Dear Dr. Romance:

To be honest
I think she is really scared to go to therapy
I have been many times
And I know it works
And I really want her and I to learn how to communicate


Dear Reader:

she probably thinks you want to fix her, and that hurts her feelings. Ask her to go to therapy with you, just to support you and to help you. You can have a session of your own, she can watch, and that will ease her fears.  "Guidelines for Finding and Using Therapy Wisely" and  Ten Things People Don’t Know About Therapy will help both of you understand more about how therapy works.  It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction will help you understand why she's scared.

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.