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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in MarriageIs Divorce Harder for Christians than for Everyone Else?What God and the Bible Really Say About Divorce- Is it Live or is it Memorex? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Anthony DiazI was reminded by a commercial many years ago (which will of course date me from the 60's LOL!). There was singer Ella Fitzgerald with a high pitch voice near a wine glass. The commercial showed the glass shattering. Next was a view of a cassette tape player (hopefully I am not the only one ...
Views: 2803 - Wherever You Go, There You Are. - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Anthony DiazHow many times have we gone on vacation or somewhere away, have an amazing time only to return home wishing we were back? I don't know about you but it has happened to me countless times. Why does this phenomenon occur in our lives and what does it mean? When we are in a different place, ...
Views: 1476 - Opposites Attract, But They May Not Last, Unless… - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Michael BroderMost couples can name several ways in which they’re opposites: neatness versus sloppiness; extroversion versus introversion; being high-strung versus laid-back preferring city versus country living, etc. And I'm sure you have something in mind that's specific to you. It’s true that quite often ...
Views: 1784 - Should I Stay or Should I Go? Take this Self-Assessment - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2014 from Michael BroderIf your relationship were afire, is it still burning strongly? Flickering? Smoldering? Does it need kindling? A log? Or has the last spark of it burned out to the point where it's even too late for more oxygen? After all, your relationship at one time had to be on fire in order for it to burn ...
Views: 1896 - When Your Relationship is Rocky, Look Right at Your Expectations - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Michael BroderOne of the best ways to think of a relationship on the rocks is to reflect on your expectations for your relationship. What are they? What is it that you really want from your partner? What could your partner do now that would — from your point of view — make the relationship work again? Make a ...
Views: 1932 - Your Relationship is in Trouble: Has Your Partner Changed or Just Your View of Then Vs. Now? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2014 from Michael BroderThe title of a great and popular old Off-Broadway play captures one of the most common sentiments I've seen when working with distressed couples: I Love You, You're Perfect, Now Change. If you have discovered that for some reason you and your partner are no longer growing together as a couple, ...
Views: 1850 - PTSD and Military Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Abigail FazelatThere is no doubt that Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can put strain on any relationship, but marriages are especially affected, and many of them can lead to divorce. The military is notorious for its exceptionally high divorce rates, and while this fact exists for various reasons, among ...
Views: 2467 - The New You! - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Womens Recreation, Inc.Reinventing yourself is not about getting rid of old ways and ideas. It is about taking away what you need from them; heartbreak, sadness, being stepped on and lied to, and creating a brand new person who sees their self a lot more clearly. The energy around a situation or circumstance is ...
Views: 1552 - Learning From Loss: Five Lessons Divorce Can Teach Us - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Lauretta ZucchettiIt goes without saying that divorces are intricately complicated and intensely personal. They can be necessary or unwanted; devastating or invigorating. Regardless of the reasons why a couple elects to divorce, or the range of emotions it can produce, it’s a life changing experience that ...
Views: 1599 - ***7 Things You Should Know about Your First Post-Divorce Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWell, you got through your divorce, settled in to your new life as best you can, and now you are in your first important, post-divorce intimate relationship. You’re excited and relieved — yet also wary. You wonder if this new relationship is a go? Your doubts are not unfounded. After all, ...
Views: 2208 - ***Over 40 and Divorced: 7 Things Women Need to Know before Dating and Mating Again - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishYour divorce is final, and you are glad, sad, excited and scared all at the same time. You love your nights to yourself — for a while — and then you wonder if you can ever be optimistic about finding love again. The good news is that this roller coaster of feelings and doubt is ...
Views: 4733 - Dr. Romance: Make your Marriage Work - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Getting your Marriage Back on Track Every relationship has its ups and downs. Is your marriage struggling right now? If you're trying to get it back on track, here are tips to help. 1. Don’t hold a grudge. Talk about what’s bothering you in a rational way. ...
Views: 1835(1 vote) - Three Ways to Let Go of Self-Sabotaging Stories - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Debra PayneStories can create your reality. Which reality will you choose? What kinds of stories do you tell yourself? Here are a few common examples of stories: • I can’t lose weight! • I’ll never find love! • I’m too old, fat, thin, stupid, short, tall, etcetera! Stories are the collection ...
Views: 1756 - You Can't Fall Apart Now - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Tina Tessina3 Tips to Maintaining Your Sanity During Divorce Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce. 1. Know your rights: If you’re even considering divorce, spend the money for one consult with a reputable, good attorney (preferably, recommended by a friend who went through ...
Views: 1905 - Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ...
Views: 1954(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Ending your Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaRelationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go: 1. Your partner keeps going out of ...
Views: 1819(1 vote) - But My Parents Divorced...Will I? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 Must Do's If You Want To Break The Cycle If you're the adult child of a divorce or simply trying to improve your marriage, here are three tips to help you cultivate a good relationship with your partner. 1. Weekly State of the Union discussion. This is not an argument or complaint ...
Views: 2096(1 vote) - 3 Sure-Fire Relationship Killers - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from nancy traversWhen couples get married they never think they will be among those who get divorced. Yet a hefty percentage of marriages do end in divorce, so some of these people who can’t imagine divorce on their wedding day will certainly face that prospect eventually. Psychologists have identified behaviors ...
Views: 1593 - Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date! You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes: 1. Pay Attention! You Have Things to ...
Views: 1753(1 vote) - Parental Peace – The Real Christmas Gift for Kids - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Gary DirenfeldEven though parents argue as to the best residential schedule, choice of school, faith, holiday time, Christmas and extra-curricular activities, these issues are simply not as predictive for the outcome of children of separated parents as conflict alone. More to the point, the greater the ...
Views: 1442 - Internet Complaints Against Mental Health Professionals - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Gary DirenfeldWorking with parents whose marriages are on the cusp of failure or already separated parents fighting it out over the care of their children is a challenging proposition for the mental health professional. Whether acting in the role of couple therapist, mediator, assessor, arbitrator or ...
Views: 1448 - Can You Really Find Love The 2nd Time Around? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ...
Views: 1711(1 vote) - Communication Breakdown: Steps To Better Communication With Your Spouse to Avoid Divorce - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferEvery couple has a communication breakdown in their marriage at some point. In fact, most couples have numerous breakdowns in communication throughout their marriage. Communication is really a simple thing, but somehow as humans, we complicate things and blur the lines of communication with ...
Views: 3075(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Every time I think about him it just hurts - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really ...
Views: 1622(1 vote) - Karma: The Pros and Cons of Cheating in a Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Scott & Stephen PetulloThe statistics of recurring studies around the world show that cheating in relationships is far more common than everyday appearances let on; an average of 45% of respondents claim to have cheated in a relationship, and that doesn't include those who haven't admitted to an affair or ...
Views: 5533 - How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Tina Tessina4 Real Ways To Make It Work Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. ...
Views: 1607(1 vote) - Horses are Natural Peacemakers...that's what they are perfect for the emotional impact of divorce - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Chanti-Louise ClelandHorses are natural peacemakers As I was growing up, I often found myself in the role of family peacemaker and wondered what it would take for people to focus more on the ways that connected them rather than divided them particularly within families. I guess this is one of the reasons why ...
Views: 1037 - 3 Tips Single Parents Need To Know - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaHow To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting. 1. Be a Grownup. I know you’ve probably had a tough time, but you’re a parent, and your child’s ...
Views: 1754(1 vote) - Out with the Old – In with the New - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Anthony DiazDoesn't it seem that life was so much easier when there were no IPhone’s, IPad’s, IPod's, texting , IM’s, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn? Now everyone has smart phones, e-mails and voice mail. Add the pressure from work, the economy, money issues and the housing market and it’s no wonder our ...
Views: 1008 - How to Handle the End of Your Long-Term Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Scott & Stephen PetulloHow to end a long-term relationship? It's never easy, especially when you've built your lives around each other and you thought it would last forever. Before you end a long-term relationship, make sure you've done all you can to salvage it. In addition to solution-based communication (rather ...
Views: 1084 - Are You Remarried? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Let Divorce Muddy Your Marriage - 3 Tips Are you remarried? Are you trying to make this new relationship work. Dr. Romance offers three tips to help this new marriage work better than the first one. 1. Understand your baggage. You both have leftovers from earlier ...
Views: 1729(1 vote) - Four Secrets To A Happy Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSave Your Relationship With 4 Easy Steps Dr. Romance’s four simple steps to create a successful marriage. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other. Share your ideas and issues about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of ...
Views: 1654(1 vote) - Are You The One Who Wanted It To Work? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 Must Do's + 2 Don'ts That Can Help You Today Are you about to be dumped? Your mate/date is losing interest? The signs are: lack of attention in conversation and being together; irritability -- refusal to talk about it, no sex or less interest. Here's what to do if you ARE dumped. 1. DO ...
Views: 1784(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My husband is curious about sex with men. - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been happily married for 9 years, and we have a good sex life. We love each other very much,and want to grow old together. He served two wars in Iraq. About two years ago, I started being concerned about his sexual behavior relating to men. He used to ...
Views: 2320(2 votes) - THE POWER OF ADDICTED LOVE - BEING A CODEPENDENT TO AN ABUSER, DRUG ADDICT, ALCOHOLIC. A story of survival. - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2013 from Teresa HamiltonMaricopa resident Teresa Hamilton still remembers how hopeless she felt watching her purse sink to the bottom of her family’s swimming pool. The summer sun was bearing down, and her alcoholic and drug-addicted husband had just returned home intoxicated and looking for a fight. Hoping to ...
Views: 1207 - Baby Boomer? Getting Divorced? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaTwo Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older marrieds, who may have been together for a long time. You are likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a ...
Views: 1694(1 vote) - Is Name Calling Verbal Abuse? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2013 from Rabbi Shlomo SlatkinVerbal abuse often starts out subtle. A put-down here or there or a minor insult may be the first signs of verbal abuse. Over time, it can turn into name calling and threats of physical harm. This post will tell you more about the cycle of verbal abuse, the results of verbal abuse, how to stop ...
Views: 1236 - ***Should I Try To Save My Marriage? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, physical, mental – many failing marriages and relationships are simply not ...
Views: 2158(24 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaInfidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with ...
Views: 1587(1 vote) - Caring For Parents = Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from Tina Tessina7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Helping Family Members If your parents are elderly and becoming infirm, or if there are others who require special care in your family, due to disability or illness the situation you will need to figure out how to maintain a balance between your ...
Views: 1778 - A rant about having sex with an ex whilst healing - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Adele TheronThere is an article in the Daily Mail today entitled “Why ‘ex-sex’ CAN be a good idea: Sleeping with an old lover lessens psychological distress of break-up… if you’re not over him” Apparently research from the University of Arizona (published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology) ...
Views: 1542 - How to Live with and *Understand* an Angry Spouse - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Rabbi Shlomo SlatkinOne of the most common yet challenging issues I see when working with couples is anger. Anger is one of the most powerful and most destructive human emotions. The long-term damage it can have on a marriage can be irreparable as it tears apart the trust and safety in a relationship. Here are a ...
Views: 1500(1 vote) - A "Whats-Best-for-Our-Child" Mindset is Critical in Co-Parenting After a Divorce or Separation - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2013 from Lance ClaeryDisagreements regarding your children are natural when a marriage or relationship ends. Each parent's life moves on in a new direction and as a result disagreements arise about custody, visitation, and decision-making regarding the children. A look at the policies behind California's custody ...
Views: 1900(7 votes) - Do You Respect The EX? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaYou're divorced, but you still see your ex. How do you handle it? Here are three tips to help. 1. Treat your ex as politely as you treat your friends or co-workers. Don’t be as familiar as you used to be. A little less familiarity will generate a little more respect. Say “Hello”, ...
Views: 1917(1 vote) - Can A Separation Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2013 from Lee BaucomIn the past few days, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones announced they are separating. Reportedly, the reason for the separation is to “take some time apart and work on themselves.” The 13 year marriage has endured Douglas’ throat cancer and Zeta-Jones’ diagnosis of suffering from ...
Views: 2034(1 vote) - Transitions- Getting through the Difficult Times - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Norma ReidAlbert Schweitzer once said, 'At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us'. Thank you to those who have been there for me in such loving ways, rekindling the ...
Views: 1006(1 vote) - 5 Most Common Questions about Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Eric C. CheshireNot a day goes by without at least one or more of these questions. We hope this list will help you in your decision. 1) Is my spouse entitled to half of everything I own? Generally speaking, yes. Most assets acquired during the marriage are considered marital property and are subject to ...
Views: 1422(1 vote) - Children of Divorce: The Angry Aftermath - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Janet PfeifferDivorce is difficult for everyone. Even though children are resilient in many areas of life, divorce takes its toll on the youngest family members as well. While superficially they may appear to be fine, their internal struggles and turmoil are often hidden beneath an exterior of normalcy. ...
Views: 1728(1 vote) - Looking For Love After Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Repeat Past Mistakes. Follow These Three Tips Looking for love after divorce? Here are three tips to help as you begin dating after your divorce. 1. Be suspicious if it all seems “too good to be true” – it probably is. If your subconscious, neurotic needs are running the show, it’s ...
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