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Overcoming Bipolar Disorder: Anger - by Mark S. Bauer, MD; Amy M. Kilbourne, Ph.D., MPH; Devra E. Greenwald, MPH; Evette J. Ludman, PH.D.; Linda McBride, MSN
Everyone experiences feelings of anger or irritability, but people with bipolar disorder are especially prone to these feelings and the adverse effects of anger. In fact, sudden feelings of anger or irritability are key symptoms of mania. Inappropriate anger attacks occur in up to 60 percent of ... Views: 30319
Dealing with angry people in our society is becoming increasingly challenging. Some days, it seems anger surrounds us at home, in the workplace, on the roadways, and at sports events. It is easy to get caught up in an escalating spiral of angry exchanges which usually upsets everyone and does ... Views: 26037
Anger comes from the Latin word, angere, which means "to strangle." Anger strangles us on a number of different levels. It is the emotion which is probably the most familiar to the majority of us. A consistent finding in those who have low self-esteem, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, substance ... Views: 25265
Thirty-three year old Roberto had promised his wife Tina that he would be home after work in time for her to attend her weekly “women’s group” at her church. Having only one automobile, Tina was completely at the mercy of Roberto’s promise.
You guessed it! Roberto did ... Views: 18222
Have you ever wondered if venting was a useful way to release your emotions? Simply put, is venting good for you? I guess that depends on what you mean by venting. If by venting you mean screaming, yelling, ranting or raving about your problems, feelings and emotions with anger, then no, venting ... Views: 16271
Have you ever gone out of your way to NOT take care of yourself? Does it ever seem like you're working against yourself? Do you ever ask yourself "Why did I do that??".
My "inner saboteur" loves to tell me "leave the dishes, you can do them later.". This is particularly harmful for me for two ... Views: 16086
So – I Finally Quit Drinking. Why am I so Angry?
By Claude “Hoot” Hooten aka: Brad Edwards
Believe it or not, when we drunks finally quit drinking, we're angry. I remember thinking, "alright, I'm not drinking, what else do they want?" "I was giving up all the ... Views: 16042
Did you ever wonder about why you get angry? Or do you just feel that anger simmering inside you and not know quite why it is?
I had a recent learning about three roots of anger. If you are angry it could be for one of these three reasons:
1. Fear
What are you afraid of happening? What is your ... Views: 15832
MYTHS AND FACTS ABOUT ANGER
Although anger is one of the most common emotions that people have, it is the least understood. These phrases are probably familiar to you:
“If someone hits you, hit ‘em back.”
“Turn the other cheek.”
“Don’t get angry; get even.”
Have you noticed how they ... Views: 14955
Where does anger come from:
Anger is an emotion. It stems from issues in your past that are both unresolved and unforgiven! These feelings are buried deep down inside you and cause you emotional and physical harm.
Anger comes from a past environment of confusion, chaos and lack of ... Views: 14714
What to do when life throws you a curve ball:
Keep batting and don't give up. Learn to hit them right out into the stands and run all the bases for a home run. Hear the crowd go wild. Feel the glory inside that you didn't throw down your bat in defeat.
We are all pitched a few curve balls ... Views: 13846
The boss’ face is red with rage as he screams obscenities at his subordinate. The boss yells words he will later regret. The subordinate focuses on breathing deeply and staying calm as he watches his boss spin out of emotional control. In the face of his boss’ fury, the subordinate remains ... Views: 13354
The boss’ face is red with rage as he screams obscenities at his subordinate. The boss yells words he will later regret. The subordinate focuses on breathing deeply and staying calm as he watches his boss spin out of emotional control. In the face of his boss’ fury, the subordinate remains ... Views: 13354
Narcissistic Injury
An occasional or circumstantial threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist's grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack ... Views: 13255
Which comes first – fear or economic chaos?
Companies as varied as Yahoo, American Express, and Time Inc. are laying off employees. Corporate profits are dropping. The stock market is in a chaotic panic. Housing prices have plunged. Consumer debt is on the rise. The U.S. economy is in a full ... Views: 13214
“Dr. Fiore,” my 42 year old married patient (Mary) began, “once again my family expects me to host Christmas dinner and I am simply too exhausted; what should I do?”
“Why not tell them how you feel?” I asked.
“Because I don’t want to hurt their feelings – I always feel guilty if I don’t do ... Views: 12821
Anger is just one of many emotions that individuals experience. Anger is also an emotion that many try to deny. “I am not mad at him,” This type of thing happens all the time.” “It’s really not her fault.” “It’s not that big of a problem.” These statements are just some of soothing phases ... Views: 12209
An anger management class is very effective for those who experience difficulty in controlling negative emotions. Parents, executives, teenagers and even elementary age children can benefit from learning how to deal with aggression and hostility in an effective manner. These classes can be taken ... Views: 10867
Thirty-three year old Roberto had promised his wife Tina that he would be home after work in time for her to attend her weekly "women's group" at her church. Having only one automobile, Tina was completely at the mercy of Roberto's promise.
You guessed it! Roberto did not show up until 8:45 ... Views: 10867
Holding resentments against others is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to get sick. We are only hurting ourselves. Often we hold resentments because we don't think the other person "deserves" to be forgiven. We seem to have the mistaken belief that somehow by holding ... Views: 10687
We've all taken our anger out on the wrong party, not to say that there is ever a right party who is deserving of our ire. It's not uncommon to be upset with one person and misdirect it at someone or something else. Your boss has been crabby all day and continually comments on every aspect of ... Views: 10537
When introduced into the human body, it causes a stimulating interaction that leaves a lasting impression, both literally and figuratively. After smoking marijuana, cannabinoids and their by-products are still detectable in the body. In many cases, they are present long after the ... Views: 10218
"Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret." If you answered yes to the title question I am sure you have realized the truth in this quote by Ambrose Bierce. In order to gain control over your tongue you must be determined to see things differently. ... Views: 10007
Have you ever met someone who seems to have fantastic, supportive relationships at work? How do they create such thriving and fulfilling relationships with coworkers? Are great relationships based on a skill you can learn? New research has discovered a key element which helps relationships ... Views: 9998
"Dr.Fiore,” the voice on the phone pleaded,“I need anger management classes right away.
I blew up at my girlfriend last night and she said it’s over until I get help."
As Kevin recounted the first night of class, he and his girlfriend had argued in the car over which route to ... Views: 9961
Licensed mental health clinicians including psychologists, clinical social workers and licensed professional counselors are all familiar with and are trained to perform assessments. The most common may be the psychosocial assessment. This assessment takes a global look at the individual’s ... Views: 9874
Pity or genuine desire for connection?
Watching Tom rapt in conversation with their guests made Roxy feel left out and unimportant. Almost as if he heard her wish, Tom asked her for her opinion of the movie they were all talking about. She could hardly speak. She didn’t want to be brought in ... Views: 9648
Some people believe forgiveness is important and others don’t.
In his book Alcoholics Anonymous, author Bill Wilson (the co-founder of AA) discusses forgiveness and says its necessary for sobriety. He calls it “letting go of resentment,” not forgiveness, and says it’s not done to please ... Views: 9230
The term Anger management commonly refers to a system of psychological therapeutic techniques and exercises by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state.
One technique for controlling anger is ... Views: 8687
Anger can be like an addiction in that people are very creative in finding all sorts of rationales for their anger and why they don’t need anger management. At times it can almost appear as if they are in denial about their anger management issues. Part of the reason for this is that the way our ... Views: 8609
WHY AND HOW DOES THE MAN GET ANGRY?
HERE ARE SOME POSSIBILITIES:
• Fear that he is not lovable.
• Fear of failure.
• Fear of not being in control.
• Fear of not knowing.
• Fear of rejection.
• Fear that if you find out who he really is you will not want him.
• Fear of ... Views: 8287
“Angry”, “mad”, “irritable”, “frustrated”, “annoyed”, “irate”, “seething”, “agitated”, and “cranky” are all labels for anger. This list, although it could be a lot longer, reflects varying degrees in intensity of anger. Anger, although a normal emotion, can be problematic for recovering ... Views: 8129
Understanding temperament styles will not only have a positive impact on the way you see yourself but it will also enhance your relationship with others. If you are a parent, it can dramatically improve the way you raise your children. If you are single, it can give you insight into selecting a ... Views: 8045
The key to control of your anger is to be slow to anger. No one can turn anger on and off like a light switch. But having a very, very long fuse is the key to anger management. There are three attributes that are common, however, to someone that is slow to anger.
GRACIOUS
People who have ... Views: 7707
One of the most important people to use anger management techniques with is that person in your life that you struggle getting along with that you warmly refer to as your boss.
You're tired. You're discouraged. You're dejected. You're unmotivated. You may feel that your boss is intimidating, ... Views: 7551
While the short-term problems created by anger are bad enough, consider some of the long-term effects…
Negative Effects of Anger
The negative effects of chronic anger are far-reaching. People who lack the ability to manage their anger have a higher chance of the following…
Low ... Views: 7495
One of the bases of temper control is a good attitude. A good attitude towards temper control can make it easier to build a good temper entirely. At the same time, all the matured persons almost all have a correct and good attitude.
Tag: temper control, good temper, attitude towards temper ... Views: 7343
Are you feeling real emotion? Or is it just a fabrication? Here's how to find out...
Just because you're feeling something, that doesn't automatically mean it's a 'real' emotion. Because so much of what we feel is a 'mental construct' of our own making.
In other words, it's a fabrication; ... Views: 7333
Anger is a normal and healthy emotion that causes psychological changes to occur, such as intense frustration and irritation. There are also physiological changes that occur, such as an increased heart rate and a raised level of adrenaline. Anger can be beneficial by helping to provide the ... Views: 7095
Hostility is a form of angry internal rejection or denial in psychology. It is a part of personal construct psychology, developed by George Kelly. In everyday speech it is more commonly used as a synonym for anger and aggression.
In psychological terms, Kelly defined hostility as the wilful ... Views: 7021
Anger is not a rare emotion. We all get angry from time to time, whether we feel anger towards a person, an event, or both. While it is normal - if not healthy - to feel anger, this emotion has the ability to dangerously take over a person's life if allowed to get out of control.
Fortunately, ... Views: 6928
Most anger management courses should probably more accurately called aggression management classes. This is because anger and aggression are not the same thing. Anger may lead to aggression, but it is something entirely different.
If you ask most people what the goal of anger management is ... Views: 6729
People seem to think happiness is hard to achieve. It is simple when you know what to do. This article shows you in three easy steps how to achieve happiness and the success that comes along with it.
We all have heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a ... Views: 6620
We are all emotional beings. We may experience emotions in varying levels of intensity but nobody can deny having emotions. Recognizing and understanding emotions is of paramount importance in our personal lives and interactions with others.
Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new concept in ... Views: 6609
Anger is a normal part of life. However, if it gets out of control, it can really damage your family, your work, the people around you, and your lifestyle. If you are easily irritated and get angry over minor problems, it is important to learn how to curb the excessive energy that this emotion ... Views: 6549
The Wolf You Feed the Most
(Excerpt from an upcoming book, The Wolf You Feed the Most, by Cindy Stone)
There is a most wonderful story originating with the First Nations that circulates in various forms in books (I referenced it in my first, The Incidental Guru; Lessons in Healing from a Dog), ... Views: 6549
Emotional hijacking is a state when an individual's cognitions are overpowered by his/her emotions. It is usually referred to in the context of aggression or fearfulness.
With respect to aggression, it can be said to be a sudden unleashing of rage towards another person. It is an extreme ... Views: 6540
Most people experience a great deal of stress in that period of time between Thanksgiving and New Years, fondly known as “The Holidays”. Many of us, find ourselves becoming irritable, with our patience and tolerance stretched to the limit.
Much of the impatience and intolerance involves ... Views: 6438
"The other night I ate at a real family restaurant. Every table had an argument going."
One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger. When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows:
- Anger impedes our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness are ... Views: 6256