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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Ode to Martin: Life Lessons From An Old Friend - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2012 from Tommy LandryToday I write this blog post with a heavy heart. Just last night, we returned from a trip back home to visit my family. Normally, a trip like this is filled with joy and laughs, sharing stories, and general goodness. This time was different. You see, 2012 has been a tough year for all of us. ...
Views: 2334 - Perseverance The last stretch BLUES - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2012 from Elizabeth McNallyWe are all subject to it at one time or another. You’ve had this goal for a certain time. You’ve been working at it diligently, strategizing and prioritizing as you went along. Actions have been taken following your laborious planning chart and BOOM! A dry spell strikes. You’re right there; ...
Views: 1306 - Interpretations: Do Our Interpretations Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can often watch a film with an ending that is unclear and come up with an interpretation that is completely different to another person. Or perhaps there is a cloud in the sky; one sees it to be a certain shape and another person sees another shape or cannot see this shape at all. Then ...
Views: 1949 - Bullying: Why Do Some People Bully Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn one form or another and under one name of another; bullying has been around for a very long time. And it is not limited to a specific environment and neither is it only experienced by a certain type of person. Human beings of all backgrounds can come face to face with this type of ...
Views: 2220 - The Media: Creating The Illusion Of Perfection - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive behaviour can include all that makes one feel compromised, undermined and taken advantage of. It can be in the relationships one has with: friends, family, colleagues and in intimate relationships. The type of environment it is, or whether one is male or female, the race or the ...
Views: 2126 - How Do YOu Remember? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2012 from Maura SweeneyI’m frequently teased for failing to recall names, faces, places and sometimes even the simplest words. I’m not sure if it’s a matter of selective memory, an age-old issue with near-sightedness or something else entirely, but I never seem to recall things the way other people do. I ...
Views: 2328 - Abusive Behaviour: Why Do People Put Up With Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive behaviour can include all that makes one feel compromised, undermined and taken advantage of. It can be in the relationships one has with: friends, family, colleagues and in intimate relationships. The type of environment it is, or whether one is male or female, the race or the ...
Views: 2605 - Healthy Emotional Boundaries: Your Value Systems In Action - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2012 from Veronica Burgess“Setting limits is a way of defining who you are and what you’re all about, what you will do and what you won’t; what’s acceptable to you and what’s not”. —Laura Stack— Many people have seen and understand a no trespassing sign posted on private property. And if you were to cross the line, ...
Views: 1899(1 vote) - Feelings Are Energy in Motion - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Amy TorresFeelings are not facts. This is important to understand because when we are under the influence of a strong feeling, we have the sense this feeling will never end. If the feeling is anger, we are consumed with fiery heat. If the feeling is sadness, we are heavy, lethargic. If the feeling is ...
Views: 1905(1 vote) - Make Love, Not War - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Amy TorresMaking love starts in the mind. It is what we're thinking that turns us on or off. Making love can be using the body sexually to express love, tenderness, and pleasure. Making love can be purely sensual-e.g., giving your partner a massage or a bath-fragrant with essential oils. Making love can ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - A Fragile Self-Image Makes Happiness Elusive - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Valencia RayHappiness will be elusive as long as a man or woman builds their self-image or worth based on what they do and how much money they make. I read an article this weekend in The New York Times Magazine bemoaning the fact that many men are losing their self-worth because their “macho” jobs are going ...
Views: 1333 - Expectations: Where Do Our Expectations Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one experiences life, expectations play an incredibly important role. Not only are they influencing how one perceives every part of life, they’re also affecting ones emotional and mental well being. This means that what one attracts into their life and what one sees in ...
Views: 5403 - Emotional Healing: Why Don't Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to healing or moving on from the past; some people progress a lot faster than others. There are also other situations where some people are perpetually caught up in their past and feel as if nothing is changing. Now, the past that one has had and the pain and trauma that may ...
Views: 2283 - Emotional Vulnerability: Creating a Safe Space in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2012 from Veronica BurgessWhat is emotional vulnerability? Emotional vulnerability is when an individual surrenders fully to the joys and sorrows of giving and receiving love. It is when you break open locks and tear down walls—being open and transparent. The fear of the unknown is what blocks us from giving ourselves ...
Views: 7913(1 vote) - Develop Your Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2012 from Veronica BurgessIn the words of the rapper Ludacris, “I feel like slapping somebody today!” Today was one of those days where my emotions were all over the place. One second, I don’t know how I feel, the next second I don’t feel anything, and then later I feel EVERYTHING!!!! “I’m not gonna cry! Ok, I’m ...
Views: 1985(2 votes) - Stuck In Our Emotions - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2012 from Veronica BurgessBeside every case of stuck feelings, lies a sad little story. Recently, I’ve come across articles that discussed ways to prevent negative thinking “permanently.” The writer would go on to discuss how an individual can eliminate/extract/delete negative memories permanently. And as a result, they ...
Views: 1555(1 vote) - The Intelligence of Our Emotions - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2012 from Helen ValleauAn important aspect of personal empowerment is having an ability to be emotionally present and aware of your internal emotional experience. So often we try to figure out what we need to do next with our brilliant intellect, we then miss the valuable information our emotions are telling us about ...
Views: 1269(1 vote) - How to Become Socially Calibrated - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2012 from Eduard EzeanuThe results you get with people and the awesomeness of your social life are to a large extent a result of your ability to calibrate socially. This is why developing your social calibration is one of the most beneficial personal development steps you could ever make. Social calibration is ...
Views: 8764 - Emotional Acceptance: Why Is It Difficult To Accept Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions can be pleasurable or they can be painful and being human means that we have the potential to experience the full spectrum of emotions. I say potential, because there are ways that we can stop them from appearing. Pleasure and pain is something we are all familiar with and this ...
Views: 2491 - Tips on finding time for yourself to gather perspective - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2012 from Katherine LevineFinding time for yourself can be difficult. Here are some exercises that, once learned, don't take long, and can really have a positive impact on your day. Tip one: Calming Breath is a basic Take a Break Strategy. When tense or annoyed we often take a quick breath in and then forget to let ...
Views: 1324(2 votes) - Choosing to Be happy is the Key to Invite Meaning into your Experience - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Andrew HortonInviting meaning and fulfilment into your experience, starts with you making one of the most important and satisfying choices you will ever make in your life, namely the choice to allow yourself to experience true joy and happiness. Remember happiness is always a choice and the level of ...
Views: 1145(2 votes) - Associations: Do Our Associations Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAssociations have incredible power and they are occurring in many areas of life. Ones relationships with: family, friends, lovers and professional relationships are all being affected by associations. As well as ones experience with the world and to material things. Brands rely heavily on the ...
Views: 2267 - Self Abuse: What Is Self Abuse? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbuse is usually something that starts of as external in nature. This means that one is abused through the people around them and this could be limited to one environment or it could happen in a number of environments. The type of abuse that I am talking about here is the abuse that goes in ...
Views: 2368 - The Stress-Free Move Hasn’t Been Invented Yet. But at Admiral, We’re Getting Close… - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2012 from Scott McNelleyThe Stress-Free Move Hasn't Been Invented Yet. But at Admiral, We’re Getting Close… Did you know moving consistently ranks among the top ten most stressful life events? Because of the total disruption in your routine and having your belongings in a state of upheaval, moving can truly be ...
Views: 1863 - The Co-Creative Muse - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Barry HammerI find that the best kind of creative inspiration, in any field of endeavor, comes from communing deeply with other life presences, in heartfelt, open-minded, empathic attunement with them. The more deeply we invest our heart, mind, and senses, in communion with other life presences, ...
Views: 2512 - Emotional Intelligence: I Feel, Therefore I Am - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2012 from Valencia RayEmotional intelligence is beginning to be recognized as a powerful contributor to business intelligence—“soft” skill or not. I’m all for respecting the intellect, and I’m all for respecting our intuitive feeling mind, as well. I have a book on order called “Descartes Error,” by Antonio R. ...
Views: 1797 - Why Compassion Is The Essential Entrepreneurial Skill - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from Pete SapperMost people exist from a two-sided paradigm of "giving" and "taking". And that's okay - it's how most of us have been programmed to operate. Unfortunately, that old paradigm has left most of us bankrupt in terms of abundance in our lives. It's a scarcity-based paradigm that gets us to "feel ...
Views: 1085 - Emotional Eating: What Is Emotional Eating? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn Today’s world there is an intense focus on what we eat and on the importance of exercise. If one eats the right foods and eats them at the right time, along with the right amount of exercise; then one is likely to end up in physical shape. Now, for some this may work and for others this will ...
Views: 2102 - Defence Mechanism: Displacement - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a defence mechanism that is no different to any other, in that it allows the ego mind to ensure its own survival. If there is a situation where the ego mind perceives that it is unsafe to express an emotion or to behave in a certain way; the ego mind will have to suppress what is ...
Views: 2483 - Your Super Highway - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2012 from Michele Howe Clarke, MBAThe energy that breaths you, that animates your body, is what distinguishes life from death. Are there energy centers throughout your body; it is optimal for your energy to flow freely. When energy gets blocked it leads to dis-ease. Energy gets blocked through stress, stuffed emotions, negative ...
Views: 1890 - Be Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2012 from Margaret Meloni"Do I have to be an extravert to be a good leader?" "Do I have to be able to walk up to strangers and strike up conversations to be a successful leader?" My answer to both of the above: no and no! I receive both of the above (or similar) questions all the time. For some reason people who ...
Views: 1811(1 vote) - Do-It Yourself Emotional Facelift - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2012 from Linda HamptonOur emotions play an integral part in our lives whether it is home and hearth, work, or our business life. If our emotions are out of whack, then the rest of our lives will be out of whack too. This can weigh on your life in many ways, including making us look older, feel older, and go through ...
Views: 1506(1 vote) - Emotional Honesty: What Is Emotional Honesty? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions are part of being human and this means that they play a vital role in each of our lives This could be to inform one of what is going on in their immediate environment or to do with something that is being triggered from their past for example. However, no matter what their reasons ...
Views: 7320 - Emotional Alchemy - Positive Gifts from Negative Emotions - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Ruth WilsonAnger and sadness feel unpleasant. But using simple techniques to channel the energy of negative feelings can transform them into gifts of strength, safety and optimism. All emotions give us information. Negative emotions really get our attention, so consider that the information is ...
Views: 2643 - The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaAnd then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged…You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing. —Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people. But for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of expectations. At mid-life it's ...
Views: 2497(2 votes) - The Perfect Storm for Violence - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2012 from Stephanie MannThe murder of 12 and wounding of 58 people at a theater in Aurora, CO is another national tragedy sparking debate on gun control. Based on my experience as a crime and violence prevention consultant, over the past 35 years, I see a need to share what I have learned about violence. The seed ...
Views: 2456(1 vote) - Money! Power! Sex! - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2012 from Pam GuthrieMoney! Power! Sex! When we have them, and use them well, they are so much fun. When we don’t have them, we have feelings about them. When we misuse them, we have feelings about them. And sometimes we have serious mis-learning around them, and become either abusive or abused with them. As ...
Views: 3316 - The Recreated You! - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2012 from Agu JaachynmaThere is a life of Success Full of all Joy, Peace and Abundance of all Goodies This is the life you have been called To live... It is a higher life in Christ, Void of pain, weakness and hatred In this life you can't be cursed Any one born a second time in Christ Has ...
Views: 1635 - Drama: Why Are Some People Addicted To Drama? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word 'Drama' is commonly heard and used in today's world. This could be to describe something on TV or in a film. It can also describe what is going on in one's life or the life of another person. Dictionary Meaning And on the dictionary.com website drama is described as: 1. a ...
Views: 8857 - Belly Brain - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2012 from Pam GuthrieHere is something fun to try. Pull your stomach in really, really tight. Now totally relax it. What? It didn't totally relax? Well, try it again. Still not? Ok. Not to worry. Just push it out as far as you can. Now try to relax it. What is the deal? Why is relaxing your belly kind of ...
Views: 1291 - Letting Go: Why Is It Hard To Let Go? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term letting go is mentioned, it would be normal to think about physically letting go of something. Just like how one might open their hands and drop something. However, the letting go that I am about to describe here, has more to do with psychologically letting go. This is something ...
Views: 2510 - Self Worth: What Is Self Worth? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different terms that one can use to describe having value and worth. These can be self esteem, self confidence and self belief for example. And self worth is a phrase that I believe encompasses all of these aspects. Self worth is something that is inherent and based on what is ...
Views: 2316 - Emotions as Weather - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaAlthough most people in the country wouldn’t agree, we in Southern California have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we’re so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call “real” ...
Views: 2963(2 votes) - Busting Bad Behaviors - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2012 from Arlene R. Taylor PhD©Arlene R. Taylor PhD Entering the lobby, I walked right into high drama. The principle actor was a slim young woman who was fairly vibrating with emotion. “That’s insulting, demeaning, sexist, racist, and you WILL pay for it!” she screamed, her long pony tail racing in circles. Noticing ...
Views: 1675 - Abused Children: Do Abused Children Need To Forgive Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving on and letting go of an abusive past, it is not uncommon to hear that one needs to forgive. The act of forgiveness is highly regarded by many people and in numerous schools of thought. Religion has also espoused this outlook from the very beginning. So is it really a ...
Views: 2928 - Fame: Why Do Some People Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world fame is not merely seen as a by-product or as a consequence of achieving something; fame is pursued directly and as a goal in and of itself. With there being numerous examples of people who place fame as the ultimate achievement in life and above anything else; it might seem ...
Views: 16227 - Causing a Scene - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2012 from Margaret MeloniScene 1, Take 1 In this movie version of 'The Life of a Team Member' (working title); the camera pans slowly across what appears to be a corporate office. We see workers dressed in business casual walking the hallways, coming in and out of conference rooms and sitting in cubicles. Two team ...
Views: 1823(1 vote) - You Make Me Feel - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2012 from Shelly PriceDo other people make you feel things? Do they make you feel happy or sad? I’m curious. How do they make you feel this way? Do they say, “Hey, here’s a tin of sadness.” Or maybe they say, “Ahh, you need a bucket of happiness. Hold on, I’ve got one here you can have.” Can you find ...
Views: 1773 - How to Connect With Yourself - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2012 from Pam GuthrieWho is the person in your life who treats you the best? Who watches out for you, notices when you are hungry, tired, lonely, angry and then takes care of you? Who knows what you are thinking, so you don’t even have to say a word? Who knows all your favorite things, how you like best to be ...
Views: 2644(1 vote) - Giving Children Choices Fosters Responsibility - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Marvin MarshallYoung people have choices, both conscious and nonconscious. These choices are a significant factor in determining their lives. The sooner young people become aware of this, the earlier they will start to make responsible choices. Young people also become more responsible when they learn that ...
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