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The Importance of Mind-Body Work for Treating Grief - by Michael Roth- When early abuse blocks your success in life - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Felicity MuscatI find it interesting how many counsellors, therapists and life coaches seem to miss the realisation that the biggest obstacle in achieving success is based in negative beliefs that come from experiences of early abuse. This implies that strategies promoting the limited notion that one simply ...
Views: 1505 - Who Is A Sociopath? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownWho is a Sociopath? Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy, AND unfortunately, individuals diagnosed with an anti-social personality disorder. Dr. Anne Brown What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, then you are going ...
Views: 849 - Why Jesus Forgave Everything - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2016 from Andrew BozemanIn his final dying moments, Jesus said, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” This powerful act of forgiveness is one that has baffled mortals for centuries. How could he forgive after he had been treated so brutally? Many of us have trouble forgiving the driver that cut us ...
Views: 1654 - Why Memories Remain Painful Even After Long Time And How To Loosen The Hold Of The Past - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Christiana StarWhy Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed. As ...
Views: 1418 - Why Memories Remain Painful Even After Long Time And How To Loosen The Hold Of The Past - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Christiana StarWhy Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed. As ...
Views: 1440 - Why We Get Sick - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Carole SeaverWHY WE GET SICK Meta-Medicine which has been developed by Johannes Fisslinger and Richard Flook is based on Dr. Hamer's findings which were discovered and published over 30 years ago. Meta-Medicine and Dr. Hamer's German New Medicine tell us that there is a biological purpose to a living ...
Views: 1512 - Will not be a victim - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2017 from David Harm3 September of 2015 I got married to a wonderful lady. I admit, I have been married before, so this shouldn’t be any different. Yet, this was different. My now wife and I had been dating for five years. Our dating consisted of being together roughly two months over the course of the ...
Views: 1419 - Will: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to have a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to assert themselves and to go after what it is that they desire. The reason for this is that if they are unable to do this, they won’t be able to live a life that is in alignment with who they are and what they desire ...
Views: 267 - Willpower: Can A Man Have A Weak Will If He Had Controlling Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to take a step back and reflect, is that he finds it hard to stick to things. So, he can come up with a goal and start taking action and then, before long, he can put it to one side. He might see that this often takes place after he has experienced a setback. ...
Views: 185 - Willpower: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Had Controlling Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when there is a will, there is a way. What this illustrates is how important willpower is when it comes to achieving something. This is then an inner source of power that will allow someone to get from where they are, to where they want to be. Along with this, it is this ...
Views: 164 - Willpower: Can Someone Rely On Willpower If They Have Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is willpower and, on the other, there is emotional power. The former can be seen as something that comes from the mind, while the latter can be seen as something that comes from the body. At times, someone won’t feel like doing something that they know is good for them, so ...
Views: 305 - Withdrawal: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences stress, they could soon feel the need to get away from everyone and everything. As a result of this, they end up pulling themselves away from life. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time at home and only go out when they need to. They might rarely answer ...
Views: 331 - Withdrawal: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they behave in a way that doesn’t serve them when they experience a lot of stress. So, they can see that they have the tendency to withdraw physically. Along with this, they can lose touch with their emotional ...
Views: 166 - Workaholic: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time working, having very little time for anything else. It doesn’t mean that this is something that will cross their mind, though, as it could just be what is normal. And, if they ever do think about how much time they spend working, they could end up ...
Views: 278 - Workaholic: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Become A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people work to live, there are others that live to work. Naturally, these people are going to have a radically different experience on planet earth. When it comes to the former, someone’s life won’t revolve around their work and they will typically only work at certain times. ...
Views: 306 - Working Through Emotional Pain Is A Lot Like Weeding A Garden - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, it occurred to me that when it comes to working through emotional wounds, it is very similar to weeding a garden. At this point, you might wonder how the former has got anything to do with the latter. Perhaps the reason why I was able to see this connection is that I have removed ...
Views: 264 - WORLD PEACE WILL SUCCESSFULLY BE USHERED IN VIA CREATIVE ENDEAVORS - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2012 from Yuga Rishi Shriram SharmaAs per Encyclopedia Britannica a report given by United Nation’s Educational Scientific and Cultural Organization or UNESCO in 1980 says 172.582 billion dollars the world over are blown up in designing war based technology and weapons. This forms 7.25% of the world’s total income. Further every ...
Views: 1254 - Yellowstone: Does Jimmy Go Through An Initiation On Yellowstone? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the previous articles that I have written about Yellowstone, I haven’t mentioned Jimmy. However, in the beginning, Jimmy works on the ranch and lives in the bunkhouse, but, as time passes, he ends up going to the 6666 ranch to learn how to be a cowboy. Now, moving from one ranch to another ...
Views: 246 - You Are That Which You Seek - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I was out of touch with what I would class as my true essence. I felt disconnected, powerless and I didn’t know why my life was the way that it was. The pain that I was in made me look for answers; I needed to find a way to change my life. I didn’t know ...
Views: 805 - You Are Worthy - by Submitted on May 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they don’t feel worthy of having what they need and want, it might no matter what they do. They can then have the tendency to work really hard but it won’t change how they feel. This can mean that they will rarely have what they need and want and will often ...
Views: 383 - Young Soldiers and PTSD - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2014 from Abigail FazelatThe U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ...
Views: 1970 - Your Survivor Story: From Trauma To Transformation - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Donna AllenAs I lie restless in a cold room, I can smell a strong sweet and sour nauseous scent. There are noisy electrical machines attached to my body, a long tube jammed down my throat, and fluids are being transfused into the veins of both of my arms. I wonder, “Where am I and what are they trying ...
Views: 2224 - Child Abuse: Can Affirmations Help Someone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone. For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ...
Views: 663 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 672 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone to Live in Freeze Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves. However, while this could be the case, ...
Views: 653 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe very fact that someone is on this planet – has incarnated – could be put forward as evidence that they deserve to exist. But, although this is so, someone could still believe that they don’t deserve to be here. Through having this belief, it won’t be possible for them to see that they ...
Views: 565 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Find It Hard To Assert Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they have the tendency to be easy going. It will then be normal for them to do what other people want and to ignore their own needs. As a result, they will often ignore their thoughts and feelings and do ...
Views: 98 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 650 - Critical Thinking: Does Politics Attract People Who Can’t Acknowledge Their Own ‘Darkness’? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are left-leaning/right-leaning who see all people on the other side of the spectrum as crazy. In fact, it could go even further than this with these people seeing all of the people on the other side as less-than-human. When someone is in this position, they are ...
Views: 575 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Lot Of Unmet Developmental Needs To Grieve If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man had a mother who was emotionally unavailable and unable to provide him with the emotional nutrients that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. He might not remember a great deal about this stage of his life. But, if he were to think about this stage, he could ...
Views: 41 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Very Driven? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is practically always on the go and spends a lot of time working on different goals, they could believe that this is just what they are like. Therefore, they will have been born this way. Then again, they could also believe that this shows that they value themselves. If this is the ...
Views: 94 - Imposter Syndrome: Why Do Some High Achievers Feel Like Imposters? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could be in a position where they have achieved a lot in one area of their life or a number of areas, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable with their current level of success. What they may find, that’s if they were able to take a step back, is that it’s as though they are ...
Views: 323 - Law Of Resonance: Does Someone Need To Have The Right Vibration If They Want To Experience Something? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what it is that they want to experience, a number of things could come to mind. They may want to have a successful business and/or loving relationships, for instance. Now, regardless of what it is that they want to experience, what is clear is that they will need ...
Views: 393 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the ...
Views: 345 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
Views: 15 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Projecting The Mother He Needed Into His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything ...
Views: 12 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Seeing His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact. He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ...
Views: 57 - OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors. So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance ...
Views: 14 - “Without A Body, I Am Nobody” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body. One then had a physical ...
Views: 637 - “I Felt Suicidal!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWent I went to a new salsa dancing class in the middle of 2010, there was one woman who caught my eye. And while we were dancing together, I asked her about where she was from and what she did, amongst others things. I was pulled in by her appearance, and her easy going and friendly nature ...
Views: 1291 - “I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I read a book called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.” This is an old book, originally published in 1989, but I thought it was still excellent. I would say that even if someone doesn’t have a borderline personality or even know ...
Views: 656 - “I Thought It Was All About The Mind!” - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was having hypnotherapy towards the end of 2012, I was told we were all nothing more than a conversation in our head. As a result of this, the way for me to change my life would be for me to change what was taking place in my mind. I remember hearing this and being amazed at what I ...
Views: 1308 - “I Was Brought Up To Tolerate Abuse!” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember sitting at the dinner table, after I had come back from school and having an argument with my mother. This soon came to an end, though, as she ended up leaving the table and going to her room. I can’t remember exactly why we had this argument as it was a long time ago, but I think ...
Views: 1377 - “I Was Terrified of My Mother” - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2010, my life was going in the right direction; I felt confident, I had a relatively fulfilling job, and I had a plenty of good people around me. It was as though my life could only get better. Unfortunately, my life was about to get worse, a lot worse, and everything changed ...
Views: 1323 - “Neurosis Is Always A Substitute For Legitimate Suffering” - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the term ‘legitimate suffering’, it might not make any sense to them. But, if they were to hear the word ‘neurosis’, they might have a rough idea about what it means. This could be seen as a normal part of living in a society that encourages the avoidance of pain and ...
Views: 989 - “The Only Way Out Is Through” - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things. Something that caught my attention was when the main ...
Views: 585 - “Until You Make The Unconscious Conscious, It Will Direct Your Life And You Will Call It Fate” - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is typically as though someone begins and ends with their conscious mind. Not only this, it is as though what is taking place inside their inner world has very little if any effect on their outer world. When it comes to the self-development world, however, it is often ...
Views: 319 - “We Are Walking Trees” - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Ben Ralston, a therapist, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer, a number of months ago, he went into what someone had shared with him in the past. He said that this person had told him that human beings were basically walking trees. I spend a fair amount ...
Views: 1389 - “What’s Wrong With You?!” - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I ended up hearing a child scream whilst I was reading a book. The child, along with both of their parents, was right behind me so I couldn’t help but hear. At first, I started to wonder when the noise would stop as I was finding it hard to concentrate. Sooner or ...
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