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- The Stress of Moving After the Loss of a Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Sandy ClendenenWhen one loses their spouse, a top life stressor, the level of stress experienced can feel extremely overwhelming to the griever. Modern life is filled with stress. And this stress occurs on many different levels. There are the daily stresses of life which are often ignored as trivial. These ...
Views: 1443(1 vote) - Griever's Dilemma--How to Celebrate Mother's Day - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Sandy ClendenenMother's Day carries a lot of emotional significance for most grievers. Whatever one's relationship with Mother, this person is our first connection here on the Earth plane. This connection may have lasted a lifetime or it may have ended on the day of birth with adoption, or any number other ...
Views: 1475(1 vote) - Tips for Widows--Surviving The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenHolidays can be difficult for widows. Whether it is a birthday, anniversary, Thanksgiving or New Years, the memories of past holidays can keep widows stuck in the past and unable to move forward in their life. It can feel impossible to even consider participating in a holiday without one's ...
Views: 5213(3 votes) - Shifting the Grief Healing Paradigm-Authentic Grief Healing - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenWhile grief is a universal experience, the mourning process varies from family to family and from culture to culture. What I am referring to as the mourning process are the rituals that most of us grow up with about how to behave and how to speak when confronted with a loss. In essence, ...
Views: 1551(5 votes) - Dating and Grief - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenDating and Grief By Sandy Clendenen About a year after my husband died I began feeling extremely restless. Grief kept my mind skittering from one thing to another. Although these restless feelings were confusing, they were at least a bit of a relief from the heaviness of grief’s deep ...
Views: 1390(3 votes) - Grief and Dating - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenDating and Grief By Sandy Clendenen About a year after my husband died I began feeling extremely restless. Grief kept my mind skittering from one thing to another. Although these restless feelings were confusing, they were at least a bit of a relief from the heaviness of grief’s deep ...
Views: 1569(1 vote) - *** Emerge Beyond Your Grief - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenThe grief process can be compared to the transformative process of the butterfly. Grievers oftern find themselves stuck inside the safety of the cocoon of grief. There is a sense of feeling lost in the darkness of grief. There is a push-puss feeling that often occurs during grief. Grievers ...
Views: 1717(2 votes) - *** Journaling the Journey Through Grief - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenMany who grieve find comfort and healing through the journaling process. Writing truly does cause thinking. And thinking is the beginning of new awareness. And awareness is the beginning of transformation. When the love of your life is no longer physically present in your everyday like, there ...
Views: 1938(7 votes) - *** Myths About Grief, Part 7 - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenWhen you lose your spouse life feels very disorganized. All relationships provide a sense of structure, whether you think of it that way or not. Much of grief is really about coping with the lack of structure which manifests in the sad, empty space of what had been a significant ...
Views: 1314 - *** Myths About Grief, Part 6 - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenIn this article I will be discussing a myth which most people can readily recall from early childhood, "Replace the loss and go on with your life." As young children we may have had a cherished stuffed animal or other special treasure. We may also have been fortunate enough to have a pet. The ...
Views: 1375 - ***Myths About Grief, Part 5 - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenSo far in this series of articles on the Myths of Grief we have discussed the following myths: 1) It just takes time. 2) Keep your grieving to yourself. 3) Put on a happy face. You'll feel better. 4) Be strong. Others are depending on you. We have explored how each of these ...
Views: 1089 - ***Myths About Grieving, Part 4 - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenThis is the fourth article in a series of 8 articles about some of the prevalent myths that can keep grievers stuck in their grief much longer than necessary. The myth we will focus on in this article is: "Be strong. Others are depending on you." This myth can be a real energy drainer. What ...
Views: 1068 - ***Myths About Grieving--Part 3 - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenAs we continue in this series of articles on the myths of grief I want to discuss the third myth, "Put on a happy face. You'll feel better." With all the recent emphasis on the Law of Attraction, there is an urgency within the culture to be happy. We attract what we think about, says the Law of ...
Views: 942 - ***Myths About Grief--Part 2 - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenIn the previous article I shared with you one of the most prevalent myths encountered by grievers; namely,"...it just takes time to heal grief." I explained how this myth, along with many others, have been passed down from generation to generation, and how these myths are assumed to be factual ...
Views: 1036 - ***Tips for Grievers, Surviving Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenHow do you survive Valentine's Day when your special valentine is no longer around? 1) If you are feeling sad or depressed, be honest about it. In the past this may have been a special day for you and your loved one. But now you are alone. If you are sad, be being ...
Views: 1466 - ***Myths of Grief, 8 Part Series, Part 1 - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenSince grief is a difficult topic for most people, there is a tendency to descend into myths about the subject of grief. These myths have often been passed down from generation to generation. These myths or paradigms easily become the truth of our lives that we accept without questioning. In ...
Views: 1132 - GRIEF AND FINANCES - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2008 from Sandy ClendenenDo you know your net worth? The first time I was asked this question I had no idea what it meant. Even though I paid the bills for our farming business, I really did not pay attention to the bigger picture. I had money to pay the bills. that was the important thing. Right? When my husband died ...
Views: 921 - Gratitude Journal, A Tool For The Grieving Heart - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Sandy ClendenenSeveral times over the past few years I began to keep a gratitude journal. I bought a special notebook and pen and kept them by my bed. I wrote for a few days. Then I would forget for a day. Then I would stop completely. Last year I made a commitment to myself to write in my journal for 21 ...
Views: 866 - Grief And Dating - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Sandy ClendenenAbout a year after ny husband died I began feeling extremely restless. My mind seemed to be skittering from one thing to another. in a way, this was welcome relief from the heaviness of deep sadness and depression. But something was missing. Of course, comething was missing. My husband was ...
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