonathan HuieYour relationship broke up and you are heart broken. What should you do now to heal the hurt and move on with your life? First, examine what Not to do. These are things that will make your situation worse. 1. Don't try to get back together. There must be some very strong reasons why you ...
Views: 2657(2 votes) - “I’m Not In Love” - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Sheryl PaulA few weeks ago had a great session with the man I’ve referred to as “Matthew” in these posts. We’ve been working together for quite some time and have uncovered layer upon layer of false beliefs that are contributing to his unhappiness. But in this particular session we uncovered what I believe ...
Views: 1887(2 votes) - ***What to Say to the One You Love? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have learned lots of interesting and important lessons from the thousands of successfully married couples we have interviewed over the years – of that you can be sure. There is no question – the wisdom of these wonderful marriages humbles us when ...
Views: 5486(39 votes) - ***Are You Scaring Away Your Chance At Love? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzAre You Scaring Away Your Chance At Love? By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Several months ago we penned an article entitled, “Great Love Is Best Not Rushed.” Our principle theme was this – in the beginning of a budding love relationship, don’t get in a hurry in your quest for ...
Views: 3532(38 votes) - ***Newlyweds Should NEVER Makes These 7 Mistakes - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Ah, wedding season. That time of year when brides and grooms say, “I do” and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, dreaming of “happily ever after” can create unrealistic expectations and lots of problems down the road. So much of marriage ...
Views: 1906(38 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #7 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #7 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
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