When it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Vincenzo Santiglia.

This is someone who is based in Italy and teaches around the world and offers one to one consultations.

The Beginning

In a previous article on influential people, I mentioned about being on a course in Antwerp, Belgium. This was in 2009 and it was here that I first came into contact with Vincenzo. This was someone who stood out and was different from all of the people that I met on the course.

He had a very peaceful and calming presence and there was a fatherly nature about him. During the course I rarely came into contact with him, but there was a time when we worked together.

And it was here that he said something that shocked and surprised me at the time. He said that I had the ability to hold the space. Now, this was someone one who could definitely hold the space and yet I found this observation hard to accept.

The Time Between

Once the course had finished and I was back in the England, I didn’t think much about what had happened. In the beginning of 2010 I came across some information regarding a new technique that Vincenzo had formed.

This was called The Now Technique. And being the curious individual that I am, I had to experience the technique for myself.

The Technique

Up until this point, I had often come into contact with healing approaches that were about changing things or ones that focused on certain things. But this was a technique that didn’t focus on one thing and exclude everything else.

What mattered here was awareness and being the watcher or the silent witness. The intention was not to change or alter anything; it was simply to observe everything. This related to: thoughts feelings, emotions, images and sensations; with a focus on the breath.

And although I had had a heightened sense of awareness from a young age, I was still very much identified to my mind and had rarely been able to detach from it.


However, after working with Vincenzo, my ability to observe my emotions, feelings, thoughts and sensations greatly improved. This lead to a completely different outlook on how I saw myself and how I saw life.

For most of my life, I thought that I was my past and what my mind and body was telling me, but though this process I came to understand that I was not my past and that my mind didn’t always represent the truth.


It was during this time that I wrote my first article. Through being assisted by Vincenzo it enabled me to continually develop my ability to observe myself and to recognise the patterns in my life and how they often originated in my childhood.

The articles that I have been writing for over two years now are clear examples of pattern recognition and being the observer.


Although my first impression of Vincenzo was perhaps a bit overwhelming, I soon came to see him as being: supportive, loving, kind and patient. And one of the most influential people I have met on my journey so far. This was someone who had a child like innocence about him.

During the loss of my father and numerous other sets backs and losses, he was there with his gentle support and guidance.

The Heart

As I had operated from an intellectual level for much of my life; connecting to my heart had been something that I struggled with for many years. And after many hours of being assisted by Vincenzo, I gradually began to connect to my heart.

My heart had a voice of its own and was very different to what my mind was coming up with. And through connecting to my heart, I started to listen to what it had to say. This become a dialogue between my mind and my heart.

Through this process, my mind began to settle down and to be regulated by my heart. And after a while, I felt the need to share these dialogues. And this became – A Dialogue With The Heart.


This is someone who has had a big impact on my life and enabled me to develop existing talents and to find others. And it is hard to say what might have happened if hadn’t of worked with Vincenzo. To find out more, go to - http://thenowtechnique.com/.

Author's Bio: 

My name is Oliver J R Cooper and I have been on a journey of self awareness for over nine years and for many years prior to that I had a natural curiosity.

For over two years, I have been writing articles. These cover psychology and communication. This has also lead to poetry.

One of my intentions is to be a catalyst to others, as other people have been and continue to be to me. As well as writing articles and creating poetry, I also offer personal coaching. To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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