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- It Happened To Elvis Presley: Infidelity & Betrayal - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Frosty WooldridgeOver the years, one of my friends married a beautiful woman and fathered two boys. He shared his pride with me as they grew to become men. I watched their pictures fill the entire front of his refrigerator. His boys adorned the walls of the living room and his office. Both boys graduated ...
Views: 1548(2 votes) - 3 Secrets to Ever-Lasting Love - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2016 from Bere BlissenbachAs current divorce rates show, staying in love is not something we can take for granted. Despite this realization, modern society does not prepare couples well for making their relationship last. For instance, romantic movies typically end at the point where a lifelong relationship begins - ...
Views: 1395 - 5 Signs You Are in an Abusive Marriage (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you controlled or in a partnership? Abusive marriages come in different forms. Most people are quick to think of "physical abuse" but there are definitely other acts of abuse that detriment the wellbeing of individuals at the hands of their domestic partner. 1. Physical Abuse In ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - "The Boys in the Boat" and Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerWhat does the immensely popular book, "The Boys in the Boat" have to do with marriage? Hint: Ask yourself what you think a great marriage looks like? Spouses enjoying being together, basically in harmony for a lifetime? Or does "happily married" sound to you like an impossible ...
Views: 1636 - Should We Get Divorced? (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN CS) - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownHonor your children by fighting for your marriage and if you decide to divorce, do it with dignity! If you are at the point of asking this question, you have some distinctions to consider. Never threaten your partner with divorce to get his/her attention. Never make the divorce decision ...
Views: 1151(2 votes) - Marriage Counselor Confesses Own Foibles - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerHero worship makes me uncomfortable. I am an extremely minor public figure, except among certain family members and friends who inflate my fame as author of Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love. As a marriage expert, I sense that many people who have heard of me think I must be a perfect marriage ...
Views: 1511 - What's Wrong with Saying "No Problem?" - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerSaying "thank you" is gracious. These are two words we all like to hear. How do you respond to someone who thanks you? This common replay makes me cringe: "No Problem!" "No problem." "No worries." We hear these words from sales clerks, food servers, and others after we thank them for doing ...
Views: 1801 - Helping Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerMost unfaithful partners underestimate the damage and fallout after infidelity. Many claim that they didn’t think of the consequences and often, when faced with losing what they have, panic. This panic can lead them to make further mistakes in their attempts to help their injured partner. If ...
Views: 1813(1 vote) - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1734 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1371 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1348(1 vote) - Do You Have A Shared Meaning For Your Marriage? Happy Marriages Do! - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola Beer“Marriage isn’t just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together — a culture rich with rituals, and an appreciation for your roles and goals that link you..." according to Gottmans 40 years of ...
Views: 1564 - Do You Have A Shared Meaning For Your Marriage? Happy Marriages Do! - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola Beer“Marriage isn’t just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together — a culture rich with rituals, and an appreciation for your roles and goals that link you..." according to Gottmans 40 years of ...
Views: 1435 - Dear Dr. Romance: This roller coaster of emotions has changed me. - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & maternal grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and ...
Views: 1222(1 vote) - ***To Really Trust a Woman - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2016 from Barry and Joyce VissellTo really love a woman is to give her your complete trust. I love the line in Bryan Adams’ song, “… and when you find yourself lying helpless in her arms, you know you really love a woman.” To lay helpless in her arms, you need to give up control and be vulnerable. You need to trust that she ...
Views: 1462 - Self-talk Saves Marriage, Other Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerPeople don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. -- Albert Ellis Maybe you've heard the joke that talking to yourself is the first sign of madness. Actually, the good ...
Views: 1374 - Is Your Relationship on Lockdown With Too Many Rules & Regulations? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2016 from Christina MichelleTransitioning from “single” to “in a relationship” or “married” has its share of joys and struggles. It seems that when you are single, you long for someone to come home to, someone who’s waiting for your phone call and someone who anticipates the next time they’ll see you again. However, when ...
Views: 3100(2 votes) - Tips to Thrive in Later-in-Life Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2016 from Marcia Naomi Berger"So what's the secret for a good marriage?" asked Ellen, 72. She's been single since her early twenties, after divorcing her physically abusive ex-husband. "Choose wisely and learn what it takes to succeed in marriage," I said instinctively. Never Too Late for Love While this ...
Views: 1893 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married and I still can't forget about my first love - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't even know where to start… I just did the most stupid thing alive!! I send the man I can't forget a text message…and he did not reply. I don't think he wants to speak to me. He knows I'm married. I was 20 years old when I fell in love with him. I was ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - Can You Talk about Money with Your Partner? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerDepending on who you are, talking about money with a partner may be taboo, acceptable, or somewhere in between. In many cultures and families, it is not okay to talk about money. In others, it's fine to speak openly about it. Regardless of which category you fit into, understanding the source of ...
Views: 1465 - Did You Know Marrying Takes Leap of Faith? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerMany singles are conflicted about marrying. They yearn for the fulfillment a good marriage brings but are afraid to commit. They fear it won't work out, which given the current high rate of marriage failures, is understandable. It should come as no surprise that it takes a leap of faith to ...
Views: 1538 - How Brainstorming Ends Disagreements, Makes Couples Happy - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerDo you sometimes feel like you and your partner are stuck in a disagreement? By using the brainstorming for solutions technique, you can end up with a resolution with which you're both happy. Corporations use a structured brainstorming process in order to make good decisions. This method also ...
Views: 1821 - ***3 Keys to theSauciest LoveMaking of Your Life - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2016 from Julie HartMany people believe — wrongly — that great lovemaking is only for the young. On the surface, it seems to make sense:A pair of hot, impassioned 20-year-olds,deeply in love; the novelty of the experience, happening in an era of sexual exploration that only occurs before the stresses of “real” ...
Views: 1563 - Can My Marriage Withstand Lingering Conflict? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerMany people think that if a marriage is basically healthy all issues get resolved. Yet according to psychologist and author John Gottman's groundbreaking research, a whopping 69 percent of problems in marriage do not get solved.[1] His good news, though, is that many problems can be managed. ...
Views: 1459 - Getting Past Myth that Threatens Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerCan a Good Marriage Have Problems? If your partner says, "We have a problem," does your chest tighten? Do you forget to breathe? What goes through your mind? "A problem! Aggh! Does that mean he (or she) will leave me? Is our relationship doomed?" Do you imagine that something is terribly ...
Views: 1519 - Codependency: Effect of Self-Esteem on Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Darlene LancerResearch has well-established the link between good self-esteem and relationship satisfaction. Self-esteem not only affects how we think about ourselves, but also how much love we’re able to receive and how we treat others, especially in intimate relationships. A person’s initial level of ...
Views: 2110(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He pushed me to tears - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for the Fair Fight Guidelines. I found a lot of wisdom and thoughtfulness in them. I hope my husband will agree. That said, I don't know what you mean by "rage is phony; it's drama created by not taking care of yourself." If a ...
Views: 1298(1 vote) - Talking to Yourself Can Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2016 from Marcia Naomi Berger"People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness." -- Albert Ellis For a good relationship, who do you think is the most important person with whom you should ...
Views: 1485 - 6 Best Tips for a Great Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2016 from Darlene LancerValentine’s Day creates a lot of expectations that are often unrealized. It's fraught with landmines, whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips to having a great holiday. You’re Alone I can recall Valentine’s ...
Views: 1592(3 votes) - The Best Valentine’s Gift Ever: “I Don’t Care”! - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonNo, not “I don’t care about you” – that would be awful! Just “I don’t care.” By itself. As in “I don’t care that you left your socks on the floor.” “I don’t care that you over/under-tipped the server.” “I don’t care that you were five minutes late.” Because here’s the thing: nothing kills ...
Views: 1847 - 4 Top Reasons For The Failure Of Some Marriages - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2016 from vincent ugwuA look at marriages today world over, you will observe high rates of divorce and marriage failures. In our society today, just as new marriages are springing up; many older marriages are parking up in failures. So, if I should ask, “what is the current state of your own marriage? Is your ...
Views: 1055 - Creating Sacred Space for a Superb Valentine’s Experience - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2016 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental WeaverDo something different this Valentine, something extra special for and with your beloved partner. What could you do to create an ‘out-of-this-world’ love experience that would make your partner’s heart melt and feel extra loved and taken care of? Here is what you want to do: Prepare YOUR ...
Views: 1334(2 votes) - Recovery from Rejection and Break-Ups - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2016 from Darlene LancerBecause our nervous system is wired to need others, rejection is painful. Romantic rejection especially hurts. Feeling lonely and missing connection share the evolutionary purpose of survival and reproduction. Ideally, loneliness should encourage you reach out to others and maintain your ...
Views: 1845(1 vote) - Work on My Relationship! Why Bother? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerIf your relationship is good, you shouldn't have to "work" on it, right? Fairy tales promote the effortless happily-ever-after marriage myth when we are at an impressionable age. Later we view romantic movies and read novels with happily-ever-after endings. Consequently, it's easy to ...
Views: 1542 - Saving Your Marriage: Troubled Teen Edition - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2016 from Tyler JacobsonThere is no question marriage is work. It can be the greatest, best, most difficult work you ever do and when you have a good partner it is absolutely worth it. However, even the best of friends and companions can be tested by trying to parent a troubled teen. Trying While Being ...
Views: 1601 - How Important is Chemistry in Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerWhen it comes to a potentially romantic relationship, chemistry is a loaded word. Does one of these beliefs pop into your mind when you hear it? • For a good relationship, chemistry needs to be there right away. • Chemistry might not be felt initially but can develop later. • Love at ...
Views: 1683 - A Resolution You Can Keep in 2016 - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Marcia Naomi BergerMost New Year's resolutions sound wonderful. But you know what happens: They're out the window before February. The best way to keep your promise is to start small. Although I'm about to suggest some resolutions to enrich your relationship, I recommend that you commit to just one, after first ...
Views: 1470 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I help her to turn around? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read your article "Fair Fight Guidlines" and it is impressive. I like to ask your advise for the following situation: I have married for 20 years and three beautifull children. My wife whom I love the most, uses power struggle tactics: guilt and ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Now that I’m Married, How Do I Talk to My Spouse? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2015 from Marcia Naomi BergerA successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. ---Mignon McLaughlin Can you imagine your partner and yourself holding a weekly formal meeting? The idea might intrigue ...
Views: 1411 - Why you should treat your partner like a guest. - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2015 from Rikky D. T. MaasTake a second to think about the things you want to change about your partner. Little things that annoy you. Any built up resentment you have. ... Now smile if you can't think of anything. (And keep reading if you wish you smiled.) The best advice I ever got about loving relationships ...
Views: 1182(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He has PTSD and I'm going crazy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for about four years now and my husband and I got married at 18 we have 3 kids all under the age of four and it gets stressful sometimes for both of us. He is in the army, he's been a soldier for almost 3 years now he was deployed ...
Views: 1562(1 vote) - Married or Dating, Be Who You Are - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2015 from Marcia Naomi Berger"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken, quipped Oscar Wilde. You've probably heard it's best to be yourself. Sounds easy, doesn't it? Yet many of us, wanting to please someone with whom we are in a close relationship--or with whom we may hope to be--forget to follow this advice and end ...
Views: 1297 - Towards Building A Better, Stronger And Healthier Marriage Relationship. - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2015 from vincent ugwuThis is a known fact; we enter into marriage with high hopes and expectations of building and enjoying a sweet and evergreen/happy marriage. But today, many are seeing the direct opposite of their expectation in their marriages. Today many marriages are in crises, some are ending in divorce ...
Views: 895 - Get Curious - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2015 from Natalie CanizaresIt's a beautiful fall-like afternoon here in Los Angeles, and I'm sitting at a quiet coffee shop in my neighborhood enjoying an almond milk latte. I've been pretty absent from the blog lately and honestly it's because I've been going through a ton of transitions in my life and sharing has taken ...
Views: 978 - 7 Simple Steps To Launch Your Marriage To The Next Level - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2015 from vincent ugwuIf you look at some gardens, you will so much admire it because the gardens are well watered and taken good care of. However, some other gardens are overgrown with weeds that the site looks ugly. The same is true of some marriages; some marriages are like that well-watered garden while some are ...
Views: 1467 - Dr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you ...
Views: 1339(2 votes) - Do You Listen to Convince--or to Learn? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2015 from Marcia Naomi Berger"When you talk you are only repeating what you already know. But when you listen you might learn something new" --attributed alternately to the Dalai Lama and author J.P. McEvoy. "Are you a convincer or a listener?" asks Melissa Orlov, ...
Views: 1603(1 vote) - Should You Ever Criticize Your Spouse? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2015 from Marcia Naomi Berger"A love without reproof is no love." ---Rabbi Yosi ben Chanina Reproof is defined as rebuke or criticism. You may feel safer by seething silently when irked by a potential or actual marriage partner's behavior. But sometimes speaking up, with kindness and respect, at a time when both ...
Views: 1189 - Dear Dr. Romance: She runs my life like a prison - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my early twenties. I got to this country a few years ago from the mideast. I met this lady that was in her thirties, we dated for a couple years then she offered to marry me to improve my immigrant status. I used to ...
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