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- Dear Dr. Romance: What type of dating safety precautions should one take? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional ...
Views: 832(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for ...
Views: 845(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My father opposes my inter-racial relationship - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My question of the week is how to deal with family opposition of my inter-racial relationship. My dad, who is in his 70s, is vehemently opposed to my relationship with my fiance (who is white). He hasn't even met him and given him a chance. It is quite frustrating given that ...
Views: 869(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Emotional Hygiene - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Life is frequently not easy, and we often encounter problems and difficulties that require us to pay attention to our own feelings. Relationships, whether with family, spouses and partners, friends or even colleagues, can create emotional fallout that we need to take care ...
Views: 730(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Desperate: What Else Can I Do? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I suffer with sleeping alone in "our" bedroom while my wife of 14 years, sleeps in our two pre-teen sons' bedroom. I've tried to talk and reason with her about this important problem, only to fall on deaf ears. I'm desperate. What else can i do? How can i get ...
Views: 793(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Know How To Choose a Man - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: You give good advice and I really like the articles you have here. I wish I could apply it to my life. I have married and divorced twice and i always tell myself "I don't know how to choose a man". But is it the man or me who is wrong? I don't know. Now, I have a ...
Views: 737(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I keep telling him not to push me. - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I find your articles very interesting. I have a minor problem with my husband. he keeps telling me that I don't listen and that I am stubborn. I admit my mind goes blank sometimes because he expects a lot from me and treats me like a teenager. I keep telling him ...
Views: 775(1 vote) - Dr. Romance says: "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom" - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fineLove is a jewel when it is new; But when love's old, it waxes coldAnd fades away, like morning dew. Folk wisdom says it: If newlyweds put a penny in a jar for every time they make love in the first year, and ...
Views: 798(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want a man in my life that I can trust again. - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ...
Views: 948(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to be the victim of any Jezebel - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a gentle young graduate of about 30 years. Throughout my staying on the campus, I decided not to enter into any real relationship that could eventually lead to marriage (I mean I had nothing in common with girls). Now, I need a life partner, wish must be a graduate like ...
Views: 839(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't know if this is retaliation - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "The One Who Got Away." While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar. About 8-9 mos ago, I ran into a high school crush on a social media site – I took the first leap, and shot her a "hey how you ...
Views: 959(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Therapy Isn’t Working - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes:As a therapist, I have worked with many clients who had been going to a previous therapist for years, and getting nowhere. Some therapists just listen and sympathize, but will not challenge a client to move through and past trauma and stuck places. If talking to friends and ...
Views: 815(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My parents are racists - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years with a great person whom I've known for the 5 years I've been in this country. We studied together, were genuine friends before feelings started to develop, and we decided to be together. He and I are from a different ...
Views: 785(1 vote) - My Newest Book Release - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's NEW book! Find it on Amazon! This is a perfect book for any woman who wants to do more than talk about changing her life, it's a road map to her goal. The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make Before Forty 2nd ...
Views: 783(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I find a good man to love me for me? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mom, of a teenage son. I was never married to his dad (if you want to call him that). I have the hardest time finding a relationship cuz I am on SS income and I am judged by that. I am a loving person, the good guys want a woman that works or is very ...
Views: 823(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have strong feelings for my boss - by Submitted on May 30, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Dr. Romance, I have strong feelings for my boss, he's 10 years older than me. I cannot explain why I have these feelings or why I think of him ....He's still my boss kinda, I'm working on a new mission and have a different boss now, its not the same. I miss my boss, I wander if he misses me ...
Views: 881(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Gentle Persistence - by Submitted on May 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Have you noticed that nagging, whining, complaining, sternly directing, yelling, criticizing and freaking out don’t seem to get you what you want from a partner, family member, friend, colleague or child? In a previous article, “Asking for What You Want” I explained how ...
Views: 858(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She cannot forgive all the hurt I have caused her - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name in an article titled "How Not to Repeat Past Relationship Mistakes". My wife and I have been together since for over ten years, and have 3 children. and my wife has a daughter from a previous relationship. We have been seeing a marriage ...
Views: 816(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am feeling overwhelmed to the point I just want out - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read some of the things you stated about marriage. Why people divorce. I am feeling overwhelmed lately. To the point I just want out. I have been married for over 17 years. We have 2 school-age children together. I am in school full time and work full time and still ...
Views: 762(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. - by Submitted on May 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. When ever bring the topic she is always mad at me. I don't know maybe it's the way her ex treated her. Please help Dear Reader: You can't have phone sex with your girl if she doesn't like it, and you can't force her to like it. Instead, ...
Views: 763(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: After Infidelity: Stay or Go? - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an affair, how do you decide whether to stay or go? Because you feel betrayed, your first impulse is usually anger, and wanting to leave – fight or flight. But, after you calm down, you realize there’s a lot you’ll ...
Views: 1004 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like we have to sneak around and hide - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This ...
Views: 807(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have strong feelings for my plastic surgeon - by Submitted on May 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong ...
Views: 823(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue ...
Views: 903(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: The Magic of Reassurance - by Submitted on May 06, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do , and calms both of you down, which allows your ...
Views: 790 - Dear Dr. Romance: why do I always have sex on the first date? - by Submitted on May 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have been ...
Views: 1000(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need your help fast! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am so happy I could find someone like you to talk to. I am a regular guy and I use your articles for my relationship and it has really helped me. But I am sending you this mail because I need your assistance and i need it fast. The problem is I have a very hot temper and it ...
Views: 1222(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working! He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore. He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful things ...
Views: 867(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Improving Relationships between parents and stepchildren - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Tina TessinaAh, the ugly step parent, celebrated and villainized in fairy tales. Do you have to take on the role? "Dr. Romance" licensed psychotherapist and author, says you don't, and shows you how to manage to be the kind of step-parent that causes your children to say "My step-parent was the best ...
Views: 915(1 vote) - What is the key to Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness long- term marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaAccording to twentytwowords.com, Hugh said “You love each other — and respect each other. You truly want to be together.” Respect and caring are so important in determining who will stay together. Respect and caring create what I call mutuality in the relationship. Mutuality means that love, ...
Views: 812(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why is my ex still calling me? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was dating this guy for about 2 years. During the time that we were together we had some good times and bad. For one he was cheating on me with another girl then we got back together. During that time we worked hard to make the relationship work then I found out that ...
Views: 1454(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I'll be eternally grateful - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2019 from Tina TessinaThank you Dear Dr Romance: I've stumbled across your website, and think I'm going to be eternally grateful for having done so. Your advice is a pleasure to read, with helpful action-plans for effecting change. I love your articles on relationships with parents/children, being one's own ...
Views: 685(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work ...
Views: 1005(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Now That We Are Together, Things Have Changed. - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating this girl for 3 months now but we were talking and going on occasional dates for a good 5 months before we finally made it offical. Now that we are together things have changed. She ignores me when we are around friends and family. When I ask her if she ...
Views: 965(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is this unhealthy and what should I do about it? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Do I have an unhealthy celebrity obsession? I really need answers and help! I feel this is still unresolved? Does anyone else have an obsession with a particular celebrity to the degree that you wanna look, act, talk, dress and live like them. I do, I wanna look like ...
Views: 844(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why is there no support line for men? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for writing "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom." Please allow me to give my opinion as to my priorities. I always had the idea to start from the bottom of your list and go upwards. Work together to create a partnership. Sex is important in life, but ...
Views: 914(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Turning Poison Into Medicine - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing work which I love, and I’m ...
Views: 973(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Comments on The College Admission Scandal Involving Lori Loughlin and Her Husband Mossimo Giannulli - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2019 from Tina TessinaHow can you make sure your marriage doesn't fall apart when you find yourself involved in a major scandal or other disaster? First things first, don’t blame each other. When we’re under attack it’s easy to panic, and panic can lead to fighting. Stay as calm as you can, and remain a team. ...
Views: 902(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I believe he is a good man at heart - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage 3 years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass. I was confused and did not act until one Friday night he did not come home to sleep. He came back that Saturday night and ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: How do you dump someone without hurting them? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a bit of a weird situation... I'm 16 and I am engaged to a guy I only met 2 months ago. I thought he was joking so I just went along with it, and it was only when he gave me a ring and started talking about venues and dates that I realized he was serious. I only ...
Views: 978(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want a way to resolve the yelling. - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been together with my wife for about 3 years now. We have worked on many issues in our marriage and resolved most of them, however there is still one issue that has not been resolved. It seem that little mistakes I make such as not taking out the trash when it smells ...
Views: 876(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Dr. Romance on How to Be a Loving Couple when You Have Kids - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here Parenthood is an overwhelming job. Kids, especially babies, seem to need you there constantly. It's very easy for parents to get so into the role that they lose sight of the couple relationship they used to have. "Dr. Romance" shows ...
Views: 1002(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met a cute guy that's a foreigner in the USA from Russia so....... How do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage? Dear Reader: Whether or not he wants a green card isn't the real question. The real question is, does he have good character, and does he ...
Views: 949(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I like the feeling of getting cut - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: is it normal to like the feeling of glass cutting your skin?I like the feeling of getting cut.......this isnt good is it?... Dear Reader: You're right --it's not good. What it means is that you are emotionally numb, and looking for sensation to feel alive. The ...
Views: 846(1 vote) - Happy Valentine's Day from Dr. Romance - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today "This book is all about preparing you -- not just for confident and competent dating -- but for a successful, loving, forever adult relationship. In today's world, most of us need some kind of guidance. If you're conflicted at all about dating...if ...
Views: 730(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is He Cheating On Me? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Is he cheating on me? Or am I just being paranoid? Me and my bf have been together for 15 months now. A couple of weeks ago we broke up and then got back together after a week. When we broke up he kept texting me, asking “Are u happy?” and stuff. We broke up ...
Views: 897(1 vote) - Dr Romance’s Happiness Tips: Alone on Valentine’s Day? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Valentine's Day gets a lot of media attention, and it can be hard to avoid. When you don't have a special someone to spend it with, or worse yet, you've just lost a relationship, it can be brutal. If you're alone, it's important to take good ...
Views: 879(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I love him to death but if I can't find a solution - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My name is Michelle i am 18 years old.. I was reading "How Not to Fight"; and everything that you talked about not doing during a fight I tend to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we tend to fight a lot about the smallest things that you could ...
Views: 917(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Creating Unconditional Love - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Love, commitment and relationships seem to be in disfavor these days. I'm seeing a lot of articles and TV shows saying love doesn't last, so why bother. No matter what the media is saying, I believe that all of us want to be loved, and I know from experience that a ...
Views: 790(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to be alone the rest of my life - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like what I have seen on your tips for happiness. I am in my late 60s, a Christian and twice divorced. This past January, I met a wonderful Christian woman, also divorced after 20 years of marriage. She is a Labor and Delivery Nurse who has traveled the ...
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