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- Why It’s Okay to Talk to a Deceased Loved One - by Submitted on May 12, 2011 from Louis LaGrandIs it a bit unusual to have a conversation with a deceased loved one? Do many people do this? And are there any benefits to such action? What will my friends think if they find out? These questions are not uncommon in the thoughts of those mourning the death of a loved one. These questions are ...
Views: 8232(1 vote) - GRIEF AND LOSS: WAYS TO SHARE YOUR FEARS - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Louis LaGrandFear is arguably the most common hidden emotion that mourners delay confronting. The reason is obvious: no one wants to appear weak. Of course, that is inbred societal nonsense that we have all been subjected to since fear is an expected response whenever we feel threatened by circumstances that ...
Views: 1472(1 vote) - Grief and Loss: When to See a Grief Counselor - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2010 from Louis LaGrandDo you feel stuck in your grief? Has it been months since your loved one died and you feel you should be feeling better? Do others close to the deceased seem to be adapting more quickly than you? Has the pain gotten worse? These are questions with very individual answers. They may or may not ...
Views: 5240 - Grief, Loss, and Brain Maintenance - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2009 from Louis LaGrandHas it been weeks since the death of your loved one and you still feel sluggish with low energy levels? Are you hesitant in making decisions? Confused? Is hope draining out of you and all you think about is a bleak future? It is not unusual to suffer physical and emotional depletion when ...
Views: 1825(2 votes) - How to Surrender to Grief - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Louis LaGrand“What you resist persists” is an old psychological saying that is especially applicable to anyone when mourning the death of a loved one. In other words, trying to repress feelings, “be strong” or pretend you are doing well when you are not, will guarantee that pain will spill out in unexpected ...
Views: 3003 - Outlets for Emotional Pain When Grieving - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Louis LaGrandPain, whether emotional or physical, is a condition of existence. No matter what your station in life, you are bound to confront relationship separations, work conflicts, medical difficulties, or the death of a loved one. No one escapes these circumstances of life and the pain they ...
Views: 5566 - What to Do If You Uncover a Secret About Your Deceased Loved One? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Louis LaGrandHas someone you trust told you a secret about your deceased loved one that has added immeasurably to your grief? Where you going through his/her papers and found some information about the past that has stunned you? Has evidence of physical or emotional infidelity turned up upon reading old ...
Views: 1623 - How to Deal with Your Anger When Mourning - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Louis LaGrandIs the anger over the way your loved one was treated by the medical community eating you up? Or, are you angry at those who should have helped you in the last days of your loved one’s life, but were nowhere to be found? How can you reduce the intensity of your anger and then let it go? There are ...
Views: 3423 - Grief, Loss, and a Proven Plan for Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2009 from Louis LaGrandAre you in a state of confusion? Have you made the decision that you will get through this loss? Are you confronting your loss and fears? If not, why not? Peace of mind is the ultimate goal of good grief so that one can begin the work of reinvesting in a life in the absence of the physical ...
Views: 1597 - Seven Beliefs That Will Help You Cope With The Death Of Your Loved One - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Louis LaGrandThoughts and beliefs—both of which are choices you make—are the underpinnings of the attitude you take toward loss. They are the major factors in how you will cope with your loss and to what extent you will experience additional and unnecessary suffering. Regrettably, many of us have been ...
Views: 1472 - How To Minimize Self-Imposed Isolation In Grief And Loss - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Louis LaGrandYou can reduce unnecessary suffering when grieving by limiting the time you either knowingly or unknowingly isolate yourself. Self-imposed isolation is a common response to the death of a loved one. Although some alone time is necessary during all grief work, the bereaved all too often withdraw ...
Views: 6717 - How To Strengthen Your Inner Life Even As You Mourn - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Louis LaGrandIn working with many bereaved people I have found the basic foundation for coping well with the vast array of losses we all have to suffer through, lies within. Yes, we all need each other or we could hardly bear the pain. But most important of all, we need our own inner strength to deal with it ...
Views: 963 - How To Cope With Unavoidable Suffering - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Louis LaGrandUnavoidable suffering is a condition of existence, a part of the mystery that shrouds every life. It is usually the result of broken attachments to those we love or the loss of something cherished. It cannot be prevented because death and perpetual change are uncontrollable givens of living. On ...
Views: 3315 - How to Recognize and Grieve Your Secondary Losses - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2007 from Louis LaGrandHave you wondered why your grief seems to be going on longer than you thought it would? It could be that you have some unfinished business with the deceased, or you have some anger you have buried and don’t want to deal with. However, one of the most common causes for prolonged grief is the ...
Views: 1399 - It’s Okay to Establish a New Relationship with Your Deceased Loved One - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2007 from Louis LaGrandThose mourning the death of a loved one are often told to find closure, let go of the deceased loved one, and go on with their lives. For most, this admonition is tantamount to saying forget about the person. In truth, no one ever forgets the beloved and never wants to since our memories and our ...
Views: 1606 - How to Be a Positive Grief Model for a Child - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Louis LaGrandMuch of our behavior in adult life is based on the examples we were exposed to as children. Many of these examples were backed up with admonitions, directions and information that were put forth as “truth,” the way it really is. This information becomes emblazoned on the walls of our ...
Views: 994 - The Top Ten Things to Know About Grief - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Louis LaGrandGrief is an integral part of life and living. Everyone grieves, although not everyone mourns. That is, not everyone goes public with their grief. They have been taught to keep it to themselves because it is much too personal. Consequently, silent or suppressed grief tends to perpetuate many ...
Views: 1376 - Five Myths of Grief That Lead to Unnecessary Suffering - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2007 from Louis LaGrandGrief is a natural response to the loss of something valued. Myths are falsehoods parading as gospel truths. Combined they lead to much excessive emotional and physical pain when mourning. If you mourn according to myth it means you have adopted false beliefs about grief and how to cope with ...
Views: 1379 - The Search for Meaning When a Loved One Dies - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2007 from Louis LaGrandMeaning affects everything we do; and equally important it affects the body and its physiology as attested to by the many examples of body-mind relationships, such as the placebo effect. Finding meaning in death is not always easy, and sometimes it is hard to find. However, the search for ...
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