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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Romance In Paris Every Day Of Your Life - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from Winston NgFor many years, I have been waiting to go to Paris because I have been told of the stories of abundant romance along the streets of Champs de Elysee and the lights on the Eiffel Tower. I managed to scrape out the time and money after university, and so I was packed up and on a plane to Charles ...
Views: 783 - Making It Fair: Sharing Household Tasks - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from John SchurmannHOW TO SHARE RELATIONSHIP ROLES Making It Fair: Who Will Do What and Why? (Includes a Couple Exercise) WHY ROLES ARE IMPORTANT? 1. Roles relate to how couples handle leadership responsibilities and divide household tasks. 2. As a couple, you will be involved in an almost endless number of ...
Views: 2260(1 vote) - How We Intimidate Each Other - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockA Thai farmer is in a ditch planting rice in the searing, Southeast Asian heat. He is old, uneducated, ill, toothless, and his body is small and frail, weathered from years of hard labor. Is this old, useless farmer less than you? You, who are educated, beautiful, healthy, relatively young, ...
Views: 1209 - Marriage Alert: Are Sexual Fantasies Harmful To Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2008 from Richard NicastroEd and Brenda have been married for nine years. Both describe their marriage as fulfilling and generally happy, and they experience the typical ups and downs that many couples face. They report that they share a good, solid sex life, and--as in all relationships--the passion between them ebbs ...
Views: 4921 - 5 Rules For A Happy Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2007 from Janice Hoffman1. Remember your partner isn't perfect. Many times we love our partner so much that we see them as more perfect than other people in our life. In this light, we hold them to an ideal, one that embraces the thought that this person will not hurt us. Many times we do this unconsciously. We ...
Views: 1375 - Love And The Power Of Being Present - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2007 from Krisanna Jeffery"If you were to define love, the only word big enough to engulf it all would be "life". Love is life in all it’s aspects. And it you miss love, you miss life. Please don’t." Leo Buscalia The word "presence" is not a word that’s commonly used in discussions on love. However, there aren’t many ...
Views: 1684 - The Most Important Thing to Look for in a Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2007 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockGood looking, intelligent, personable, self-assured, these are important, but if the most important thing is missing, the relationship could be doomed. Usually we are attracted by physical attributes, the most obvious being gender, but build, height, hair color – all of these count too. Then we ...
Views: 1986 - Soulmates: Do They Really Exist? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2007 from Joanne ParrottaSoulmate Relationships: Do They Really Exist? You bet they do! In fact, I am so sure of this that I even wrote a book on the subject, entitled A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2007). However, the soulmate mania we are ...
Views: 1981 - Promiscuity And Marriage Don't Mix - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Joanne ParrottaShortly after the release of a new booklet I wrote this past summer entitled The Promiscuous Woman: Modern Attitudes about Love and Sex (WiseAdviceBooks, 2007), I began to receive numerous letters and emails from many single women who after many years of promiscuous sexual behaviour, now decided ...
Views: 12622(1 vote) - Attraction -- Be Careful! - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2007 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockResearch has revealed that the part of our brain that is stimulated when we are in love is not the emotional centers as once thought, but the part of the brain that controls physical lust. In other words, being in love has everything to do with sex and little to do with love. Emotionally, after ...
Views: 670 - "Transforming Your Relationship - Mind Freedom" - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPart 8 of 8 When you turn the keys of Mind Freedom, you unlock the potential for a truly satisfying union. By paying positive attention to your relationship, focusing on the qualities you want it to exhibit and seeing your part in its evolution, you can break free from limited societal ...
Views: 1009 - The Top 10 Relationship Movies - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2007 from Gay Hendrickswww.hendricks.com Authors of Conscious Loving & Spirit-Centered Relationships Co-Founders Of The Spiritual Cinema Circle Here are our nominations for the best relationship movies of all time. Our criteria combined artistic merit with the ability of the movie to shed light on the inner ...
Views: 959 - Five Things That Hold us Back in Life, Love, and the Afterlife - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2007 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockOther than outright bad luck and unforeseen circumstances, whenever we fail to reach our goals, it's a good bet that one of these five culprits had a hand in it - 1. Taking our eye off the ball: The easiest way to get sidetracked from our goals is to become distracted by a good time. A "good ...
Views: 981 - Dealing With Separation - Breaking Up, Letting Go And How To Move On - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Psychic LillyWhy do we get so attached to another human being? A fixation on a former love is not unusual. Many have trouble letting go after a relationship is over. The depression that follows the break-up of a relationship is considered by mental health professionals as a normal part of grieving. However, ...
Views: 31885(5 votes) - Is Fear Of Relating Stopping You? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIt’s a strange, but increasingly common, phenomena happening with both married and single people. It’s called “commitment-phobia” and it can ruin even the best of relationships. What causes it? How can you prevent it? How can even married people suffer from it? These tips will help you sort ...
Views: 2057 - Coping With Rejection - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessDear Dr. Lisa, This problem has just started major today. (F.Y.I) I am 13 years old and i have had this very deep crush on a girl at school. I have liked her since last year and have finally brought up the courage to call her. Everything was goin well until she told me some disturbing news, ...
Views: 2317 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (4): LOST AND FOUND - Meant To Be? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from Carl Pantejo“Sullen, I accepted the fact that I’d never see her again. BUT the Gentle Hand of the Universe kept nudging me back towards her…” “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo, Copyright December ...
Views: 853 - Mind Freedom In Relationship: Conscious Attention To What Matters - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2007 from Al Link and Pala Copeland"Mind Freedom in Relationship: Conscious Attention to What Matters" Mind Freedom -Part 4 of 8 The world is demanding and constantly changing. People tend to ignore one of their most important anchors for intellectual sanity, emotional security, and spiritual wisdom—their primary ...
Views: 685 - Hobbies For Couples: How To End Solo Sport Resentment & Create A Lifetime Bond At The Same Time - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2007 from Kristie MacdonaldOne of the best ways to strengthen love is through friendship. And, one of the best ways to build friendship is through good old-fashioned play. Now, of course, this may require some cozy conversation over a good glass of Chardonnay to remember what good old-fashioned fun was really like. But ...
Views: 740 - Winter Solstice Resolutions - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2007 from Julianne BentleyDo you want your next year to include sexual fulfillment? Do you want to improve communication, change your body image, and make more time for fun? What if you could create or welcome into your life a new relationship reality? The Winter Solstice, the time when the new Sun is born, is an ...
Views: 3642 - Are The Two Of You Ready For Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2007 from Dr. Gilda CarleReprinted from MSN’s Home Page __________________________________________________________________________________________ • DR. GiLDA’s GUIDES on “How to Win at Relationships” and “How to Win at Work” (http://www.drgilda.com/books.htm#guides) • INSTANT ADVICE —BY PHONE OR E-MAIL for SAME-DAY ...
Views: 3457 - Why Keeping Your Individuality Is Important - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2007 from Paula SandersWhile I have to admit it is important for couples to have the big things in common. Having a common ground with your partner when it comes to finances, religion, and the means in which you will live your lives as a couple are crucial to the survival of your relationship. However, you also have ...
Views: 3849 - Conflict Brings The Sexiest High - Five Reasons Why, Five Ways To Re-configure. - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2007 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondOliver¡¦s guilty voice squeaked ¡§I¡¦m going out for a drink with my friends, okay?¡¨ Megan pounced on him like a cat determined not to let the mouse escape. ¡§You only just got home, why do you have to go out again?¡¨ his wife challenged. Oliver¡¦s pulse catapulted into overdrive, his face ...
Views: 1185 - Are You Addicted To Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanRelationships Addiction Suppose that you got used to drink three cans of coke each day, what will happen if one day you suddenly stopped drinking coke? Most likely you will feel that there is something missing and most likely you will be eager to drink your daily coke. That happened because ...
Views: 1407 - Taking Action - Body Freedom - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2007 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTaking Action – Body Freedom" (Part 7 of 7) by Al Link and Pala Copeland The best way to learn—and unlearn—is to take action. Remember that your Body Freedom is your responsibility. It is neither mandatory nor automatic. You can claim your Body Freedom with the following ...
Views: 679 - How Attractive Are You? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, DECEMBER 14, 2007 How Attractive Are (SET ITAL) You (END ITAL)? The media hosts an ongoing parade of beautiful people. They even offer commentary on the most beautiful eyes, lips and buttocks … helping us to embrace both a false ...
Views: 1134 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and Mistakes Made In Haste." - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2007 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl "J.C." Pantejo, Copyright December 2007 (Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) *Below is the third episode in a ...
Views: 835 - Do Women Over-Generalize? Always & Never - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardMen and women sometimes use the same words but with different meanings. Women have a tendency to over-generalize statements, using words like ALWAYS and NEVER. Women sometimes say to men, “You ALWAYS do this,” or “You NEVER do that.” The use of these words is not meant to be taken literally, ...
Views: 2936 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity? From Relapse To Miracles..." - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2007 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl "J.C." Pantejo, Copyright December 2007 (Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) *Below is the second in a series of ...
Views: 905 - Wrong Perceptions Can Be Lethal - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from William CottringerWRONG PERCEPTIONS CAN BE LETHAL By Bill Cottringer “You are only as wise as others perceive you to be” ~M. Shawn Cole It would be amusing if it weren’t for the destructiveness that wrong perceptions of people and situations can cause. What is amusing is that we are convinced of the truth ...
Views: 13613 - 10 Steps To Resolve Your Relationship Conflicts - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from John Schurmann"Just do what I say!" At some point in our lives we all have said this when we could not find a satisfying agreement with our spouse or partner. Everyone of us has differences and disagreements. But healthy people find ways to resolve conflicts without turning them into wars. When you have ...
Views: 2121(1 vote) - Body Pleasure And Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Al Link and Pala Copeland"Body Pleasure and Relationship – Body Freedom" (Part 3 of 7) by Al Link and Pala Copeland Fortunately, a mate relationship gives you a perfect arena in which to learn to overcome your negative body conditioning and to celebrate your body’s desires. When you are in a loving ...
Views: 770 - Rejection Is Inflated In and Out of Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Jan DeniseThe heart-wrenching pain of a breakup can be too severe to deny. But we don't have to get pushed out the door to feel the pain of rejection. Eons ago our survival depended on being sensitive to rejection -- without the protection of the clan, we were dead meat. Now, what used to save our hides ...
Views: 1076 - Matchmaking Today! - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2007 from Yvette SimpsonFrom a social and historical standpoint, as you probably know, matchmaking has gone in and out of vogue over the centuries and cultures. It was almost universally traditional a century or more ago when marriage was conceived primarily as a social and economic arrangement. In many cultures, ...
Views: 887 - Romance Comes In All Shapes And Sizes - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2007 from maria songRomance Comes In All Shapes And Sizes Some people think that just because they don’t like red roses, a candlelit dinner, or a sentimental card – they aren’t the romantic type. After getting to knowing the ins and outs of creating romantic moments – I’ve realized that men and women define ...
Views: 648 - Finding "The One" The Second Time Around: A Conscious Way of Choosing Your Life Partner - by A few years ago I met a woman that I was sure was "The One." We had incredible chemistry! This was especially exciting because when I met her, my marriage of nineteen years was falling apart and I was worried that I would never experience passionate, committed love again. But about a year and a ...
Views: 2818 - The Ultimate Holiday Gift: Nurture Your Relationship This Holiday Season - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2007 from Richard NicastroIf it's the season to be jolly… …then why am I seeing so many stressed, beleaguered couples walking around? Is it more apt to say, 'Tis the season to feel tense, frustrated and constantly on the go? Whether you're feeling totally overwhelmed or slightly frustrated, it's easy to ...
Views: 633 - ***How We Sabotage Ourselves And What To Do About It - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaEveryone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy and fit. There is no end to the diets, workouts and health plans. Yet the most important diet of all has been overlooked. This is a diet that releases stress, relaxes muscles, offers sound sleep, diminishes appetite, and makes you look and feel ...
Views: 18270 - Relationship Issues? - It's Not All About You! - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you sometimes feel hurt by the things the people you care about say? Do you find yourself thinking, "What did I do to deserve being talked to that way?" In any relationship, problems can be amplified by the stressful resentment people feel when their feelings have been hurt. This article ...
Views: 9346 - 5 Wretched, But Liberating Romantic Truths - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2007 from Scott & Stephen PetulloThe love life realities we’ve discovered through our work since 1992 aren’t entirely easy to digest, especially for those with old-fashioned romantic values. Even we find some of them troubling. We’ve been accused of having fatalistic viewpoints, yet even though some of the below information ...
Views: 1093(1 vote) - The Four Freedoms - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2007 from Al Link and Pala CopelandThe Four Freedoms by Al Link and Pala Copeland The desire to love someone through and through and to be loved that way in return, for a lifetime, burns in almost every heart. Although we are all truly worthy of such love, it is not something that will usually happen by itself. A superb ...
Views: 712 - Experiences From "The Flow": The Grief Letter - From Heartbreak To Happiness. - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2007 from Carl PantejoBy Carl "J.C." Pantejo, Copyright 2007 - “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” - (Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) *Below is the first of a series of actual ...
Views: 987 - Non-Reactivity - A Major Key To Relationship Health - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2007 from Margaret PaulHow much of your behavior is in reaction to your partner? What do you do when your partner: * gets angry or irritated with you? * withdraws from you? * is blaming or criticizing you? * misunderstands you or is not seeing you accurately? * is always busy? * is complaining, needy, or pouty? * ...
Views: 2556 - Exercise - How Important Is Your relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2007 from Al Link and Pala CopelandExercise - How important is your relationship? by Al Link and Pala Copeland How important is your relationship? Here are some questions to help you determine the importance of your relationship compared to other aspects of your life. When you become aware of exactly how you spend your time, ...
Views: 889 - Non-Reactivity - A Major Key to Relationship Health - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2007 from Margaret PaulHow much of your behavior is in reaction to your partner? What do you do when your partner: * gets angry or irritated with you? * withdraws from you? * is blaming or criticizing you? * misunderstands you or is not seeing you accurately? * is always busy? * is complaining, needy, or pouty? * ...
Views: 2550 - Conflict Resolution for Boomers and the Media Culture - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2007 from Phyllis GoldbergHave you noticed that, in our culture, slurs about gender, class, race and sex have become fairly commonplace and are often even seen as humorous by some? Howard Stern, Ann Coulter, Jesse Jackson and Bill O'Reilly, to name a few well known pundits, have been busy playing the 'can you top this' ...
Views: 816 - Relationship Conflict: 3 Common Traps To Avoid When You Argue - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2007 from Richard NicastroI've yet to meet a couple that never argues. Maybe the conflict-free couple exists somewhere, but our paths haven't crossed. Even the most highly compatible couples get into spats now and then. Let's face it, with all the similarities you share with your partner or spouse, there are ...
Views: 712 - How To Win Back Your Ex - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2007 from Michael MalegaTake the time to read the following article, surely you will benefit from the research that has been conducted in order for it to be written. As we know in our relationship with people we come across some situations that make us feel angry or make a wrong decisions. While we may have close and ...
Views: 1335 - ***The Power Of Thankfulness - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaThere is one sure fire medicine which cures all pain and opens the way for your greater good. It allows you to sleep well at night, wake up refreshed and filled with enthusiasm for your daily tasks. This medicine is abundantly available, has no side effects and can be taken in large or small ...
Views: 6332 - The Purpose Of Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2007 from William CottringerThe Purpose of Relationships By Bill Cottringer “Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing it is not fish they are after.” ~Henry David Thoreau. Lately, I seem to be more successful at accomplishing what I am trying to do when I remain mindful of my primary purpose in what I ...
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