Commitment Issues... And Another Woman! (Video)

I think we've probably all been in, or have known someone in this situation...

You meet someone really great, you have a lot in common, you have so much fun together, you really click. There's just one little problem. He already has a girlfriend! The particular type of man that I'm referring to says that leaving the other woman. He just won't say when. He tells you to hold on, it'll be worth the wait and you'll be together soon.

Here's a question from Marie who is in this exact situation.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I met this man online a year ago. I flew out to spent a few weekends with him knowing that he had a girlfriend. He keeps telling me he's going to end it, to hang on that it'll be worth it... But the last time I was there, he couldn't tell me how he feels about me. So I said "OK,it's time to walk away", but now he keeps calling and texting me. I don't get it. He's all I think about. He's 51 and never been married and I'm not 20 any more! Please, it's driving me crazy. I really like this man. We have fun, laugh a lot, and really have a lot in common. So what's the problem? Oh, I might add that he's still on the same dating site where we met. I know because I go on to chat with others while I wait for him. Thanks for any truthful advice you can give.

-- Marie

Watch this short video for our thoughts on this very interesting question...

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Dump him - he's stringing you along!

I’m usually flexible on these things but on this one I say "Dump him" - he's stringing you along. That’s all it is, he is playing you like a fiddle. Leave now before it's too late. Obviously he wants you around to boost his ego and to get a little on the side.

One of the most difficult things we can face in a relationship is deciding when to cut our losses and simply walk away. And at this point you’re on the losing side... So it's time to move on and make room for the right person to come into your life.

Make room for the right person to come into your life.

While you're holding on to this man, you're preventing the right man from coming into your life. Let this one go and create room in your life for the right person. Find the one you will make the greatest romantic connection with and who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

Trying to start a new relationship over a long distance is hard enough without the added complexity of another woman and his obvious commitment issues.

He's never been married and his current girlfriend is there all the time. He's not likely to leave her - she's a sure thing - and what’s more she got there first. That’s a rough one... He may be be coming up to see you all the time and truly enjoying your time together, but you have to see that he's not putting any effort into this. If you just want to play around and have some fun that’s one thing, but it sounds like you want a relationship. And if that's true, then he's not the guy for you.

You may not be 20 anymore, but you're not dead either.

Don't make decisions out of fear that the clock is ticking or the fear of being alone.

Just take one day at a time and live your life in a joyful and fun way. The right person will come along for you.  Whenever we feel that we NEED something, we actually create more 'need' and push away the things that we think we need. Choose to be happy either way!

It is easy to say that I’m getting older so why not settle for this guy. He's not that horrible anyway…

That sucks! That’s not the way to do this. "Oh My God I need to land somebody before I get any older so we can grow old(er) together. Don’t think thatway... Your only 47 - that's still young! If you settle for this guy and he turns up to be a real loser, guess what? Now you're 57 and you’ve spent 10 years of your life waiting for this guy to change. Don’t do that. You'll only regret it later.

As long as you cling to the wrong guy, there's no room in your life for the right one who treats you with the love and respect you deserve.

Move on and live your life, one day at a time... You are worthy of love and you will find the right man for you!