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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Why Do Happy Couples Suddenly Fall Out Of Love? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Dan And JenniferIt seems to be a complete mystery. Something we cannot understand. And yet it happens every day all around us: People who used to love each other madly suddenly fall out of love, just like that. What are the reasons? Sarah's Story: Sarah and her boyfriend had been the perfect couple. It was as ...
Views: 17003(1 vote) - *** Marriage: Responsibility vs. Fault - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often hear people saying things like: "It's my fault that she asked for a divorce. If I hadn't worked so much, she wouldn't have left." "It's my fault that he left. If I had been more sexual, he wouldn't have had an affair." I often hear clients ask, when I ...
Views: 4827(2 votes) - Relationship Advice: Why True Love Isn't Fairy Tale - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from Brenda NovakWhile doing a signing for my latest romance novel, a woman passed by, picked up my book, and immediately wrinkled her nose. "I don't read these kinds of books," she said. "What do you read?" I asked. She slapped it down on the table as if it was so far beneath her she couldn't bare to ...
Views: 441 - Experiences from "The Flow" (9): New Girlfriend, New Life. - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“It’s true that CONTRAST PROVIDES PERSPECTIVE. …In all respects, she was different. Not only was she a tidy homemaker, great cook, and a good money manager; she was playful AND passionate too. Rapidly, we became lovers AND friends; having fun just being together. And I ...
Views: 994 - What is Relationship Coaching? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from Jim AccettaRelationship coaching is a field that likely started when the first shaman or priest talked with the first "couple" or partnership concerning their relationship, how they relate to each other and who they want to be! In more recent times, the field of "family therapy" has blossomed with the ...
Views: 2211 - Authentic Relationships-Creating Greatness - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from Jim AccettaWhat is ‘authentic relationship’? How great is your relationship with your partner or spouse? Your communication? Your intimacy? Your sex life? As in so many areas of our lives, people settle…they settle for going along, they give up parts of themselves, become ...
Views: 1953 - Love In The Land Of Loneliness - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2008 from Joseph DispenzaAll the lonely people Where do they all come from? The Beatles, Eleanor Rigby “Lonely People Face Higher Risk of Heart Disease,” Science Daily headlined recently, revealing perhaps more than it intended about what alternative medicine calls the mind-body connection in human health. As if ...
Views: 935 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 8 of 9) - Mate Relationship and Summary Of The 4 Freedoms - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandIntegration in a Mate Relationship A mate relationship is a superlative setting for integrating your Four Freedoms. A relationship is the ideal arena for learning to become whole. Lovers do not complete each other but rather comprise one whole relationship. Not only is committed ...
Views: 620 - How to Uncover the 5 Hidden Lies - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond Rock"Thou shalt not bear false witness" - the Ninth Commandment that is probably more abused than any other! Lying is one of the Buddhist precepts as well, the fourth to be exact. The problem with Buddhism, however, is that lying is not simply a matter of making an untrue statement, lying goes much ...
Views: 705 - The Smart Dating Process - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Michael JacksonWhy do so many smart people date so badly? Because while we all study reading, writing, and arithmetic, there are no classes for dating and relationships. Now a lot of people pay a lot of money and spend a lot of time on the sofa of their psychotherapists when the use of some common sense could ...
Views: 906 - A Clever Valentine’s Day Gift - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockYou know the routine; picking out that special card with just the right verses, and then that special gift - an upscale box of candy, some flowers, maybe a nice ring, a new car, or some tickets for a cruise. According to Wikipedia, The historical background of Valentine's day seems to go back ...
Views: 1381 - A Little Appreciation Makes Big Italian Friends - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Margaret CowanHere's a secret in the form of three tales about how you can make people's faces light up as soon as they see you or think about you in your personal or business life. Every Christmas I type about 50 personalized letters and snail mail them, to thank all the wonderful restaurant owners ...
Views: 1273 - Put Love Into It - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf there was a simple yet very powerful way to get what you want in life, would you want to know the secret? In this article I reveal all. Read on to discover how to have the love, happiness and success you want - more easily and sooner than you expect. After twenty years experimenting with ...
Views: 767 - Relationship Advice: Why True Love Isn’t Fairy Tale - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Eric GruberWhile doing a signing for my latest romance novel, a woman passed by, picked up my book, and immediately wrinkled her nose. "I don't read these kinds of books," she said. "What do you read?" I asked. She slapped it down on the table as if it was so far beneath her she couldn't bare to touch ...
Views: 1020 - Relationship Advice: Don't Let Your Changing Feelings Sabotage Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Richard NicastroQ: There have been times when I'm not absolutely sure that I'm still in love with my husband. I'm afraid this means we're not right for each other, even though we've been married for several years. Can you shed any light on this? A: There are many normal factors that can influence how you feel ...
Views: 1003 - A Little Appreciation Makes Big Italian Friends - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Margaret CowanI'm going to tell you a secret about how you can make people's faces light up as soon as they see you or think about you in your business and personal life. Every Christmas I type about 50 personalized letters and snail mail them, to thank all the wonderful restaurant owners and chefs, ...
Views: 1435 - When Your Partner Doesn’t Talk - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieIn cafés, restaurants and at the water cooler women complain that men don’t talk about their feelings. Admittedly, this is a stereotype.. Some women don’t talk and some men do. In any case, what do you do when your partner doesn’t talk? Some of the most difficult things to talk about are ...
Views: 2346 - Working It Out At Work - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieFrom the threat of lay-off to balancing work and family life, today’s work-related problems are increasingly complicated and stressful. Job-related stresses frequently lead to a great deal of frustration and discontentment. Fortunately, there are many ways you can create a more enjoyable work ...
Views: 1676 - ***When Not To Start A Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Margaret PaulHave you recently ended a relationship or are you recently divorced? Are you thinking about dating again? Many times, putting yourself back into the dating scene is a good idea. But how can you know when it is time to start a new relationship? Here are some questions to ponder: 1. Are you ...
Views: 2839 - Do You Love Me? Connection Without Shortcuts - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2008 from Inessa Love“Do you love me?” I asked my partner countless times over the years. And every time I heard what I wanted to hear. Sometimes it came with a smile or a kiss, sometimes it came after a pause or a sigh; sometimes it was enthusiastic and sometimes it was dry and mechanical; sometimes I was convinced ...
Views: 654(1 vote) - Fine Tuning Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieIntimate relationships offer great potential for connection, personal growth and healing. Yet many people find that although successful in their careers and are able to maintain close friendships, they struggle in intimate relationships. Often these relationships aren’t working because the same ...
Views: 1405 - Cultivating Trust: Personal Empowerment For Committed Couples - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieSelf-knowledge, shaped by life experience, refined by decent intentions, and applied thoughtfully, builds inner trust - a prerequisite for mutual trust. Solo ventures, such as mountain travel by foot comprise a category requiring trust in the accuracy of one’s judgement, to safeguard life and ...
Views: 1601 - How To Wow The Love Of Your Life - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Margaret CowanJanett of New York City wanted to give the love of her life, Ron the surprise of his life to celebrate his 60th birthday in October. She asked him, "Would it be OK if I gave you a trip for your birthday?" Of course, it was! "Would it be OK if I didn't tell you where you were going, if I just ...
Views: 1417 - The Hidden Dangers Of Trying To Control Your Husband Or Wife... - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Dan And JenniferThere is a beautiful little town just south of where I live. It has peaceful, quiet, tree-lined streets with beautiful homes both old and new. It is the perfect example of small town America, a place where many of us dream of raising our children, a place that we think of as being safe. Last ...
Views: 1242 - Men And Women: How We Relate - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Ron and Denny ReynoldsIt's incredibly important for people in relationship to be able to talk about their feelings. Major disruptions occur when one person wants to share feelings and the other wants to speak logically about the circumstances. Two different languages are being spoken and no communication is ...
Views: 5375 - How To Stop Resentment From Killing Your Relationship (Video) - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Dan And JenniferAfter being married for a while, many couples find themselves in a situation where one partner feels angry, hurt, and/or resentful toward the other. They feel that they're the only one who's made sacrifices for the relationship, that they gave up their dreams, so that their partner could ...
Views: 1304 - On Integrity - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2011 from Radomir SamardzicHere is the theme and the statement of the day: In order for any relationship to work and have any lasting prospect of existence what it must have first and foremost is INTEGRITY. So, what is this thing we call integrity? We use the word usually in relationship with others, like ...
Views: 1858(1 vote) - Top Ten Relationship Mistakes (Complex — Part 3 of 3) - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond Rock1. Confusing the real purpose of a relationship. Relationship is a mirror in which you can see yourself in reflection. You may think that you are a certain way, but relationship will reveal the true you every time. Therefore, the real purpose of relationship is to understand yourself. Once you ...
Views: 641 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (6): New Beginnings, Old Endings" - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“She had just severed a longtime, abusive relationship; and to her dismay, felt like she was back to square one in her life. I had just ended a similar relationship, a relationship full of infidelity, lies, and heartbreak. And being a veteran of starting over (and over), I knew it was ...
Views: 979 - Top Ten Relationship Mistakes (Advanced — Part 2 of 3) - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond Rock1. Misunderstanding what a relationship is all about. A relationship is an opportunity to give, rather than take. If one or both partners have plastered on their forehead, "What's in this for me," things will get dicey. The key to a successful relationship is always uncompromising trust, and ...
Views: 759 - Top Ten Relationship Mistakes (Initial — Part 1 of 3) - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond Rock1. Relying on your feelings rather than your intuition. Feelings regarding a new relationship will almost always involve powerful lust. This is natural. When an interest grows sexually, it grows as quickly and as surely as a child. Each interaction doubles the desire until the need to be ...
Views: 696 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (5): The Stray" - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“She had tolerated five years of infidelity, mental abuse, and battering; but the rape of her little sister was the last straw. She finally left him…and ended up in my house.” “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl ...
Views: 937 - Dealing With Fear Of Commitment - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2008 from Kate DReasons behind the fear of commitment for men and women can be different, but the results are the same. Fear of commitment often ends a relationship or puts a dense wall between two people - sometimes between life itself. Commitment to one person is a serious thing. It shouldn't be taken lightly ...
Views: 4168 - Release Old Lovers Or Beliefs - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Arielle FordThe following is a feelingization technique for releasing old lovers/beliefs. This is a two-part visualization – for the first part stand up next to a comfortable chair (which you will sit in soon). Stand with your feet about hip width apart and close your eyes. Clench your fists, tighten your ...
Views: 2067 - The Sacred Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Ron and Denny ReynoldsAll relationships are a reflection of the sacred relationship, the relationship we have with our Self. What makes the sacred relationship work makes all relationships work. What tarnishes or detracts from the sacred relationship, detracts from every relationship. If you lie to your Self you ...
Views: 1859 - 20 Do's & Don'ts Of A Functional Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2012 from Eve BernshawFrom TheTransitionProcessTM Interactive Lecture HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE The following is a list of The 20 Do's and Don'ts of A Functional Relationship. It has been an effective tool and starting point for individuals and couples who are serious about creating more joy, ...
Views: 2332 - Great Expectations: The Root Of Relationship Troubles? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Sharon CapehartHave you ever thought about the issue of success in relationships? If you’ve had relationships that didn’t work out so well, I’m sure you have thought about why it didn’t work out. There are any number of conclusions you could probably come up with. For example, ‘It was all his/her fault!’ or ...
Views: 986 - If You’ve Got This Power, Your Relationship Will Flourish! - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2008 from Dr Rakesh ChopraI have observed while working with many thousands of people on strengthening their relationships that those that flourish have certain characteristics in common. One of the characteristics they share is that they have developed the power of innocence. What does being innocent mean to you? ...
Views: 1389 - Relationship Advice: The ABC's Of Effective Communication - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2008 from Richard NicastroCommunication is the foundation of your relationship. Without it, you can't really have much of a relationship--just imagine how futile it is to build a house on quicksand rather than concrete. And with healthy, reciprocal communication, your marriage or relationship will continue to evolve in ...
Views: 1806 - Dumped By Your Partner? How To Get Over It In Minutes - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanWere you dumped by your girlfriend/boyfriend? Asked someone out but was turned down? Told someone that you love him/her and the answer was "although you are an interesting person, you're just not the one for me"? Self-confidence and Being Dumped What most people do when they are dumped is ...
Views: 1153 - Jealousy - Who’s Got The Problem? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2008 from Aileen SmithStarting from when we’re little, we are seeking assurance that we “measure up”. We need to know that we are good enough, acceptable, likeable, clever, attractive so that we can feel worthwhile. If we don’t get these assurances as we grow up, we are sitting ducks for the green-eyed monster to ...
Views: 1520 - Who Is More Romantic, A Man Or A Woman? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Thabet Sava HassanThe word romance is associated with the notion of being vulnerable in men's minds. They are conditioned to perceive being romantic as being feminine or being a wimp. Even the meaning of the word romance is confusing to men in general. I took upon myself the task of asking the men whom I ...
Views: 1725 - Fulfillment, Self Expression and Compassion - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockThe subjects of this article are cherished goals. What could be more rewarding than a life fulfilled, or expressing ones deepest felt emotions and thoughts? The problem is; one person's fulfillment might be another's tragedy. Take for example the dream of home ownership. A young woman, ...
Views: 695 - Seven Things That Can Wreck Your Life - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockSex … Money … Power … Fame … Good Looks … Ambition … Success If any of these Seven become tangled up in the Seven Deadly Sins (Lust, Gluttony, Greed, Sloth, Wrath, Envy, and Pride), look out! Otherwise, they are simply to be enjoyed, but not to bet the farm on - it's only when we begin to ...
Views: 1034 - And Then There's Maud! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2008 from Joe KortHave you ever heard of a dog that gives you the middle finger, snubs you when you call, believes that you exist to please her and that she doesn’t have to please you (unless she feels like it)—and channels the worst parts of your mother to boot? A dog that intentionally tries to trip you when ...
Views: 1785 - Coping With The End Of A Long-Term Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2008 from Louann HilleslandRecently, a beautiful woman, begged me to save her marriage. She is not alone in seeking help for this situation. Half of all marriages end in divorce. The following coping strategies may be helpful to you or an acquaintance experiencing similar circumstances. Unfortunately, no one can save a ...
Views: 4635 - What Is Real Love? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2008 from Colette Dowling, LCSWTrue love is not only hard to find, it’s also hard to tolerate. Such an idea may seem counterintuitive, but if you ponder it long enough to really get it, it could change the way you think about love. All of us have been wounded in some way, either by early love relationships or ...
Views: 1267 - Energize Your Heart, Deepen Your Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2008 from Puran BairLove, romance, friendship, feeling a deep connection with others, loving and being loved-these are universally recognized as the keys to a happy and fulfilled life. Yet so many people feel a lack of each one of these. Our culture is both more interested in love, and at the same time more ...
Views: 811 - Men In Relationship - Heart Freedom (Part 5 of 8 ) - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPart 5 of 8 "Men in Relationship: The Hero Who Admits He Is Afraid" Many men are reluctant to embrace relationships but relationships are the marquee event in the Olympics of Life. Winning the gold medal in relationships is as good as it gets in this world. Ask yourself: Is a great ...
Views: 789 - How To Make A May-December Love Affair Work - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Sharon BellIt is not uncommon to find young persons falling in love with individuals that are a decade older than they are. Although you see such relationships in Hollywood and even in the movies, many are still unconvinced that such a strong passionate bond can truly occur between two people whose ages ...
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