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- ***Grief and Anniversaries - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVMy wedding anniversary is June 3. The first couple of anniversaries after my husband’s death were extremely difficult. There seemed no helpful way to get through this day. I would even start feeling sad and uncomfortable several days prior. During the fifth year, my old dog began having health ...
Views: 1285 - ***Grief and Menopause - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVSoon after my husband’s death, I felt myself descending deeper and deeper into a dark, lethargic place. My body felt sluggish. My mind felt like it was stuffed with cotton balls. I ate little, but seemed to be gaining weight. I decided to visit my naturopathic doctor. She reminded me that I was ...
Views: 5724 - ***Grief and Dating - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVAbout a year after my husband died I began feeling extremely restless. My mind seemed to be skittering from one thing to another. In a way, this was welcome relief from the heaviness of deep sadness and depression. But something was missing. Of course, something was missing. Floyd was missing. ...
Views: 1861 - *** Myths About Grief, Part 6 - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenIn this article I will be discussing a myth which most people can readily recall from early childhood, "Replace the loss and go on with your life." As young children we may have had a cherished stuffed animal or other special treasure. We may also have been fortunate enough to have a pet. The ...
Views: 1439 - ***Staying on Purpose - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2009 from Karen Mehringer, MAIn our modern day society, distractions are everywhere, vying for our attention, keeping us from what is truly important and our higher purpose. Lately, I have felt more and more overwhelmed by the amount of e-mail that comes through my in-box on a daily basis. By attending to all of this ...In ...
Views: 1994 - Grief Can Undermine Your Health - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Judith AlbrightLosing a family member, dear friend or a cherished pet is one of life’s most painful experiences. When we lose a loved one there is actually a double loss. Not only do we lose that person’s physical presence, we lose the potential for what might have been. The loss of physical presence can ...
Views: 2809 - The Truth About Anticipating Grief - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraThe thought and feeling that our loved one is going to die is never a consoling fact. Hence, anticipating grief is not an easy thing to do for everyone else involved. Anticipating grief is the period during which a family member or a patient is expected to die. This sorrow is somewhat the same ...
Views: 839 - Grieving Over Job Loss…It’s Allowed and It’s Necessary - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2009 from Peggy Titus-HallEmployees on either side of a large or small staff reduction (leaving or staying) suffer terribly over losing the people with whom they may have worked for as many as 10, 25, or 30+ years. You’re allowed to feel badly, to grieve. It’s a necessary process after the experience of losing your ...
Views: 1565 - Dealing with guilt - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanAlways feeling guilty I am sure you are aware of the feelings of guilt that comes when you do something that you didn’t want to do, but do you know that you could be feeling guilty for your whole life for something that you are not even aware of?? Feelings of guilt arise as soon as you do ...
Views: 1704 - How Difficult is Grief - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Maurice Turmel"How difficult is grief recovery?" you may ask. As difficult as climbing a mountain perhaps, or crossing a stormy sea? These are events to remember, aren't they? Well, for certain they are. Such events are quite dramatic, as is the case with Grief, which takes us out of ourselves and tosses us ...
Views: 1616 - 10 Reasons Why You Must Give Yourself Permission to Heal from Grief - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Maurice Turmel1) You will feel better knowing you are not alone with this experience of grief as a result of losing a loved one. Many individuals have traveled this path successfully and, those of us who study these processes, have been hard at work creating the tools and strategies necessary to help you ...
Views: 1907 - Coping and Caring the Process to Healing - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Yvonne ClarkGrief is a strange emotion. It is a pain that bores down to our souls when a spouse or child, mother or father, sibling or friend is taken from our life. It is a storm of tears and anger, a string of unanswered questions. It is what remains after funeral and memorial services, when we are ...
Views: 1523 - It's Okay to Cry - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Yvonne ClarkIt’s Okay to Cry “Give sorrow words, the grief that does not speak knits up the o’er wrought heart and bids it break.” Shakespeare A grieving infant, child or adolescent needs help establishing appropriate expressions and outlets for grief. What is grief to one child or adolescent may not be ...
Views: 1778 - Memorial Gardens Are Divine - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIt all started out as a birthday gift for my wife, Bobbie. I bought her a beautiful, painted, concrete bear. It looked so real, and it was the size of a real bear. She loved it. I placed the bear in the center of a circular-shaped flower bed I had landscaped near our house. Then I added a ...
Views: 2711 - Grieving is Not Limited to Death - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Annette GonzalezSometimes we begin grieving while care-giving our parent (s). You are caring for your parents but they are not the same parents you remember while growing up. They are physically and/or mentally frail. They may not even remember your name. How could this happen? Growing up you never thought they ...
Views: 1170 - How to Deal with Your Anger When Mourning - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Louis LaGrandIs the anger over the way your loved one was treated by the medical community eating you up? Or, are you angry at those who should have helped you in the last days of your loved one’s life, but were nowhere to be found? How can you reduce the intensity of your anger and then let it go? There are ...
Views: 3457 - Yoga for the Grieving Child: Lessons from Grief Camp - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Lorna BellKids grieve differently. I first began to understand this as I drove between my home hospice families in rural Georgia. I delivered end of life care, symptom management, and, especially, I "pronounced" the hospice patients who died on my watch. Adults often cry, become angry, or find solace ...
Views: 3748 - ***Myths About Grief, Part 5 - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenSo far in this series of articles on the Myths of Grief we have discussed the following myths: 1) It just takes time. 2) Keep your grieving to yourself. 3) Put on a happy face. You'll feel better. 4) Be strong. Others are depending on you. We have explored how each of these ...
Views: 1132 - ***Myths About Grieving, Part 4 - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenThis is the fourth article in a series of 8 articles about some of the prevalent myths that can keep grievers stuck in their grief much longer than necessary. The myth we will focus on in this article is: "Be strong. Others are depending on you." This myth can be a real energy drainer. What ...
Views: 1111 - Suicide Grief - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Maurice TurmelDeath due to suicide is probably the most complex grieving experience we ever have to deal with. When a loved one commits suicide we are left wondering Why? Over and over that simple question just keeps coming up – Why? Why would someone we love do that to themselves? What was going on in ...
Views: 902 - Relationship Grief - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Maurice TurmelBreaking up with your lover, partner or spouse is a major event in your life. The consequences are not much different than losing a loved one through death. A relationship breakup is a death of sorts, the death of possibilities, a future together and plans that were spun around during your ...
Views: 1379 - Grieving a Parent - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Maurice TurmelLosing a parent is something we all have to face at some point in our lives. At a young age this is particularly difficult, so we rely on adults to show us how to grieve. Sadly, most adults are poor models of the grieving process as a whole. When we lose a parent in our adult years we are ...
Views: 1193 - Grieving a Spouse - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Maurice TurmelLosing a spouse is a devastating experience. Our friend, our partner, our soul mate is now gone and we are lost. It feels as if a part of us has died as well. In my practice, helping individuals deal with the loss of their partner was a common occurrence. Young or old, surviving spouses had ...
Views: 1583 - Grieving a Child - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Maurice TurmelLosing a child is one of life's biggest tragedies. All that promise, all those hopes, all those possibilities for a bright and successful future disappear in an instant. Whether you've lost a young child or a young adult child, the feeling of loss cuts deep. We are simply not programmed to ...
Views: 1401 - ***Myths About Grieving--Part 3 - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenAs we continue in this series of articles on the myths of grief I want to discuss the third myth, "Put on a happy face. You'll feel better." With all the recent emphasis on the Law of Attraction, there is an urgency within the culture to be happy. We attract what we think about, says the Law of ...
Views: 980 - ***Myths About Grief--Part 2 - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenIn the previous article I shared with you one of the most prevalent myths encountered by grievers; namely,"...it just takes time to heal grief." I explained how this myth, along with many others, have been passed down from generation to generation, and how these myths are assumed to be factual ...
Views: 1075 - ***Tips for Grievers, Surviving Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenHow do you survive Valentine's Day when your special valentine is no longer around? 1) If you are feeling sad or depressed, be honest about it. In the past this may have been a special day for you and your loved one. But now you are alone. If you are sad, be being ...
Views: 1508 - ***Myths of Grief, 8 Part Series, Part 1 - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenSince grief is a difficult topic for most people, there is a tendency to descend into myths about the subject of grief. These myths have often been passed down from generation to generation. These myths or paradigms easily become the truth of our lives that we accept without questioning. In ...
Views: 1173 - The Transformative Work of Grief - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2009 from Beth PattersonHelen Keller has said that “the only way to get to the other side is to go through the door.” This is certainly true in the work of transforming grief into healing and growth. This process involves allowing ourselves to feel the intense emotions of grief – sadness, anger, ...
Views: 1991 - Grief, Loss, and a Proven Plan for Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2009 from Louis LaGrandAre you in a state of confusion? Have you made the decision that you will get through this loss? Are you confronting your loss and fears? If not, why not? Peace of mind is the ultimate goal of good grief so that one can begin the work of reinvesting in a life in the absence of the physical ...
Views: 1628 - Grief and Bereavement: Important Tips for Managing the Holidays - by While grieving we go through many firsts as important dates come up on the calendar. Whether it's the first anniversary, birthday or holiday, it's good to have coping strategies in place to rely on to help us cope.
"The holidays can be a particularly difficult time. While we are used to being ...
Views: 909 - Febuary - The Month of Love, Mystery and Forgiveness - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2009 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantMary Jane Hurley Brant, M.S., CGP Author of When Every Day Matters: A Mother's Memoir on Love, Loss and Life The month of February focuses our attention on love. Cards are bought, candy is given, kisses abound. What is it about love? We simply cannot get enough of it. "I love you" and "I'm ...
Views: 1727(3 votes) - A Friend Died Today - 5 Ways To Cope With Loss, Grief and the Fear Of Your Own Mortality - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Jonathan HuieAs I write this, the house is quiet. My wife and her good friend are attending a funeral. Their long-time mutual friend and fellow artist, who I never met, died suddenly at 62, leaving a husband in chronic ill health. I first became aware that death - for anyone - is never far away when a ...
Views: 1690(2 votes) - Eight Tips to Get Through the Holidays after a Loved One Dies - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Brian NicolettiThe holidays are not necessarily a happy, merry time - especially for people whose loved one has died during the past year, or even the past several years. In fact, if you're one of multi-millions of people who suffer such a loss each year, the holidays tend to increase the feelings of grief and ...
Views: 1088 - Ten Ways You Can Help a Family During the Holidays After a Child Dies - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Brian NicolettiWhen a child has died, friends and relatives often have no idea how to provide support to the family during the stressful holiday season. Following are 10 ways The Compassionate Friends, the world's largest self-help support organization for bereaved families, suggests for you to help families ...
Views: 926 - Grief Cannot Be Gotten Over--It Must Be Gotten Through - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2009 from Brian NicolettiThe first essay collection released by Dalton Publishing, Stricken: The 5,000 Stages of Grief is edited by award-winning authors Spike Gillespie (Pissed Off: On Women and Anger) and Katherine Tanney (Carousel of Progress). The book is a collection of essays on grief written by a variety of ...
Views: 1126 - The Orphan Club - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Annette GonzalezHere I am sixty years old, without parents, without accountability to anyone but myself, staring at mortality and a member of the orphan club. This is a club I or others do not aspire to belong. There is no age limit, no occupation restrictions, no ethnic or gender requirements, no time limit, ...
Views: 2154 - A Good Way to Remember Those We Love - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from paul cloughToday is the 2nd anniversary of my mother's passing and who knows what has prompted me to write this, other than to pass on some thoughts (or maybe just some personal ramblings). There's a line in a song: '...you left me here, to remind me of you' and that to me is a comfort, as long as I ...
Views: 1521 - Spiritual Healing for your Grief when you have lost a Loved one - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2009 from Aliya NicholaisenSo often when you have lost a loved one it seems impossible to keep spiritual principles intact, even if you felt you had a firm grip on them before your loved one passed on. Many experience feelings of anger, depression, guilt, sadness, regret, among many other individual feelings based on your ...
Views: 2067(1 vote) - Fear of Death: How to Relieve Our Anxiety - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2008 from Lucinda GreySociety is a continuous cycle, our pavements peopled by all age groups. From babies to the elderly, we are all moving through that ever-changing kaleidoscope called life. But, as we grow older, our mindsets change. In youth we understand that people die, but that is something so far off in the ...
Views: 2548 - ***How to Survive the Holidays: Tips for Grievers - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2008 from Robin KThe holidays can be a very difficult time for those who are grieving. The holidays are all about spending time with family and friends. The holidays are all about traditions such as special meals or special trips or special gifting rituals or special gatherings. I remember my first holiday ...
Views: 2177 - Missing, or Missing Out? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2008 from Linda MorneauIt is at special times, a birthday, anniversary, or just the holiday season when the changes in our lives become like elephants in the room. We can’t seem to stop thinking about the loved ones who are missing from our lives. We are constantly dealing with how our lives have changed and how we ...
Views: 1049 - When Grief Takes No Holiday - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Ask Mary MacKatherine glanced at the oversized banner promoting 25% off all men’s wear. “That’s one department I won’t need to shop in this season,” she thought. A suffocating feeling soon overwhelmed her. The holiday music seemed louder, the decorations larger, and the ...
Views: 1322 - Helping Those In Grief - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraThere are times in our lives that inevitably we will become face-to-face with grief. Or somebody and anybody in grief for that matter. Friends and family are there ready to support and help loved ones, and helpers often alleviate those who are grieving. There are some practical suggestions on ...
Views: 709 - Surviving Grief and Loss During the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2008 from Martha ThayerThe words to the song “it’s the most wonderful time of the year” don’t ring true for everyone. If you’ve recently suffered the loss of a loved one, the holidays can bring sadness and dread to an otherwise cheerful season. As a funeral service veteran, I’ve ...
Views: 1943 - Book Review: On Grief and Grieving - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2008 from Douglas PakThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Grief and Bereavement. The death of a loved one is one of the most difficult emotional experiences a person can undergo. The process of Grief and Bereavement helps us honor the dead while moving forward with our own lives. Sandy ...
Views: 1397 - Definition: Grief and Bereavement - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2008 from Douglas PakGrief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, and philosophical dimensions. Common to human experience is the death of a loved one, whether it be a friend, family, or other close ...
Views: 3955 - ***Grief and Addictive Behavior - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2008 from Robin KGrief intensifies the emotions we are feeling. Life can be stressful and grief intensifies the stress. Pressure builds inside. When the tension seems to have reached our ultimate pressure point, escape is often sought. How do you escape from the pain and the exhaustion of grief? Perhaps you ...
Views: 1176 - ***Grief and the Present Moment - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2008 from Robin KSometimes life seems to be a giant “to do” list. The goal of our days becomes the exercise of checking items off our list. When grief is involved, the frustration can seem overwhelming. Grief is not easily checked off the list. Getting through each day can become the goal of each day for those ...
Views: 1205 - Using Intuition To Navigate Grief - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Sue FrederickWhen I work with clients, I see their gifts and potentials and what they came here to do. I also see their departed loved ones, who come to the session to offer guidance. This information comes to me as photographic images, words, and strong feelings that I transmit directly to my clients. I ...
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