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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Sorrow at Bereavement – It Can Help Us Understand Our Life and the After-life - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2012 from Gopalakrishnan ChandrasekaranMany issues of life can function as our teachers if we adopt an attitude of looking into them with the eagerness to understand what lies beyond the apparent. Reflection on the sorrow at losing a near and dear one can lead to a life of compassion. As we all know, bereavement is indeed a hard ...
Views: 1418(1 vote) - The Startling Reason We Sabotage Love - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2019 from Darlene LancerMost relationships fail and nearly half of American adults are unmarried. Why can’t we find love and why don’t relationships last? Paradoxically, as much as we want love, we also fear it. Fear of not being loved is the greatest reason we don’t find love and sabotage it in our relationships. In ...
Views: 1111(2 votes) - The Therapeutic Value Of A Hug - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Gian Fiero |Have you hugged your child today? It was a popular slogan that was coined in 1969. I think it’s time to modify the phrase to: Have you hugged your loved one today? Most couples report the perfunctory kiss upon their greeting or departure as their most consistent form of affection outside of ...
Views: 3505(2 votes) - THE TRAUMA OF CHILDREN OF ADDICTS AND ALCOHOLICS - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2017 from Darlene LancerLiving with an addict (including alcoholics[1]) can feel like life in a war zone. The addict’s personality changes caused by addiction create chaos. Family dynamics are organized around the substance abuser, who acts like a tyrant, denying that drinking or using is a problem, while issuing ...
Views: 1540(3 votes) - The Triangle Game -- Freeing Yourself from Victim, Villain and Hero Roles - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comI'd like to tell you about a game called The Triangle Game. There are 2 levels to this game, and most of us are already playing on the first level but we're not aware of it. This first level isn't really very fun -- I call it the Bermuda Triangle Game, because basically we get lost in it -- ...
Views: 6510(1 vote) - The Truth about Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerOver three million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year, and that includes men as well as women. One-fourth of U.S. women and one-third of women worldwide will experience violence in her lifetime. What isn’t talked about, but is serious, is emotional abuse that ranges from ...
Views: 1825(2 votes) - The Truth About Free Psychic Readings - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2010 from Free Psychic Classifieds AdminA free psychic reading is usually offered to confirm the psychic’s ability to connect with the person interested in receiving the reading. Psychics often offer a free reading to prove their ability before the inquirer actually has to pay for the reading. It is important to consider that many ...
Views: 3022(1 vote) - The Truth About Sugar Dating in the UK - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2024 from Amy LawSugar dating, a sugar arrangement between sugar daddies/mommies and sugar babies, has been gaining popularity in the UK. However, amidst the glamorized portrayals and misconceptions, it's essential to uncover the truth behind this unique dating dynamic. Clarifying Misconceptions: Sugar ...
Views: 254(1 vote) - The Ultimate Truth about How to Meet People and Turn Strangers into Friends or Lovers Instead of Getting Blown Off - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2021 from Kynan PatramWhat’s the difference between someone you consider a stranger and someone you consider a friend? Isn’t a part of it found in the fact that, with a friend, you know things about each other and about each other’s lives? And if that’s true, how do you intentionally go about getting to know ...
Views: 775(1 vote) - The Unchangeable - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2013 from Womens Recreation, Inc.We can’t get back the time that we spent trying to change someone else. The energy and time is irreplaceable. You truly have to look at each and every circumstance and evaluate the time and energy that you’ve put into it and come to the conclusion that it is unchangeable. It could be the ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - The Urban Goddess Secret - An Emotional Beauty Toolbox - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachThis article was featured in the Huff Post: In today’s hectic world we often seem to forget the importance of taking the time to restore ourselves and the essence of who we are. Outer beauty may be a head-turner but inner beauty rules. Though beauty can be reflected in our fashion style, ...
Views: 1029(1 vote) - The Victim Tyrant Cycle - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The Victim Tyrant Cycle By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. This paper is about adults and not children. Children don’t have a choice when they are victims (they can’t leave their situation and if they do speak, often they aren’t heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps ...
Views: 2215(1 vote) - The Way to Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2012 from Dianne Eppler AdamsPerhaps nothing brings more people to their knees (or to an astrologer) than the trials and tribulations of relating to others – especially family, coworkers, neighbors and intimate relationships. It was my number one challenge for years – and having loving, supportive relationships remains of ...
Views: 1600(1 vote) - The wonderful power of unconditional love - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Lais StephanToday I would like to blog about love. To be more precise: Unconditional love. A few years ago I thought I had it all figured out what unconditional love means. Of course as the name says you would think that loving someone unconditionally means loving that someone without putting conditions, ...
Views: 2420(1 vote) - Thinking Of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Dan And JenniferDid you know that love does NOT conquer all? You see, often people get married with the idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for each other will keep them together forever. However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s obvious that this ...
Views: 2075(1 vote) - THIS HIDDEN SECRET WILL TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWith the exception of impersonators, most people believe that they only have one voice. That voice is used to express one's feelings and needs. It can be vocalized either loudly or softly; it's tone can change from one of sarcasm to that of compassion; one's voice can be used to express ...
Views: 1107(1 vote) - This Particular Way of Dating Came into My Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2024 from Ida ZhongMy wife and I started dating four years ago and have been married for two years. We've been together four years, that's quite a long time. In the beginning, our marriage relationship was very smooth and there were no problems. But the last year has changed dramatically, including my wife's view ...
Views: 406(1 vote) - Time to Let Go...Your Spiritual Love Reading - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonAs you shift and evolve and commit to your own growth, you long for support but may be disappointed and hurt by others who are not providing what you feel you deserve. Perhaps you are in a new relationship and discovering that you don’t share the same values and beliefs, so you feel out of place ...
Views: 904(1 vote) - To Be Who You Are Meant To Be - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Therese BenedictTO BE WHO YOU ARE MEANT TO BE By Therese Benedict We tend to think that just because we have freewill that we can be whom we want to be, instead of being who we are meant to be. This is a wrong way to think about whom we are and what is the reason of why we are here. God has created us with ...
Views: 2621(1 vote) - To Love Is To Be Loved - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Therese BenedictTO LOVE IS TO BE LOVED By Therese Benedict We all want love in our lives. We all want to be loved and understood. We want people to hear our hurt, when that hurt is caused. We want each other to listen to what actions caused that hurt, so it is known and can be stopped. What hurts us the ...
Views: 3456(1 vote) - Top 10 Reasons NOT to Be the Side Chick - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2016 from Christina MichelleIt may be a touchy subject but it happens all too often that beautiful, otherwise morally sound and intelligent women find themselves in the position of being the "side piece", or the umm… supplement to his main romantic diet. Regardless of whether it was intentional or accidental, once you're ...
Views: 2953(1 vote) - Top 10 Signs of a Cheating Man - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Dan And JenniferLadies, you know in your heart if your man is cheating on you. You can feel it... Maybe you've suspected for a while that things aren't quite right in your relationship and you're worried that maybe he's stepping out on you, but you just can't put your finger on exactly what's bugging ...
Views: 2968(1 vote) - Top 3 Tips For Processing Jealousy When Surviving An Affair - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Brenda StewartJealousy can be a really big obstacle when two partners are surviving an affair if they don't know how to manage and process this emotion. There are some healthier ways to process jealousy so you can prevent any problems in your effort of surviving an affair. Here are 3 important tips for ...
Views: 1245(1 vote) - Top 3 Why Should You Celebrate Your Anniversary - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2021 from Daniel BrainCelebrating your anniversary is much more than just spending some time with your loved one. Most of the people think that anniversary is just a formality which they need to celebrate every year. However, if you know the real purpose and meaning of your wedding anniversary, you could get the best ...
Views: 546(1 vote) - Top 5 Reasons Why Women Cheat - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Nea Joy JusticeWhen it comes to infidelity, men are the usual suspects. It's a well-known fact that guys are more likely to cheat than women, but that doesn't change the fact that women cheat too. What is interesting is that the reasons behind women cheating are more complex than the reasons of unfaithful ...
Views: 5251(1 vote) - Top 5 Signs Of A Husband Having An Affair - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2011 from Brenda StewartFinding out that the only person that you love and trust the most in this world has cheated on you it is the most painful experience that someone can live. In order to catch you cheating husband you have to look for some evident signs of a husband having an affair. Telling your husband that you ...
Views: 1294(1 vote) - Top 7 things bisexual women dating online should know - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2018 from Jessica LawSo you are a bisexual woman who has never dated online or it’s been a while since you last dated? Although some people would make you believe that there is a huge difference when it comes to dating fellow women online, dating is dating. While dating online might make you feel a bit nervous, it’s ...
Views: 1241(2 votes) - Top 7 Tips For Surviving An Affair - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartEven solid relationships can face this situation at one time, of having to deal with surviving an affair after one of the partner cheated. Curiosity, desire, temptation, many people find it difficult to deny that "something else ". When other people come into their lives, a simple affair can ...
Views: 1897(1 vote) - Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Michael ClearmanToxic Relationships Every person reading this piece is either in, has been in, or knows someone who has been in, a toxic relationship. The term is self-descriptive, the relationship is poisonous, and it is deadly. Remaining in this type of relationship may or may not lead to physical death ...
Views: 2698(3 votes) - Traffic Light Colours... the art and practise of Tender Loving Care - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Jenni P Parker-BrownIn relationships, before we can be fully present for another, we should know how to be fully present for ourselves. This complete presence is the finest form of attention we can give anyone or anything. It is how we see (with William Blake) …‘the world in a grain of sand and heaven in a ...
Views: 1627(1 vote) - Transform Your Image at Work - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoSome people were born with the golden spoon and fortunately never had to work truly hard to transform their image. For the majority however, it’s not the case. One has to work hard on his job and also on the image he/she reflects. It can be at work, at home, with friends. How do you manage your ...
Views: 2373(1 vote) - Transform Your Relationship With A Negativity Fast - by Submitted on May 01, 2012 from Susan DerryI would like to challenge you to go 30 days without judgment, harsh words, criticism or complaint in your relationship. This challenge can seem daunting especially if your relationship is struggling. Think of this as an experiment. Take the challenge and notice what happens inside of you and ...
Views: 926(1 vote) - True Beauty: Honor the God or Goddess Within - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Extreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. ...
Views: 1286(1 vote) - Trust Rebuilding Tips When You're Back with Your Ex Who Cheated - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsIt's been a turbulent couple of years for Selena and Robbie. After living together for over 5 years, Selena was shocked and outraged to learn that Robbie was having an affair with another woman who also lives in their apartment building. She was so upset about this, she packed up her ...
Views: 3132(1 vote) - Tuning Up Our Relationships Begins With Ourselves - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Amy HaleHave you ever wondered why it is you meet the people you meet? Have you ever attracted the same type of people and situations over and over again? Have you ever been confused about why people act a particular way around you? Almost everyone, at one time or another, has pondered these ...
Views: 1322(1 vote) - Turn Up the Volume in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Kay PackardOne of the most effective ways I’ve found to connect with a friend, family member or partner is to understand their preferred style of relating. Coming at the relationship solely from our perspective won’t provide positive results. Imagine the benefits of knowing how the other person likes to ...
Views: 1170(3 votes) - Turning Poison Into Medicine - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaThe revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing ...
Views: 1157(1 vote) - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships? Take the Quiz To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to ...
Views: 1774(1 vote) - Two Ingredients of Good Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Jacqueline MarshallShowing respect is a way of demonstrating love. The feeling of love or affection doesn't have to be present in order to give it. When you show another (or yourself) respect, you are acting out of love. If someone said he or she loved me but consistently treated me with disrespect, I am ...
Views: 1474(1 vote) - Understand the Libra Man - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2010 from Annie SherwoodThe dating game can be very complicated. Are you looking for a guy who is easy-going, loves art, and can hold a great conversation? Then you should date a Libra . Libra guys are very appreciative of beautiful things, and they understand that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. They are not ...
Views: 9012(1 vote) - Understand Your Emotional Brain - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2011 from Dr. Mike GoslingThe physical brain To perceive emotion is to receive and interpret information from both external (world) and internal (body) environments. Your senses – sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing – connect you to the world around you, through your physical brain. Perception is the process by ...
Views: 1312(1 vote) - Understanding the hierarchy of values - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Maria ErvingWhy understanding each others values can help resolve conflicts. Assuming that you have taken your time to identify your values, it's very important to become clear about the hierarchy they are in as well. Why is that? Because we can share values with the people we surround ourselves ...
Views: 5713(1 vote) - Understanding the Mind of a Distancer - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2024 from Darlene LancerPursuer-distancer relationships cause a lot of heartache, especially for a pursuer. Learn about the mind of a distancer to understand your own or your partner's behavior so you won't take it personally.As codependants, we usually gravitate toward insecure relationships where we're a distancer or ...
Views: 271(1 vote) - Understanding the Mind of a Narcissist - by Submitted on May 16, 2018 from Darlene LancerDespite having a seemingly strong personality, narcissists lack a core self. Their self-image and thinking and behavior are other-oriented in order to stabilize and validate their self-esteem and fragile, fragmented self. Poor Narcissus The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. ...
Views: 1366(2 votes) - Understanding Your Response to Rejection - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2019 from Giorgos LagiosNo matter how often we’ve heard that it is a part of life and growth, rejection hurts. The experience is like a double-edged sword with an initial blow and the lingering effects. The tendency can be to mold our routines and lives so that we avoid potential instances of rejection. While this ...
Views: 677(1 vote) - Unleash Your Warrior Goddess With Class and Reslience - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachSince the early days of civilization Greek, Roman and Mayan Goddesses instinctively understood a "Woman Code". One of empowerment, resilience, inner strength and class. In today's competitive and stressful society it is all too easy to fall prey to feeling unheard and voiceless, overwhelmed ...
Views: 1480(1 vote) - Unrealistic Expectations : An Unhealthy Ingredient of Addictive Love - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Jim HallAs human beings, we live our lives with certain expectations. For emotionally healthy individuals, expectations are more likely to be realistic and rational -- based on reality. For individuals whose emotional health is less-than healthy, expectations are often unrealistic and impractical – ...
Views: 4534(1 vote) - Useful tips to get your girlfriend back - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainWhose fault was that? If you are still tangled in such kind of scenarios, forget it you will ever get your girlfriend back. Forgiveness is the key to unlock heart you cannot even give up, if you still have madness for your love. This is a very common feeling among men who worry that a breakup ...
Views: 513(1 vote) - Using Anger Mindfully - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from Beth PattersonMany of us, especially those on the spiritual path, tend to look at anger as an entirely negative emotion. However, anger used mindfully can be extremely positive, powerful and ultimately healing. Anger is simply energy, and we always have a choice as to what to do with it. Dzogchen Ponlop, in ...
Views: 1731(1 vote) - VENUS RX KARMIC KRAZY GLUE ALERT: “Who Do You Love . . . and Why?" - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2015 from joan pancoe"The magic moment is the moment when a 'YES' or a 'NO' can change our whole existence." Paul Coelho Dear Friend, Happy Summer! Over the next few months, we’ll have a golden opportunity for some potentially life-changing healing and growth as Love Planet Venus retrogrades over ...
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