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- Miscarriage- Awareness & Support - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2007 from Ellen DuBoisNever would I have dreamed that nearly sixteen-years after my own miscarriage, I'd be the author of a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery, and host of a website which helps women, and their families, who have suffered either one miscarriage-or more than one. Yet, here I am, reading ...
Views: 865 - Grieving...A Part of Life - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from Sue HenleyIf you fell down and hit you head, were in a car accident, or became violently ill, would you seek medical attention? Would you go to the hospital or doctor as soon as possible? The answer is yes, of course you would. Then why don’t we seek help when we suffer an emotional loss? So many ...
Views: 1262 - How To Cope With Unavoidable Suffering - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Louis LaGrandUnavoidable suffering is a condition of existence, a part of the mystery that shrouds every life. It is usually the result of broken attachments to those we love or the loss of something cherished. It cannot be prevented because death and perpetual change are uncontrollable givens of living. On ...
Views: 3344 - Getting A Message From Beyond - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Sue FrederickGetting A Message From Beyond By Sue Frederick, author of Dancing at Your Desk It’s 2 a.m., and I’m sound asleep when suddenly there’s a strange and very large man standing right beside my bed – about a foot away. He’s wearing jeans, a dark t-shirt, and an unbuttoned flannel plaid shirt. He’s ...
Views: 1344 - Soaring Above The Ashes Of Despair - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2007 from Beth WaddelI have joined the club, no one wants to join. Widow...I am a widow. Sometimes on official forms there is no check box...married, separated, divorced...what am I? No check box for me. Two years ago, my husband of more than 20 years died as a result of surgical error. Yeah, the nightmare of ...
Views: 1253 - A Butterfly Brings My Mother Home - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2007 from Marilyn Barnicke BelleghemFeeling the sun-warmed cement on my bare feet, I stand on the front steps of my father's home. I watch as my husband drives the car carrying our children out of the drive and into the flow of cars. The longing to be going with them swells in my breast as they head to our home. But there are ...
Views: 1947 - Does Heartache Suck? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from Richard Singer Jr.This seems like a silly question I know! Of course it sucks; in fact any kind of pain sucks when we are in its grasp. If you are alive and human you have certainly experienced your share of heartache throughout your life. This pain is a significant part of our experience on this planet; without ...
Views: 1772 - Art Heals: The Power of Art Therapy - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2007 from Erin Brazill“Art Heals: The Power of Art Therapy” During a girls’ group at a community mental health agency, a teenager paints tear drops on a plaster mask- after she recently witnessed a violent crime in her neighborhood. On a pediatric oncology unit, a 10 year-old Spanish-speaking boy draws a picture ...
Views: 1263 - How to Recognize and Grieve Your Secondary Losses - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2007 from Louis LaGrandHave you wondered why your grief seems to be going on longer than you thought it would? It could be that you have some unfinished business with the deceased, or you have some anger you have buried and don’t want to deal with. However, one of the most common causes for prolonged grief is the ...
Views: 1426 - Coping with Grief and Loss - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2007 from Gina Spielman“Coping with Grief and Loss” Feelings of grief and loss can surface after many types of life events. The obvious life event is the death of a loved one. But it can also surface after a divorce or relationship ending, loss of limb, loss of physical/mental functioning, loss of job, relocation, ...
Views: 1982 - The Practicalities of Coping with A Suicide - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2007 from Lucie StorrsYour tears have not yet dried. You haven't had time to experience your deep feelings about your loved one's suicide. In many ways, you're still in shock. Nevertheless, death, like anything else, has its own practicalities that must be accomplished. You, your family members and your loved one's ...
Views: 3321 - How to Be a Positive Grief Model for a Child - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Louis LaGrandMuch of our behavior in adult life is based on the examples we were exposed to as children. Many of these examples were backed up with admonitions, directions and information that were put forth as “truth,” the way it really is. This information becomes emblazoned on the walls of our ...
Views: 1021 - The Top Ten Things to Know About Grief - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Louis LaGrandGrief is an integral part of life and living. Everyone grieves, although not everyone mourns. That is, not everyone goes public with their grief. They have been taught to keep it to themselves because it is much too personal. Consequently, silent or suppressed grief tends to perpetuate many ...
Views: 1404 - Grief And Loss: 10 Strategies To Help You Cope - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2007 from Lucie StorrsGrief is a personal experience, unique to each mourner and unique to each loss. Grief comes in waves, as times of peace and calm are suddenly shattered by overpowering emotion. The following strategies provide a few suggestions to help you ride out the waves as you cope with your grief. 1. Take ...
Views: 1147 - Emotional Support for Line of Duty Death Survivors - by Editor's Note: This article has appeared in the Los Angeles Firefighter magazine, Responder magazine, the BackUp (Law Enforcement CD-ROM), and the Police Stressline.
The headlines report the grim news of yet another "fallen hero". The death of a firefighter or law enforcement officer who ...
Views: 1759 - Explaining Suicide to Children - by "What should I tell the children?" A question often asked after the suicide of a loved one. The answer - the truth.
Many people still believe it is best to shield children from the truth, that somehow this will protect them. More often than not, the opposite is true. Misleading children, ...
Views: 16470(1 vote) - Depression and Grief: The Four Letter Word Called Hope - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2007 from Jennifer BrostSpring was in the air and so was hope. My mother-in-law had been turning darker shades of yellow since December. Now there was reason to believe she would improve: doctors were going to operate. We knew it was a long-shot, but nonetheless, we were hoping to keep our dear friend, mother, and wife ...
Views: 1678 - Brief Grief - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2007 from Paul RiekerReducing grief to the shortest period of time. This NEW description of grief is created to cause the possibility of change, in the shortest time, perhaps within 30 days. Grief is: An Initial Sensitizing Event (the death event or a prior death event) The continuance of Ruminating ...
Views: 2301 - Grieving...a Part of Life - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Sue HenleyIf you fell down and hit you head, were in a car accident, or became violently ill, would you seek medical attention? Would you go to the hospital or doctor as soon as possible? The answer is yes, of course you would. Then why don’t we seek help when we suffer an emotional loss? So many ...
Views: 1248 - Anticipatory Grief and On-going Sadness for Caregivers - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2007 from Judy WrightAnticipatory Grief and On-going Sadness for Caregivers © Judy H. Wright, 2005 www.ArtichokePress.com In 1969, Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross published On Death and Dying and later went on to launch the Hospice movement in America. Even though her studies focused more on those who were dying than ...
Views: 1115(2 votes) - Coping with Tragedy, Loss, and Grief - by We live life as whole persons, but we experience and process it at the Four Levels of Mind, Emotion, Body, and Spirit.
* At the level of the mind we try to understand the events of our lives. We attempt to make sense of things.
* Our hearts hold the positive and negative emotions about the ...
Views: 1028 - HEAVENLETTER #697 Sadness - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Gloria WendroffHEAVENLETTERS are here to reach every soul on Earth to reawaken: * Our connection to God * Our belief in ourselves * Our awareness of our shared worthiness to God Everything God says is meant for all of us. HEAVENLETTER #697 Sadness God said: When sadness overcomes you, for reason, ...
Views: 1070 - A Sad Mother Asks God a Question - by Submitted on May 29, 2007 from Gloria WendroffDear God, I am trying to integrate Heavenletter, #697, What Does Sadness Teach You? It is so good, and I know I am in the verge of understanding it, but not quite getting it. I like the orchestra analogy and only hearing the low notes sometimes when the whole orchestra is playing. My ...
Views: 1572 - Question Regarding Dying Mother - by Submitted on May 29, 2007 from Gloria WendroffDear God, I am in Boston helping to care for my mother who is very ill in the hospital. Some days she is so negative that I feel beside myself. When this negativity is intense, it feels like I cringe to the core of my Being. My sister feels herself going into a black hole, and all of her ...
Views: 1864 - Empathy 101: How to Talk to Your Upset Friend - by Submitted on May 28, 2007 from Jennifer BrostThe trauma resulting from my near death, passing of my mother-in-law, mother, father, and unborn son was a real strain on our marriage. Michael and I had married just 6 months before the losses began, and I felt robbed of a normal honeymoon period. Making matters worse was our drastically ...
Views: 3424 - Good Grief! - by Submitted on May 20, 2007 from Amy Johnson"Who do you need us to beat up?" one teen asked another. It was a type of field day at the high school, and there was a small group of youth gathered around a friend in tears. "Yeah, we'll take care of it," another one agreed. The tears continued, silently, while the grieving girl held onto her ...
Views: 1262 - Fall of Memories - by Jason died in the summer. Six years have come and gone and still the waves roll in, knocking me to my knees.
This morning, autumn has returned. I can see my breath as it slowly leaves my body. Leaves crackle under my feet and the smell of burning wood fills the air. I don't know why this ...
Views: 1059 - Grief Relief: Looking for Laughter in Loss - by Submitted on May 12, 2007 from Allen KleinSometimes a laugh is the only weapon we have. —Roger Rabbit While I was writing my book, The Courage to Laugh: Humor, Hope and Healing in the Face of Death and Dying, my dad died. New Year's Eve 1996, he was taken to the hospital. Nine days later, just hours after my mom called to tell me ...
Views: 6217(1 vote) - HELP FOR THE RECENTLY WIDOWED - by Submitted on May 02, 2007 from Julie CalligaroHELP FOR THE RECENTLY WIDOWED TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR FINANCIAL LIFE I realize that you feel your life is out of control. You are depressed and angry. You have difficulty making decisions. Your energy level is low. You are on an emotional roller coaster, crying one minute and laughing the next. ...
Views: 1971 - Loss - An Ayurvedic Perspective - by Distraught with grief over the loss of her grandson and only remaining family, a 70-year old Indian lady and devotee of Lord Buddha, sought the audience of Lord Buddha to bring her grandson back to life. The grandson had been young, healthy, and deeply loved by the old woman, yet in one instant ...
Views: 1079 - Grief - by First let me take this opportunity to thank you all for taking an interest in learning about grief, a topic I believe more people need to understand as it is a fact that all of us will experience grief sometime in our lives.
I would like to tell you how I came to learn about grief first hand, ...
Views: 2246 - MEMORIES - by Fond memories,
On occasion still fresh in my mind.
Memories of time spent -- now gone,
And activites shared -- no more.
Fond memories,
Of joy and, yes, of sorrow --
The reminiscing of your presence in my life,
Remembering the quite times when words failed.
Memories of just being together
In a ...
Views: 892 - The 6 T's of Grief Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2007 from Cheryline LawsonThere are 6 fundamentals of grief recovery, which are very important to the grieving process. Most people try to avoid them not knowing that they are delaying their healing and advancement to the future. Let us discuss them and evaluate your situation if you are grieving to see if you are or ...
Views: 1994 - Grief Recovery Ideas - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2007 from Cheryline LawsonRecovering from grief has no set order or method. It all depends on the individual person, what type of grief (how their loved one died), their social and cultural background and their emotional stability at the time of the death of their loved one. Here are twenty practical ideas of recovery ...
Views: 3509 - Anticipating grief - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2007 from Cheryline LawsonAnticipating grief is never an easy thing. The thought that our loved one is going to die is not a consoling fact. Anticipatory grief is period during which a patient or family member expects to die. Anticipatory grief is quite similar to the after effects of losing a loved one. The emotions are ...
Views: 2245 - Practical ways to deal with your grief - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2007 from Cheryline LawsonThere are no magical methods or definitive answers on how to deal with grief. However, with each other’s experience from grief healing, it is possible to help each other in those times when we are having a difficult time. My experience with grief has helped me to assist others throughout ...
Views: 1266 - Coping with grief - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2007 from Cheryline LawsonGrief is a topic that is not much discussed, but all of us will go through this process some day. I have gone through it four times in seven years, but the most profound loss for me was the loss of my child. I thought that was the end of everything for me back then, but after 21 years, I finally ...
Views: 1344 - Where Do You Turn? - by Submitted on May 29, 2006 from Susan DunnWhen my client Lorena was going through her divorce, she said she played the piano every night "until there wasn't an ounce left in me." John went out on his boat and listened to Rachmaninoff. Many of us turn to music when words are not enough, or there are no words. We listen to an opera, or ...
Views: 1574 - On Coping with Death… Now imagine you are a child. - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2006 from Gary DirenfeldOn Coping with Death… Death. It hits hard and with a loved one, no matter what the preparation, the loss is heartfelt. Now imagine you are a child. Coping with the death of a parent in childhood will be different depending on the age of the child and the nature of the relationship. While all ...
Views: 1644 - A Hypnotherapist's Casebook. - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Brian GreenThese articles were published as a column in “L. A. Health” under the title, “A Hypnotherapist’s Casebook.” No. 1. Hypnotherapy for healing. A little over six years ago I was between jobs. I had ...
Views: 2266(3 votes) - Surviving Mom - by Submitted on May 16, 2004 from Cate CavanaghHere I was again. From the time I was nine each time my mom went to the hospital I would wonder "Is this it?". "Will she survive?". My mother is now ninety-two and has been the victim of fifteen strokes, seventeen heart attacks and Parkinsons. She also suffers severe and sudden changes in ...
Views: 1592 - The Opportunity in Adversity - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Mike PniewskiMany of us recently saw when Brett Favre, quarterback for the Green Bay Packers, played one of the greatest games of his career the Monday night after his father passed away. On the heels of one of the greatest tragedies anyone could face, he responded by playing an incredible game and leading ...
Views: 2922(1 vote) - Grief And The Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2003 from Dave ShieldsThe holidays bring grief to an all new height for those who are suffering from losses or struggle with depression, anxiety, chronic illness or other such disorders. This newsletter is for those who suffer and for those who love them. If it's a merry Christmas for you, please take a moment ...
Views: 3176(1 vote) - Birthparent Loss and Grief - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2003 from Patricia RolesIn the last decade, there has been a growing acceptance that a loss occurs for birth parents when adoption takes place. In the past, the emphasis in the adoption process has largely been on the reception of the child into the adoptive family rather than the reciprocal loss of the baby for the ...
Views: 3085(1 vote) - The Grief And Belief Connection - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Bob Olson"Grief is healing: To take away our grief is to take away our healing. And learning about life after death helps us heal with greater hope, comfort and peace." ~ Bob Olson In approximately five years of investigating the possibility of life after death, I have discovered convincing evidence ...
Views: 1647(1 vote) - Mourning Bands - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2003 from Paul VillanuevaThe business world does not recognize mourning in the workplace very well. Once we bury our loved one, we are expected to go back to our jobs to continue, as if we were unchanged by their death. We do not see widows wearing black clothing in the business world, and men certainly do not mourn ...
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