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In today’s hectic world we often seem to forget the importance of taking the time to restore ourselves and the essence of who we are. Outer beauty may be a head-turner but inner beauty rules. Though beauty can be reflected in our fashion style, our homes and our tastes, so much of our beauty is reflected from the inside out and the way we present to the world. You can unleash the confident Urban Goddess within you simply and effortlessly by creating an Emotional Beauty Toolbox.

These tools will help you to enhance your life to be the best you can be today, tomorrow and always. These essentials are always available to you any time of day or night. Here are a few Urban Goddess secrets to get you started:

~ Keep life simple. Learn to say no sometimes. It will make you a better person. No is a complete sentence. Really.

~ Keep it real. Be who you are and who you were meant to be. Do not feel pressured by others, the media, the hype. Place your fingerprint on all you do.

~ Meditate daily. Breathe deeply. Learn to tune out the noise and instill inner calm and serenity. Be mindful of each moment. Get centered.

~Rest your mind and body. Get enough sleep. Take breaks during the day. Take a walk. In the city, find a peaceful place, close your eyes for a few moments and listen.

~ Surrender with conviction. Let go of the things that no longer serve your higher good. Release the need to control every detail.

~Be in touch with your light and dark sides. We all have a dual nature, some of us are just better able to control the energy we expend on each part of it. Be aware of your triggers.

~Take responsibility for your life. You are the captain of your ship. Let go of a victim mentality. The Urban Goddess doesn’t make excuses.

~Know that tomorrow is another day. Give today the best of you but understand that patience is sometimes crucial. You can pace yourself over time to reduce stress and still accomplish all you want to.

~Smile often. A happy face is a pretty one.

~Let go of unnecessary guilt. You can still be an amazing friend, co-worker, partner, parent by incorporating self-care daily. You deserve it!

These are just a few of the many Urban Goddess lessons you can incorporate into your daily life to bring you more joy and bliss. Ask yourself, how is my life working for me?

If it is not working, have the courage to make the changes you seek. Begin by creating your own Emotional Beauty Toolbox today.

Author's Bio: 

Laney Zukerman is the author of Lessons for an Urban Goddess and the Urban Goddess Lesson~How to Spot the Bad Boys on

She is an Empowerment and Relationship Coach and Counselor, College Instructor and Contributing Editor to various media publications including The Huff Post and NextOnScene.

Her work has been featured in Redbook, Bride's, NBC, Thirty Something and other media outlets.