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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in MarriageIs Divorce Harder for Christians than for Everyone Else?What God and the Bible Really Say About Divorce- Separated Parents: It’s not Quantum of Time, but Quality of Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldIf you get hung up on the quantum of time, you may lose sight of the quality of your relationship now and for the future. At the end of the day some separated parents fight tooth and nail over how the children’s time will be divvied up between them. Children are even drawn into the dispute, ...
Views: 1293(1 vote) - Yes. They Shoot the Messenger in Child Custody/Access Cases - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldA parent called me asking for me to provide an assessment. I explained I do not provide court involved services anymore and explained why. The caller asked for a referral to someone who did. I offered the name of a respected colleague. The caller emailed thereafter and included in the email ...
Views: 1072 - 4 Tips to Resist the Fight on the Way to the Negotiating Table - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldYou finally recognize that your adversarial battle isn’t resolving your dispute. You’re draining your resources both financially and emotionally. You don’t believe your former partner would ever negotiate a truce, let alone a settlement. Mediation is discussed and one person says they’ll go but ...
Views: 1327 - 5 Tips to Manage at the Negotiating Table - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldYour behavior, how you conduct yourself at the negotiating table can work for you or against you. Remember, this is a negotiating table, not a court of law or arbitrator’s office. In negotiating, there is little to prove and all to negotiate. Negotiation is about how to move forward, not ...
Views: 1252 - Getting Through the 6 Stages of Mediation - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldMediation is not a single event, not a one-time meeting where magically issues are resolved. No. Mediation is a process that occurs with very predictable steps. Understanding these steps to the process can help you manage through the process. Separated parents entering mediation may meet ...
Views: 1295 - The Myth of the Protection Order - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldPersons subject to domestic violence (or violence in the context of any relationship) may need protection from the perpetrator of violence. To protect oneself, one can go to a place of greater safety (no place is 100% safe, although most women’s shelters offer a number of safeguards to ...
Views: 1263 - Beyond Court there is a World of Better Options to Resolve Parental Conflict. Here’s Four: - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldWhen locked in bitter conflict, sometimes people resort to court. This can result in poor outcomes as the court is more limited in terms of solutions that can be ordered. What is needed is a flexible approach to service and services that are actually structured to address specific issues. ...
Views: 1041 - Three Settlement Processes When Court Looks Like a Train Careening Out of Control - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldLet’s say you are involved in a litigation (court) process to address a parenting dispute and it looks like that train is careening out of control. You can’t foresee using mediation or collaborative law because either you or your former partner won’t agree to this. There may be a ...
Views: 1077 - Instead of Litigation and the Inherent Conflict of Interest - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldYou are in conflict with your former partner. You see a family lawyer who tells you s/he can be of assistance. The lawyer offers to send a letter of introduction to your former partner or their lawyer and in so doing, sets the tone for the process of settlement. That first communication often ...
Views: 1077 - Infidelity - How to Help your spouse Heal from Your affair - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola Beer* If you’ve had an affair, are regretful and desperate to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading these tips. * If you are the betrayed spouse and your cheating partner is unintentionally hurting you in his/her attempts to make you feel better, put this ...
Views: 2226 - How to Change the 5 Negative Thought Patterns that Lead to Divorce... and Transform Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerAfter the honeymoon period in a relationship is over, and our partner raises complaints about us, or does things we don't agree with or is somehow absent, we often start to make or draw slightly negative conclusions about them or the relationship. Typically it starts off as a thought one day, ...
Views: 1739 - Couples Therapy - How to Deal with Your Spouses Annoying Habits - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerWhat are your spouse's most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, sit, clean up or snore when they sleep? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune or crack their knuckles? And when was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An hour ago? One of the most ...
Views: 1739 - Marriage Counselling Tip - How to Avoid Angry Silence & Outbursts in Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerAnger is a normal, healthy emotion, it’s perfectly healthy to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged by someone you love, but when it becomes consistent or explosive anger or spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for your marriage, your health, and your state of ...
Views: 1606 - 7 Ways To Stop Work Stress From Ruining Your Marriage - Marriage Counseling Advice - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerThere is no doubt that work stress has become an increasing factor in marital dissatisfaction. Today couples work on average a thousand more hours each year than people did thirty years ago. This number tends to increase further in expat cities, as well as if you are an entrepreneur. All the ...
Views: 1555 - Infidelity - 4 Steps To Affair Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Nicola BeerWhen it comes to infidelity and after the affair recovery in couple therapy, here are the top 3 common questions I often get asked: Is it possible to avoid affairs and affair-proof your marriage? Are there ways to ruin my cheating husband's / wife's affair and show them what they have with ...
Views: 1317 - Couple Therapy - 5 Secrets to Protecting Yourself From Your Spouses Negativity - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Nicola Beer"Nicola, my husband is chronically complaining and forever in a bad mood. He manages to find something wrong with everything and is constantly feeling hard done by and down. I don’t know how to help him or live with him at times! I don’t want him to ruin the holidays for me and the children ...
Views: 1405 - Terrible Things to Avoid When Getting Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2016 from Jenna JamesLove is like a double blade knife. At one edge it's inspiring, at the other it's expiring. While it makes one live, at some point it can also be fatal. At times it encourages but there are times when it discourages. Undeniably, most heartbroken gals tend to become desperate especially at the ...
Views: 1286(1 vote) - Relationships: Can A Relationship End Before Two People Hate Each Other? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship gets to a point where it is no longer working, each person is likely to feel different to how they felt in the beginning. When they spend time in each others company, they could be thinking about how long it will be until their time together will come to an end. However, ...
Views: 1442 - The Challenge of Forgiveness - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2016 from Darlene LancerForgiveness can sometimes feel impossible or even undesirable. Other times, we forgive only to be hurt again and conclude that forgiving was foolish. Both situations arise from confusion about what forgiveness really means. Forgiveness doesn’t require that we forget or condone another’s actions ...
Views: 1815(1 vote) - Abusers Abuse despite Abandonment Anxiety - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2016 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The abuser abuses his intimate partners, significant others, and nearest and dearest because it helps him to regulate his excruciating abandonment anxiety in 4 ways: (1) By devaluing others, he restores his sense of ...
Views: 2469 - 509 How To Reconnect With An Ex Lover - How To Reconnect With An Ex After No Contact - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2016 from Patrick UadialeReconnecting with an ex lover after a breakup can be extremely tough, especially if the breakup was your fault. Depending on how the relationship ended, the actions you take to get your ex lover back will greatly vary. The best way to approach your ex after the breakup, how to properly ...
Views: 3469 - We Broke Up But I Still Love Him - Why Is It So Hard For My Ex Boyfriend To Let Me Back In - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2016 from Patrick UadialeYou may be wondering how I know I can get my ex boyfriend back and why I think he still loves me but seriously, I can and I do. I can get my ex back because I have been through this before and I know he still loves me because he isn't seeing any body new. Have you said this to yourself ...
Views: 1082 - We Broke Up But I Want Him Back - How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Attention Back - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2016 from Patrick UadialeI want him back, a common enough feeling for women to have. I truly believe it is possible to find new love from a past romance. I want you to notice that you once had a connection with your ex, re-establishing that connection is actually easier because of this. I know the connection hurts ...
Views: 1205 - I Love My Ex Boyfriend And I Want Him Back - I Still Love Him - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2016 from Patrick UadialeSo, your boyfriend hates you, or perhaps he said he doesn't love you anymore and you feel like you've just lost the most important thing in your life. Don't worry too much, most of the time this is not a statement of true feelings, and more of a reflection of a moment of anger or situational ...
Views: 2961 - How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track With Your Ex Boyfriend / Girlfriend After A Break-Up - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2016 from Patrick UadialeWhat you do after the break up matters! Relationships on the verge of permanently falling apart can still be saved, but only few are successful. That's because unfavorable moves and mistakes are done on days following the big breakup. Heartbroken people are so weighed down by what happened that ...
Views: 3255 - The Best Therapy Is a Great Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2016 from Linda and Charlie BloomCHARLIE: At its best, psychotherapy creates a warm and understanding relationship through which we face ourselves and our feelings honestly in a way that allows us to heal from past wounds and accept ourselves as we are. It is the therapist’s very being, rather than her philosophy or ...
Views: 1271(1 vote) - 698 How To Get Him Back After An Argument - How To Get Your Boyfriend Back After A Fight - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Michael UadialeThe two of you have had a massive fight. You're worried because it's been several days since it happened and you have yet to hear from him. Being a woman in this position is never easy. You replay the conflict back over in your mind and you wish with everything that you could find a way to ...
Views: 4779 - 2387 Should I Tell My Ex I Miss Him - I Miss My Ex Boyfriend Should I Contact Him - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2016 from Michael Uadiale"I want my ex boyfriend to miss me." Have you said that recently? Do you wish for nothing more than a second chance with your ex? Sadly, many women feel exactly the same way you do. Going through a break up is hard enough. It's overwhelming when you are still in love with your boyfriend. It's ...
Views: 1089 - I Just Want My Ex Boyfriend Back - He'll Come Crawling Back With This Surefire Tip - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2016 from Michael Uadiale"I want to get my ex back, but everything I do seems to push him away!" "How can I get my ex boyfriend back when everything I do seems to take us farther apart?" I get questions like this every day from women who want to repair their relationships with their ex-boyfriends--but who seem to ...
Views: 2859 - I Want To Tell My Ex I Miss Him - Tips For Women Who Want Him Back - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2016 from Michael UadialeAre you missing your ex boyfriend? "I miss my ex boyfriend" seems to be so common among women who have just broken up. It is a human instinct that you miss a person or thing that does not belong to you anymore and this theory can also be applied to relationships. However, you need to know ...
Views: 5725 - Overnights for Your Infants and Toddlers Benefits the Children & the Parents - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2016 from Diana MercerAs part of your mediated settlement, an extensive amount of time will be spent discussing your custody decisions and parenting plan. With approximately over 40% of all marriages in the United States ending in divorce, over thousands of children spend at least a few years living in single-parent ...
Views: 873 - How Long Do I Wait Before I Try To Get My Ex Back? Here's What You Need to Do! - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2016 from Michael UadialeWe broke up in March, did not have any kind of contact until May when I initiated contact via Facebook. We send each other emails and talk on the phone once in a while. Back in June I asked him if we should give the relationship another chance and he said he is not ready to get back with me ...
Views: 1042 - My Ex Boyfriend is Playing Mind Games! Great Tips to Get Even With Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Michael UadialeI recently got a letter from a visitor to the blog who said essentially, “my boyfriend is playing mind games, and I’m tired of it.” That I could understand. It’s difficult trudging through the emotions you’re already feeling related to the break up, but when your ex decides now is the time to ...
Views: 10469 - How Can I Make Him Realize What He Lost? Get Your Ex Boyfriend to Regret the Break Up - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Michael UadialeThe question you’re wishing you had an answer to is, “how can I make him realize what he lost?” It’s understandable given the circumstances that you’ve been forced to deal with. You were dumped by a man you utterly adored. You know, deep within your heart, that you’re the perfect woman for him. ...
Views: 13238 - Should I Tell My Ex Boyfriend I’m Doing No Contact or Not? Here’s the Scoop - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Michael UadialeOne question I’m repeatedly asked by women on my blog is, “should I tell my ex boyfriend I’m doing no contact or not?” It’s a legitimate question and if you’re unsure you should always double check either by searching for some information online or asking someone with a bit more insight. Here’s ...
Views: 10677 - Should I Have a Heart to Heart Talk with My Ex Boyfriend? Why This May Not Help - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Michael UadialeYou’re a woman. You feel things deeply, don’t you? You love ferociously and when you’re hurt you can feel it in every corner of your heart. Since you and your boyfriend parted ways, your life has been in turmoil. You miss him and the break up has forced you to really realize just how much he ...
Views: 3264 - 5 Things To Do To Get Over A Breakup and Feel Empowered - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Julia Maria NicaAt some point after sobbing one to many times you are probably going to find your self asking. What are some things to do to get over a breakup? When a relationship doesn't work out, and you look at it realistically. Most relationships are not healthy. A healthy relationship is designed with ...
Views: 1460 - BREAKUP RECOVERY - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2016 from Darlene LancerBreakups can be severely painful. Love stimulates such powerful and pleasurable neuro-chemicals that rejection can feel like withdrawal from a drug. It can compel us to engage in obsessive thinking and compulsive behavior, even in animals. Rejection and breakups are especially hard for ...
Views: 1778(1 vote) - When “Make Nice” Doesn’t Work In Divorce (by: Anne Brown PhD, RN) | DivorceForce - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownUnfortunately, there are several types of people who are going to be contentious in a divorce and they have to be handled differently. And many personnel involved in the divorce process do not prepare or educate the spouse of a contentious person correctly. If you have ever been told or if you ...
Views: 869(1 vote) - 6 Tools for Resiliency in Recovery - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownResiliency and Recovery have a nice ring. The two R’s! Having a backbone makes this process a lot easier. Resiliency is having the ability to adapt in the face of adversity. The more you know yourself, the greater your self-awareness, and the greater your backbone, the greater your chance ...
Views: 1681(1 vote) - What to Expect Of a Divorce Attorney - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Lora DavisThe rough waters of breaking the marriage bond can be one harrowing experience that tests people to the utmost. Usually, there are many issues to deal with such as spousal and child support, property division and child custody, all of which are very emotional and especially at a time when one is ...
Views: 680 - Divorce Visitation Requests from Your Child (by: Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, RN CS) | DivorceForce - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownDear Mom and Dad, Please remember my life has been turned upside down and I never had a vote. I don't have a rulebook to negotiate waters totally unfamiliar to me. It is really hard for me to understand that my family has broken up. I feel scared that I will loose one or both of you. I don't ...
Views: 1025(2 votes) - 5 Ways to Avoid Court at all Costs! (by: Anne Brown PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 12, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownDivorce can be ugly. Courts can make it uglier. I think we are all in agreement "settle out of court". How can a couple do that when they are fighting to the extent they are filing for divorce? You are probably going to get tired of hearing me say first always "Fight for your Marriage." 1. ...
Views: 1541(1 vote) - Dos and Don’ts of Visitation From the Therapist! (by: Anne Brown PhD,RNCS) - by Submitted on May 12, 2016 from Dr. Anne Brown"The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other." ~ Jane Bauston Do treat your Children like Gold! Remember you just turned your children's life (and they didn't have a vote) upside down. They now have to decipher new rules, new logistics, probable logistical ...
Views: 1347(1 vote) - Tips for Winning a Child Custody Case - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Lora DavisWhen it comes to determining divorce cases, there are three major players in the process: divorce lawyers, your spouse’s attorney, and the judge. Your attorney is there to advocate for your interests while your spouse’s attorney will be taking care of his or her interests. The judge will always ...
Views: 870 - Divorce Support: A Curse or a Blessing? (by: Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownIt really is up to you every day whether you see divorce support as a curse or a blessing! Whether you are the giver or the receiver, I recommend you reframe it as a blessing. Is this easy? Of course not! However, if you actually go through the trauma of getting divorced and you stay married ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - 6 Things I Wish I Knew Then That I Know Now After My Divorce (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN) | DivorceForce - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownWe always hear people say, "I wish I knew then what I know now," so here is some help if you are navigating a divorce now ... 1.Believe in Yourself! Three words that are so powerful they can change any "I can't into "I can". When you hear the words "I want a divorce", there will be times ...
Views: 1892(1 vote) - Collaborative Divorce: The Best Way to Divorce in California - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2016 from Diana MercerYou have decided your marriage is not working out. You want to divorce, but your friends have told you horror stories about dragging your divorce through the court system. You remember reading an article about Gwyneth Paltrow’s “conscious uncoupling” and her decision to use mediation instead of ...
Views: 1126 - Should We Get Divorced? (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN CS) - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownHonor your children by fighting for your marriage and if you decide to divorce, do it with dignity! If you are at the point of asking this question, you have some distinctions to consider. Never threaten your partner with divorce to get his/her attention. Never make the divorce decision ...
Views: 1222(2 votes) - 9 Great Tips from Experts on Divorce Recovery | DivorceForce - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownApril is Divorce Recovery Month! We asked a number of contributors to the DivorceForce Community for their input on "divorce recovery" and here is part 1 of some of the responses we received. **Anne Brown PhD RNMSCS http://www.backbonepower.com - Make a list of 2-3 things you want to be ...
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