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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Signs That You Are in an Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Debi BerndtAbuse can come in many different forms – physical, emotional and even financial. If you are not sure if you are in a bad situation, review the different types of abuse and warning signs to see if you need assistance. 1. Physical abuse – This does not only apply to women or men who are bruised ...
Views: 2650 - Histories and Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Michael PaulWe all have history. For many, history forms our present views of relationships. From our past, we determine what we liked in relationships and what we didn’t like. This becomes, in part, the basis for forming new relationships when we have had the experience of ending one. One might think ...
Views: 1233(2 votes) - How to Get Over a Fear of Being Rejected - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Royane RealSome people end up living very lonely lives, with few friends, and no loving partner. Why? Because their fear of being rejected is so powerful that they can't find the courage to approach others socially. Learn what you can do to increase your confidence and improve your social ...
Views: 4642 - Getting Along with Family - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Deborah HillFamily members are often our greatest and most difficult ongoing teachers. A reader of my blog "Getting Along with Difficult People" (www.theawarenessinitiative.com/blog) asked how to get along with family members. I can't say that I've mastered the family conumdrum. In fact, I believe that ...
Views: 6554(3 votes) - How to Bounce Back After He Starts Dating First - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Lisa BrooksIt can feel shocking when the man you were in a long-term relationship with starts dating again, while you are still getting over the loss of the relationship and being alone. It opens up new wounds of betrayal and heartache. Here are some tips on how to handle the challenges of bouncing back ...
Views: 770 - ***The Recipe for Finding Love Again - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We know how you feel! Starting over is really difficult when it comes to love and marriage. Getting a divorce, breaking up, or losing the one you love due to their death can be overwhelmingly painful. The simple truth is this – you entered into ...
Views: 3870(35 votes) - Warning Signs of a Controlling Relationship: Read This Before Someone Controls You! - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Michael LeeKnowing the warning signs of a controlling relationship is crucial because it helps you avoid being manipulated and controlled by a potential partner. If dealt with correctly, you can re-establish a balanced relationship in which both parties participate fairly in the decision-making process and ...
Views: 3167(4 votes) - Should I Go The Distance? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Yvonne ChaseDear Coach Yvonne, I met a very nice man 3 months ago and we're enjoying getting to know each other but here's the thing, we live 3,000 miles away and neither of us wants to move. We've seen each other a couple of times since meeting but that's about it. I'm wondering if I should pursue this ...
Views: 1659(3 votes) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 2) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoBeing alone can be, well, LONELY! And most of us – even those who like to be alone – don't really like to be lonely. But what can we do about it? Many of us find ourselves alone, and lonely, for a reason: our previous relationship just ended, we've tried and tried to sustain a successful ...
Views: 4700(1 vote) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 1) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some forty-three thousand dollars to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her ...
Views: 1535(1 vote) - Trust - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Aryana HudsonIn any situation where an agreement is formed to share a reality there is then made a commitment between the parties to do that. Legally the words ‘in trust’ mean and that there is something left to an appointed trustee lets say to care for and to dispense to another that may be a minor. So ...
Views: 1907(3 votes) - How To Please A Man And Make Him Love You More - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2009 from Michael LeeIt has been commonly thought that pleasing a man would require tons of research, experience, and a lot of other factors that you need to be good at. Well, you can take it easy. Just like any other skill; the more you do it, the more you become better at it; however, there are views on how to ...
Views: 4906(1 vote) - The Single, Best, Handy, Working Assumption for Drama-Free Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs many of you know, we discuss love relationships, psychically and common-sensically, on the famous Radio From Hell show every Friday morning (KXRK 96.3 FM – www.x96.com ). Many people want happy, fulfilling interpersonal connections in their life and continue to struggle over this. So, I want ...
Views: 617(1 vote) - Pregnancy, Childbirth & Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Michael PaulYou've just given birth to the most precious gift imaginable. This gift will portend the future of the world. Certainly you hope this precious gift child will have a life filled with excitement, wonder, and happiness. But what if the excitement and wonder bring this child a world of ...
Views: 1024(3 votes) - Four Things Necessary for a Happy, Whole Love Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMargaret Ruth, I am heart broken over my break up. What went wrong, we were so in love? Margaret Ruth, I have made so many mistakes in love. What do I need to be certain of a long term, happy marriage? Intimate love relationships can obviously be the most rewarding and the most painful to ...
Views: 1194(2 votes) - 3 Easy Ways To Improve Any Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2009 from Laurie-Ann MurabitoRelationships are all around us, from our family members to fellow colleagues to customers and to our friends. There are three easy things you can do today to instantly change the relationships in your life. Listening When was the last time you really felt you were heard? Many of us do not ...
Views: 1164(1 vote) - See What Lurks Beyond Your Own Drama - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, JULY 31, 2009 See What Lurks Beyond Your Own Drama Is there somebody who always leaves you feeling better than he found you? I used to live next door to such a person. Whenever I ran into Bob, whether it was for 20 seconds or 20 ...
Views: 1395(2 votes) - Can You Walk the Six Steps for Your Marriage Counseling Journey? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamThe Six Steps of ‘Save Your Relationship’ Marriage Counseling Guide Six steps of my Marriage Counseling processes are reviewed; the various qualities of being a marriage counselor, a psychologist, a life coach and a relationship advice provider are outlined. Step # 1: I ask to speak loud ...
Views: 2700(1 vote) - *** Compassion Fatigue (Part 2) - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Daniel BenorRemedies A common sense, Cost vs. Benefit Analysis (CBA) of your situation while under stress will often point to obvious changes you can make in order to change and improve the situation. For instance, working fewer hours is permitted! If you are exhausted, you will be less than fully ...
Views: 1783(1 vote) - *** Compassion Fatigue (Part 1) - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Daniel BenorOverview The recent tsunami in Asia and major earthquake in Pakistan have highlighted problems long recognized in the helping professions. Caregivers have known well the potentially draining experiences of compassion fatigue – from experiences of policemen, firefighters, paramedics and other ...
Views: 1645(1 vote) - When it comes to dating, are you a Cougar? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Debi BerndtIn case you haven't heard of this new phrase, a "Cougar" is named used to refer to an older woman who dates men much younger than her. Cougars come in all types and the reasons for their particular fetish with the boys are varied. Some are content with having fun and others seek more in the ...
Views: 2473(2 votes) - ***When A Good Woman Marries A Bad Man - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are eternal optimists – make no mistake about that! With us, glasses are always half full, not half empty. The sun is always shining where we live! We are eternally hopeful that tomorrow will be a brighter day – and it usually is! We love life ...
Views: 5214(31 votes) - Tender and Brief - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt seems incredulous to me that I am grieving a goldfish. My past experiences of gold fish were always short lived and I warned my young daughter that her new fish probably wouldn’t last a week. But as week after week and month after month went by, she loved to tease me about Bubble’s longevity. ...
Views: 528 - Stress and the Dating Game - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Cheryl HitchcockIn my years as a therapist and Stress Management Coach I have spoken with a lot of single men and the subject that has them stressed out more often than not is the dating 'game'. While they have their lives together for the most part, good jobs, a vehicle, their own place to live, leisure ...
Views: 5434 - Cultivating Kindness - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Cheryl HitchcockThis is a great topic and so timely for today with all of the turmoil that seems to be going on globally, especially with the fear that is being cultivated about the world's economy. We tend to get caught up in our own lives, and making sure that we are okay and have enough. Often we tend to ...
Views: 1132 - Stressful Relationships - How to Create Harmony Without Forgiveness - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Cindy L. HerbHow many of you have been so angry that you could not see straight? Perhaps you are upset with another or have stressful relationships. If you would like to create more harmony with others, it is possible. I have a family member who used to get under my skin so badly that I never wanted to ...
Views: 2331(3 votes) - 7 Marriage Hacks to More Passion and Adventure - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIf you have been married for any length of time you know full well the amount of work that has already taken place. Yet, there is still more work looming. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were some short cuts to experiencing more blessings in a marriage? While there are no easy tricks or short ...
Views: 671 - How To Deal with People Who Bring Us Down - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Andrew RondeauIt takes all kinds of people to make up the world we live in. In life, we have the opportunity to meet many people. Some of them we find are too difficult to deal with. These are the people we end up not liking and we try and avoid them as much as possible. Keeping well away from them might be ...
Views: 3031(1 vote) - Anger & Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Michael PaulWhen there is a build up of anger in a relationship, healthy communication is clearly absent. Both ears and mouths are not working properly. Messages being given are likely to be interpreted through a filter that hears only what anger expects to hear. The message, as it might be offered, is ...
Views: 1859(2 votes) - Improve Your Relationships Through Personal Development - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from David ArnoldExploring and improving the dynamics of Relationships is a lifelong process. In fact, I have learned that the quality of our relationships has a direct impact on nine areas in our life that are entertwined daily. A broken area can cause disruption in the remaining areas thus casusing an ...
Views: 609 - Life Coach: Solving Your Life's Problems in Two Simple Steps - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Ed McDonoughHaving problems and challenges in life is something we all face at one time or another. For most people, problems drag them way down emotionally and almost completely drain the life energy out of them. But it doesn't have to be that way. By making a few simple adjustments in the way you view ...
Views: 1684(1 vote) - ***Making Marriage Work in Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an old saying that many attribute to a Chinese proverb that goes like this – “May you live in interesting times.” To say that is an understatement of our world today is, well . . . an understatement! We are experiencing unprecedented ...
Views: 5814(32 votes) - Romantic (and Sexy) Dinner for Two - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from Rebecca Savidge GrayThe Menu Dinner: Artichokes with Basil-Lime Dipping Sauce Lobster Tails with Butter Dessert: Chocolate-Dipped Strawberries Drinks: A rich, buttery Chardonnay such as Bryon Chardonnay, or Franciscan 2002 Chardonnay. Champagne works too Whoever you break out ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - Relationships as Reflections of the True Self - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have read so many books...many of them yours. All say that relationships are your Self reflecting back to you. I have never had a healthy relationship with a man. I had a childhood that seems to have left me feeling unlovable. Abuse and no real concern expressed for its impact ...
Views: 802(3 votes) - On Moral Responsibility: I'm Sorry I Screen Your Calls - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Intent.com Authors"The answers to our problems don't lie beyond our reach. They exist in our laboratories and universities; in our fields and our factories; in the imaginations of our entrepreneurs and the pride of the hardest-working people on Earth. Those qualities that have made America the greatest force of ...
Views: 564(1 vote) - Nurturing Our Relationship - Invest some Love and Time and Reap the Rewards! - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2009 from Jonathan RoachAs a staff support officer I am seeing an increasing number of people who are sadly splitting up having been together, in a lot of cases, for many years. They say that the magic has gone and they have grown apart, and perhaps they have taken each other for granted over several years. Each has ...
Views: 1435 - How Women Undermine Themselves and Their Girls: It’s Not Always Men Who Take Us Down - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsHaving highlighted the problem of women undermining themselves and their girls in my first blog, I wanted to use the second to express the spirit in which I hope we can try to address it. How can we start to limit the pressure we put on ourselves around body image, aging and sexuality? Here’s ...
Views: 979(1 vote) - ***Tough Economic Times Can Strengthen Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – the economy of the USA is in turmoil. And the truth is, the unemployment rate is approaching 10%, and will probably exceed that rate in the coming months. The times are tough in America today. Not good news, for sure. Tough ...
Views: 4187(39 votes) - Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Emotions or Attend Therapy… - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Martin Phillips-HingOf course it’s not completely true that men don’t attend therapy, however, women are more likely to attend therapy in greater numbers. According to Statistics Canada, there are also differences in the types of mental health disorders and addictions reported by men and women. Approximately 6% of ...
Views: 2380(1 vote) - 10 Texting Rules for Dating Singles – Texting Guidelines and Dating Etiquette - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Deborrah CooperI believe the growing preference for texting has a lot to do with its impersonal nature. It’s much easier to launch a new relationship by exchanging texts than it is to talk. It’s also very easy to say and do things over a screen that one would never have the nerve to do face to face (or say ear ...
Views: 10484 - 8 Tips For Improving Your Relationship With In-Laws - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen you asked your spouse to marry you, or when you said yes to the question, did you fully comprehend what you were saying at the time? You were planning out the rest of your life at the moment and inviting another person to join you in the journey. But did you realize who they’d be ...
Views: 1439(4 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily! Why Did My Girlfriend Dump Me? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I am a man, and I would like to know why my girlfriend dumped me! Women also do the dumping! Why do you NOT have a WHY WOMEN DUMP MEN column on your site? Is it only a figment of the mind that men are also human? –Representing Dear Representing, Yes, men are human. Most ...
Views: 2724(4 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily! I Slept with Him and He Never Called Again - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I started seeing this great guy for about a month. He made me feel pretty special and I liked him a lot. After I slept with him, he never called me again. I called him a couple weeks later and he says he’s emotionally unavailable. I feel duped and hurt, but I still want him to ...
Views: 4873 - Ask Lisa Daily! Is He Losing Interest? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, Why is it that when two people start dating for the first four to six months the relationship is fine, and then it falls apart? In the beginning, you’re calling each other all the time, emailing, spending time together, and then things start to go downhill and the man stops calling ...
Views: 2677 - 6 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Man - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa Daily1) “We Need to Talk.” Nothing puts up a guy’s defenses faster than those four little words. Why? No woman ever says , “We need to talk — I’ve been thinking you should play golf more often.” or “We need to talk — my hot supermodel friend is going to spend bikini season in our spare bedroom.” ...
Views: 1934 - Ask Lisa Daily! Was dumping my boyfriend a mistake? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I broke up with my boyfriend back in January. I was going through a lot of personal problems and he was working a lot. We lived almost 1,000 miles apart. I felt like he didn’t care anymore and thought I’d dump him before he dumped me. The thing is, I don’t know why I thought ...
Views: 3560 - How To Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Dan DennickDon't make things worse by trying to get her back The biggest regret guys often have is that during the break up they acted in way that was clearly out of desperation. Usually guys feel a profound anxiety to do something to fix the situation and so they end up acting in a way that they ...
Views: 14554 - Are You in an Abusive Relationship? 25 Warning Signs - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe recent tragedy between Rihanna and Chris Brown has left many people scratching their heads. How could someone as beautiful as her get into such a relationship? How could he do that to her? Why would she put up with it? Why did she go back to him? Abusive relationships are difficult to ...
Views: 1477(2 votes) - #1 Universal Relationship Law: Healthy, Happy People Tend to Relate, Date, and Mate Other Healthy, Happy People - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs the Radio Love Psychic on the nationally renowned KXRK Radio From Hell morning show, I use a few sneaky tricks to get the quick, accurate reads on the callers. The first is that there are some unchangeable, immutable Universal Laws regarding people’s connections with each other. The next is ...
Views: 787(1 vote) - Quality Time: How to Find More and Some Ideas on How to Use It - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe world moves at a tremendously fast pace. It’s virtually impossible to disconnect from work, social networks, media, news, even friends and family. Life is often an overload of emails, voice mails, instant messages, profiles, shows, kids activities, schedules, and the endless desire to know ...
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