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I'm not a fan of boxing nor professional wrestling. I find that, as in real life, the players don't always fight fair. I understand that much is done strictly to boost ratings but still I find it distressing. In real life it is even more disturbing for much damage can occur when one or both ... Views: 1086
Life is full of challenging moments and if you are building a stable and significant life you are definitely going to have your fair share of these moments.
But how you manage these moments is what will make all the difference to how you feel about yourself, your stability and having a relative ... Views: 1085
Summary: Not two sides to a coin—there's also an edge, and there's a third, not easily seen option to fighting the New World Order and dying versus selling out to it and the false worship (Rev 13:14-17). God who “declares the end from the beginning” (Isaiah 46:10) has provided a way to escape ... Views: 1085
Question: What happens when you take someone with empathy and place them in a meeting with someone who is pitching a fit?
Answer: The person who is pitching the fit gets lucky because they have someone in the room who understands that sometimes others get upset in the workplace AND someone ... Views: 1083
Everyone experiences conflict in his or her life. It may come in the form of a disagreement with a spouse, co-worker, or a complete stranger. Whatever the case, as conflicts arise we must learn to resolve them effectively. This can be difficult because everyone has different ways of managing ... Views: 1083
Check out Webster's dictionary. Anger is defined as "a feeling of discomfort or displeasure brought about by feelings of helplessness and powerlessness." My personal definition of a victim is one who views themselves as having no power or authority. Many times, a victim will claim that in a ... Views: 1083
In You Decide to Resolve a Conflict, Now What? (http://blog.melonicoaching.com/?p=818) we discussed some steps to take when you decide to step in and help resolve a conflict. These steps were designed to help you when you know in advance that you will be facilitating resolution. Today we are ... Views: 1082
Women in Love
In his poem Don Juan, Byron said; “Man's love is of man's life a thing apart, 'Tis woman's whole existence.”
For many women, this statement is mildly offensive. Sick of being branded as irrational, over-emotional and easily swayed by love, any woman who reckons she’s got her ... Views: 1081
The dysfunctional workplace is a killer. Untreated it will kill off your customer base, your profits, and your joy for living as surely as anything.
As managers, leaders and top executives within your organization you've got to kill the conflicts in your workplace first before dysfunction ... Views: 1081
No one enjoys losing control, but that's what you have to look forward to if you give in to anger. Rage takes over, blowing situations out of perspective. A red mist of unreasoning fury drops across your vision, leading to explosive rage spirals. Break the cycle and cut your short fuse by ... Views: 1074
The recent trophy killing of Cecil the Lion in Zimbabwe by an American dentist has enraged the world. Social media has exploded with demands to bring the killer to justice and ban hunting entirely. I am an animal lover in every sense of the word and share in the anger that so many others feel. ... Views: 1074
Answer me this... why is it when someone opts-in for a report, ezine, eBook, teleseminar or whatever it is that is offered from a website, blog or landing page there are some subscribers that think it is okay to begin sending their information to the person they requested the information from? ... Views: 1073
Finding Courage in Surrendering
Please allow me to start this post by saying that I am looking forward to the day that we as individuals can begin to accept, as well as seek to understand, all of what people say to us.
It is quite common that we are quick to align with and apt to indulge ... Views: 1067
Does the thought of work stress you out? Do you feel depressed or overwhelmed while you’re there? Do you have a hard time disconnecting yourself from your job when at home?
If you answered “yes” to these questions, you may be working in a toxic work environment.
A toxic workplace will ... Views: 1066
Boundaries can definitely be a tough thing to master, they also can have a profound impact on how we interact with others. For a lot of us, we weren’t taught how to have boundaries so it can be tough to figure these suckers out. Maybe the people that raised us didn’t have boundaries and modeled ... Views: 1066
We've all had our share of problems in life, some more than others but problems none-the-less. If you're anything like me, you eventually grow weary dealing with and finding solutions to unpleasant situations. Rather than win the lottery, some might opt to have all of their problems vanish, ... Views: 1066
I remember it like it was yesterday. I still remember this supervisor looking at me and yelling, “WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WOULD NOT CHOOSE THE MINISTER?”
Ok, Ok – this is a pretty old memory (from the late 1980’s), so it could be that I don’t have the details quite right. Maybe she did not ... Views: 1065
When you are facing a difficult decision sometimes the best thing to do is to sit back and analyze the potential outcomes from your decision. What path will each outcome create for you? Trace that path to its natural termination. Are you OK with this path? In other words:
If you do X, what is ... Views: 1065
California construction contractors are in a profession that constantly remains in high demand. Because of the variety of projects that come their way and the often large scale makeup of many of them, it’s important that contractors have the proper contractor legal representation and are ... Views: 1064
Mediation is not a single event, not a one-time meeting where magically issues are resolved.
No. Mediation is a process that occurs with very predictable steps. Understanding these steps to the process can help you manage through the process. Separated parents entering mediation may meet ... Views: 1063
I just received this article from Dr Jeffery Lant. Dr Lant is internationally known for a number of his outstanding accomplishments and is a highly respected author of many top selling books. This article on communication is stated in a way that is so direct and maybe offensive to many, but as ... Views: 1056
Everyday Dilemma: Should I follow my urge to take control of this project, do it my way, efficiently and quickly, and risk a fight? Or should I just breathe deep, surrender to my partner’s way, and opt to keep the peace to get the project done?
My mom and dad never fought over cooking. But ... Views: 1054
If you get hung up on the quantum of time, you may lose sight of the quality of your relationship now and for the future.
At the end of the day some separated parents fight tooth and nail over how the children’s time will be divvied up between them. Children are even drawn into the dispute, ... Views: 1052
“The notion that most people want black-robed judges, well dressed lawyers and fine-paneled courtrooms as the setting to resolve their disputes is not correct. People with problems, like people with pains, want relief, and they want it as quickly and inexpensively as possible” -
Chief Justice ... Views: 1050
For many women, their female friendships have been a source of comfort, support, laughter, and joy.
For others, they have been mired in betrayal, mean-spiritedness, and competition.
But for most of us, they’ve been a combination of these two extremes, and typically, even before we reach ... Views: 1046
Wow, she is gorgeous. Blond, comfortable, fun looking. And, driving a 69 Camaro! I love the paint job; a creamy yet rich yellow color, with a wide black strip across the top. Gotta be custom. Is it a Z28? WHAM.
The gawker rear-ended the Camaro.
The back window of the Camaro shattered and ... Views: 1046
"The hardest conversations are the most important ones." India Arie wrote those words in the liner notes of her album, Testimony: Volume 2 Love and Politics. India's words often connect with me at a perfect intersection of time/space.
I read those words a short time after having a very ... Views: 1045
Here is a New Year’s resolution you almost never hear:
“This year I vow to keep everything the same, I am going to weigh the same, exercise the same, talk to all of the same people and be exactly the same.”
New Year’s resolutions are about change and sometimes change is difficult. Let’s ... Views: 1041
One receptacle for economic stress is our relationships, which often take poundings in hard times unless we give ourselves the training to manage them
You can expect that the current round of stock market volatility is going to be tougher emotionally on
a larger number of people than even ... Views: 1040
Recently a 43 year old man and father of seven, Keith Lamont Scott, was killed by police in Charlotte, NC. As is often the case, there are conflicting reports as to what actually happened. Currently, an investigation by a separate state agency is taking place to determine if this shooting was ... Views: 1037
I don't know about you but to me the world keeps getting crazier. Nothing makes sense anymore. I sometimes feel as though I've fallen into the rabbit hole in Alice in Wonderland. In an age of endless technology and societal demands, I am acutely aware of the ever constant pressures of living in ... Views: 1037
I enjoy reading advice columns. Yesterday, a disgruntled woman complained that Hallmark created the upcoming holiday of Valentine's Day to remind singles that they are losers. (I'm pretty sure Hallmark wasn't in existence during the Middle Ages when this day was first set aside to celebrate ... Views: 1035
I think the majority of people would agree that it's unhealthy to live in the past. After all, we're all familiar with the new age philosophy, "Yesterday is History, Tomorrow a Mystery, Today is a Gift, That's why it's called the Present". Living in the past holds us back from being able to ... Views: 1034
How To Say Sorry To Husband After A Fight: How To Apologize To Your Husband After A Fight
Conflicts are an unavoidable part of relationships. You can decide how to manage them and you can learn to pick your battles. But what happens when they are over? Do you apologize? Do you simmer in anger ... Views: 1033
In a recent workshop, "Jane" asked about negativity in the workplace:
"Our work environment is so negative. It's like The Wave. One individual starts and then everybody joins in, including me some days. I want to stop. But when I don't engage, they all look at me like I'm "Miss Polly Positive" ... Views: 1028
The cover story of Popular Science, Sept 1995 reported a little known Pentagon project, stating that bad weather is coming. If you can control your enemy by weather, that's good, but are we the enemy?
The National Weather Service tweeted that snow, ice, strong winds, and flooding will plague ... Views: 1027
“To All Divorcing Parents
Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault. No matter what you think of the other party-or what your family thinks of ... Views: 1025
Few of us look forward to confrontation. When we have “issues” with someone our energy has become strained or “jammed up.” We often feel the energy between us and this person has become a battleground and confronting them feels like we’re heading into battle. And ... Views: 1022
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The Social Butterfly - by Margaret Meloni, the Official Guide to Conflict Resolution
The Social Butterfly
It seemed to John that Jane spent at least as much time away from her desk as she did at her desk. It seemed like every time he walked down the hallway he would see her speaking with someone. And she never made it through the company cafeteria without stopping to ... Views: 1020
According to psychologist Charles Speilberger, Ph.D who specializes in the study of anger, “Anger is an emotional state that varies from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. It's accompanied by physiological, psychological and biological changes. When you get angry, your heart rate and ... Views: 1019
Study Spanish language to win all the competitions today. There isn't any getting away with that. Of course there are plenty of some other excellent good reasons to learn to talk Spanish language furthermore. Before committing to and time-consuming school classes, you have countless ways to ... Views: 1018
God wants to help you keep your word.
Bible Numbers 30:2 Around 1300 years before the birth of Jesus the leaders of the Israelite tribes were gathered before Moses prior to entering the promised land. Moses reminded the tribe leaders that God had kept his word and they were about to enter the ... Views: 1015
Your behavior, how you conduct yourself at the negotiating table can work for you or against you.
Remember, this is a negotiating table, not a court of law or arbitrator’s office. In negotiating, there is little to prove and all to negotiate.
Negotiation is about how to move forward, not ... Views: 1013
At dinner with my friend Susan recently, I was struck by the simplicity of her conflict resolution strategy. A friend sought Susan's advice about how to approach her neighbor about a potential conflict. The neighbor was prickly and the friend uneasy, and she asked Susan to come along as support ... Views: 1013
Perceptions are based only on what our senses tell us. They aren't always accurate and most certainly can fool us. Independent of reality, perceptions are powerful, for they determine how we experience life. The placebo effect is a great example which demonstrates this amazing truth.
From the ... Views: 1006
The definition of discipline as a noun is: the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behaviour, and to teach self –control and self-discipline. Other words to describe discipline are training, teaching, direction, instruction, regulation, coach.
The definition of punishment as ... Views: 1006
I found myself fighting for my life with estrogen-sensitive, inflammatory breast cancer -rare, but deadly! How could this happen to me? Today, I know why I got cancer. It's so simple; I wonder why I didn't see it before. I know that if I had taken better care of my mental, emotional and ... Views: 999
Introduction:
This article was written some time before I had studied process work* with Jungian psychologist, Arny Mindell and his cohort. From the 80’s to the present time, process work has developed a technology for working with individuals, couples, groups and communities in conflict. ... Views: 998
I enjoy a good robust debate. I find it can be very stimulating and present an opportunity for me to learn something new. In every facet of life, we encounter individuals with whom we have disagreements. Recently, a woman in her forties came into my office seeking suggestions as to how she could ... Views: 996