We broke up in March, did not have any kind of contact until May when I initiated contact via Facebook. We send each other emails and talk on the phone once in a while. Back in June I asked him if we should give the relationship another chance and he said he is not ready to get back with me because he is working on himself. He has been open with me and has told me he is seeing a counselor for some anxiety related issues, has a new job and is working out. It's end of August and nothing has changed. I'm getting impatient and frustrated. How long do I wait before I try to get him back?

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The Love Doctor's Answer: I applaud your ex for realizing that he needs to work on himself and for not going NC while he does it. However, from years of experience helping people get back their ex, Im working on myself though it sounds reasonably impressive isnt always what is seems to be.

Some people use "I'm working on myself" when 1) they want to keep you "just as a friend" and fear losing you if they let you in on their "agenda" or 2) don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you "we will never get back together" or 3) if you're having ex-sex, want the sex but not you. In these situations "I'm working on myself" is just an excuse, after all you cant fault someone for wanting to improve him/herself or for wanting to be healthier/happier.

I am not saying this is the case with your ex, I'm letting you know that these words mean different things in different situations, The other thing with this is that it is hard to tell when someone will feel that there is enough work done because it is a continuous process.

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Based on my experience with many of my clients, if you push and try to get him into a relationship before he feels ready, he'll convince himself that you are the "wrong" person for him because you are putting you and your agenda before him and his agenda.

Use the contact space to keep yourself updated on what is happening in his life. But in addition, try to subtly find out if there is really a place for you in his "new life" after he's worked on himself. One thing you can try is next time he talks about the "improvements" in his life, ask him "Is there any way I can be of help/support" (for whatever it is he is talking about). If he dismisses your "offer", that's not a good sign. If however, he is happy "including you" in whatever he is working on, it means he still wants you to be a major player in his life. Go out of your way to be of help/support thereby creating a place for yourself in the "new life" he is creating for himself.

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It's important that you train yourself to relax, have your own independent life and concentrate on building a better and stronger relationship, and when it's time you will just know by the way you do things with each other. Something will be different. It could be that you'll just see a look, a change in how much time you spend together, the hints your ex is giving about the possibility, etc. It could be anything that makes you think and feel that you haven't felt or been that way with each other since the break-up (or ever before).

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It is not advised to contact your ex immediately after a relationship break up. If you try to contact your ex immediately they would just ignore your calls or worse, tear into you for annoying them. It takes time, patience and careful planning before you can contact your ex again and reconnect with them.

If you have known your ex for a long time, then you would know them well enough to know how long it takes them an issue. How long does it take them to get over their anger, anguish, misery, and loneliness? That is how long it will take before you contact your ex.

You have to give them time to get over the break up and all the emotional stress that went with it. Your personal knowledge of their feelings and reactions will help you determine when it is time to contact them. It may take a few weeks to a few months, only you will know when the time is right.

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It does not take a spy to know when it is time to contact your ex again. When your ex shuns people even their friends, they are not yet ready to face the world, least of all you. When they are going out or having contact with their friends, your ex is probably starting to recover.

You can then contact some of their friends and ask how your ex is doing. If word gets out, your ex will know that you're thinking of them. Doing this may prepare them for your contact in the future.

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Anyone who has read my articles and books know that I am the last person to encourage anyone to try to win back the love of an ex who is in a relationship that they've always wanted (and never had with you) and are happy and fulfilled in that relationship. It's a painful losing battle from get go -- for all concerned.

But what if your ex is not in that kind of relationship, he or she may be seeing someone new but is "loosely" attached, does it make sense to wait 3 - 6 months before you try to get back your ex because of the stupid "no contact" rule?

In today's fast-paced information-packed society, memories fade much too quickly for so many people...

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Every once in a while your ex will hear something...see something... or something happens to remind him or her of you but if those memories become far and far apart with the passage of time they tend to fade, get distorted, or even die, are buried, and are forgotten. And they seem to even fade faster when there is somebody else in your ex's life who is creating new memories that are replacing memories of you.

Before the good memories fade away...

And before you go rushing to get your ex back because you think you'll be forgotten, here is a reality check: Your ex broke up with you for a reason.

I have said this in many of my articles, there is one thing that is common to all of us human beings of all races, cultures, backgrounds and ages, and that is that people fall in love for many reasons including with someone who is smart, beautiful, nice, caring, rich, charismatic, successful, good friend etc. but that is NOT what makes them want to stay in a relationship. People stay in relationships because of how THEY FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES WHEN WITH ANOTHER PERSON.

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It all boils down to the emotions and feelings, and memories have high emotions attached to them. Let me say it in another way: memories are "foot prints" of strong feelings and emotions. Those "foot prints" on the shallow sand on the sea shore fade faster with just a little wind; those "foot prints" on the soft lava from a melt down of pure love solidify into footprints on a rock and can last a lifetime; but those "foot prints" in the thick mud in a cold-frozen caves of the heart are the hardest to see and often the hardest to forget.

For example if the memory of you makes your ex feel anger about something you said or did; or if the memory of you brings with it a sense of inadequacy because of your being overly critical and demanding; or if the memory of you makes your ex feel stressed because you are so needy, jealousy or controlling - whenever your ex thinks of you the feelings attached to that memory pop up.

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It is these associations that make someone who may even still have very strong feelings for you feel reluctant and even unwilling to get back into a relationship with you.

Isn't it time to re-new your relationship with your ex?

Note that the word here is "re-new" not fix or repair. It's much harder to fix or repair a relationship that is broken because that means trying to erase the bad memories which tend to stay much longer than the good ones. And there is no guarantee that a band-aid fix will hold.

Renew (restart, rekindle, regenerate, revitalize, rejuvenate, refresh, recharge etc) on the other hand has an element of something fresh, something extra, something different or something up to date -- and that is exactly what that other "new" person is offering your ex.

You can't compete with the "new" unless you are offering something "new" yourself. That means that it all comes round to how fast you can make yourself a "new" person and compete from a place of personal strength, confidence and self-love. There is no way round it, YOU'VE GOT TO CHANGE TO A BETTER YOU to attract back your ex. Most people fear change so much (even when deep inside that's what they want), and that keeps them in their misery. Fear and love can't share the same heart.

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It's not enough to just learn from bad experiences it's crucial that you know how to create new positive memories that will make your ex FEEL GOOD about him or herself when with you and which will in turn make him or her want to come back into the relationship and stay in it.

The longer you wait, the more memories your ex creates with some other person and the harder it will be for you to be back with him or her.

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