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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Avoid Settling For Less Than What You Need And Want While Searching for Your Life Partner - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Janice BennettLet’s say that you’re out there in the dating scene – meeting members of the opposite sex online and in person, making conscious decisions about who to date, and learning more about who you are and what you need and want in a life partner relationship. And then you get to the ...
Views: 3201 - Do Little Things Bother You About Your Dating Partner? It Might Really Be About You - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Janice BennettThe guy you're dating tends to be a little less than punctual. The woman you're seeing isn't the neatest when it comes to her pocketbook, or her apartment. And it bothers you. A lot. So what do you do about it? You do what you've done before - you end the relationship. But if you find that ...
Views: 10141 - Married But ECheating? – A Dreadful Alliance! - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Bill MitchellAdultery used to be done without anyone's help in secret places like hotels, bedrooms and vacation spots - but not anymore! Alliances are forming against you on the internet. Your spouse might be paying others to foster an affair. Did you know these alliances are growing at an alarming rate? ...
Views: 1490 - ***How Love Grows (Practical Steps To Keeping Love Alive In Your Relationships) - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Laura MonzoWe are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they don't feel it's possible to have the same success in love. They tell themselves to “be realistic.” Being realistic about relationships” is considered natural as ...
Views: 1689 - Sociopathic Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockAlthough you may never know it, people you look up to, love, and respect could easily be sociopaths. They give themselves away by exhibiting strange combinations of controlling behaviors, such as being charismatic, calculating, extremely confident, while warmly embracing those who fall under ...
Views: 1568 - Relationship Deal-Making - Shifting Love Into a Long-Term Commitment, Part 2 Of 2 - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Janice BennettIn "Relationship Deal-making, Part 1," I introduced you to Karen and Henry. While Karen loved Gary, and Henry loved Hannah, each had the desire to shift the love they experienced in the present into a committed life-partner relationship that would last into the future. It is a common ...
Views: 2472 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (18): A Good Tilt With A Bar Girl?" - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from Carl Pantejo(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the eighteenth episode based on a series of real life events experienced by ...
Views: 970 - Finding The Super Mate And How To Recognize Them - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from Alvin ( AJ ) GentryEvery human needs personal closeness and interaction. It completes our sense of being alive and the development of meaningful memories. People bond with other people through interaction and the association of that interaction with anchors of the sensory or memory components involved. Special ...
Views: 1229 - Body Freedom Exercise (20): Games Galore - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandBody Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Games Galore Time for Exercise: 30 minutes to all day and night Properties Required: varies with each game Treasure Hunt I Place notes (e.g., sticky notes) to lead your lover on a search for sensual, sexual ...
Views: 672 - Commitment Issues... And Another Woman! (Video) - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from Dan And JenniferI think we've probably all been in, or have known someone in this situation... You meet someone really great, you have a lot in common, you have so much fun together, you really click. There's just one little problem. He already has a girlfriend! The particular type of man that I'm referring to ...
Views: 982 - Relationship Deal-Making - Shifting Love Into A Long-Term Commitment, Part 1 Of 2 - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from Janice BennettLoving someone doesn't always translate into a relationship. This is the hard cold truth singles often have to accept if they ultimately want a healthy life-partner relationship. That's because love can't survive alone and pure in a world complicated by so many other elements. We all have jobs ...
Views: 2793 - Experiences From 'The Flow' (17) - Farang: Further Interpretation. Lopsided Scales - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the seventeenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 1068 - Body Freedom Exercise (19): I'll Be Watching You - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandI’ll be Watching You Time for Exercise: two minutes to one hour Properties Required: none Steps: Ask your lover permission to watch as she does things that might ordinarily be completely private. Some ideas of things you can ask for: undressing, dressing, any particular aspect of ...
Views: 654 - Repairing Your Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2008 from Nancy RubenCommunication is key to repairing relationships. Listening fully to the other person is the most important part of communication -- really listening, without the internal dialogue or ideas of what you’ll say next in your head. In therapy with families and couples, I often ask one person to sit ...
Views: 1188 - Platonic Relationships: Why They Don't Work After A Break-Up - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2008 from Janice BennettRelationships with the opposite sex can be extremely complicated, especially after a break-up. Can singles be “just friends” with someone they used to date? Here's why I say the answer to that question is "no." Q. I just broke up with a guy I had been dating for nine months. We got ...
Views: 4538 - Breaking Up - Recovery Is Possible! - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2008 from Nina Atwood“I refuse to let what happened to me make me bitter. I still completely believe in love and I’m open to anything that will happen to me.” - Nicole Kidman on breaking up Many years ago when my ex-husband left, I initially thought that this was the end of any hope for love in my life. It took me ...
Views: 1829 - Body Freedom Exercise (18): Dirty Dancing - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandDirty Dancing The phrase “dirty dancing” comes from the movie by the same name, but actually there is nothing dirty about doing a striptease for your lover. This is one of the most erotic gifts you can give each other. Time for Exercise: 15 to 30 minutes Properties Required: music ...
Views: 752 - How To Win Back A Gemini... - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2008 from Dan And JenniferIt may be hard to 'lose' a Taurus, but it's just as difficult to keep a Gemini. The sign of the Twins is known for being fickle and flighty, stimulation-seeking and superficial. Gemini is ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication and information. The winged messenger is faster than the speed ...
Views: 13745 - Looking For A Loving Relationship That Lasts? Here's How! - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2008 from Janice BennettThe complaint is well known: women meet men who want to have sex right away, even on the first date. How can a woman get a man to wait until she knows him better? There are a few ways this issue can be addressed, so I will be making two points: one will pertain to how a woman presents herself ...
Views: 2734 - Looking For Love? Here's The Smart Way To Choose A Lover - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from Deborrah CooperI can't tell you how many times I've heard dismayed lovers proclaim "I just couldn't help it! I fell in love. I know I stayed too long. I knew s/he wasn’t the one…we had so many problems! You can't help who you love!" The frequency of that statement leads me to believe that ...
Views: 1547 - Body Freedom Exercise (17): Body Painting - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandBody Painting Time for Exercise: 30 minutes to two hours Properties Required: washable body paints, drop sheet Steps: Place the drop sheet (an old bed sheet or large piece of plastic) on the floor to protect it. Get naked. Take turns painting each other’s bodies. ...
Views: 1168 - Women Can Enjoy Sex More - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2012 from Donna TurnerWomen all over the world enjoy their special private time with their partners, and many women also enjoy time alone. But how can you make these two valued moments, “extra special?” Well, by incorporating sex toys of course! It is easy for men to get off, but for some women, it may ...
Views: 1240 - Body Freedom Exercise (16): Stunning Sensory Stimulation - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandStunning Sensory Stimulation We rely on our eyes, sometimes at the expense of our other senses. They can become dulled without attention and use. This fun-filled exercise awakens you once again to the mystery of sound, touch, smell, and taste. Time for Exercise: 30 minutes Properties ...
Views: 872 - "Experiences From 'The Flow'(16) - Farang: Make Your Scale Sway or Walk Away." - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the sixteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 889 - Body Freedom Exercise (15): Touch Time - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTime for Exercise: 20 minutes to several hours Properties Required: water, oil, or silicone lubricants (optional) Steps: Set aside a special lovemaking time for learning about how you each like to be touched. Decide who will touch and who will be touched. The toucher says, ...
Views: 613 - The Intuition You Really Don't Possess - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from Alvin ( AJ ) GentryMen are different than women. It should be pretty evident and yet there are still times when we lose track of the important differences that make us individual. One of those times when we forget is the source of a great majority of disagreement and arguments. Young children grow up by gender ...
Views: 1251 - Keeping Together In Love - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from June BreretonWe fall in love and then we fall out again. Why? What happens that all the wonderful feelings that brought us together gradually dissipate like steam from a kettle? Why is that so many marriages that were deemed to have been ‘made in heaven’ go through hell and end in divorce? When we fall in ...
Views: 1371 - The Secret To Lasting Romance: How Subtlety Could Save Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Dan And JenniferYou can't really blame some modern men and women for rolling their eyes at the idea of old-fashioned romance. The phrase brings to mind antiquated images of dramatic gestures, overly poetic assertions and a sort of starry-eyed obliviousness that most contemporary lovers find pretty silly and ...
Views: 2507 - Experiences From 'The Flow'(15) - Farang: Interpretation Of Your Results - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the fifteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 942 - How Confident Women Are Seen By The Average Joe - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2008 from Steve ErreyThere are certain challenges in building your self-confidence, like sweeping away old roles and expectations, silencing that voice that criticises your every move and - when you get right down to it - figuring out just who the heck you really are. That's sometimes made more difficult by the ...
Views: 1175 - "Experiences From 'The Flow'(14) - Farang: Tipping the Scales. Good Or Bad?" - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the fourteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 876 - Relationship Advice For Creating Greater Intimacy - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsMost of us are pretty routine-oriented. We get up in the morning, brush teeth, eat breakfast and then head off to whatever form of work we engage in. Our days continue on in much the same way. Many of us also create time to connect in with our partner watching movies, having dinners out, and ...
Views: 868 - How Parents And Teens Can Have Meaningful Conversations - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2008 from Vanessa WintersCommunication is a key tool, among others, that is vital to forming and maintaining nurturing, respectful, and solid relationships. To communicate is to make a thing known. It is to cause one to partake or own a part of something with others in an idea or thought. Talking is communication by ...
Views: 1011 - Love Lessons From A Cat - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2008 from Myoung-Ae JonesCats are loyal, elegant, and affectionate yet fiercely independent and quite honestly, coy in their relationship with us, their protectors and loyal subjects. Unlike dogs, who drool all over you and can’t seem to distance themselves from you or withstand your even temporary disapproval, cats ...
Views: 855 - Go Buy Yourself A Soul Mate - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2008 from Andrea KnollHow many times have you heard a single friend say, "if only I had a boyfriend/ girlfriend/ soul mate my life would be perfect." I've always thought that logic was flawed. That's way to much pressure to put on a potential partner. If you expect a "soul mate" to come along and make your life ...
Views: 905 - How To 'Lose' A Taurus Man - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2008 from Dan And JenniferIt's not so easy to get dumped by a man who dislikes change. Of all the zodiac signs, Taurus is the most stubborn, a true creature of habit. The Bull is an earth sign (along with Virgo and Capricorn), focused on tangible progress and concrete results. He's attached to his treasured possessions. ...
Views: 13914 - Are You Cheating On Me? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2008 from Bill MitchellEver wonder when your spouse leaves for work if that is real destination? Have you felt distance and uneasy for no reason? Are you experiencing guilt not trusting your mate? Chances are you also feel a great sense of denial as well. I am right? Client after client asks me for advice. I'm a ...
Views: 1411 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (13) - Farang: Compatibility Issues II." - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the thirteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 842 - Magical Relationships! - Stop Complaining And Start Creating - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2008 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDoes it seem as if people want more than you can give? Do you feel pressured to keep them all happy? If so, you're not alone. Change this uncomfortable pattern now by learning new ways of creating more love and respect, as well as little-known methods that will help you to create happy and ...
Views: 1392 - How To Attract Women Instantly, Even After Just Breaking Up With Your Girlfriend - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2008 from Flirt JerkWouldn’t it be great if someone would have actually taken the time to teach you how to attract women a long time ago? Instead you were left to brave the rough waters alone, snagging a precious few and being rejected by the rest. Let’s face it, it’s inevitable that not every ...
Views: 506 - The Energetics Of A Healthy Marriage Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2008 from Rita LouiseMost of what we know about our relationships we’ve learn from TV, movies or even romance novels. For many women, the idea they will meet their Prince Charming and live happily ever after is something they are brought up believing is true. As a society, we are lead to believe that one day we will ...
Views: 1502(1 vote) - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (12) - Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility Issues." - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the twelfth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 940 - What Is Erotic Massage And Why Is It Important? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2008 from Maya SilvermanWith millennium lifestyles busier than ever before, it can be hard to find time for one another. Couples who once spent whole weekends in bed might find their love life relegated to a nighttime quickie a couple times a week. Added to the stresses caused by modern career life and this state can ...
Views: 3875 - Sensual Massage For Couples - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2008 from Maya SilvermanYou’ve done your research, read some books, perhaps even viewed instructional videos on the topic. Everyone is talking about sensual massage, the depth of the connection it enables and of course, the mind shattering orgasms it helps produce. You’re ready to embark on some more practical ...
Views: 2565 - Rock Star Syndrome - Are You In Love With Him Or The Idea Of Him? (Video) - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2008 from Dan And JenniferEvery little girl grows up wanting to be a beautiful princess. So is it any wonder that young girls are so attracted to rock stars, movie stars, and pop idols? After all, they're waiting for their gorgeous prince to ride in and rescue them, after which they'll fall in love, get married, ...
Views: 1213 - Is Your Mate’s Passive-Aggressive Behavior Driving You Crazy? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2008 from Nancy WassonKayla’s husband Jon is an expert at getting out of things he doesn’t want to do. He “forgets” to stop by the store on the way home from work when he doesn’t want to be bothered. If he doesn’t want to help Kayla with the house cleaning, he does such a poor job that she ends up redoing his ...
Views: 2560 - Body Freedom Exercise (9): Body Sounds - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandBody Sounds The body makes very interesting internal sounds, including: digestion as food moves through the stomach and intestines, breathing, heart beating and pumping blood, and eating food, including chewing and swallowing. Listen to these sounds, become familiar with them, and notice how ...
Views: 909 - Body Freedom Exercise (8): Baby Body - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandBaby Body Safety, security, acceptance, and belonging are universal human needs. The Baby Body exercise offers these things as unconditional gifts of love. Time for Exercise: five minutes Properties Required: none Steps: One of you holds the other with unimaginable tenderness, as ...
Views: 657 - How To Get Rid Of Resentment - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2008 from michael atmaHow many times have you agreed to do something that you actually didn’t want to do? Was it a family member, a friend, a lover or even someone at work? You really wanted to say no, but it just never came out. So you end up doing something that you later on resent. The result – ...
Views: 2677 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (11) - Farangs: In (Or Considering) A Long-term Western/Asian Relationship? Read This Now!" - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2008 from Carl Pantejo(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the eleventh episode in a series of real life events experienced by the ...
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