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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How to Beat Loneliness - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockYou know the feeling; a forlornness, a crushing despondency filled with despair and hopelessness; a desperate reaching out for anyone who might hear your apprehensive, silent cries of anguish. You will do most anything to relieve the terrible feelings of dejection, and begin looking for someone ...
Views: 1936 - Tell Me No Lies: 7 Reasons Why You Might Lie to Your Partner - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2008 from Richard NicastroIn the workshops I conduct for couples, I often ask if anyone has ever lied to their partner (the couples respond anonymously). Usually more than half (sometimes as many as 90%) admit to having lied to their spouse or partner at some point. More than half the people who said they lied to ...
Views: 1036 - Gay Couples-Tips To Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2008 from Lena LaursenIn fact there are common elements in every type of relationship but gay couples have their own special problems and challenges to live through as well as benefits of course. First of all, they have to permanently fight with the rules and barriers of our homophobic society and it's not an easy ...
Views: 4664(1 vote) - How To Reduce Hurt Feelings When You And Your Partner Disagree - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2008 from Nancy WassonOne of the biggest on-going problems for couples is how to reduce the hurt feelings that can result from arguments and disagreements. The fall-out from a no-holds barred “kill your opponent” verbal altercation can last for decades. I have worked with numerous couples in counseling who have ...
Views: 2919 - Why There's Still Hope For Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2008 from Dan And JenniferWhy do we cry at weddings? I think its because we are all hopeless romantics. We all want the dream of a lasting connection that keeps us engaged and invested. We want to feel hot about our lover 30 years into the marriage and we want that for others. We cry because we want it ...
Views: 1000 - How To Have A Relationship Rapt In Love - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from Christian JohnsonHave you found yourself stuck in relationship turmoil? Does it seem like every relationship you have ends in tragedy and you are left feeling alone and/or bitter? Do you feel like you are plagued with a black cloud of impending relationship doom? If so, you are not alone. With divorce rates ...
Views: 1417 - Need Relationship Advice? - Seven Ways To Keep the "ME" In Your "WE" - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonHave you ever started a new relationship that seemed just perfect--the one you've been waiting for--and then seemingly out of the blue, it all starts to go bad? If so, you're not alone. We're guessing you, like most of us, want a healthy, successful relationship with a caring loving partner. ...
Views: 1064 - What To Do After You've Been Betrayed - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from Heather MauelIt might have been your best friend, your partner, your boss, your brother or even your lover. It burns deep inside. You can’t sleep for the anger, the shock and dismay. You may find yourself still not believing it’s happened to you. But it has! When those we have entrusted with our money, our ...
Views: 5589 - Body Freedom Exercise (7): Sweet Feet - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSweet Feet Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: plastic dishwashing pan, two towels, bar of fine soap, sloughing cream, pedicure items, e.g., pumice stone, toenail clippers, nail file, nail buff, nail sticks, nail polish, foot creams, and lotions Steps: Gather ...
Views: 689 - Body Freedom Exercise (6): Sacred Bathing - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSacred Bathing Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: fine bath soaps, bath oils, bath salts, bubble bath, fresh or dried flower petals, shampoos, incense, essential oils, music, candles, refreshments (optional) Steps: Make sure the room is wonderfully warm. ...
Views: 665 - How Love Quotes Can Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Boon Kiat ChuaI love collecting and sharing love quotes and also inspirational quotes with family and friends. And I have always received words of 'thank you' from them telling me how much some of these quotes have helped them along their life. I remember a quote which I came across a few years back, "The ...
Views: 1786 - Understanding Anger Management - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Nora Femenia,Anger is a normal emotional reaction to our frustrations in everyday world. It is natural to feel angry when a goal is blocked in some way. But anger isn't just one emotion, is a family of emotions that are related to our brains and show in our behavior. Anger has a variety of names from mild ...
Views: 1679 - How To Get That Second Date - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Tammie Bowden5 Tips for Men on Making a Great First Impression! Many guys really struggle with that old adage that "you never get a second chance to make a good first impression" and nerves can lead to disasters that can completely ruin a first date experience. A woman will feel uncomfortable if she sees ...
Views: 1774 - How To Pick A Life Partner - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dr.Howard GurrIn my experience, I have found there are five big issues that cause problems in relationships. These are the major issues that could interfere with the longevity of any relationship. Here are my pick for the five issues that cause the majority of problems in relationships- not in any specific ...
Views: 2699 - Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Kathryn MorrowWhat a challenge it is in this world today to create balance in a relationship. I use the word create because usually a happy relationship does not just happen, it takes work, creativity, and of course love. My husband and I think very differently, we are very different. His thinking is pure ...
Views: 1208 - 5 Ways To Attract The Relationships You Want - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Lori RadunThere has been a time in my life when relationships were a source of great discontentment in my life. I worked around negative people. I didn't have a lot of the kinds of friends I wanted. I was in a marriage that was lonely and filled with conflict. Although today all my relationships are ...
Views: 1058 - The External Batele Of The Sexes - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from John SeeleyAt this stage of your life, no one has to tell you that men and women speak different languages. No doubt you’ve been on the receiving (as well as the sending) end of your share of miscommunications over the years. While men consider themselves pretty straightforward in what they say—whether or ...
Views: 931 - Be The Right Valentine 365 Days - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Anita JacksonFor you to be the right Valentine 365 Day it is important to make love work in your relationship. Staying true to yourself, is one of the most important pieces of relationship advice that I would give. You must know what you want. You must know how you want your relationship to be. You must use ...
Views: 1255 - The One Night Stand At Midlife - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Gregory SmithIs the “one night stand” at midlife the same thing it was when we were in our twenties? The answer might be YES for some who are very freshly out of a marriage or long-term relationship … but for most of us at midlife, I think the answer is NO. I believe the definition of the term “one night ...
Views: 2186 - Distancing In Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Krystal KuehnIf someone were to throw a punch at you, you would likely try to defend yourself from getting hit. And if you were to feel the heat of a flaming fire, you would keep yourself far enough away to avoid getting burned. Self-preservation comes naturally as no one wants to experience pain and ...
Views: 12054(4 votes) - Improve Communication: Are You Listening? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Krystal KuehnCommunication problems are probably the greatest barriers to happy and healthy relationships. Somewhere in the exchange of thoughts and information something goes wrong. Words come out one way and are meant another. What was said is not interpreted in the way it was intended. Some thoughts ...
Views: 1234(1 vote) - Surviving A Break up - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Anna EllingtonThe breakup of an important love relationship is the most traumatic of human experiences and we have all suffered through at least one I am sure. In many ways we can more easily cope with the death of a loved one. Although we don’t understand death, at least we understand its finality. ...
Views: 3255 - Love In The Land Of Loneliness - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Joseph DispenzaAll the lonely people Where do they all come from? The Beatles, Eleanor Rigby “Lonely People Face Higher Risk of Heart Disease,” Science Daily headlined recently, revealing perhaps more than it intended about what alternative medicine calls the mind-body connection in human health. As if we ...
Views: 1651 - How Living For Giving Is Unforgiving - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzUnconditional giving is a state that we all aspire to. We hope to be a giving person without any agendas from the perspective of why we give or what we want in return. Yet, frequently there are emotions at work that we are not aware of that motivate us to over-give to others, be it with our ...
Views: 1711 - Why Go Off Track With An Attack; It’s Really A Lack. - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzUnderstanding what happens when a person verbally attacks is the key to knowing how to respond to them. The hardest situations are ones where there have been ongoing attacks for a long period of time. We all know this by its common name, verbal abuse. There are two sides that we need to look at ...
Views: 1484 - Is It Evil To Say I Love You With No Intention Of Getting Married? (Video) - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dan And JenniferI love you! Love you too! I love you more! No, I love you more! AAAAAhhhh! Stop it! You hear it every day... people casually throw these magical words around like there was no tomorrow. Sometimes it's a replacement for "talk to you later" when you're going to hang up... "Luv you. ...
Views: 1286 - Prove You Love Me! Four Tips On Unhooking From The Power Struggle - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondA savage bile rose in Tanya’s throat as she heard Martin talk to his mother on the phone. His patient, understanding and placating voice made Tanya want to cut the wire on the land line and smash up his cell phone. She wanted to feel his soft responsiveness - she wanted to be his one and only. ...
Views: 1878 - Manifest Love And Harmony In Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonThe skill of crafting harmonious relationships can increase productive business collaborations, loving personal relationships, and help you to achieve greater growth in the areas of health and spirituality. People who are prosperous with relationships have developed the skill of creating ...
Views: 1224(1 vote) - Gift Ideas For Valentine's Day, 2008 - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2008 from festive xpressionsValentine's Day is around the corner already. February 14 happens to be the D-day to express your love to that special someone in your life. Named after Christian martyrs named Valentine, over the years this day has come to be associated with the very idea of romantic love. So say it flowers, ...
Views: 549 - Reacting Vs. Responding – And Why Is This Important In Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2008 from Radomir SamardzicReacting means to act again, re–act. Reacting is based on what we already know and often so well that we do it automatically. Some reactions are very useful for our survival, like pulling our hand back from a hot furnace or jumping away from an oncoming car. In other words when our bodies sense ...
Views: 2224(1 vote) - No Date For Valentine's Day? Looking On The Bright Side.. - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2008 from Kim SnyderSo you have no date for Valentine’s Day, is that really a bad thing after all? Looking on the bright side of not having a date. Maybe for you, Valentine’s Day could be about pretending you are not envious as your friends and colleagues show off their Valentine’s gift choices. ...
Views: 3854 - Rituals For Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2008 from Linda SmithValentine’s Day is a wonderful holiday because it gives everyone permission to express their love and appreciation for the people in their lives. We give Valentines to our loved ones as well as the people who make our lives easier like the receptionist who answers the phone all day long and the ...
Views: 1023 - How Well Do You Really Know Your Partner? 1000 'Must Ask' Questions For Couples - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2008 from Dan And JenniferHow compatible are you really with your partner? Down deep, where it really counts? How would you know? Just because you like the same types of foods and pets certainly does NOT mean you'll have a happy, blissful, long-term relationship. Do you know why your mate does or doesn't attend church? ...
Views: 5765 - Relationship Advice: Turn Anger Into A Relationship Ally - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2008 from Richard NicastroA great deal has been written about the damaging effects that anger can have on intimate relationships. But did you know that anger can be beneficial to your marriage or relationship? The dark side of anger Like all emotions, anger runs along a continuum--from low to high intensity. When ...
Views: 878 - Relationship Advice: Practice Acceptance Each Day And Keep The Divorce Lawyer Away - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2008 from Richard NicastroIt is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences ~Audre Lorde In the beginning there were similarities… Early in your relationship, you and your partner probably rejoiced when you discovered shared interests: "I can't ...
Views: 758 - Soul Mates: Discovering Yours - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2008 from Joan Marie WhelanNamaste, a Hindu expression, roughly translates into "that which is of the Divine in me greets that which is of the Divine in you." And when we reflect on this simple expression, we find that the Sanskrit language of the soul resonates with us all on a deeper, more spiritual level -- and this is ...
Views: 864 - The Best Valentine's Gift To Give Your Loved One And/Or Yourself - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2008 from Love Coach RinattaFlowers, candy, massages and gourmet dinners are all wonderful things to do for your loved one – or for yourself if you are single – on Valentine’s Day. However, the appreciation of those things or the enjoyment of them will only last for a little while. Then the effect and ...
Views: 1585 - *** Top 10 Tips to Infidelity-Proof Your Relationship - by Infidelity can sneak up on even the most solid partnerships. According to an infidelity poll conducted by http://www.WomanSavers.com of 6,330 women, 92% believe that emotional affairs lead to physical affairs, whereas only a mere 7% believe they do not..* Source: ...
Views: 2552 - It's Almost Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2008 from Dr. Jackie BlackIs this a day you are looking forward to? Or dreading? In my experience, women are more triggered by Valentine's Day forgetfulness or inattention than men. So, in the spirit of averting a Valentine's Day disaster in your relationship, this is for the ladies! Are you excited about showing your ...
Views: 2055 - One Of Life’s Greatest Secrets… The Individuality Which Brings With It Happiness And Fulfilment….. - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2008 from Tony & Nicki Vee (Intimate Relationships - Ultimate Solutions)A year ago I was standing on a train, waiting for it to leave the station. It was the fast train from London to Watford and it was packed as it was during the rush hour. There were a few minutes to go before it was due to leave and the guard made an announcement. He said that there was a fault ...
Views: 935 - What Is This Thing Called Love? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Georgina Cannon“But I really love her”…is the plaintiff cry I hear in the clinic when a relationship is over. “But I love him”…is what I hear when the suggestion arises that one might want to leave a relationship which ill treats you physically, emotionally, or sexually. It may be true, but in reality, being ...
Views: 646 - A Cheating Spouse Talks Differently - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Tim DenioIn today's world a cheating spouse, more often than not will use a phone with their lover as one of the main ways of keeping in contact. Changes you observe in the way your spouse uses their phone can provide a lot of clues to confirm your suspicions of infidelity. The key here is to unearth ...
Views: 835 - Emotional Competency Builds Healthy Passionate Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Dan And JenniferExplore the Logic of Passion Emotions are the primal bonds of our relationships. They are authentic, immediate, intimate, passionate, and memorable. They provide a window into another’s most genuine thoughts and feelings while they reveal our own true selves. Emotions are colorful, ...
Views: 1357 - Caution!The Completion Myth: Romantic Relationships In Your Twenties - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from FSB AuthorsRomance. We are all suckers for it (yes, even you guys--you know what it leads to!) Images of romance surround us: the couple holding hands at Starbucks, the gazillions of bridal magazines you breeze past on the way to buy toilet paper, or the frolicking couples on billboard perfume ads. ...
Views: 1026 - The True Purpose of a Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockNo, it's not to make babies! Although making babies is a very important consideration regarding the propagation of our species, especially in Europe and the United States where the birth rate is plummeting, it's not the prime purpose. And it's not to keep you company. Or make you financially or ...
Views: 736 - Weathering The Storm - How To Survive Stressful Times Together - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Dan And JenniferLife doesn’t always go smoothly, have you noticed that? It’s easy to feel in love and happy with your partner during times of success and relative calm. But times like that don’t come along all that often. My husband and I figure we have had one year that was ...
Views: 3028 - Topics To Avoid While Dating - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Sharon BellIf you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it. Nowhere is this saying truer than in dating. If you’ve found a nice chick, you naturally want to say something memorable to impress her. Oftentimes, however, men forget this maxim and boldly speak their minds in complete ...
Views: 1148 - How To date An Asian Woman - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Sharon BellDo you fantasize about making out with Lucy Liu or other Asian beauties? Are you frustrated because you don’t have the nerve or the courage to approach Asian women? Do you grope in the dark or fumble whenever you try to break the ice and have a conversation with an Asian woman? Don’t ...
Views: 1060 - Get What You Want for Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 1, 2008 Get What You Want for Valentine's Day Valentine's Day is for the infatuated, the brokenhearted, the deeply in love, the old and worn, the young and anxious … and, of course, the coupled and the single. It's for ...
Views: 1071 - The Best Valentine's Gift to Give Your Loved One and/or Yourself - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Love Coach RinattaFlowers, candy, massages and gourmet dinners are all wonderful things to do for your loved one – or for yourself if you are single – on Valentine’s Day. However, the appreciation of those things or the enjoyment of them will only last for a little while. Then the effect and ...
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