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- Dear Dr. Romance: I want to find myself - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ...
Views: 649 - Dr. Romance: 16 things to consider before moving in together or making financial commitments: - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaMoving in together is a financial commitment, and so is marriage, so it’s important to consider the tough issues you’ll face as a cohabiting or married couple. Dr. Romance's Financial Questions to Ask Before Marriage or Moving in Together The family you grew up in shapes an ...
Views: 829(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he can't forgive me because I did it first. - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriend For 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept with another male and yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him about ...
Views: 697(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tuff on me waiting for her to get it together. - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can I sign up for your Happiness Tips newsletter? I want to read "The One Who Got Away." Also which article would you recommend reading in my case? I met a wonderful lady who loves dancing like I do, and for almost 8 months she has been getting her house ...
Views: 650(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is a great person, but a spoiled brat. - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your website and decided to write you via e-mail. The reason being is that my lover for the past three years has left me and I now am trying to afford the house and dogs and everything else we bought together with one income. My ex is a great person, but a spoiled brat. ...
Views: 670(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaAfter years together, is there a lack of sex in your marriage? Is this negatively impacting your relationship? Have no fear -- it is easy to reboot your sex life at any age. I recommend that couples follow five easy steps to get things going again: First of all, you have to find out what’s going ...
Views: 710(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I rescued my mother from the big bad wolf, my father - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article about RESCUING: "Avoiding the Drama Triangle".I have been rescuing my mother from the big bad wolf my father. He would beat my mother, beat me, and beat my sister. I decided to rescue her. She decided for me to rescue her from her ...
Views: 578(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend. - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I love reading your articles here and on your website and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he wasn't over ...
Views: 732(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: You're giving advice on what YOU consider normal - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ...
Views: 803(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Dating after Loss - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2020 from Tina TessinaGrief is an essential life skill -- knowing how to survive grief means feeling safe to take another risk, and grieving actually expands one's capacity to love.Expression of grief, and respect for the dead, is very important to the grieving process. A symbol of grief for the loss of one ...
Views: 1043(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Strangely, I still love this man - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ...
Views: 814(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered he crossdressed - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:When I was 20, I met a man of 37. For many reasons, including what I thought was love, moved in with him 3 weeks later. After getting engaged to my partner, I discovered he cross-dressed. I cried, but he said he did it cuz he was alone for so long before he met me. Flash forward ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a grad student in her 20s date a man who's 70? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ...
Views: 673 - Dr. Romance on Careers in Psychology - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is delighted to be interviewed on Careers In Psychology Dr. Tina Tessina PsychoTherapist / PhD LMFT The best therapists often refer to their career as a calling, a natural talent that was laying in wait until their clients, friends and families managed to bring it ...
Views: 1024(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Though we slept together while his wife was away, I regretted it - by Submitted on May 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my mid-twenties from India and working in the middle east in a professional job. I had a brief arranged marriage and am now getting divorced. One of my business clients, who is an Arab and over forty has been married for many years but claims his ...
Views: 802(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It is your Christian duty to forgive - by Submitted on May 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for your article on "Apology and Forgiveness". The process of forgiving is powerful and extremely helpful. I have searched for such information many years and have truly believed that forgiveness is not something you just do. ...
Views: 815(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Your Inner Mentor Can Create New Meaning - by Submitted on May 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. If you're at home alone, due to the pandemic, this is a great time to learn introspection, the awareness of self. As a ...
Views: 830(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: 2 days later, he tells me he's working it out with his ex - by Submitted on May 19, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met someone from online and we talked for a night and we met that night and one thing led to another and as it turns out he wanted to see me again.2 days later he tells me that hes trying to work this out with his ex wife. How do I not go into that situation? ...
Views: 803(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm nearly 30 and have been living with my boyfriend for several years. Last year we encountered a rough patch and I felt neglected and unloved and like all respect had gone from our relationship. Unfortunately during this time I got very drunk and kissed another man. I ...
Views: 804(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a married man infatuated with a coworker half my age - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a happily married man in my mid-forties with 2 small kids who has become overwhelmingly infatuated with a 22 year old co-worker. She is friendly but certainly not coquettish and there is no suggestion she reciprocates. I have no intention of trying to pursue ...
Views: 1080(1 vote) - Dr. Romance On Spreading Kindness - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaKindness is the lubrication for life, love and relationships. When you spread kindness, it comes back in many ways, and it’s the foundation of happiness. "Dr. Romance" shows how kindness works and why it’s important to learn to live kindly, even in today’s cynical ...
Views: 685(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can't unring the bell, and I'm betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself ...
Views: 1076(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can now free myself and enjoy helping people - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse. I read "Motivation and How to ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do we reorder our brain for positive motivation? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Motivation And How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)" and found it very interesting. I understand your point about celebrating and appreciating yourself to motivate your inner potential. However I am confused about how to order my brain for ...
Views: 686(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Staying Strong in Crisis - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: As I write this, we have all been asked to shelter in place, staying home as much as possible, because of the pandemic. This puts pressure on both individuals, who may be very alone now, and couples, who may be struggling with needing alone time and space. Everyone is ...
Views: 579(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She started pushing me away and becoming distant - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ...
Views: 722(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I've learned my lesson - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article: "Debunking Dating Myths" Great article, good advice. I couldn't agree with you more. It was a very timely message for me. Just recently, I decided to let go of my partner...for good...It's only been 2-1/2 months since ...
Views: 792(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ...
Views: 682(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 3 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Tina TessinaEspecially during trying times like isolation, relationships can be devastated by simple, thoughtless things. Bad behavior will ruin your marriage faster than any temptation from the outside. Dr. Romance points out the worst mistakes to make in a marriage. Dr. Romance's 3 ways to ...
Views: 738(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It left me feeling like a loveless phony - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just found your article "Without Ego" OMG you are just who I've been looking for. For the past two years I've been reading articles about dissolving the ego and all this hubbub. For those two years I was told that I have an ego that is all ...
Views: 684(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I would be honored and privileged if I could end up marrying her. - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your article "The Challenges of Blended Families" focused on interfaith couples and their impact on raising children. I wanted to reach out to you as a last resort to saving my relationship. My girlfriend and i have been together for three ...
Views: 800(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can we find low cost counseling? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in a relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address.Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemployment but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low cost ...
Views: 770(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Guidelines for Relating with Love - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaIf you're lucky enough to be living with someone else while you're isolating to avoid this virus, you may be having some difficulty with being alone together for more time than you're used to. The following guidelines will help you get along better and perhaps even improve your ...
Views: 723(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress. I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, I used to break things, yell at ...
Views: 843(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my seventies and he's 25 years younger - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ...
Views: 951(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I stay in this relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had a really bad ending on my last relationship we were engaged. I moved into another relationship a month after he ended it. I was very lonely and my new relationship seemed perfect. Now I'm starting to get mixed emotions about my man. We have been together now 1 year. ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: he said I was expecting too much from this relationship - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: I can't get over this man, he is 61, I'm in my mid thirties, he is Europe and I'm in North America, we started corresponding and we stopped. I was suffering but time healed me after a year. This year we re started talking back, by Facebook, and when ...
Views: 680(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 5 tips to moving on emotionally after divorce - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaGoing through a divorce is devastating. You not only lose the marriage and break up your family; you also lose all the hopes and dreams you had for happiness here. Dr. Romance helps you to pick yourself up from the rubble and move on emotionally. Dr Romance's 5 tips to moving on ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I find her volatile and aggressive - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name and contact details on a web it whilst trying to find info' to help my relationship. I wonder if you might be able to offer me any advice please ? My girlfriend always wants to take control and the way she speaks to me at times is though I'm ...
Views: 744(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Dating a Younger Woman - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I read your article on the Age Differences in Dating and found it to absolutely be brilliant. I'm wondering though since I'm dating a younger woman, what tips you have on dealing with that. Thanks. Any help you can provide would be greatly appreciated. Dr. Romance ...
Views: 857(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a traumatic brain injury - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: A lot has happened in recent weeks that has wreaked havoc on my life. A friend of twenty years, Told me he did not consider me a real friend, although I've been spending many hours helping him with gaming for years. My sweetie pet hamster died. It was his time, as ...
Views: 533(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: On Having a New Baby When You Have Stepchildren - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2020 from Tina TessinaYou and your new spouse are over the moon about having a baby, but the children from your previous marriage are acting strange and upset or distant. What's wrong, and how do you fix it? Tina B. Tessina, PhD, "Dr. Romance" licensed psychotherapist and author, gives you steps ...
Views: 692 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just got my girlfriend pregnant and I might be gay. - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help? Dear Reader: Your girlfriend is right to want you to know what ...
Views: 1387(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am the one who becomes unbalanced - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am married 19 years and my husband and I have two children. We have a good marriage in so many ways yet we continuously cycle to a low point every couple of months primarily due to my change in mood and feelings about the relationship. A bad case of ambivalence on my part. ...
Views: 692 - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is violent, abusive and obsessed with me - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your post on line about How Not to Repeat Past Relationship Mistakes, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ...
Views: 862(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Guidelines for Co-Parenting after divorce - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaNo matter how angry or hurt you may be after a divorce, if you have children, you’ll still share a lifetime with their other parent, your ex. Dr. Romance offers guidelines for moving past the anger and hurt, and finding a way to co-parent your children that is good for ...
Views: 989(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to resent my wife - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Attitude Adjustment" and some of the things you said really resonated. In recent years, I have found myself developing more and more resentment toward my wife (who thinks very differently than I do). I want to dissolve ...
Views: 847(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: I am on MAJOR pain pills - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 49 year old disabled vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ...
Views: 699(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Every time I think about him it just hurts - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really long ...
Views: 759(1 vote) - Dr Romance: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr Romance’s 3 tips for living with someone instead of marriage: It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee ...
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