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- THE ENABLING PARENT - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossA while back, I jotted down some thoughts about a person I called “The Other Parent”. Since then, I’ve been collecting information and have concluded that there is a dearth of material on this subject. But I have expanded upon my initial ideas and hopefully this will be lead to more research ...
Views: 2527(2 votes) - OxyContin Killed My Son - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2012 from KIM BURNSOxyContin killed my son. This drug is handed out like candy. Every year families everywhere are suffering the loss of a loved one from accidental overdoses from this addictive drug. "The Arizona Republic" newspaper reported that Purdue Pharma L.P., the makers of OxyContin, have agreed to pay ...
Views: 2512 - ***7 Action Steps For those Involved In Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Kathy SeifertDomestic violence negatively affects everyone in the family — the offender, the spouse, the children, and the next generation. Stopping and healing violence in the home will involve the whole family getting help, with or without the offender, whether reunification is antici¬pated or not. ...
Views: 2505 - ***Healing Past Harmful Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2008 from Kathy SeifertWhen you were a child, and you were hurt by an adult, you put up emotional walls to protect yourself from hurt, and to hold in anger. You didn't have the tools yet to deal with hurt and anger. The walls were useful while you were learning what it was all about. Maybe someone told you, "Don't ...
Views: 2486 - From Hell to Happiness: Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Marilyn RedmondI found the right man for me. We could communicate into all hours of the night. He sat behind me in the band rehearsals in college. His clarinet and my flute playing on stage kept us attending the same functions and classes. Meeting at a dance the first night of school made me aware he was a ...
Views: 2486 - Are you Serious about your Recovery in 2013? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2013 from Cheryl HinneburgIs 2013 the year that you are finally serious about your recovery or are you just talking to hear yourself talk? Sure, you may have gotten clean but what are your intentions to make sure you stay that way? Are you prepared to fight the toughest battle you will likely ever face? To stay clean you ...
Views: 2480(2 votes) - How to Get Over Childhood Stress - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsIt has been clear for some time that childhood experiences become part of a child's neurological physiology and over time, through re-enforcement and repetition form aspects of its personality structure. The task of recovery is to stop the process of repetition and re-enforcement of the unwanted ...
Views: 2478 - Authenticity - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2010 from Mark GillespieAs an abused person you will have often been tricked and taken advantage of by people in your immediate circle, and even by strangers. You may even believe that abusers can sense your obvious victimhood like an animal sniffs out its prey. Do you believe that you have a look or an aura, like a ...
Views: 2474(3 votes) - The Guilt of the Abused - Pathologizing the Victim - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Sam VakninIt is telling that precious few psychology and psychopathology textbooks dedicate an entire chapter to abuse and violence. Even the most egregious manifestations – such as child sexual abuse – merit a fleeting mention, usually as a sub-chapter in a larger section dedicated to paraphilias or ...
Views: 2471 - Neechey Lagna – a toxic concept of Patriarchal Culture of Pakistan - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2018 from Dr. Mona AeyshaIn Pakistani culture, many sayings/ concepts have taken the place of cultural things, and people consciously/unconsciously accepts them and adopt them in their life. One of those concepts is, “ to be overly obedient to your wife” ( beewi key neechey lag jana). It means that if someone is taking ...
Views: 2468 - Start Living -Take Time to Change Your Life - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Michelle MorandIt’s time to learn how to step free of your inner power struggle and start living without an eating disorder. Have you ever started your day thinking that today is the day you are going to exercise and how much control you are going to have over what you eat today? If you have had this ...
Views: 2468(1 vote) - The Questions about Alcoholics Anonymous, Celebrate Recovery, Addictions, and the Bible - by Submitted on May 03, 2012 from Richard Burns, J.D. (pen name Dick B.),There is a lengthy article by Dave Hunt and another gentleman which squarely addresses the modern day "higher power," "disease," "spirituality," and Twelve Step secularism and admiration by many a Christian organization such as Celebrate Recovery and certainly by many in the recovery community ...
Views: 2467(1 vote) - Abuse Victim's New Year Resolutions - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2012 from Sam VakninNew year resolutions are notoriously fragile and ephemeral. But victims of abuse cannot afford this cavalier attitude: their mental - and too often physical - health depends on strictly observing the following promises to themselves: 1. I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from ...
Views: 2453(1 vote) - New Therapy Breakthrough for PTSD - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Adele Tartaglia INSTANT SUBCONSCIOUS REPROGRAMMING The Life Management Center 480/220-2089 eztherapy@gmail.comIf you have experienced a traumatic event or series of events that you have not really recovered from, you may be suffering from PTSD, post traumatic stress disorder. You don’t feel like you did before the incident, you are easily triggered, too guarded to connect with your family, fearful, ...
Views: 2451(1 vote) - 6 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2017 from Kim SaeedLike many people who’ve endured Narcissistic and emotional abuse, you probably didn’t realize what was happening to you until you reached a point of near insanity and began searching desperately for reasons why your fairytale romance took a grievous turn for the worse. Further, the person you ...
Views: 2445 - TURN OFF THE MEDIA VIOLENCE - by If a stranger came to your door and said, "Hello, I'd like to come in. I promise to keep your kids entertained and while I'm doing that I'm going to show them graphic pictures of violence and murder and rape." What would you do? Would you open the door and say, "Great, come on it. Hey kids, ...
Views: 2443 - How to Rebuild Relationships after Alcohol Treatment - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Gareth CarterWhen a loved one is addicted to alcohol, it puts massive strain on the people that love them the most. Family members will often feel angry and resentful towards the individual for what they have done during the time they were addicted, which is understandable. However, once their loved ...
Views: 2440(3 votes) - My Transition From Alcoholism To Business Success - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Ken SundheimAlcoholism - To Sobriety - To Business Success - My Story I am a true believer that alcoholism is a disease and, unfortunately that disease was bestowed upon me. I started KAS Placement when I was 23 years old (I am 28 now) and began making a lot of money for somebody my age. I would spend it ...
Views: 2440(5 votes) - 4 Lifestyle Changes for Achieving your Highest Potential - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2011 from Michelle MayurOne of the most frequent questions I get from my more spiritual clients is, “How can I reach my highest potential?” Not surprisingly, your lifestyle habits and preferences contribute substantially to whether or not you ever reach your highest potential. To do so, you must be in peak physical, ...
Views: 2439(1 vote) - A Bully is a Bully by Any other name is a Bully - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2010 from William WuThe problem of bullying is huge and is now coming under the severe scrutiny of society. People often tend to think about the young child bully when one brings up the subject of the bully. People may conjure up the image of a big, mean, strong boy who threatens and taunts another smaller socially ...
Views: 2420(2 votes) - Child Abuse Survivors - Learn How to Heal from the Messages of Family Shame - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Adam ApplesonIf you experienced child abuse, you've likely had the messages of family shame ingrained into the depths of your being. Do you remember hearing the following types of messages? Message #1: "You won't amount to much." Message #2: "I'm bending over backwards raising you kids. There's so ...
Views: 2417 - Helping Adults Abused As Children - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossWhen I began working in this field many years ago, I was told that if I hadn’t already picked a specialization, it would pick me. And that is exactly what happened. I worked in a non-profit clinic where we had big caseloads, having to see many more people each week than one would ordinarily ...
Views: 2417 - Healing My Anger - Defusing a Time Bomb - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysFor many years, I would have told you that yes, there was drinking in my house while I was growing up, but I got out just fine, and it didn’t really affect me. Then when I was in my early ‘30s, I started to see signs that such was not the case. I worked for a time with a prison ministry, ...
Views: 2416(4 votes) - Overcoming The Fear - Facing The Past - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysI received this question from someone who had just read my book, Freedom’s Just Another Word, where I confront some pretty bad demons from my past: How did you overcome your fear of dealing with all the pain coming to the surface? I have not been able to conquer this fear I have of ...
Views: 2411(3 votes) - Abusers Abuse despite Abandonment Anxiety - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2016 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The abuser abuses his intimate partners, significant others, and nearest and dearest because it helps him to regulate his excruciating abandonment anxiety in 4 ways: (1) By devaluing others, he restores his sense of ...
Views: 2403 - Learning the Language of Feelings - by Submitted on May 11, 2006 from Mark Linden OMearaLearning the Language of Feelings An excerpt from The Feeling Soul – A Roadmap to Healing and Living Mark Linden O’Meara, Soul Care Publishing ISBN: 0-968045928 Available at Amazon.com Part of self growth and developing self-knowledge involves learning to express the feelings, ideas and ...
Views: 2402 - Feel Your Feelings. - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Meg HubbardSo many of us rush around stuffing our feeling and emotions deeper and deeper down inside of us. We refuse to let them out. We may subconsciously remember childhood programs we picked up like… “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”, or someone calling you a “cry baby”, or ...
Views: 2401(3 votes) - Autoimmune Disorders and Early Abuse Issues - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Anne Merkel, Ph.D. NDIt makes perfect sense for me as an Energy Psychologist, that when approaching an autoimmune case in a natural, wholistic way, where an individual’s body is starting to work against itself, that I discover somewhere in that person a deep feeling of deserving to be hurt - an unworthiness to be ...
Views: 2399(1 vote) - Red Flags to Help You Avoid Getting into Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Su EricksenDomestic abuse is not uncommon. According to a 1998 Commonwealth Fund survey almost one-third of American women have reported being physically abused by a husband or boyfriend sometime in their lives. 30% of Americans claim to know a woman who has been a victim of domestic abuse. All races are ...
Views: 2395 - Tall, Dark and Dangerous - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Susan GreenI remember the first time I saw him. I had just turned 18 and was at my first, yes my first, boy girl party. He was tall dark and very handsome and he oozed confidence. I was shy and a bit of a wallflower, but he wandered over and asked me my name. From that day on we would be inseparable. My ...
Views: 2395(1 vote) - If he hits you once, he'll hit you twice!! - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Christina HallTwenty-one is the age where teenagers are turning into young adults and most young adults at this age love to go to parties and have a good time. Maybe because they know that they won’t be able to do this for much longer. Well, at least for most people that is. I was one of those people. I ...
Views: 2386(1 vote) - 7 Reasons Why Child Abuse Is Not Normal - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsJust the other day someone made the statement that child sexual abuse is normal because it happens so oft en. Maybe it’s only a problem because we (society) make such a big deal out of it. Well, that was quite a challenge that turned quickly into a heated discussion. I can understand though, ...
Views: 2374 - The Emotional Life of Adolescent Abuse: A Daughter’s Poetry - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossThe following words and poetry were written by Kallel Hunter. She has graciously allowed me to share them with you. My name is Kallel and I am 13 years old. I live in the U.K. and have Irish, Jamaican and Barbadian in me. I also have two sisters and 3 brothers. I am the eldest. We ...
Views: 2370 - Child Abuse: Why Are Some People Not Believed When They Talk About Being Abused? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has been abused as a child they have already gone through enough, without having to prolong the pain of what happened. However, there are certain things that can add to this pain and one of these things is when one finds that the people around them don’t believe them or it could ...
Views: 2370 - Important Knowledge About Computer Software - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2012 from USA compComputer software or merely software can be an amount of personal computer software programs in addition to linked data that include the guidance pertaining to revealing to some type of computer how to handle it in addition to the way to undertake it. Software refers to more than one personal ...
Views: 2370 - When Did We Become Enemies? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Article: Written by Renee L. Richardson When Did We Become Enemies? Through many years of observation and failed relationships, I have become interested and dedicated to studying human interactions on an intimate level. Because I am an African American female, I spent countless amounts of ...
Views: 2369(1 vote) - HEALING HEARTS - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Ken ThomRecently, I got into the car to make a quick trip to the store. I popped in a CD, Michael W. Smith’s "Healing Rain." The second track on the CD is the song "Healing Rain." As I listened to it, the Holy Spirit came over me so strongly that I began to weep. I have always believed that this is ...
Views: 2360(2 votes) - Relationship Addiction: A Process Addiction - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2012 from Jim HallMost of us typically associate addiction with alcohol or drug abuse, but it's clear that addictive behaviors go far beyond. A universal definition of Addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance, behavior, or activity despite negative consequences (harmful ...
Views: 2360(1 vote) - What is SHAME? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoTHE BAD SEED I was born bad & I’ll always be bad Guilt is about actions - it’s the emotion which is caused by disobedience to rules we deeply believe in. On the other hand, SHAME is about our identity - about who we are, fundamentally. It says that our very essence is bad, unlovable, ...
Views: 2359(1 vote) - Alcohol Addiction Treatment Tips - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Gareth CarterIf you are about to be admitted into alcohol addiction treatment, then it’s important to know how to get the most out of your stay in rehab. This article will provide you with the best alcohol addiction treatment tips, which can help you make it a success. Go Small, Not Big Ever hear ...
Views: 2357(2 votes) - Getting Out Of Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2008 from Kaleah LaRocheI’ve been in several long-term relationships in my 40 something years, and I was always the one who made the decision to leave. It wasn’t always abuse that caused me to leave but normally it had to do with my asking the question “Why am I here?” Relationships, to me, ...
Views: 2356 - Freedom from Self-Harm: Important Steps When You’re Seeking Help - by Submitted on May 11, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsHopefully, you now have a better idea of where to find information on self-harm, the types of resources that are out there, and some of the treatments for self-harm. Below, we turn our attention to the specific ways in which you can go about finding help in your area, as well as some important ...
Views: 2355 - ***The Association of Family Violence with Behavior and Psychiatric Problems in Children and Teens - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2008 from Kathy SeifertBackground While many behavioral and psychiatric disorders have a biological base, they may also have roots in early childhood maltreatment and in exposure to violence. The overlap between behavioral /psychiatric disorders and histories of childhood trauma is greater than has been previously ...
Views: 2349 - Ending the pattern...stopping the cycle of abuse! - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Suzanne ToroIt has been my observation that most of our society participates or has participated in different levels of abuse. No matter what role we have held, collectively we might benefit from pondering how we can stop the cycle of abuse. Some might think this is a strong word; however, I feel it is ...
Views: 2341(1 vote) - Distinguishing Responsability, Blame & Fault - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Danish AhmedHi Everyone!! In a previous newsletter, some of you wrote back requesting clarification on how all of us can be "100% responsible for our lives" when there are certain obvious things which we cannot control, such as sexual abuse or a physical disability. First, let's distinguish ...
Views: 2323(4 votes) - Stepping Out of the Realm of Fear - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2011 from Monique RiderAs a survivor of domestic violence, I have learned that fear can play a big part in keeping women locked in abusive relationships. Some of those fears are very real and some are just illusions. Threats by the abuser, threats against the children, or physical violence are truly real fears. ...
Views: 2319(3 votes) - Veterans, Genetics, and Alcoholism - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Abigail FazelatThe U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ...
Views: 2318 - Why She Doesn’t Leave Him - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2012 from Debra FentressShe can be the woman in the market with the bruises on her face and you look at her with pity, wondering why she stays. Or she could be the woman at gatherings who goes off by herself, seldom speaking, quietly watching—a shell of a person. She could be your sister who never wants to come to the ...
Views: 2306(1 vote) - The Barrier to Addiction Recovery: Stigma - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2013 from Cheryl HinneburgWhen it comes to addiction people cannot help themselves from creating this silent rating scale in their mind, like he’s just an alcoholic, she does too many prescription pills, and he is junkie because he does heroin. It is this kind of judging that creates the stigma that has created an almost ...
Views: 2302(1 vote) - Assertiveness Really Does Work - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Mark LamendolaBy Mark Lamendola www.mindconnection.com/BehaviorMod Many people are afraid of being assertive, or consider assertive behavior to be impolite. Usually, that’s because they confuse assertive behavior with aggressive behavior. Instead of confronting a problem, they use other strategies. And ...
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