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- Help From A Departed Husband - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Sue FrederickHe’s a thin man; a cowboy in tight jeans, standing in front of me with his hands in his pockets. We’re having a conversation when I realize that he’s dying; he has advanced cancer and is pretending not to know it. “You need to go into the hospital,” I explain. ...
Views: 1246 - Tidal Waves Of Grief - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Sue FrederickI’m standing on a beach surrounded by a vast expanse of dark sand for as far as I can see. Gulls are squawking in the distance. I’m looking into my father’s watery blue eyes. He’s animated and young, explaining something to me with more passion than I ever saw in the last ...
Views: 1575 - A Message From Beyond - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Sue FrederickIt’s 2 a.m., and I’m sound asleep when suddenly there’s a strange and very large man standing right beside my bed – about a foot away. He’s wearing jeans, a dark t-shirt, and an unbuttoned flannel plaid shirt. He’s not trying to scare me; he’s just ...
Views: 1236 - ***Grief as Transformation - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2008 from Robin KThe life cycle of the butterfly speaks volumes about the process of grief. The life of the butterfly begins inside a cocoon, hanging inconspicuously from the limb of a tree. Silently, but deliberately the transformation begins. Anyone looking from below would have no idea what is going on ...
Views: 2207(1 vote) - Can Grief Be Brief? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2008 from Ursula WeideDr. Weide has been a Licensed Psychologist and Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in the Washington, D.C. area for twenty years. Dr. Weide is also a Certified Thanatologist (by the Association for Death Education and Counseling), specializing in grief, bereavement and ...
Views: 1405 - Relief After Loss? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2008 from Martha ThayerI have talked with countless people who have felt a relief when their loved one died. Relief their loved one was no longer in pain, relief that they didn’t have to visit that nursing home anymore and all it entailed, relief that their loved one is “in a better place.” However, the partner to ...
Views: 1158 - Let Us Bury The Stages Of Grief -Ffor Good! - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2008 from Ursula WeideOn April 17, 2007, one day after the Virginia Tech massacre of 32 students by another student, the Washington Post published an article entitled “Survivors of Shootings Grieve in Stages.” The author quotes an "educator" who counseled Columbine survivor families as describing specific, ...
Views: 1818 - Can Grief Cause Physical Pain? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2008 from James EinertAccording to John E. Sarno, M.D. In his book, “The Divided Mind”, your emotions of grief and loss may be the cause of some or all of your physical pain! The theory behind this is that the mind will reduce oxygen to certain parts of the body to cause physical pain so as to cover-up ...
Views: 9530 - Feeling Lonely? - How To Attract A Guy And Make New Friends after Being Widowed - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonThere will come a time when you're ready to move forward after grieving the death of a spouse, to get on with your life and move ahead and discover what this new chapter has to offer. When this happens, you may find it challenging to stop dwelling eternally on what you have lost, and begin to ...
Views: 1669 - A Hug From The Other Side - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Karen AndersonI always say you never know who will come through during a session with your animals. I am constantly humbled and amazed at the accuracy of the messages that come through for loved ones who are open to their messages. At an expo I was attending in Chicago in February of 2008, a lovely lady ...
Views: 2002 - The Grief Diet - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Kimberly AnnWhere do we start? Should I tell you about the time my husband had to restrain me from punching a lady at the Comfort Inn? How about the time I spent an hour going through the yellow pages looking for psychics who communicate with the deceased? A more recent time was when I locked my keys in ...
Views: 1351 - Beyond The Fear - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2008 from Colleen Hoffman SmithI have lost my beloved friend Mary-Lee Barker. She died Thanksgiving weekend and I have been experiencing the grief fully. My intense relationship with my emotional and spiritual self has guided me to the river of healing. Mary-Lee’s death has taken me to the death of a perception that lived in ...
Views: 1392 - Heal Grief and Sadness Naturally: Three Powerful and Practical Strategies - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonWe all face tragedies in our lives, evoking grief, sadness and despair. This is a natural part of life. How we nurture ourselves and process feelings greatly impacts our physical and mental wellness. These three strategies can help you find balance during moments of loss or grief. (1) Support ...
Views: 3063(2 votes) - Finding The Strength To Handle Grief - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Kim WiermanReplenish your inner strength while going through the grieving process Saint Augustine of Hippo – “Love is the beauty of the soul.” Just three weeks after my husband of 15 years passed away a family friend and psychologist said to me, “Even the Rock of Gibraltar needs to lean on someone.” It ...
Views: 1493 - Grief Is Always Near - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2008 from Susan ZimmermanWith the aging baby boomer population, many people are facing the death of a loved one for the first time in their lives. Americans have often been educated to achieve and succeed. Set goals that are specific, measurable, tracked, and take the steps needed to accomplish the goal within a ...
Views: 888 - Children And The Big "D's": Death, Divorce And Deployment - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Chandra PetersenChildren are often the unintended victims of life crisis. Parents don’t always think how their decisions will affect the children in their family before making them. If a marriage has become irreparable each may be focusing on their feelings only. The parents may forget that they, NOT the ...
Views: 1177 - Surviving Adult Siblings: The Forgotten Bereaved - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2008 from TJ WrayThree months after my brother died, I bumped into a friend I hadn’t seen in about six weeks. When she asked how I was doing, I naturally assumed she was concerned about how I was handling the grief. (This particular friend sent me a lovely condolence letter a few days after my brother’s ...
Views: 8430 - Letting Your Pets Go: Euthanasia & Why It Makes This Time Easier - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2008 from brian spilnerThere comes a time when we must let go of our pets. There are many reasons why our beloved companions must be euthanized, but knowing the reason doesn’t always help with the grief. Before you go to the veterinarian to have your animal put to sleep, it’s a good idea to have an ...
Views: 3502 - Do You Have Permission To Grieve Well? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachThough mourning the many losses (broken bonds) across our years is a natural (instinctive) reflex, it can be slowed or blocked. Incomplete or "complicated" grief can promote serious mental, emotional, physical, and relationship problems. Our feelgood, warp-speed society ("Don't Worry - Be ...
Views: 2736 - When Is Grieving "Done"? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachSTARTING IN INFANCY, all wholistically-healthy people form emotional and perhaps spiritual attachments (bonds) to tangible and invisible things. Life on Earth decrees that these bonds will be broken by chance or choice, causing losses. We may start grieving before an foreseen occurs, or be ...
Views: 2062 - The Five Stages Of Grief - What Are They? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2008 from Lucie StorrsIf you have lost a loved one, or if someone you know is grieving, you might find yourself wondering ‘What are these five stages of grief I keep hearing about?’ and how they relate to you. Let me explain a little more about the five stages. Author Elisabeth Kübler-Ross – a much respected grief ...
Views: 3625 - Soul Technology™: "From Grief...To Growth™" - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Aliah MaJonChanged Self: Is it possible that we can make POSITIVE changes within our selves and our reality even when life is challenging us the MOST or may seem like it is the hardest? Changed Circumstances: Do we have the ability to SHIFT our reality by taking a deeper look with the express intention of ...
Views: 1168 - Grief And Dating - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Sandy ClendenenAbout a year after ny husband died I began feeling extremely restless. My mind seemed to be skittering from one thing to another. in a way, this was welcome relief from the heaviness of deep sadness and depression. But something was missing. Of course, comething was missing. My husband was ...
Views: 1030 - Seven Beliefs That Will Help You Cope With The Death Of Your Loved One - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Louis LaGrandThoughts and beliefs—both of which are choices you make—are the underpinnings of the attitude you take toward loss. They are the major factors in how you will cope with your loss and to what extent you will experience additional and unnecessary suffering. Regrettably, many of us have been ...
Views: 1509 - When Does Touch Become Critical? - by Submitted on May 06, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsElaine Williams ©2008 When does it become critical that you be touched with love or affection? Does something happen to those of us out of relationships for extended periods of time due to divorce, loss of a spouse or physical separation? Speaking for myself, as a widow of four years, some ...
Views: 1367 - Healing Grief Through Spiritual Mediumship - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2008 from Samara AnjelaeGrief is a universal and common reaction to the lost of a love one. Losing a parent, spouse, friend, child or pet can be devastating. In current times more and more bereaved individuals and families are utilizing spiritual mediumship via a medium as an effective way to help their grief and come ...
Views: 2326 - Surviving The Loss Of A Child - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2012 from KIM BURNSThey say the death of a child is the greatest loss. I would say that I believe that. I lost two. If you're a mother I think you'd tend to agree. If you're not you can't vote on this one because only a mother can know the severe pain and grief that comes with the death of her child. Surviving the ...
Views: 1812 - Emotions On Trial: Effects Of A Personal Injury Lawsuit - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2008 from Beth KleinEnduring a catastrophic personal injury can scar someone both emotionally and physically for life. Medical bills pile up, life as the victim knew it may be over, depression often sets in, and the fear that things will never be good again can be an all consuming fear. It can also put a strain ...
Views: 1384 - Turning Grief To Action - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2008 from Robin KThere are people who will tell us how to grieve. They know about the ‘stages of grief’ as laid out by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. They will suggest that we are not grieving ‘right’. Or they will say ‘you have not dealt with your grief yet’. Or you ‘have not accepted the loss’ yet. Or ‘you have not ...
Views: 868 - Yoga For The Grieving Child Lessons From Grief Camp - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2008 from Lorna Bell"Ma'm, do you want to see my "stork pose?" I looked into the earnest,lonely eyes of a young boy, who had, just that morning, rolled his eyes at the "lame" concept of doing yoga to ease his broken heart. Now, he sought me out, to share his success with the pose, and to gain approval and gentle ...
Views: 1800 - Grief In Its Many Forms - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsGrief and loss come in a multitude of forms. There is grief due to loss of a loved one but there's also the sense of grief related to illness and the impending demise of a loved one. When our family pet, our dog Bear had to be put to sleep after ten years with us, it was more emotionally ...
Views: 1311 - How To Help Your Child After The Death Of A Pet - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2008 from brian spilnerFor children, dealing with the death of a pet can be an extremely traumatic and upsetting experience. As parents, it is our role to help our children through this time. If your child has never experienced the death of a pet or family relative, they may have difficulty with the concept of death. ...
Views: 894 - Grief And Loss - 10 Strategies To Help You Cope - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Lucie StorrsGrief is a personal experience, unique to each mourner and unique to each loss. Grief comes in waves, as times of peace and calm are suddenly shattered by overpowering emotion. The following strategies provide a few suggestions to help you ride out the waves as you cope with your grief. 1. Take ...
Views: 903 - Talking To Children About Bereavement And Pet Loss - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2008 from Denise FiennesWhen I was a counsellor with the UK Charity ChildLine, I spoke to children of all ages about many things that worried them, including the loss of a beloved pet, and grief in general. I was trained to talk to children and not to 'bandage' a child's deep pain over the loss of a loved one. I ...
Views: 1997 - It's All About Heart - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2008 from Mitch CarmodyOh……. we’re off to see the wizard, the wonderful wizard of Oz …Those words and melody always bring back to mind one of my favorite movies in the whole world. Maybe it was gathering around the television with mismatched Tupperware bowls of popcorn and a cold bottle of Coke ...
Views: 1242 - Sometimes You Need To Cry - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from Elaine Williams©2008 I recall a period in time, at about 18 months after my husband passed away, that I felt pretty good about myself. I had handled what life had thrown me and come out battered, but mostly okay on the other side. After caretaking my husband for almost a year, I was battling some minor health ...
Views: 1256 - The Long Term Effects Of Loss After Grieving - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Abby LynneGrieving is a process that starts at different points for different people after encountering a tragedy. Some start straight away while others lay dormant in shock until the reality of the situation hits home. Either way there is a large part of grieving that is unexpected and unexplained. It’s ...
Views: 5471 - What Does Divorce Mean to Kids? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from Yvonne ClarkEvery year over one million children in the United States under the age of seventeen are involved in their parents’ divorce. Separation and divorce can be emotionally overwhelming, painfully challenging, and distressfully traumatic. How parents, extended family members, helpful family ...
Views: 5125 - How to Create a Memorial Guest Book to Remember Your Loved Ones Forever - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2008 from Lesley MattosPlanning a funeral and coping with the emotional time surrounding this event can be very stressful. Quite often after all the arrangements have been made and the services are over, the family is often left with only a vague memory of the friends and family members who gathered. Creating a unique ...
Views: 2130 - The Infant Soul's Grief - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2008 from Bhuka Bijumiro-JjumiroWhenever an infant is born into the world of form, it is expected to perform its very first karma or action. That is the action of crying or wailing. If it does not wail, the doctors, parents and friends present get worried; they think something is wrong with the baby. They do everything they ...
Views: 1629 - Understanding Grief - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockWhen we cry for a loved one that has died, either we cry for ourselves or we cry for humanity, never for our loved one. Many will not agree with this, but it is true. The tears are more often than not an expression of our own fear of not having our loved one with us any longer to keep us ...
Views: 726 - When The Memories Come Without Pain - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsMy youngest son was eleven when his father died. For the longest time he would cling to me when we were parting company, giving hugs and more hugs. I know this was his way of working through the loss of his father and I knew that eventually this phase would pass. Many times he would talk about ...
Views: 958 - On Becoming A Widow - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsI became a widow at forty-seven years of age. I'd always thought my husband and I would be together forever, or at least a lot longer than the twenty years we had. In that time frame we had three boys, who at the time of his passing were eleven, eighteen and nineteen years of age. When the ...
Views: 1118 - On Becoming A Widow - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsI became a widow at forty-seven years of age. I'd always thought my husband and I would be together forever, or at least a lot longer than twenty years. We have three boys, who at the time were eleven, eighteen and nineteen. When the reality of my situation sank in, I ran the gamut of ...
Views: 946 - A Fresh Journey Through Loss - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsThe day I lost my husband my heart felt ripped out, a feeling I had never experienced before. I felt clarity in the moment and confusion over where I was going, all at the same time. I wanted to cry at the injustice of a widow at 47 years of age. I had three boys and they each needed their ...
Views: 975 - Dancing With The Demon Of Loneliness - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsI've danced with him many times, a reluctant partner, my steps stumbling and my mind preoccupied. He came in persuasive and smooth, barely causing a ripple with his subtle entrance. Other times he visited boldly, making his presence well known. For me, dancing with the demon of loneliness ...
Views: 1149 - You're Grieving? ...Oh Just Get Over It! - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2008 from Gwen McCauleyMy work as a life transition coach brings me into regular contact with folks who are trying to get over something: the loss of a job, the death of a spouse, parent, child or pet, the end of a marriage, the end of a career, the realization that life has passed them by. It doesn’t really ...
Views: 1182 - Love... Loss... Grief - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2007 from Yvonne ClarkGrief through the eyes of kids By: Yvonne Butler Clark, M.A. How do we talk to kids about grief? Our kids today are bombarded with loss and separation. The death of parent, sibling, or friend, separation from a parent in the military, grandparent parenting, foster care and/or incarceration. ...
Views: 1750 - Widows Unite ! Grief: Five Tips To Survive The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2007 from Beth WaddelHappy Holidays,Ting-ting-a-ling. Everywhere I go I hear the happy, happy, happy sounds of the holidays. Wait, I am a widow. I am experiencing grief, loss, misery. What's so jolly about being left alone at this time after a good marriage ? Left alone to manage the memories, to live through the 6 ...
Views: 1480 - Beyond Survival: Tools For Facing The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2007 from Rev. Aliah K. MaJon, Ph.D.BEYOND SURVIVAL: Tools for Facing the Holidays By Rev. Aliah K. MaJon, Ph.D. Author of “What’s Good About Loss?” The holiday season can re-stimulate grief and bring up feelings of sadness because these times remind us in ways, both big and small, that we have ...
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