​OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’?

While some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors.

So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance will influence how popular she is. Another thing that can play a part is the approach that a model takes to gain exposure.

One Approach

For example, a model might just share pictures of herself on one or a number of social media sites. But, in all of the pictures that she shares, she might still wear, at the very least, her underwear.

This will then be a way for her to entice men and perhaps women to join her main site, where she reveals more. And, on her main site, she might not even reveal everything, let alone have sex.

Another Approach

Then again, she might reveal everything on at least one social media site. Along with this, she could also share short videos of her having sex.

When it comes to what she shares on her main site, it can be even more explicit. From these examples, it will be clear that not every model has the same approach.

Another Factor

Now, although what a model shares online can play a part in how well-known she is, there is something else that can also play a part. A model can say that she is looking for men to have sex with and that she is looking to set a record.

She can talk about this on different social media sites and go on different podcasts. Due to how different this is and as it goes against what is seen as being socially acceptable behaviour, this can allow her to receive a lot of exposure.

The outcome

Thanks to this model pushing the boundaries, she can end up being known to tens of millions of people all over the world. At this point, as opposed to being just another model online, she will be a household name.

Nonetheless, like most people in the public eye, there will be those who admire a model like this, those who don’t and those who couldn’t care less about her. For those who admire her, she can be seen as a woman who is liberated, empowered and even a trailblazer.

The Other Positions

For those that don’t, she can be seen as an attention seeker, narcissistic and as behaving more like an animal than a human being. Lastly, for those who couldn’t care less, she can just be seen as a woman who is just living her life and has the right to do so.

Yet, due to how she is behaving, it is not going to be a surprise if there are a lot of people who don’t admire her. If she has said that men should cheat on their girlfriends and wives if they are not having sex with them, and she has had sex with men who are not single, this will have had a negative impact.

One Outlook

One way of looking at this would be to say that even if she has said this, the men are still responsible for how they behave. And, if she has had sex with men who are not single, once again, this was still their choice.

At the same time, it could be said that while this is true, she is using her feminine power in a destructive manner. Instead of using her physical beauty to empower, support, uplift, and inspire, she is using it in a way that says, ‘I don’t care what consequences arise, as long as I get what I want’.

A Closer Look

Undoubtedly, behaving in this way will allow her to earn a lot of money and receive a lot of attention, but it will come at a cost to others and perhaps her own wellbeing in the future, if not now. Now, it would be easy to say that she is just a ‘bad person’, just as, if it were a man who was using his masculine power destructively instead of constructively, he could also just be seen as being a ‘bad person’.

But what this would overlook is that there is a chance that her behaviour is largely being driven by needs that she is not consciously aware of. If so, it will then seem as though she is consciously choosing to behave in this way, and she might even create this impression, but this won’t be the truth.

Going Deeper

As a result of this, she won’t be acting as a conscious human being; she will be unconscious and, thereby, a slave to needs that might go back to her early years. If this is the case, this can show that her early years were a time when she was greatly deprived and deeply wounded.

Her mother and perhaps her father might have been emotionally unavailable and out of reach. This would have stopped her from receiving the love that she needed to grow and develop in the right way.

Frozen In Time

Many, many years will have passed since this stage of her life, but her unmet developmental need to be loved and the pain that she experienced won’t have disappeared. This need, along with the pain, will have stayed inside her unconscious mind and, therefore, it will be outside of her conscious awareness, yet it will have shaped her entire personality and given her a strong need to receive attention.

When she receives attention, this will, to her unconscious, be seen as love, and it will have a positive effect on how she feels. The trouble is that, as it is too late for her to receive the love that she missed out on, the attention that she receives can only ever serve as a defence that keeps this unmet need and the pain at bay.

Final Thoughts

What this illustrates is how our conscious mind is only a small part of us and that most of us are, to one degree or another, driven by forces that we are totally oblivious to. In this regard, this model is no different to anyone else; it is just that how she is trying to meet her unmet developmental need to be loved is different to how most people try to meet it.

If a model in this position, or anyone else for that matter, were to see that she is being driven by unconscious forces, she will have pain to face and work through and unmet developmental needs to experience. This will take courage, patience and persistence.