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- Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of yours from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader: "Handling the Green-Eyed Monster" ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife is reading romance novels - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance For many many years, i have been the income earner for our 4 kids and my wife while she was home raising the kids. Day in day out I was working sometimes three jobs. I got into a career that took 10-15 hrs per day for the first three years - the money was great and I ...
Views: 882(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I convince my family I'm serious about him? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm 17 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We have grown up together and he is all I know. We are very mature when it comes to our relationship and our sex life. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but there's a problem. I have made many ...
Views: 682(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: A Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, especially given recent tragic events, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving ...
Views: 581(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ...
Views: 821(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Give Yourself a Gift - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness. Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on external circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is to get ...
Views: 636(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He always calls, and we do the same thing over again. - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He ends up getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again. This time we got closer ...
Views: 798(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother, and I feel I'm past my prime. - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four year old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ...
Views: 854(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am worried about marrying him - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from overseas. ...
Views: 811 - Dr. Romance on: Am I too old to date again? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: In today's world, people don't often realize the importance of companionship until later in life. Staying fit and physically and socially active increases your odds of finding someone to date, and also increases your libido and your chances of successful sex. But, ...
Views: 679 - Dear Dr. Romance: I love a deaf girl with all my heart - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am confused I am dating a deaf girl and I love her with all my heart. The problem is she likes to party sleeping around and in the community they have noticed it. They keep complaining about deaf gals but sometimes I want to cry coz I love that girl so ...
Views: 786(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Trust Her Not to Do It Again? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. When I came home for ...
Views: 641(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying ...
Views: 678 - Dr. Romance: How to Propose Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaOK, guys, you're (gulp) ready to pop the big question. But you've seen those videos of lavishproposals that went wrong. How do you ask her in a way that's got an excellent chance of getting a happy "yes!" in response? Here's how to set ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My baby momma is a lesbian and wants me to marry her. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have had baby with this girl and we are planning to marry this year. Just last we were talking about things we do not like and the things that we like. I said she was unfaithful before we had the baby and she said that not true but that she was lesbian was sleeping ...
Views: 964 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel my sister's life is in danger - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently stumbled upon your article "Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence." The information you provided resounded heartily with me. Last fall my brother in law discharged a weapon DIRECTLY NEXT to my sisters head. She was 8 months pregnant at the ...
Views: 994(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need to forgive myself. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I will ...
Views: 563 - Dr. Romance: How to Apologize - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaUh-oh. You messed up, and now your boyfriend, relative or best friend is really mad at you. Do you even know why? Dr. Romance explains how to figure out what's wrong and resolve the anger. Dr. Romance’s 4 Steps: How to apologize 1. Surrender to your responsibility. ...
Views: 743(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should he rent a room in his ex's house? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable fitting ...
Views: 801 - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Strange? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a university student majoring in English Translation in a Mid Eastern country. I find it difficult to attract other people's attention and it makes friendship nearly impossible. I love loneliness in a way that most of my friends don't ...
Views: 652 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure there's any turning back - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We got married quickly - after only 9 months due to a couple of reasons. We have been fighting fairly regularly for several years -- and I think it comes down to: us not having much in common, which I ultimately resent her ...
Views: 656(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: How to be civil to an Ex - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The divorce was ugly, your ex was a jerk, but you still need to have contact because of your kids or finances. You hate to have to deal with the ex, but you have to. What can you do to make it better for yourself and your kids? Here are ways to ignore your ex's ...
Views: 830(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a fool - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I read your article, Gentle Persistence, followed the instructions, and got the truth. You were right. You were sooooo right! I've finally come to the realization that the married man I've been having an affair with for almost two years now has been using me. ...
Views: 813(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can I have a life partner? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am living alone. I've been told I am sexually weak. Can I have a life partner? How long will it take? I need care and protection, and to know what my choices are. How can I be fruitful to society and mankind? Is my life worth anything? Tell ...
Views: 775(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm struggling with dismissing bad behavior - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: You state in the article "You Be the Judge": "Somehow, clients seem to have taken way too seriously the idea that we aren’t supposed to think badly of people. Instead of using good judgement about whether to allow someone in their lives, ...
Views: 736(1 vote) - Dr. Romance writes: Should you stay in your marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these reasons to stay: 1. You ...
Views: 815(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: I just miss her a lot - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found your article about women dating younger men. So, here I'm in a middle of a crisis... hope you can read it and hope you can give some advise. I'm 30, with a promising career and a stable job. A year ago, I met a woman, who's seven years older and has 3 ...
Views: 743(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Can you program the subconsious? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw the articles on your site and I would like to know if you can ´´program´´ the subconscious mind to win a X salary per month, even if the subconscious mind is programmed to attract money. Dear Reader: We have a brain mechanism psychologists call ...
Views: 646(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Can you make your wife fall in love again? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I would like to know if it's possible to make your wife fall in love with you again? She just recently announced to me that she wanted to go our separate ways. I am devastated we have 2 kids together and she told me that she just grew apart from me. I'm madly in love ...
Views: 732(1 vote) - Dr.Romance on: Resolving Family Fights - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Often, the same quirks, reactions and behaviors that create problems between you and the other members of your family wouldn't be a problem if it was someone else's family. If your best friend's parent or sibling did the same thing, you'd probably let ...
Views: 795 - Dear Dr.Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I Don't Know - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 891(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Is she bipolar or what? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some help. My partner has had some emotional problems and I don't know what they are. is she bipolar or what else? She gets angry about everything and is very negative, she is very incecure and thinks I dont love her even if I told her 10 mins ...
Views: 776(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: She doesn't believe that I'm trying to find a job - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife she wil get angry very easily. Even for simple things she gets very angry. She always tells me to leave her and she wants to live her family especially with her mother. She tells me she doesn't want to live and mostly she hurts her self. The biggest problem is my ...
Views: 794(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on how to keep your marriage safe from infidelity - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaInfidelity can be devastating to a marriage. While couples can recover, it is far better to never have cheating in the first place. Here's how to "cheat-proof" your marriage, and head off problems before they begin. Dr. Romance on how to keep your marriage safe from ...
Views: 885(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: I recently discovered numerous women he text messages - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article "Keys to a Happy Relationship" and would be greatful for some advice. I havn't been with my partner long. We are both in our twenties and we met a few months ago and already live together because it's the only way we could see ...
Views: 910(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: No One I Meet Online Wants To Have a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have not had a relationship in 8 years because of a bad relationship. I needed time to heal. My favorite discussion board has closed, and I miss my friends! Emailing is nice but I miss the discussions and topics of the day. I have gone back to school and I'm much ...
Views: 709 - Dear Dr.Romance: What do I need to do to become a therapist? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaI am a 25 year old M.A. student from the Middle East. This year is my final year to have my M.A. degree as a Family specialist to become a family counselor. I saw many things you wrote online as a family and couple therapists and i Loved them all! I was wondering if you could direct me and hear ...
Views: 684(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Creating a Blended Family When You Have a New Partner - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaOnce you have gone through the wrenching experience of loss or divorce, it's not easy to pick up the pieces and find a new love. If you have children, they have been through a lot of upset, also. So when you do find a new love and want to create a blended family in a new way, these ...
Views: 1078(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. ...
Views: 744(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a Mother Push Her Daughter to Contact Her Estranged Father? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: If the child has not had a real relationship with her father for many years and does not see him more than 2 times per year, should a mother keep pushing a relationship with the father and child? Will it do more harm than good? Dear Reader: There is no way I can tell ...
Views: 795(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Although I had to let go, I still care a lot. - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your articles are very helpful to me. Can you tell me what book of yours can help me heal from my last relatioship. The pain is still there and although I am sure I had to let go, I still care a lot. Dear Reader: I'm sorry you're hurting. I know how difficult it ...
Views: 789(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "How to Deal with a Partner's Annoying Quirks" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaMany guys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in ...
Views: 810(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your ...
Views: 2488 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I move forward when I hit a setback? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: When one hits a setback in life what are some healthy ways to keep moving forward? How can one build a healthy mental outlook when things go wrong? Dear Reader: The most important and uplifting thing you can do is look for what you can learn from the problem. ...
Views: 649 - Dear Dr. Romance: at funerals, how do you comfort families in morning? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What suggestions can you offer for guests at funerals in regards to comforting families in morning? Thanks! Dear Reader: Your presence at the memorial or funeral, honoring their loved one who passed, is the most comfort, so go if you can. When you are greeting the family ...
Views: 690 - Dr. Romance on: No Cooperation? Solve It Yourself! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: What do you do after you have tried everything and your partner, friend, child or colleague still won't negotiate? In previous articles, like “Asking for What you Want,” “Couples Can Cooperate for Success” and “Gentle Persistence” we’ve explored a lot of communication ...
Views: 857(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. So ...
Views: 904(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife has been unhappy with me for years. - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your article on "The Nail in the Fence: Healing Relationship Wounds". I am a thirty-something man living on the West Coast. My wife and I have been together for ten years, married for six. We have three small children, and my wife has a pre-teen daughter ...
Views: 1050(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: To this day I am not sure why he became so angry - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight. I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a ...
Views: 1083(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it: Outwitted He drew a circle that shut me out —Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.But Love and I had the wit to win:We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people ...
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