A million years ago or so when I was in college studying social work, I learned a really important lesson.
It was that the minds of people are supposed to progress and become more enlightened as we evolve on our personal journey. I learned at this time that there are four questions that are supposed to be asked and eventually answered. They are:
• What am I?
• What am I really?
• Who am I?
• Who am I really?
Although these questions seem very simplistic, in reality they are some of the most profound questions a person can ask themselves. In fact they are so profound that, according to my professor, most people never get all four questions satisfactorily answered in their whole life time.
I could take the discussion to an even more realistic and unfortunate level by stating that, even with the amount of information and opportunity for self-discovery available in today’s world, I would venture to say that a very large portion of our population do not even relate to these questions or that they are necessary to answer as we evolve.
Each question relates to a specific level of awareness in our own evolution. The questions must be answered in the order above in order to allow the answer of the next question to fully express.
When a person is subjected to a lifestyle that causes them to shut down and withdraw from their own conscious awareness, their personal evolution becomes stalled until the mental block is released and redirected. Consequently, people who suffer from the trauma of severe or prolonged violence tend not to be able to evolve because they have unconsciously placed themselves in protected mode.
Their ego, the part of the subconscious mind that manages self-protection does not feel safe and will not open up until the person learns how to become safe again.
Unfortunately, much of the counselling and medical treatments for disorders caused by a terrified, unsafe feeling ego do nothing to actually allow the person to regain true safety. For the most part, they only teach coping skills and pill popping. Therefore personal evolution is stifled again.
In order to truly return to the evolutionary process, one must learn how to truly feel safe. This safety is found only by learning how to let go of the prior learning that caused the ego to go into “protective mode”.
I believe that learning how to manage the information stored in the mind is the most fundamental and functional method of relearning effective personal safety. By learning to recognize and negate ineffective thoughts and beliefs while instilling, validating and magnifying healthy thoughts and beliefs, any person can regain the sense of safety they were born with.
The visualizations I have put together in the CD found in my Stamp Out Stress book are fundamental tools for mind management and personal mental health.
Life is not supposed to be a painful or pain-filled process. It can be frustrating and downright annoying at times but it should not need to be painful. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to turn off the limiting noise that bangs around in our heads? These visualizations have sure helped me!
I struggle constantly with dealing with the demons in my head. If it were not for these techniques I am not sure how I could have survived and moved forward in all these years.
Here is another neat little technique I learned that really helps to quiet the mind. I have uploaded this onto you tube to make it easier for you to learn it. http://youtu.be/W6eL8Sfi6OM
Over time I will show you some other tools I use. The thing I want to emphasize is that you can choose to have a better life than you currently have just by making the choice to let go of the memories you carry about your past. We all have baggage and we can all let it go, if we want to.

Author's Bio: 

Monty Ritchings is the author of Embracing The Blend and Stamp Out Stress, two books written to help folks to understand and move past childhood beliefs that promote dysfunction in adult life.

Monty also publishes blogs on his website: www.powerofsafety.com focused on helping to understand the tools to move past family violence and abuse.

Monty lives near Vancouver Canada