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- Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend doesn't think she can handle this relationship. - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am (or was, perhaps) in a fairly strong relationship for a few months now. Recently though, as the upcoming fall quarter approaches, my girlfriend doesn’t think she can handle a relationship. Between stress from school (she really wants her 4.0 this year), over-bearing ...
Views: 629(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ...
Views: 859(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Dealing with Disappointment or failure - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: OK, so you're disappointed. Your dream has ended in the trash. So, after you get finished with laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken binge, or beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all that acting out ...
Views: 466(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It seems to be going in a circle. - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I would like your advice in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been living together for a year and a half and known each other for 3 years. He calls me names and puts me down when I try to communicate with him and every time i want to break it off he tells me we should ...
Views: 606(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I wrong for asking for more time for us? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I've been in a relationship for 6 1/2 years with a man I can see myself marrying and growing old. The first 4 years we were on our long distance relationship because I was in college in another state. We then lived together for a year to realize we could work out in ...
Views: 646(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Still Miss Him Terribly - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband/best friend crossed-over a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. I think of him every day and his essence is always with me. I am still in love with him and cannot imagine having a relationship with another man. At this time, however, I have two ...
Views: 859(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on spreading kindness - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on spreading kindness Spreading kindness is the best way I know to be happy. If you want to spread kindness around, here are some ideas: *Kindness begins on the inside – learn to be as kind in talking to yourself as you are to others – then, keep improving. Self-talk sets the bar ...
Views: 587(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Can't I Spark the Interest of a Woman? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your Dr. Romance Blog. I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I have kids. Its pretty dam aggravating. I haven't even had date ...
Views: 592(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 598(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Won't solving the problem for myself create resentment? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your No Cooperation? Solve it Yourself! If I am to solve the problem for myself won't that just create resentment that the other party is unwilling to help? Dear Reader: Well, you could choose to be resentful, or you could focus on how great ...
Views: 499(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Ten Things People Don't Know about Therapy - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I recently had a first session with a client who said, about halfway into the hour “Wow. I like you. I’m surprised.” I laughed, but I knew what the client meant. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I encounter a lot of people who waited far too long to come in for ...
Views: 588(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: They say I am a diamond as a man - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thanks for sharing the great article "A Good Cry" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I have a question about it: "....If you're trying to help someone cope with a loss, don't try to make the bereaved person feel better. It just ...
Views: 677(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think she is really scared to go to therapy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: To be honest I think she is really scared to go to therapyI have been many timesAnd I know it worksAnd I really want her and I to learn how to communicate stumped Dear Reader: she probably thinks you want to fix her, and that hurts her feelings. Ask her to go ...
Views: 638(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't think I want to be in this relationship after all - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am currently reading your book, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make Before 40 and absolutely loving it. I have been married for a year and four months and we are going through a really tough time right now. I have suggested counseling and my husband ...
Views: 606(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Gratitude, Kindness and Happiness - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Happy Thanksgiving! The founding fathers of our country saw the “pursuit of happiness” as an inalienable right – so important they embedded it in the DNA of the United States of America, by writing it into the Preamble to the Constitution. It was a profoundly new idea ...
Views: 507(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Stop My Husband's Ex-Wife from Smothering Their Son - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband has a son with his ex-wife. He is 12, but she still invites him to sleep in her bed. How old is too old to be sleeping with Mom? I know kids from divorced parents have different issues-- one being how a child should sleep, what ...
Views: 824(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I loved her then and I love her today - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read several of your comments in articles on the dadsdivorce.com website concerning when to introduce a new girlfriend to your children. I have a unique situation. I have been divorced for over a year two teenage boys. A few months ago a woman I met long ...
Views: 814(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Holidays with Family and In-laws - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary relationship, and your relationship with your original family has to change ...
Views: 585(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: how do I forget that she is married and I am single? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and ...
Views: 792(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn't work. A relationship that follows too quickly is called a ...
Views: 685(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I had never questioned him about other ladies - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a couple of years into my relationship with many problems. I met my guy online ...
Views: 618(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't ...
Views: 581(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a Native American woman who has been abused and betrayed - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several ...
Views: 1155(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: On Dating at Work - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaWork can be the ideal environment for falling in love: you are in close proximity for a long period of time, you may have developed a good working partnership, and from there it is a short step to romance. However, workplace romance can present big problems. ...
Views: 773(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She is verbally abusive to me - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a retired police officer who found his wife sneaking around with another man 3 years ago. We have 3 kids. I cook and clean and up ...
Views: 1237(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I attract young boys - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am from Iran .Right now I read "Age Differences in Dating" your nice article about different ages in couples. I am in my 40s but nobody can guess my age, and because of my appearance I attract young boys, they think I am in my 30s. I ...
Views: 658 - Dr. Romance: How to Decide Whether or Not to End Your Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these reasons to stay: 1. ...
Views: 670(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are ...
Views: 621(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never met him and he lives in another country - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I stumbled upon your article ...
Views: 677(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Perhaps we should have ended it sooner - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm currently going through a divorce after more than twenty years of ...
Views: 635(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is the right love to last a lifetime? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. ...
Views: 590(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Reluctant to Marry Again - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaWhen a relationship that probably began in hope and joy has ended in failure, grief and pain, It's very understandable to be concerned about repeating an action that was so hurtful. Here are some Happiness Tips for recovering from divorce. Dr. Romance’s 3 tips for letting go of the ...
Views: 673(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: twice I have been let down by this man I so love - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good ...
Views: 697(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: If I am not strong, I cannot be an example for my children - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am mid-thirties mom with 3 children looking to divorce. I read your article "Family Violence Q & A" and I decided to write to you for help to stand on my feet again. I was a homemaker since I had my first child, but had lived very unfulfilled ...
Views: 974(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I would like to get out of this anxiety - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and have developed anxiety & depression. My wife is a strong ...
Views: 611(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: 11 Things Married Women Want - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaFor you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 10 Things Married Women Want: Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man: 1. Good Judgment Good ...
Views: 696(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: We just had a small fight, but she doesn't want to talk - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best friend isn't talking with me since 2 months now. I'm frustrated. We are best friends since 3 yrs now. In Feb suddenly she stopped talking. We just had a small fight as in regular nothing serious. When i asked she said she doesn't want to talk anything for ...
Views: 686(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: At first I was hurt, but now I'm irritated. - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I do not like my job, I have two more classes before I complete my masters in HR to move to a better position and recently passed the PHR certification. I was talking with my boyfriend about the environment at the company and how they are always threatening to fire people as ...
Views: 619(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex (civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries and ...
Views: 684(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Dating Advice Every Single Parent Should Know - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance asks: Are you a single parent? Wondering whether you're too old to be back on the market? Well, wonder no more. Here are guidelines to help you date safely and successfully Parental Dating Guidelines • Make sure you know a lot about any new person before ...
Views: 943(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Family Acceptance - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Lately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship or career choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write ...
Views: 607(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. ...
Views: 687(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her last breakup. I loved her wholly, with all my everything, ...
Views: 618(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: On my death bed, I will not be in the mood to explain - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your newsletter "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" with joy, how you simplify things for us. I already tried by email, but it got more complicated. I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you are ...
Views: 596(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: How to Create a Good Roommate Situation - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: More and more people are sharing quarters since the pandemic. Being social distanced all alone is difficult, and financial problems are making roommates seem more desirable. Here's how to set up a situation you'll be glad about. The best way to have a good ...
Views: 676(1 vote) - Dr. Romance : Do men have biological clocks? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on men and biological clocks: Yes, a man can feel the need to grow up and have a family, especially when he finds a woman who inspires those feelings in him. The problem is, how can you be sure the match is a good one? You’d think the positive signs in a date would be ...
Views: 733(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I have a tendency to lose myself in a relationship - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ...
Views: 722(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I realize that jealousy may be the main culprit - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your website impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ...
Views: 669(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 649(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Should I Start a Family? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The skills couples need to keep intimacy alive in a long-term relationship differ from new relationship intimacy skills, and they're not obvious because people don't talk about them. Most couples need to lower their expectations of romance and glamour and raise the ...
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