Dr. Romance:

I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. How couples especially married, last love into lifetime? I am in love with someone, but I don't know if that person feels the same way too. But in some way or in somehow, I know she feels in a small amount of love for me. How to love right? God is loving right, must we follow that?

Dear Reader:

If you treat your partner with kindness and respect, and your partner treats you the same, you have a good chance of creating a lasting relationship. When problems arise, the most important thing to do is learn to listen. If you're not sure your partner loves you, then you are in danger of having a one-sided relationship. The best thing to do is ask, and then respect your partner enough to listen to the answer. You can't wish or push someone into loving you. That's a decision she gets to make for herself. Slow down, back off, and see if she comes forward. Don't push, don't pressure her. If she cares, she should be able to let you know.

The following articles will help you sort out whether you have a real relationship: 
Couples Can Cooperate for Success

Getting to Yes

Guidelines for Being Understood by Your Partner

Letting Go Takes Love

Hot to Be a Couple and Still Be Free 4th Edition

will give you a cooperative model for relationships, which allows both of you to have what you want.

Couple and Free 4th Edition

Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.