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- Advice to Parents: Things You Can Do To Decrease the Likelihood of Your Child Being the Victim of a Sexual Predator - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachAn article by Jay Tow, M.S. Certified Sexologist Much has been written and discussed about the things we can teach our children in order help them avoid being victims of a sexual predator or molester. We all know about staying away from strangers and good and bad touching. There are steps ...
Views: 2214(2 votes) - Distinguishing Responsability, Blame & Fault - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Danish AhmedHi Everyone!! In a previous newsletter, some of you wrote back requesting clarification on how all of us can be "100% responsible for our lives" when there are certain obvious things which we cannot control, such as sexual abuse or a physical disability. First, let's distinguish ...
Views: 2388(4 votes) - Extra, Extra, Read All About It! Ten Million Children on Drugs! - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Regina MurphyAlthough this headline will not appear in The New York Times or The Wall Street Journal maybe it should. The chances of a child being addicted to drugs to alter their moods in adulthood increase exponentially if they are prescribed medication by a psychiatrist or doctor at an early age. Parents ...
Views: 2155(2 votes) - Fear of Commitment - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Karen KleinwortAre You Commitment-Phobic? Many people don’t experience committed, steady relationships, and they often assert this is so not because they are afraid of commitment but rather because they enjoy their freedom and flirtatious nature. And while this may be true for some who embrace their “forever ...
Views: 2060(2 votes) - Fight Night - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten October 17, 1988 I was out in the back yard shooting baskets with some of the boys from the neighborhood. It was a crisp, sunny fall afternoon, sweatshirt weather, and I was feeling great about life. I had finally gotten the knack of the jump shot, and was really proud of ...
Views: 2160(4 votes) - Finding Clarity - Dealing With An Addicted Loved One - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Joe WhiteIt was 15 years ago and my life was different. Growing up I didn't plan on being a drug addict. I came from a good family, parents who loved each other and their kids. As a matter of fact this year they are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. All the love and good upbringing didn't ...
Views: 2699(2 votes) - Getting past the Pain of Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Monty RitchingsI think it is safe to say that there is not one person on this planet that would choose to be born into an abusive situation, whether it is any of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual or sexual abuse. As human beings, we are programmed to not like pain or suffering, however, at the hands of ...
Views: 1470(2 votes) - How A Tulsa Drug Rehab Center Can Help You By Taking A Holistic Approach - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2012 from Sandy SmithIn order to help you get over a drug addiction problem you will need to make some big changes in your life, which go beyond simply stopping the physical use of the drug. A good approach to use is a holistic one that addresses every part of your body and your mind in order to improve your overall ...
Views: 1095(2 votes) - Preventing Child Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2012 from Williams BistlineThe reason why parents hire nannies is to keep watch over their kids while they are away from home. Sadly, the very nannies that parents hire are the ones who commit child abuse to the children, without the parents knowing it. If you notice your child being afraid of going back home right after ...
Views: 1779(2 votes) - Purple Drink, Cough Syrup Abuse - What "Syrup" Does to Your Body - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from ChooseHelp.com Addiction TreatmentPurple Drink Promethazine and Codeine containing cough syrup abuse has become popular in certain circles, especially in Houston and the South. Mixed with soft drinks and soda, it is drank and taken in high doses creating a euphoric effect that can "slow" people down. This relatively new ...
Views: 11728(2 votes) - Say No to Waffling!!! - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs Are you beginning to see where we need our tools, ability to say No, ability to make requests, ability to speak our truth in order be a good leader, and in order to be able ...
Views: 1448(2 votes) - Victim Mentality - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Barbara BakerHow would you answer this question: I am out of my abuse and have moved on with my life. There is something that I have been wondering about. How and when does the abuse stop playing a significant part of my life? I have seen others who have moved on and I would like to know how they did ...
Views: 29523(4 votes) - Victim Mentality - Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2003 from Barbara BakerIn a previous article I talked about survivors who are unable to move on with their lives and/or having the attitude that everything that is wrong in their life is the result of another person. In that article it was discussed about how important forgiving yourself is so you can move on. So ...
Views: 8152(2 votes) - Will The Real You Please Stand Up? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2010 from Mark GillespieI used to want and expect someone, a counsellor, a lover, a psychiatrist, a priest to cure me. I thought they owed me the answer to my problems and had it in their power to relieve me of my pain. After all, they were professionals, for the most part, who were qualified or positioned to see my ...
Views: 1674(2 votes) - Thoughts on My Inner Child - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysA good friend emailed me a while back and asked about my experience of the "inner child" on my road to healing. My inner child, who I called Little Danny, was an integral part of the book I had written, "Freedom's Just Another Word." My friend wondered if my experience of that inner child had ...
Views: 1719(7 votes) - PTSD - And Didn't Know it! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysI spent a lot of time walking around Houston in the middle '80s with many of the symptoms of PTSD, and didn't know it. I was having flashbacks - of occurrences I didn't remember. I felt like the man in the Bourne Identity with amnesia, who was getting glimpses of his past - a past he could not ...
Views: 3346(8 votes) - Addiction Bible Scriptures - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Robert And Shelley JakobsenAlcoholism, drug abuse and eating disorders are often misunderstood. These diseases include a soul-sickness. The people in the grips of these afflictions are spiritually ill, too. The illness can even spread to family members and friends. The recovery process has produced countless untold ...
Views: 7882(3 votes) - Overcoming The Fear - Facing The Past - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysI received this question from someone who had just read my book, Freedom’s Just Another Word, where I confront some pretty bad demons from my past: How did you overcome your fear of dealing with all the pain coming to the surface? I have not been able to conquer this fear I have of ...
Views: 2467(3 votes) - Who Am I Really? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Monty RitchingsA million years ago or so when I was in college studying social work, I learned a really important lesson. It was that the minds of people are supposed to progress and become more enlightened as we evolve on our personal journey. I learned at this time that there are four questions that are ...
Views: 1314(3 votes) - Independence Day - Little Danny Set Free! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysFor the last two years I've been working to overcome the effects of damage done by my Grandmother, who we all called Mamaw. When I was 8 years old, she asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said a famous writer, and she was appalled, and said "If you are a famous writer, they'll call ...
Views: 1998(7 votes) - Adult Depression and Childhood Abuse - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossOver the years I’ve discovered that a significant proportion of adult clients who present with depression have a history of childhood abuse. The abuse may have been sexual, physical and/or emotional. At first I attributed this to the fact that I specialize in abuse and many clients who come ...
Views: 2327(4 votes) - Power To Set Yourself Free - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Vonzel SawyerThis posting is about forgiveness. I don’t know about you, but most of the time when I have seen forgiveness addressed it involves the actions of two or more persons. This posting will take a more focused view where it mainly involves action of a single person. Part of improving oneself leads ...
Views: 1862(4 votes) - The Heart of Transformation - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2009 from Glenn BergerHow do we change? Change takes one tiny step, but to take that one step can require a journey of a thousand miles. So many of us can dream of the life we want to have and the person we want to be. It can be especially frustrating when we get to the stage in our adventure where we ...
Views: 1420(6 votes) - The Process of Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerLoss of sleep, an ache deep in the bit of your stomach, frequent tears, a heart seems to get heavier as the days go on, depression, and feelings of isolation and abandonment are all signs of a broken heart. How, if possible, do you heal from a broken heart? There is no quick fix. If you are ...
Views: 3095(1 vote) - "I Fear the Holidays: It is the Worst Time of the Year!" - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninThe holidays season should be a time of family get-togethers, love shared, and relatives and friends brought up to date. Holidays are supposed to be the reification of that contradiction in terms: mass or group intimacy. Instead, for victims of family violence and abuse, the holidays are ...
Views: 2774(2 votes) - *** Could Therapy Have Helped Michael Jackson? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Kathy SeifertMichael Jackson must have been under tremendous emotional stress in recent years. He went through a difficult trial. He had a strained relationship with his father. Additionally, being in the spotlight 24/7 can put tension on your emotional state. News reports imply that Michael may have had ...
Views: 3729(1 vote) - A Bully is a Bully by Any other name is a Bully - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2010 from William WuThe problem of bullying is huge and is now coming under the severe scrutiny of society. People often tend to think about the young child bully when one brings up the subject of the bully. People may conjure up the image of a big, mean, strong boy who threatens and taunts another smaller socially ...
Views: 2465(2 votes) - Abuse Me, Lose Me - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2004 from richard jonesIt's usually much easier to get into an abusive relationship than to get out of it. Everything from fear of retaliation to feeling helpless can make it difficult for a victim of abuse to sever ties with the abuser. Things like unemployment, underemployment, codependency, and not wanting the ...
Views: 2228(1 vote) - ACRONYMS for all HEAL & GROW Articles - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna Torbicopgs. = http://www.acoarecovery.com – Then click on SITE MAP ACoAs = adult-children of alcoholics & other abusers A = Abandonment (A) = Adult As = Actions A/A = Abuse & Abandonment AC = Adapted Child AEC = Adult Ego State B = ...
Views: 1666(1 vote) - Alcohol Test to Control Drunk Driving - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from Anne HamiltonThe holiday season is considered to be one of the most hectic times for police and traffic departments due to the significant increase in impaired or drunk driving. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), there are more than 1000 people in America who are killed ...
Views: 2033(2 votes) - Bad Mother, Good Mother, Good Son/Daughter: Offspring of Narcissistic Parents - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2013 from Sam VakninChildren of narcissistic parents grow up to become either sensitized or desensitized to narcissistic behaviours, traits, and personalities. In adulthood, sensitized offspring are able to rapidly discern the presence of narcissists by reading their body language and by resonating with subtle ...
Views: 2818(2 votes) - Child Molester or Pedophile - Is there a difference and what drives them? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2013 from Roni Weisberg-RossSexual abuse of children is not a new problem, nor have the statistics changed. “1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 14; 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 16.” (Hopper, J. (1998). Child Sexual Abuse: Statistics, Research, & Resources. Boston, MA Boston University ...
Views: 3442(2 votes) - Codependency: Don’t Dance! (revised) - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCCodependency: Don’t Dance! Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC www.HumanMagnetSyndrome.com www.RossRosenbergTherapy.com Codependency: Don’t Dance! The “codependency dance” requires two people: the pleaser/fixer and the taker/controller. This inherently dysfunctional dance requires ...
Views: 2345(2 votes) - Coping With Your Abuser - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2003 from Sam VakninHow to cope with your abuser? Sometimes it looks hopeless. Abusers are ruthless, immoral, sadistic, calculated, cunning, persuasive, deceitful - in short, they appear to be invincible. They easily sway the system in their favor. Here is a list of escalating countermeasures. They represent the ...
Views: 1855(2 votes) - Deadly Combination: What Is Really In Illegal Drugs? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Amy CrowellThe concoctions of chemicals being used to create the deadly mixtures being used to create illegal drugs will astonish most people. Not only are the chemicals dangerous but the amount of each chemical that is added to illegal drugs drastically varies depending on who is mixing the combination. ...
Views: 3357(2 votes) - Do Rejection Fears Rule Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealAre you one of those people who’s very confident, who makes new friends easily, who has no trouble asking someone for a date? Or are you a person who lacks confidence, who fears rejection, who is constantly worried about whether other people really like him, or will reject him? Does your ...
Views: 1403(2 votes) - Drunk Driving - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2003 from David HillDrunk driving involvement in fatal motor-vehicle crashes is on the rise. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, alcohol was involved in 41 percent of fatal crashes in 1995. Between 1982 and 1993, 266,291 deaths in the United States were alcohol related - one fatality ...
Views: 1348(1 vote) - Facilitating Narcissism - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use ...
Views: 1949(1 vote) - Forgiving vs. Forgetting - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2009 from Adrian CaminosThe phrase “Forgive and Forget” is a nice thought but one of those things that is hard to do in practice. My question is why do we link the two in the first place? I have heard some people say that once you forgive somebody for what they have done to you, you should then just move on and ...
Views: 2285(2 votes) - Get the Facts About Alcohol and Drug Abuse before it's Too Late! - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Ari NovickAlcohol and drugs can have a lasting and devastating impact on our lives. Unfortunately, by the time you become a statistic, it's already too late. In fact, by the time a statistic is even developed, it's probably too late. Here are some interesting facts about alcohol. In a recent study ...
Views: 1067(3 votes) - How does alcohol affect people with anxiety? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2022 from Patty BellBy Patty Bell, Interventionist, Capo by the Sea How many of us, at the end of a stressful day, might seek the relaxing effects of an alcoholic beverage or two? The goal in this is that alcohol, being a depressant, will provide us with a calming effect—and that can be true. However, for ...
Views: 735(1 vote) - How Does Emotional Abuse Affect Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2010 from Evelyn YeoResearch shows that the parenting style used on a child during the first 3 to 4 years of his life is the strongest factor that determines his level of self-esteem. Parenting style refers to how parents treat, guide, and nurture their young. It encompasses the messages that parents communicate ...
Views: 13308(2 votes) - Michael Jackson, King of Pain? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDetails about Michael Jackson’s passing are still fuzzy, but already people are drawing conclusions about the superstar’s premature demise. One media thread has him using prescription medications in what may have been a troubling way ...
Views: 1394(2 votes) - MOTHER LOVE / Female Abusers Part II - the psychological impact on daughters who have been sexually abused by their mothers - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-Ross“There is no other closeness in human life like the closeness between a mother and her child. Chronologically, physically and spiritually, they are just a few heartbeats away from being the same person” * This is the darkest secret of them all. It challenges societal expectations and myths ...
Views: 13166(2 votes) - Mourning the Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAt the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding ...
Views: 4445(1 vote) - Moving On: Sorting Through the Lies - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Sara DillingerIf you’ve ever packed up and moved from one house to another, you know something of what the subconscious is like. I’m not talking about the kind of move where someone else comes in and packs up all your stuff, even down to the ashes in the ash trays. I’m talking about the kind of move where ...
Views: 1436(2 votes) - ONE DRINK IS TOO MANY AND A THOUSAND IS NOT ENOUGH - by Whenever one hundred Americans are gathered together, twenty to twenty-five of them will have been affected by alcoholism. On any given day, one out of four hospital patients in the United States are hospitalized due directly to alcoholism or complications related to it. As a result of the ...
Views: 8477(1 vote) - Seeking Guidance from God in Today's A.A.? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from Richard Burns, J.D. (pen name Dick B.),Seeking Guidance from God in Today's A.A.? “Go with the Winners” and Follow the Original Akron A.A. “Christian Fellowship” Program Dick B. © 2010 Anonymous. All rights reserved The following verses from the Book of James show specifically why and how to seek the wisdom of God. As A.A. ...
Views: 2692(2 votes) - Sitting in Silence: Stop The Bullying - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2013 from NICHOLAS DillonI am reminded of a young African-American child who was raised under strict family rules. During the early teen years from middle school and throughout high school, this kid was smart yet shy and often picked on and bullied by fellow classmates and even other children in the neighborhood where ...
Views: 1295(2 votes) - Standing Up For Change! - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsTomorrow morning, Thursday May 28th, I travel to Oregon’s Capitol in Salem, to testify in support of House Bill 2827. This bill will lengthen the Statute of Limitations for those who have suffered sexual abuse. It is being met with much opposition from the Catholic church, the Mormon church and ...
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