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- Dr Romance’s 3 tips to know it's time to let go of your relationship - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. If your relationship feels detrimental to your mental, emotional or physical well-being, it's time for a change. If your lover has or develops severe problems ...
Views: 1254(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I was beaten unconscious by a convicted sex offender - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was beaten unconcious by a client. He is a convicted sex offender and gang member who has been put in jail and let out many times for crimes against women. He has told people he is going to kill me. I continue to go to court on the issue and they simply won't help me and say ...
Views: 1077(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented ...
Views: 1441(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: my wife has control and anger problems - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your responses from divorce 360 web site and was really impressed with your thoughts on relationships! I've been married for 18 years with 3 children. I am a very active Dad (Basketball/baseball coach for all of them) but my marriage has been very unhealthy for most of ...
Views: 1020 - Dear Dr. Romance: he is even a few years younger than my daughter - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I am going crazy. I am attracted to a young man who is young enough to be my son, he is even a few years younger than my daughter. He has shown interest in me as well and I think this is absurd and yet I can't help the way I feel. He talks to me and shows an interest when I ...
Views: 1220(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to break-up with him, but I don't know how - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years, I care for him deeply. However, I am not happy. I want to break-up with him, but I don't know the best way to do it and not hurt him. I would still like to remain friends with him, or is this just wishful thinking? Dear ...
Views: 1155(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why this compulsion to cheat? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm looking at myself and asking the question, "Why this compulsion to cheat?" What will it take to keep my eye from wandering around? I'm divorced, technically, but trying to make amends with the ex. I love my kids, and an absentee father just doesn't fit my ...
Views: 1495(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The Pursuit of Happiness - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The founding fathers of our country saw the “pursuit of happiness” as an inalienable right – so important they embedded it in the DNA of the United States of America, by writing it into the Preamble to the Constitution. It was a profoundly new idea at the ...
Views: 1257(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: The Power of Purpose - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Tina Tessina"Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path," writes oncologist Dr. Bernie Siegel in Peace, Love and Healing, "your ‘job on earth.’ This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an inner awareness, ...
Views: 1257 - Dear Dr. Romance: It makes me very very upset, angry, pissed-off, and sad. - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "Surviving Loss and Thriving Again" while searching for answers to my own issues. The 'loved one' I lost was myself. I loved life, loved adventure, travel, people, photography, mostly adventure! In 2 seconds my life was 'taken' away ...
Views: 1791(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: let the small things go and don't pick each other apart - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I just wanted to say thank you for the article you wrote "Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract?" I just read it today and you have really made my day. I'm currently in an interracial relationship with a wonderful man from Africa. Not only are we from ...
Views: 950(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it appropriate for him to still have her in his life? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am going through a break-up this week and pretty broken hearted. My boyfriend and I currently dated for the last year and nine months and it ended this week. He is my age, mid thirties but when he was in his early to mid twenties he had an affair with a much much older ...
Views: 1458(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr Romance writes: Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself. Here are some hints: * If you are disappointed, and the holidays let you down in some way, ...
Views: 954(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he thinks I am neglecting him - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been "dating" someone for a year to this day. We get along great and enjoy spending time together. He is very romantic. We are both full time teachers and students. We do work in separate schools. I enjoy sleeping over. However, recently I have decided that I need to ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I dont know what bipolar is but I wonder about him. - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating a guy for 3 years now. He still lives at home with his parents he is very polite we go to church together. He bought our rings last year and we were going to get married this year. I cancelled for this year. I dont know what bipolar is but i wonder ...
Views: 1121(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: "that fantasy thing is right on the money for me" - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Surviving Loss & Thriving Again" and it helped me a lot. I find the older I get the more I can understand why I do what I do. But, of course, we hope things will be different (see 'Insanity' in the dictionary)! lol Anyway, that fantasy ...
Views: 1015(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Without Ego - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an ...
Views: 1220(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: New Year's Resolution: Letting Go of Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance asks: What is the best New Year's resolution you can make for your happiness? To let go of Anxiety. These days, it seems that there’s one disaster after another. Not only do we have do deal with an angry Mother Nature, but all sorts of fanatics and psychopaths are on the ...
Views: 1106(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I resume my initial romance with my wife? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of ...
Views: 1141(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: No Two Miracles Alike - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaJust as no two snowflakes are alike, no two miracles are, either. I believe in miracles, but the ones that are important to me don’t involve big, showy events. I like the everyday miracles: The food we eat becomes body cells, muscles, thoughts and even emotions. Our ...
Views: 1195(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My daughter told me that she can't take it anymore and wanted to kill herself - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a divorced father of 3. I am remarried. My 11 year old daughter is very upset about her mother's new boyfriend that is also still married. He was first introduced as a friend but she doesn't understand why he is always at the house and stays till late at night. My ...
Views: 1645 - Dr. Romance: Through the eyes of love - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When I was about 7, I had a doll, originally a "Betsy-Wetsy" doll, who had eyes that would close and who drank a bottle and wet her diaper (big toy technology when I got the doll, about 1949) I had had the doll a few years, left her out in the sun and rain, so her latex ...
Views: 1229(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do you get unstuck and really talk? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was so interested in your article "Getting to Yes" about Attentive listening...what a powerful strategy and descriptive techniques. Here is a but.....I have????? Now, what if ....as you are listening you recognize the signals you ...
Views: 1082 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't forgive my girlfriend for cheating on me - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just over one year ago, my girlfriend cheated on me. It wasn't the standard 'met a guy, went to his place' kind of thing, she did it via the internet. He had her cell number but she swears they never talked (though she admits he left voicemails). Everything seemed fine with ...
Views: 2538(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: "Love advice would be greatly appreciated!" - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am in my late 20's and single. My problem is that I am in love with a man (who is the same age as I am) who reciprocates my feelings, but when we start getting close he backs completely off. When we run into one another while we are out with friends we talk and it is like we ...
Views: 1225(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I got upset when he said he wants to stop fornicating with me - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My male friend likes to look at good looking women a second time and more and if the woman is looking at him, he will stare at her. I have a friend that is nine years younger than I am. I am the age of his older brother.We have been seeing each other for two and a ...
Views: 1097 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Sleep with my Ex-girlfriend's Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Maybe you can give me some advice. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. ...
Views: 3122(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Creating Holiday Magic - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Recently, as we were eating in an Italian restaurant, the music being played transported me back to holidays with my Italian/American family. Traditional, sentimental Italian songs were such a large part of our gatherings for the holidays. After a huge, slow, multi-course ...
Views: 1238(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't told anyone i'm in this relationship out of fear - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I want to thank you for the article you wrote "Age Differences in Relationships" I've been dating a guy that is 6 years younger than me (he's 20 and i'm 26) for about 10 months now and I've felt so guilty that i'm "robbing the crib" or a "cougar"...I haven't told anyone ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: How Not to Fight - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Myths and Expectations about Fighting: There are many myths and expectations about fighting in marriage. Couples come into my office frequently believing that fighting is a necessary part of being a couple; that all married couples fight; and it’s a normal part of ...
Views: 1277(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My brothers did not like my choice - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am a PhD student in Computer Science and Mathematics in Europe. I am interested in your blog which helps to a lot of people to find the best solution in their lives. I have also some problems in my private life. I would be very grateful if you could give me ...
Views: 1251(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: The Family of the Heart - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a celebratory time of year, and most of us are thinking of family, whether they’re near or far. My family is somehow both, since I lost all my aunts and uncles and my father before I was ...
Views: 1238(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I say something? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Should I say something? I'm reaching out to you for advice, I came across your blog recently and wanted to see what you had to offer. I'm kind of in a weird situation, I'm interested in this girl that I work with, we have great chemistry and make each other laugh non-stop, we ...
Views: 1157(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't bear to think of life without her - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am unusually confident that you can help me.Well I hope you can anyway. I am 18 years old, I live in England, and I am a lesbian. A year ago,I escaped from a extremely abusive and violent relationship with a woman that I was with for two years.There was an extreme age ...
Views: 1229(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Does Holidays with His Ex and Kids - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found one your article "Dr. Romance: Setting Boundaries with Your Ex" on SelfGrowth.com and wanted to reach out to a professional that is an expert with Divorce, families and integrating a new partner. I am single, 30, never been married, no ...
Views: 1120(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: What Is A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Unless you're completely out of touch with any media, written, audio or video, you have been bombarded with words like "dysfunctional relationship", "codependency" and "toxic family system". You may have noticed that there's a lot of information available about these ...
Views: 1239(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Older men and younger women - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article regarding younger men and older women; but what about older men and younger women who fall in love? What is to be said about that? I am in my 40s (and in my prime), and I have met the most wonderful woman in my entire life ...
Views: 1347(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He had to hurt me to pull away so he could start this new relationship. - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met a guy at the end of my marriage, I started to have a relationship with him. the marriage ended and my husband moved out. My new relationship grew stronger and he had hope for a future with me. I was not ready to let people know I was in a new relationship so ...
Views: 1258(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: When younger sisters say hurtful things - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My sister is 2 years younger and not long after my Dad died, I thought we should sit down and talk about things that needed to be done. She is the executor and took offense, accusing me of getting between her and Dad. Then, when my Mom got sick, she also got angry ...
Views: 1396(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to hear my kids cry anymore - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I feel like I am going crazy I don't want to hear my kids cry anymore, I don't have enough money for anything, I don''t have anyone that I can trust to watch my kids, because they are going through some seperation anxiety because I am the one that takes care of them day in and ...
Views: 1702(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I googled him, he has a criminal record - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: A year ago I broke up with a guy who then stalked me. I finally got rid of him, and then I found out he had a criminal record. I googled him, and found out he lives just a few miles away. and he is currently in jail for four separate DUIs, resisting ...
Views: 1260(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tough because we work together and I see her everyday - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I ran across the post from the man who was being "patient" with the wounded woman who kept projecting her thought and blowing him off. I thought it was so close to my situation, it blew me away. I am a drug and alcohol counselor and found myself attracted to a coworker. ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to bug her a lot and give her anxiety. - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some advice about this person I have been having a crush on lately. So far, our friendship has been quite okay. I recently texted her a week ago and we seem to be okay. She is doing fine and I also been calling her. She exchanged numbers with me when she couldn't ...
Views: 1323 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: "The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Tina TessinaThis arrived in Dr. Romance 's e-mail: “There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over ...
Views: 1388 - Dear Dr. Romance: My husband does not understand my children - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am married with a man that is younger than me by 17 years. Right now we are in a bad situation. I have 2 teenage children from prior marriage. My husband wants to represent my children's father and he does not understand that the children are too old to be molded ...
Views: 1239 - Dear Dr. Romance: Do you feel that she is wanting out and doesn't want to tell me or hurt me? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I have a question for you. I normally don't ask questions like this. But I was looking at your Facebook page and reading some of your responses. Here goes. I have been with this female for almost 1 year. I really love her a lot. The last month things have changed. We don't ...
Views: 1165 - Dear Dr. Romance: Even though i dont want to talk to him, i miss him - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a college girl doing master degree. I am facing some problems pertaining to my love life and i wan help from u. My relation with my boyfriend is about a year old. After we got committed he is transferred to a different state. We are away from each other for the past ...
Views: 1281 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm no closer to meeting the one for me than I was 15 years ago - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just read your post to the 'nice guy' who asked for advice why he keeps getting passed over for the 'bad boy' types, and he was 100% right in saying women consistently say they're looking for a 'nice guy'. I'm in the same position. I'm 35 years old and I've had ...
Views: 1210 - Dr. Romance: Turn on Your Charm - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Ever wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong. Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off. But you ...
Views: 1065 - Dear Dr. Romance: What can I do to give her reason to believe in us again? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been reading some of the articles on your web site and thought I would take a chance here. My wife and I are in the process of getting a divorce. She is divorcing me because she claims she fell out of love with me and no longer wants to be tied down. We ...
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