Adultery used to be done without anyone's help in secret places like hotels, bedrooms and vacation spots - but not anymore! Alliances are forming against you on the internet. Your spouse might be paying others to foster an affair. Did you know these alliances are growing at an alarming rate? It's time to find out what you need to do if you suspect eCheating by your spouse.

In Homer’s Odyssey (a Greek Myth) sailors were lured to their death by Sirens, mythological temptresses who sang seductive songs. Sailors called Argonauts escaped the songs, because of the great musician Orpheus. He played his lyre so beautifully, that it drowned out the songs from the Sirens. His decisive deed saved the crew from total devastation.

Today’s version of this enticement is “ECheating” - a phrase I’ve coined. “ECheating” enchants new scalawags to an internet isle. Rather than sail, today’s Argonauts surf to this island. In great numbers surfers are defying danger and destruction for a chance encounter - a rendezvous.

Here’s one such tale:

Martin leaves mornings for work before rush hour. He hates the wasted time or so he’s been coached to tell Michelle that who is his unwitting wife. She cleans up breakfast dishes before heading off to work an hour later. Michelle loves Martin and thinks of him throughout the day. She faithfully trusts him.

Martin is the first at work. He logs onto the internet using his personal laptop to avoid detection and violation of company policy. He follows these tips from his team of “eCheating” consultants. Martin receives many hits just a few days after setting up his “eCheating” membership profile. He only has seconds to wait. With his coffee still steaming, several women found him attractive and want to know more. Several wanted dialogue, others wanted sex! Nervously, Martin rolled his wedding band around his finger tempted to read them all. Eventually he’s overcome with passion and his monogamy is no longer montonous! (That’s the Siren’s seductive song.) He responds:

“Your name is Cindy; you live in Seattle and need to spice up your marriage. This is your first time too? You enjoy things that might make some blush…… Oh no, what am I doing?” Martin says under his breath. With a quick click of the mouse Martin’s off the net - escaping what seemed like a crime he’s committed. His heart beat races. Martin is both scared and energized. For now signing off is the right thing. “That’s it, no more,” Martin says to himself. “Well at least they helped me cover my tracks. Michelle will never know I signed up.”

Almost coincidentally, Martin’s boss passes the cubicle with a routine welcome. “Oh not bad Paul, thanks for asking… Man that was close! I can’t believe what I’m doing. I’m married; what am I crazy? I’ve got so much to lose. What would the kids do if they found out?” Martin asks himself.

Unfortunately, days later Martin caves to his desires and a rendezvous devised. He used the next business trip as perfect situation and alibi. He will meet his chosen “eCheater” at a nearby airport hotel. Michelle remains clueless.

But wait, “eCheating” serves a compelling purpose, true? Just listen to one slogan “When Monogamy becomes Monotony.” This catchphrase conjures up a sense of justification or reason. Right? It includes not just a sex theme, but a sense of fellowship.

Does marriage end when it’s unexciting?

Is in fact adultery the answer?

These new dreadful alliances would lead you to believe it is!

I am deeply troubled as “eCheating” businesses flourish! Isn’t it time we put an end to them? How? What can YOU do about them?
• Be proactive.
• Get informed.
• Search adultery keywords for banner ads.
• Learn these “ECheating” sites by name.
• Search computer history for visits to them.
• Install spy ware on home PC – yours of course.
• Keep an eye on credit cards statements.
• Monitor computer usage.
• Pay attention to affection, attention and availablity of relationship.
• Don’t use God or the Bible as a weapon in confrontations.
• Therapy sessions don’t work if you are forcing them.
• Don’t require your spouse to go to therapy – it will deliberately fail after a few sessions and be used against you.
• Safeguard your homes and kids from the internet.
• Make time to watch the eHighway carefully for those hazardous detours.
• Request a copy of my article “Is your spouse cheating online?” Send a request to
• Recognize the signs of adultery early on.
• If you don’t know them, I can help you.

You are not alone… let’s break these alliances together.

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Author's Bio: 

Bill Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Bill Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV including Dr. Phil, Today Show, The Early Show and radio talk shows . He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, Ladies Home Journal Online, PI Magazine and many more.