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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Childhood Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people on this planet who always have enough and then there are others who never have enough. And it doesn’t matter what state the economy is in either; as there will still be the haves and have not’s. When one thinks about people to have what they want, they may start to ...
Views: 1711 - Boundaries: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to feel safe and when they don’t feel safe, they can end up building walls around themselves. But while one might feel safe though having them, what they won’t be able to do is to embrace life. On the other hand, if one has boundaries they will be able to ...
Views: 1820 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a house or owns a piece of land, they’re going to know how important it is to have a fence or some kind of sign to mark where their property begins and where it ends. So not only will this let other people know where they shouldn’t go without permission, there will also be a ...
Views: 1641 - Humanity: Is Humanity Failing? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to become aware of what is taking place in the world and this is because of how connected the world has become through technology. For instance, one only needs to turn a TV or a computer on or to look at their phone. Here, one will have the chance to consume ...
Views: 3104 - There Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from William CottringerThere Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? By Bill Cottringer Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. There is a very fundamental principle of psychology that ...
Views: 1679 - Entitlement Mentality: Is It Caused By A Lack Of Emotional Growth? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many problems in today’s world and one problem is the much talked about entitlement mentality. And this is a mentality that is seen amongst people of all ages and backgrounds. Two people who have this mentality could be observed and what they believe they are entitled to may vary. ...
Views: 2172 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Self Control? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is taking place externally is relatively easy to notice, the same can’t always be said when it comes to what is taking place internally. Here, one might not be aware of what is going on within them and yet, their actions are still going to be defined by what is taking place there. ...
Views: 1756 - Relationships: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Healthier Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ...
Views: 1536 - Anger: Is Anger An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain emotions that are often described as being negative and others that are often described as being positive. And in today’s world of positive thinking and of always needing to be happy, embracing the other side of one’s emotional spectrum is generally frowned upon. Based on ...
Views: 1872 - Bad Dreams: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bad Dreams? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will be familiar with their dreams, other people won’t be. When some people wake up it is going to be easy for them to remember what took place in most cases and they could keep their dreams alive by writing about what happened. And for others, they might remember what took ...
Views: 1747 - Success: Are You Doing The Same Thing And Expecting A Different Result? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile ones behaviour is not who they are, it is ultimately what defines them in the eyes of others. For people are not judged by what is going on inside their heads, they are judged by what they do. For example, when one wants to find out what another person is like they observe their ...
Views: 1668 - Bleeding Gums: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bleeding Gums? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn todays world, ones image has become incredibly important. And there are all kinds of options for one to choose from when it comes to enhancing their image or even completely transforming it. The style of clothes that one wears can be changed, as can the style and colour of their hair. ...
Views: 4942 - The Media: Does The Media Make People Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the media allows people to be informed about the world they live in, they also allow them to be misinformed. And at times, it is going to be hard to know whether it is the former or the latter that is taking place. One might come to the conclusion that this is because some human beings ...
Views: 1540 - Helpless: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one is constantly having an effect on their environment, it doesn’t mean that they are able to accept this. Some people will be able to see that this is the case and there are going to be others who believe they have no effect whosever. And when someone experiences life in a way that ...
Views: 1701 - You Always Command Choice in Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Frosty WooldridgeBy Frosty Wooldridge Many people drag the past back into the present. Others make excuses for poor choices. Still others wave personal responsibility onto circumstances. Others abandon themselves in favor of the modus operandi of their “shadow” side. When arrested for drugs in her ...
Views: 670(1 vote) - Happiness: Is Life Too Short To Be Unhappy? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had to choose between feeling happy or feeling unhappy it is clear that in most cases they would choose the first option. When one is happy, not only will their inner world change, it is also going to have an effect on their outer world. This inner change will cause their ...
Views: 1969 - Delaying Gratification: Is Delaying Gratification An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs time has passed, there has been a greater need for everything to happen faster. The pace of the world has rapidly increased and a lot of people no longer want to wait for things. In some cases, if someone wants something they will want it now and if they can’t have it now, then they might end ...
Views: 1791 - Neediness: Is Your Neediness Pushing People Away? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having needs is part of being human, there is a big difference between having needs and being ‘needy’. When it comes to ones needs, one is going to be aware of what they are and then go about getting them met. And at times they will be met and at times they won’t be. So in this case, ...
Views: 4570 - Assumptions: Are Assumptions Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life, and what was acceptable at one point in time, is not necessarily acceptable at another. And while this can be a sign of growth, it can also be a sign that opinions have changed and therefore mean very little in terms of social evolution. The fact that women are ...
Views: 6200 - Gratitude: Is Gratitude Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one does something for another and they are grateful, it is going to create a better impression than if they were ungrateful. This response if likely to endear them to the giver and it could mean that the other person is only too happy to offer their hand in the future. And the same ...
Views: 1814 - Grounded: Is Human Touch An Important Part Of Feeling Grounded? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear people say that they feel ungrounded and while this may be a term that is more commonly used amongst people who are into self development, it is something that anyone can experience. It therefore won’t matter if they are into self development or not, as they can still ...
Views: 1884 - Invisible: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Invisible? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the desire to be seen is part of being human and as human beings are interdependent, it is a vital part of not only being able to survive, but to thrive. If human beings were inherently independent, then it wouldn’t matter if they were seen by others or not. One’s ability to survive ...
Views: 1695 - Self Awareness: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Self Awareness? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has no awareness of themselves it is going to lead to problems in their life. They could end up constantly blaming other people for what is or what is not happening to them and be oblivious to the part that they are playing. Pointing the finger towards other people may lead to ...
Views: 1454 - How Your Memories Can Make You Angry And How You Can Manage It - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Frank HealyAnger and vindictiveness always comes from the belief that one is cheated and their life is unfair. For Eliott Rogers, it seems that the memories that he focused on were of two varieties which, in combination can cause anger and rage. The first type of memory is one that you are a nice person ...
Views: 2947 - Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone’s death. This is not to say that it won’t have an effect on someone’s wellbeing though. For example: if one doesn’t receive ...
Views: 2083 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the opposite sex can do things that will cause one to feel fear and to want to keep their distance, there is also the chance that one will feel this way no matter what they do. It is then not something that depends on how another person behaves; it is something that one experiences as a ...
Views: 1870 - Attention Seeking Behaviour: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen and recognised is something that most human beings want to experience. And while this is part of being human and nothing to feel ashamed of, these needs are going to vary from person to person. For some people, receiving a moderate amount of attention will be enough to enhance ...
Views: 4158 - The Media: Does The Media Create Division? - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often believe that the media is there to simply inform them about what is going on in the world, this is not always the case. Instead, there is often a hidden agenda and what the media focuses on is therefore intended to create a certain reaction. At times, it can be relatively ...
Views: 1998 - Success: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Successful? - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people are asked what they want in life they will often say success. And while this can be the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone has the same meaning of what that actually means. There are going to be other people who are already successful and they are probably going to say that they ...
Views: 8774 - Needy: Why Are Some People Needy? - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part is part of being human and this means they are nothing to be ashamed or something that one should try to remove. If each and every one of us was inherently independent, then we wouldn’t have needs. But as we are all interdependent, it means that we all have needs. ...
Views: 2899 - Happiness: Can Money Buy Happiness? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile money can give someone the power to buy most things in life, it is often said that what it can buy is happiness. It then won’t matter how much money someone has, as the size of their ‘bank account’ won’t make any difference. And while being happy is something that most people want to ...
Views: 1796 - Inner Conflict: Is Inner Conflict Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is free from inner conflict, they are going to be able to experience inner peace. Not only this, but they will also experience a sense of clarity and this is going to make their life a lot easier. One could find that it is relatively easy for them to make decisions and for them to ...
Views: 2054 - Communication: Is It Important To Acknowledge Others? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings not only want to be noticed by others, they also want to be appreciated by them. But while these are two needs that each and every one of us would like to have fulfilled, it does mean that other people will always fulfil them. Generally, one would have ...
Views: 6217 - Emotionally Undeveloped: Why Are Some People Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNot every part of a human being develops at the same rate, and this is to be expected. If one was to look at nature and see how a tree grows, they will soon see that the branches are not all the same length. Some are longer than others and at the same time, it hasn’t affected the tree. It is ...
Views: 4493 - Acceptance: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Accept Themselves? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest needs a human being has is to be accepted for who they are. But while this is the case, it doesn’t necessarily mean that one has been able to fulfil this need or that they believe it is even possible for them to fulfil it. If people were generally encouraged to be ...
Views: 3635 - Regret: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Have Regrets? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes a certain action or a number of actions that don’t lead to the outcome that they desired, there is the chance that they will later come to experience regret. And while there is nothing that one can to do to change what took place, they will suffer nevertheless. This is ...
Views: 1631 - The Media: Does The Media Define What Is Attractive? - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world people don’t have to come to their own conclusions about what the world is like or what is true or what is not, as the media is there to do it for them. Now, if what the media presented was always accurate and there were no hidden agendas, this would be fine. But the ...
Views: 1511 - Life Choices: Optimism vs. Pessimism - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Frosty WooldridgeBy Frosty Wooldridge “To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.” Christian D. Larson (Life can be an uplifting ...
Views: 1171(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1719 - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1854(1 vote) - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress Others? - by Submitted on May 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings, it is normal to want to look good, to give things, and to experience success for example. And yet, it is also possible for one to engage in each of these things just to impress others. To do this from time to time could be described as normal, but if one was to do this as a ...
Views: 28368 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Always Need To Be Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperBehind the desire to achieve and to have more can be the need for someone to fulfil their own wants and needs. And other people are also going to provide inspiration. No one is their own island and it is only natural that other people are going to play a part in what one does or doesn’t do ...
Views: 14463(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Walk All Over Others? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are used to having people walk all over them, there are other people who are used to walking all over others. The former is going to live a life of being violated and compromised, and the latter is going to live a life of violating and compromising others. Now, not everyone ...
Views: 2744 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Worthy When They Are Successful? - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can feel worthy as a result of they are, other people can only feel worthy as a result of what they do. In the first case, ones worth has been internalised, and in the other, their worth is based on external factors. So the first person can just be and feel valuable without ...
Views: 1591 - Mindfulness: Can Mindfulness Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on May 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one reacts to what is going on externally or to what is going on internally, they are not experiencing self control and at times, this is to be expected; human beings are not robots after all. However, when one experiences no self control whosoever, they are going to find it difficult to ...
Views: 1737 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Fear Setting Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to protect ones personal space and what they own, it will be important for them to set boundaries. Other people are not always going to know what ones boundaries are; if people could reads minds, it would be different. At times, other people will know what is appropriate and what is ...
Views: 3937 - Resilience: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Resilience? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPain is part of life, and while this much is true, it doesn’t mean that this makes it any easier to accept it. And while there will be times when one does all they can to avoid pain, there will be other times when they are forced to face it. Experiencing pleasure is something that is more ...
Views: 1473 - True Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Supported When They Are Hiding Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living ones truth, feeling supported is incredibly important. For if one doesn’t feel supported when comes to their own needs and wants, there is the chance that they will deny them. This could take place at certain times, or it could be something that has become a way of ...
Views: 1489 - Interpretations: Do Our Interpretations Define How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can be said about human beings is that we all want to feel good. This need is something that can enhance one’s life, and at the same time, it can also create problems. It can cause someone to grow and to evolve, and it can also cause them to stay stuck or to regress. For ...
Views: 1673 - Dependent: Why Are Some People Dependent? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about what it means to be an adult, being independent is never too far away. Here, one will be empowered to live their own life and to support themselves. So whereas a child is dependent on their caregivers to survive, an adult is not dependent on anyone in particular. And so ...
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