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How To Deal With Angry People: A Survival Guide - by Tony FioreFour Ways to Deal with a Passive-aggressive Person - by Tony Fiore- Good Anger, Bad Anger - Telling The Difference - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondCheck any listing of self-help groups, books or websites, and Anger management is likely to be given top billing. It has a bad smell, and it is frowned upon indiscriminately. Yet anger is one of our fundamental emotions, and it has a purpose and value. The survival and utility value of anger ...
Views: 4827(1 vote) - Spend Your Anger - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreThink back to the last time someone made you angry. Maybe it was earlier today, or yesterday. Or a few days back. It probably wasn't that long ago. What did they say? What did they do? Remember the circumstances? Get the image in mind. Now, think back to what you DID about the ...
Views: 1203 - School Violence Is Preventable: 16 Actions That Can Stop the Carnage - by Since the tragic school massacre in Littleton, Colorado, people have been asking the same questions, "Why did this happen?" "How could it have been prevented?" "Could this happen in our school?" "What can we do to stop the school killings that are occurring nationwide?" The answers to these ...
Views: 1753 - Yes Virginia, There are Functional Families! - by Virginia Satir, pioneer in family therapy, was the first to describe a healthy, happy family and the poor coping strategies of families caught in dysfunction. Nowadays everyone seems to come from a dysfunctional family that dealt with the hard knocks of life by creating more confusion and pain. ...
Views: 5596 - The Big Game: The Tug of War of Life - by Do as I say! If only you would....
You are stupid. I wish you would...
Do it my way. Ain't it awful the way....
Aversive control through Benevolent control through intimidation: I know what is right for you! co-dependent obsession:
Blame, shame and name Hurry, scurry and worry
The Big Game of ...
Views: 1765 - The “Right Woman or Man Theory” - by “I Need to Be Right” Way of Thinking
One of life’s biggest set ups is living with the erroneous belief that your way is the only way. Some people seem to have taken a life course called, How To Be Absolutely Sure of Everything! People who feel constantly threatened and angry when others question ...
Views: 1914 - Family: How to Get Teens to Listen to What You Say - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Judy WrightFamily: How to Get Teens to Listen to What You Say © Judy H. Wright, parent educator and author www.ArtichokePress.com “Idunno” becomes the answer of choice for children from ages 14 to 18. You would almost wonder if perhaps they had lost the power of speech, but somehow they can communicate ...
Views: 1339(2 votes) - Road Rage or Road Peace: Which Side Are You On? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2007 from Dr. Kathy Joyce AbbottWe hear way too much about road rage and drivers with bad attitudes. Almost everyone spends some time – from minutes to hours on the roads or freeways every day. The majority of the people on the road are basically friendly folks just trying to get somewhere. Do we need to change our neutral or ...
Views: 2353 - Guidelines for Dealing with an ANGRY Child - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Leah DaviesA V O I D Screaming at the child. Embarrassing the child. Shaming the child. Labeling the child. Threatening the child. Hitting the child. Hurting the child in any way. Indulging the child. Reinforcing inappropriate behavior by giving in to his/her outbursts. DO Accept the child ...
Views: 3092(1 vote) - My Way To Help You Deal With Someone Else's Anger - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2007 from Lynda BevanWhere does anger come from: Anger is an emotion. It stems from issues in your past that are both unresolved and unforgiven! These feelings are buried deep down inside you and cause you emotional and physical harm. Anger comes from a past environment of confusion, chaos and lack of ...
Views: 14693(1 vote) - Inflammation - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2007 from Jacquie HaleLast week I got inflamed. I was angry about an injustice in my community and the fury was all consuming. A useful coaching question about nearly anything is: What did I learn? What did I learn from being inflamed about injustice? The first thing I learned was to notice the signs of my anger. My ...
Views: 955 - Are you angry? GOOD! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2007 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonWhat's missing in "anger management," "anger control," and just "dealing with anger?" Why not use these anger management techniques if you're angry? They miss the upside of anger: how to use your anger to create the life you truly want. No, is not about becoming that "angry man" or "angry woman" ...
Views: 907 - Solution-focused Anger Management for Men: Using Sports to Learn New Skills - by "Football is like life. It requires perseverance, self-denial, hard work, sacrifice, dedication and respect for authority. - Vince Lombardi, former NFL Coach
These words from immortal football legend Vince Lombardi are ingredients for successful living. Some individuals have lived for sports ...
Views: 4241 - Road Rage or Road Peace -- Which Side Are You On? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2007 from Dr. Kathy Joyce AbbottWe hear way too much about road rage and drivers with bad attitudes. Almost everyone spends some time – from minutes to hours on the roads or freeways every day. The majority of the people on the road are basically friendly folks just trying to get somewhere. Do we need to change our neutral or ...
Views: 1597 - The Power and Danger of Anger - by Gritted teeth, clenched fists and a voice tight with anger do not paint a pretty picture but we've all been there. Sometimes, we get angry over the most foolish things.....a long line at the check-out, that driver who wouldn't let us in as the traffic light was changing, the endless loop of ...
Views: 779 - Staying Centered in Peace - by As a chaplain at a local church I am trained to see the “highest good” even when things on the outside seem contrary. I am trained to see the perfect expression of God in all situations. So for example, I have been taught to see beyond outer manifestations such as disease, and see the inherent ...
Views: 1163 - Dispel Anger in 2 Simple Steps - by Submitted on May 11, 2007 from Margrit Harris"It really works!" "Well, I'll be…!" BJ like so many others in the workshop was astounded that a technique so simple could produce such an amazing result. You must try it. Next time your partner flares up in anger do this. In a very non-threatening calm and sincere tone of voice ...
Views: 2457 - Workplace Wrath: Using Anger to Build - by When anger is used correctly it almost always has positive results! This statement is very shocking, for it is in direct contradiction with most past experiences. We have all witnessed the sharp and cutting blade of anger as it slashes and cuts red its victim. We have all felt unresolved anger ...
Views: 3072 - Let it Begin With Us - by Last week, I found grace. It was right there, alongside homemade brownies and a box of Legos.
September 11th spawned some overwhelming feelings. I was so distracted by them that, for two days, I forgot to buy dog food. The first night, we got creative and concocted some high-protein solution ...
Views: 1036 - Anger Is OK - by September 11, 2001 early in the morning, our sky was falling. It was an act that affected our entire world. In the midst of all the people whose lives were taken; it didn't take our dignity or our strength.
On that fateful morning, I hadn't even turned on the TV. I walked my two children to ...
Views: 1175 - Denial Is Just Another Defense Mechanism: Defenses Protect Us from Uncomfortable Self-Awareness - by "Defenses operate to protect us from uncomfortable or unacceptable self-awareness."
Almost everyone nowadays knows what it means to say an alcoholic is "in denial." This is the alcoholic who tells himself and the world "I can quit any time I want to." He doesn't quit, though, and doesn't ...
Views: 2305 - Why I Get So Angry Right Now at the"People Who Have So Much" - by On December 4 of this year,it will be two years that my husband George will have died from complications of a stroke.I am a heavy set person,who,because of disabilites,cannot work.My 19 year old son lives at home with me,and works to help support the small government pensionsI receive.The labor ...
Views: 744 - An Alternative Therapeutic Intervention to Reduce Aggression and Other Behavioral and Emotional problems - by Abused males and delinquent males who are emotionally disturbed are often placed in a residential treatment facility for therapy. The purpose of this study was two fold. First, the authors wanted to compare Children's Protective Service (CPS) residents to Juvenile Probation (JP) residents in ...
Views: 2825 - Why is Coach Bobby Knight Explosive? - by Bobby Knight is presently the head basketball coach at Texas Tech. Prior to being hired by them Bobby Knight spent twenty-nine years coaching basketball at Indiana University. In those twenty-nine years he coached many successful basketball teams and in fact, brought three NCAA basketball ...
Views: 4183 - What is Your Temperament Style? - by Understanding temperament styles will not only have a positive impact on the way you see yourself but it will also enhance your relationship with others. If you are a parent, it can dramatically improve the way you raise your children. If you are single, it can give you insight into selecting a ...
Views: 8031 - WHY AND HOW DOES THE MAN GET ANGRY? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2007 from Wayne MisnerWHY AND HOW DOES THE MAN GET ANGRY? HERE ARE SOME POSSIBILITIES: • Fear that he is not lovable. • Fear of failure. • Fear of not being in control. • Fear of not knowing. • Fear of rejection. • Fear that if you find out who he really is you will not want him. • Fear of ...
Views: 8269 - The Top Ten Tips for Managing Anger, Conflict, and Emotional Tension - by To be a safe and predictable person for those around you at work and at home, it is essential that you are able to maintain your composure when you feel like your 'buttons' are being pushed. This strength will help you to achieve your goals in business as well as your goals for your personal ...
Views: 3782 - Why Anger is Often Hidden Until it is Too Late? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2007 from Lynne DeanAnger, is a strong feeling that is hidden deep deep deep under several layers of skin and often unleashed inappropriately. Actually some of us are able to control this beast more easily than others. They do not get triggered as easily and know how to deal with it. Why? Because they can ...
Views: 1149 - Coping with Conflict Part One - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2007 from Julie ChristiansenAnger Solutions™ at Work: How do you cope with Conflict? Conflict is a part of everyday life, and is ever present in a working environment. Contrary to popular belief, conflict is not always a bad thing – and often leads to great ideas, strategies, and business enhancing products ...
Views: 1392 - 12 Tips for Overcoming Anger and Gaining Peace - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2007 from Remez SassonAnger appears when one is confronted with frustration, unhappiness or hurt feelings, or when plans don't turn out as desired. It also shows up when coming against opposition or criticism. Anger never helps anyone. It wastes your energy, and can hurt your health, spoil your relationships, and ...
Views: 4914 - Challenge Automatic Thoughts- An Anger Reduction Technique - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2007 from Ari NovickLearn To Challenge Negative Automatic Thoughts Four Ways to Argue with Yourself At its core, optimism is a style of interpreting events that occur in your world. It is your personal theory or explanation of why good and bad things happen to you. While everyone experiences both setbacks and ...
Views: 3759 - Keeping Cool While Under Fire - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2007 from Kare Anderson"Keeping Cool While Under Fire" by Kare Anderson Imagine. The number one reason people get fired in the U.S. is anger, andthe number one problem people say they have at work is they do not feelheard and respected. How do we make people feel heard when they are difficult to be around -- and ...
Views: 2317 - Why Do We Need Anger Management? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2006 from Joe LeechWhy Do We Need Anger Management? Is there more stress in our lives today than previously? Probably 8 out of 10 people, if asked this question, would reply "yes". Just last week I saw a tv news show talking about the fact that if you only worked a 60 hour week in some countries of the world ...
Views: 2546 - Feudin’ and Fussin’ and A-Fightin’ - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Gene SimmonsThere are probably at least 17 gazillion reasons why folks get into arguments. Unfortunately none of them are very valid. Here’s what I mean. Let’s take a look at the base word first. My super-duper dictionary defines “argue” as: “To present reasons for or against a thing”. OK, so the ...
Views: 1437 - Moving from Anger to a Healthy Assertiveness - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2006 from Lynette HoyMoving from Anger to Healthy Assertiveness Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC All of us have experienced anger. Some of us have cringed under the rage in our families, struggled with it in our souls, felt it toward our friends, co-workers and loved ones. Some of us have shocked others with volcanoes of ...
Views: 1069 - Anger Can Kill - Kill Your Anger Using "The 3 Step Method" - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2006 from Abe KassAnger is a pervasive poison. It will ruin you, turning safety to fear, confidence to hopelessness, happiness to depression, and optimism to anxiety. It will ruin your relationships, turning peacefulness to hostility, comfort to animosity, love, and friendship to hatred, cooperation to rebellion, ...
Views: 3719 - 5 Tips to Manage Your Child's Anger - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2006 from Jamie SullivanChildren, even at a very young age can feel and express anger. It is the overall development process of the child. As they grow older,their understanding towards people and things around them starts to advance,therefore their expression of anger will also change, gradually. Things that can ...
Views: 1711 - Six Repair Tools for your Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2006 from Dr. Tony FioreRudy and Marjorie were on the verge of divorce. Married 12 years, they had constant verbal battles ending in what therapists call call emotional disengagement— meaning that they simply ignored each other for days on end.Emotionally, they were simmering inside and also lonely for each other, but ...
Views: 3847 - I’m Gettin’ Really Torqued! - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Gene SimmonsFor those of you who have been living in a cave for most of your lives, you can translate the “torqued” in the title of this article to “mad” or “angry”. For today’s discussion of anger, let’s quantify the intensity of our focus with the words “downright, PO’d!” I think that’s quite clear. ...
Views: 1229 - Something Happened On The Way To My Life... - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2006 from Linda McCarrinSOMETHING HAPPENED ON THE WAY TO MY LIFE…by Linda McCarrin, B.A., CHLC There you are going along…going to work, going to school, taking care of your daily duties, plans for the weekends, etc. You are taking care of business or so it seems and BAM! out of the blue some sort of volcanic eruption ...
Views: 1416 - How To Deal With Difficult People Part 3 - The Passive Aggressive - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2005 from Dr. Tony FioreThirty-three year old Roberto had promised his wife Tina that he would be home after work in time for her to attend her weekly "women's group" at her church. Having only one automobile, Tina was completely at the mercy of Roberto's promise. You guessed it! Roberto did not show up until 8:45 ...
Views: 10855 - How to Deal With Difficult People Part 2 - The Bully - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2005 from Dr. Tony FioreSixty-four year old Bill was a married retired executive who sought anger management help on the insistence of his wife Ann. After 24 years Ann could no longer tolerate his bullying behavior toward her, their children, and their friends. He would often relate in an insulting, "get in your ...
Views: 3094 - Freeze frame Technique for Anger Management - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2005 from Ari NovickAnger Management and Self-soothing The Institute of HeartMath has developed an excellent exercise called “freeze-frame” which is ideal for self-soothing during your retreat time. The best part is while it only takes a couple of minutes to do it, the results can be quite astounding. The ...
Views: 4460 - 4 Steps to Being More Assertive - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2005 from Dr. Tony Fiore45 year old Judy revealed in an anger management class that she was constantly angry at her husband. When asked why, she revealed that her aged mother lives next door and she always felt conflicted whether to spend time with her husband or her mother after work. She loved them both, but ...
Views: 3989 - 4 Steps to Teaching Your Family to Treat You Better - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2005 from Dr. Tony Fiore4 Steps to Teaching Your Family to Treat You Better by Dr. Tony Fiore Case #1- Elizabeth, a 40 year old homemaker was always feeling angry and “used” by her family, constantly saying that everybody took advantage of her. She felt that she worked like a slave but her family showed no ...
Views: 4355(1 vote) - Anger Management Home Study Programs - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2005 from Ari NovickIt might be difficult to attend a weekly anger management class due to a busy work schedule or personal life. One option is to take a comprehensive home study course in anger management. Home study anger management programs can offer some of the same benefits as their weekly counterpart without ...
Views: 1166(1 vote) - 4 Steps to Assertive Communication - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2005 from Dr. Tony Fiore“Dr. Fiore,” my 42 year old married patient (Mary) began, “once again my family expects me to host Christmas dinner and I am simply too exhausted; what should I do?” “Why not tell them how you feel?” I asked. “Because I don’t want to hurt their feelings – I always feel guilty if I don’t do ...
Views: 12805(1 vote) - Anger and the American Family: 3 Steps to Diffuse Family Anger by Changing Your Inner Conversations - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2005 from Dr. Tony FioreCase #1: Jeanette and Tom had been married 15 years. Wanting to surprise him for his birthday, Jeanette, with her own money, bought Tom a big-screen LCD television. Tom’s reaction? He instantly blew up and berated Jeanette for spending so much money—buying more television than they needed, a ...
Views: 4086 - [Anger Management] Is it finally time to forgive? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2005 from Charlie BadenhopIn order to free ourselves from the pain of anger and resentment we need to be able to forgive our self and others. The longer we dwell on hurtful situations from the past, the longer we keep our self from living fully in the present. Forgiveness is an act of kindness. An act of kindness to your ...
Views: 1658 - An Enlightened Public Discovers Anger Management - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2005 from George AndersonAn Enlightened Public Discovers Anger Management The recent pattern of referrals to anger management classes shows a dramatic shift in client profiles. Over the last seven years most referrals were from the Courts for misdemeanor offenses and infractions with aggressive behavior being the ...
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