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- Are our voices really not heard? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Teresa JoyceI’m sitting in a big room that makes me feel so small I don’t even recognize the man sitting in front of me but he seems to know all about me by their conversation. My mum is telling him about the fact that I have started wetting the bed, how could she tell this stranger that about me? I feel so ...
Views: 1618(1 vote) - Guidelines for Determining a Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownShould I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can ...
Views: 1616(2 votes) - LIFE COACHING STRATEGY: RESOLVE ABUSE & TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2005 from Piercarla GarusiLife Coaching is all about the present and the future; it is all about taking control of our lives, now, and creating the future we want. It is not about analysing events of the past or going back to old emotions. But it is true that what we are today is the result of what we have experienced, ...
Views: 1616 - How to Know If Your Elderly Relatives are Being Abused - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Jeff RasanskyIf you reckon that something is shady in the retirement facility where you have a beloved one taking supervision, but you're not confident, don't be depressed. Neglect in nursing homes is infamously difficult to anticipate. Employing a worst-case situation as an illustration, envision that you ...
Views: 1615(1 vote) - 4 Steps for Improving Your Life After a DUI Arrest - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2019 from Anica OaksAfter a DUI arrest, your whole life feels thrown off course. A single mistake could cost you your career and future, but it doesn’t have to. Although having a DUI on your criminal record (or a criminal record at all, for that matter) could complicate certain things, a DUI arrest is also a ...
Views: 1612 - Victim Reaction to Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2007 from Sam VakninPersonality disorders are not only all-pervasive, but also diffuse and shape-shifting. It is taxing and emotionally harrowing to watch how a loved one is consumed by these pernicious and largely incurable conditions. Victims adopt varying stances and react in different ways to the inevitable ...
Views: 1611 - OBJECTIFYING WOMEN SHAMES EVERYONE - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Darlene LancerPervasiveness revelations of sexual harassment and assault have surprised most men, but not women. However, both genders are largely unaware of the damaging impact that objectification of women can cause. It perpetuates a cycle of shame in both men and women. Even if never overtly harassed or ...
Views: 1608(3 votes) - Surviving Abuse and the Long Term effects of Eating Disorders - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Tamiel McAfeeSurviving Abuse and The Long Term Effects of Eating Disorders From the Prospective of a Very Grateful Survivor Index Chapter 1- Gratefully, I’m Still Here Chapter 2- The Gallery of Eating Disorders Chapter 3- Medical Delights to Come Chapter 4- It Is Your Choice Chapter 5- ...
Views: 1607(2 votes) - Gratitude is Empowering for 12 Steppers! - by You've heard it at meetings, "Have an attitude of gratitude."
It's one of those sayings that gets tossed around and is often greeted with a moan or rolled eyes because it sounds so sappy. Often the mind-set behind the resistance goes something like this:
"Ok, sure, I'm grateful that I'm ...
Views: 1606 - I Saw the Enemy - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Keith BrayAlways interesting to see what thoughts run through my head as I try to shut down my conscious thinking and spend quiet time in the morning. About fifteen years ago I sat in a treatment centre, Homewood, in Guelph, Ontario. I had been alcohol and drug free for about 3 months, and this did allow ...
Views: 1606(1 vote) - Adult Children of Abuse living with a Chronic Illness: A Challenge to Self Care - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2006 from Keesha MayesI grew up in a very violent and dysfunctional home. I endured many abuses that haunt me to this day! I believed, that when I left home at 15 years old, I was leaving behind the agony, pain and confusion of my family. But there was still so much suffering within me that I had not recognized and ...
Views: 1604 - Recovery And Healing - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from Sam VakninVictims of abuse in all its forms – verbal, emotional, financial, physical, and sexual – are often disorientated. They require not only therapy to heal their emotional wounds, but also practical guidance and topical education. At first, the victim is, naturally, distrustful and even hostile. The ...
Views: 1596 - How can you be lonely in a room full of people? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceThis situation for me was something I had to contend with for many years. The room is full but for me it may as well have been empty. All I can hear is white noise, were they talking to me? Why would they want to talk to me? Someone asks me if I am ok but the voice seems so far away, somewhat ...
Views: 1592(1 vote) - Abusive Relationships - 3 Deadly Mistakes in Assuming Responsibility for the Battering Behavior - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We hear it all the time: “You’re not responsible for your abuser’s battering behavior.” Yet, victims of domestic abuse spend an inordinate amount of time trying to alter this behavior. Fix it. Change it. Account for it. Often, and usually unknowingly, this invites three deadly mistakes victims ...
Views: 1590 - There Is No Need To Experience Alone - Get Help For Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2012 from Thomas GibbsThe information and internet are packed with activities of sex-related neglect. Whether it be an elderly people woman, the next entrance next entrance neighbor boy across the street or a efficient young entrepreneur, no one is stored from the chance of being very well abused. It does not have to ...
Views: 1590(1 vote) - Avoiding Your Abuser - The Submissive Posture - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2007 from Sam VakninThere is nothing special about the body language or behavior patterns of the abuser. If your abuser is a narcissist, his pathology is evident on first sight (read "How to Recognize a Narcissist"). But not all abusers are narcissists. Regrettably, most victims find themselves trapped long before ...
Views: 1587 - Traumas as Social Interactions - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She"). We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on ...
Views: 1582(1 vote) - Warning Signs Of Problem Drinking - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieMaybe you’re not sure if drinking is a problem in your family. Alcohol can be in our lives without it being a problem. But can you tell when it goes from “no problem” to “problem”? What’s the Cat in the Hat got to do with warning signs of problem drinking? I remember when the ‘Cat in the Hat’ ...
Views: 1582 - What is GUILT? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoGuilt is not a primary emotion, like anger, joy, sadness... But it is one of the most intense & often-felt emotions by ACoAs. It is a familiar companion of negative self-talk & to actions we believe to be bad, but may not be. Guilt is connected to self-hate: since our default position is that ...
Views: 1581 - Alcoholism And Depression - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Charles SomerAlcoholism and depression often go hand in hand and there is good reason for this as we will see later. Firstly, though we should take a look at some of the basic depression symptoms: Eating disorder Sleep disturbance Decreased interest and pleasure in one's daily activities Feelings of ...
Views: 1580(1 vote) - Self Medication - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Sobriety GirlThere are times in my life where I do not question my decision to be sober. I would say this is about 99% of the time, to be honest. The beauty and decisiveness in my life has become apparent due to the decisions I have made. Overall, I am absolutely in agreement with my heart and ...
Views: 1580 - ***Violence Prevention Agenda For New President - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Kathy SeifertA 12-year old South Carolina boy was shot and killed while trick or treating on October 31. Members of his family were shot and injured. Werner Lippe, a 66-year old jeweler, has confessed to killing his wife and disposing of the body. Four men have been charged with the deadly shooting of ...
Views: 1577 - Child Abuse: Do Parents Lack Empathy When They Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened?’ In terms of the amount of comments that I have received for this article, it has to be one of the most popular articles that I have ever written. I wrote this article at a time when I was trying ...
Views: 1577 - Healing from Emotional Abuse: The Memory is in the Muscle - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.The memory is in the muscle. We hear people vividly taste remnants of the feelings surrounding old trauma when faced with a trigger of the context in which that original trauma was experienced. It’s truly as though the memory is in the muscle. We know this phenomenon to be characteristic of ...
Views: 1577 - connecticut drug rehab:Patient Drug Abuse Are Curable - by Submitted on May 05, 2012 from harry kenSubstance abuse is a very complex problem, which is characterized by uncontrolled drug craving, irrational and anti social behavior. Drug abuse for most of the time will have devastating consequences on the mental and physical health of a person. Although substance abuse begins as part of unpaid ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - Domestic Violence and the Legal Abuse Syndrome - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Married women on their way out of an abusive relationship are frequently found navigating the system en route to safety. But is their path safe? Not necessarily so. We frequently see women struggling in relation to their legal counsel just as they struggled in their battering relationship. And ...
Views: 1576 - In the Playhouse of Your Mind - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Richard (Dick) WarnBrian Tracy, Canadian-born American trainer and author, said, “Our mind is the most valuable possession we have. The quality of our lives is, and will be, a reflection of how well we develop, train, and utilize this precious gift.” It has been said that 2% of the people think, 3% of the ...
Views: 1572(2 votes) - Removing Toxins - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from B.L. AckerEverything that is toxic can kill you. Some work quickly, dropping their victims almost immediately. However, not all toxins are fast-acting. Some build up slowly over time. But they are all poisons and, regardless of the speed in which they work, all will eventually kill you. When most ...
Views: 1571 - SELF-RESPECT = SELF-ESTEEM. Want some? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from Keith BraySelf respect = Self esteem Last week I had the opportunity to talk with you a little bit about the meaning of RESPECT. Ultimately, in the addiction world, we have to add SELF into the equation. How important is self respect/self esteem and have I got it?I have had the opportunity to ...
Views: 1571 - Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineConfusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction (Codependency Part One) written by Randi G Fine, originally published on Life As A Human Have you ever believed that you could love someone enough to fix whatever is wrong in their life? Do you have the ability or tendency to deny and ...
Views: 1567 - Human Trafficking – Greatest Socioeconomic and a Multicultural Threat to Human Race! - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Muhammad Saad KhanReading through a book named as Human Trafficking by Courtney Farrell regarding Human Trafficking in relation to Modern Slavery, I was shocked by listening to a story in the beginning of the book which tells about a nine year old girl Williathe Narcisse, who was a slave in Haiti before she ...
Views: 1567(3 votes) - Growing Domestic Violence Against the Disabled - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Abigail FazelatIntimate personal violence, which is similar to domestic violence, affects an estimated 12 million people, both men and women, per year. That is according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s website, where plenty of similarly shocking statistics can be found. For instance, “more than 1 ...
Views: 1566 - When early abuse blocks your success in life - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Felicity MuscatI find it interesting how many counsellors, therapists and life coaches seem to miss the realisation that the biggest obstacle in achieving success is based in negative beliefs that come from experiences of early abuse. This implies that strategies promoting the limited notion that one simply ...
Views: 1566 - How to Radically Turn Back the Clock and Discover Youthful Radiance - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Colleen MeheenBasic inflammation is a natural process of the human body where white blood cells and various naturally occurring chemicals work together to protect the body from infections and foreign bodies, such as viruses and bacteria that can create acute illness and disease if not confronted through the ...
Views: 1565 - Drinking: The 'Relationship' to the Bottle - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Ken HowardOver my 18 years as a psychotherapist, one of the most frequent issues my clients bring to me is a concern about their drinking, or perhaps their drug use. There is a wide range; some people don’t have large problems with drinking or using, but they have some concerns about it after a ...
Views: 1558(2 votes) - Child Abuse: Do Some Parents Try To Live Their Lives Through Their Children? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain things that children need in order to develop into well-functioning adults, it doesn’t mean that they will always receive these things. Now, it could be said that it is not always going to be possible for a child to get their needs met. However, this is not going ...
Views: 1556 - Are you eating over losses and disappointments? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2011 from Julie SimonMost of us don’t like to spend much time thinking about our losses and disappointments or painful childhood experiences. Yet, without much effort, they are brought to the forefront of our minds when something in our environment triggers thoughts of them. We see a happy couple and think ”Oh, ...
Views: 1553(2 votes) - Empowerment - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2012 from Teresa JoyceWhen we think about this emotion more times than enough it’s the way we look at others. Empowerment is the person we see standing in front of us totally in control whilst showing us the way. This person surly has all of the answers; they speak with wisdom and fortitude. Where do they find the ...
Views: 1552(1 vote) - 5 Signs You’re Ready for Drug or Alcohol Rehab - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2017 from Desiree PattonIt can be difficult to admit that you have a problem with drugs or alcohol, but it truly is the first step to recovery. Once you’ve taken this step, and recognize your addiction and its impact on yourself and others, your new focus should be choosing a strategy to get sober and change your ...
Views: 1549 - Domestic Violence: Descriptions of Physical, Emotional, and Psychological Abuse—Part Two, in a Series of Six. - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Gayle Joplin Hall“Even to this day, it is difficult to discuss with some people and provide vivid descriptions what really happens in a domestic violent situation. This is because some do not want to hear the truth and the facts. More than ever before, I feel it is my duty to tell, to inform, to educate, anyone ...
Views: 1549(1 vote) - How Anger Helps Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2015 from Tonya PrinceImagine it is your 18th birthday. A well-dressed stranger comes to your home. He has news for you. He tells you that you have inherited $550 million dollars payable upon your 18th birthday. Hey! That is today. You jump up and down. Cry, get excited. Dance. Think of everything ...
Views: 1547 - Coffee (caffeine) addiction – a cup too many (Part 1) - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Steven ThomsonCoffee is a widespread hot beverage and also an additive in some foodstuffs. Its high prevalence is possible because of several factors, such as its common international availability and affordability, the absence of alcohol in the raw coffee, and the ease with which the beverage is prepared. In ...
Views: 1544(1 vote) - Planning Your Escape - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Erika JacksonEvery woman who wants to leave an abusive relationship should be able to without fear. Unfortunately, it’s just not that easy for most of them. Abusers have tormented their victims with threats of harm if they try to leave. You think about escaping, but you don’t follow through. I used to ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Leaving an Abusive Relationship – The Victim’s Power After the Altercation - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.When is the best time to grab a victim out of an abusive relationship? There are two points of intervention. That is, there are two times when she/he is MOST amenable to leaving the abusive relationship. What are these times? 1) Before she/he settles into the relationship and becomes part of ...
Views: 1538 - The Role and Impact of Verbal Abuse in Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Intimate partner violence is best avoided by understanding emotional verbal abuse and the warning signs of an abusive relationship. In an effort to help educate people and increase awareness of verbal abuse, Kate Carlson, OTR/L interviews Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. Kate Carlson: Throughout the ...
Views: 1538 - Why Charlie Sheen and others are so angry at the mainstream treatment culture and society. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Hank HayesHank Hayes author of the book “You’ve been lied to… the untold truth about the alcohol and addiction mainstream treatment industry and the secrets on how to eliminate the problem for good” due to be released at the end of May 2011 say’s… “I absolutely identify with why Charlie Sheen and ...
Views: 1538 - Child Abuse: Why Do Some People Disown Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who have a close connection with their parents, there are others who don’t. And if one is close to their parents, it might be hard for them to understand why someone wouldn’t experience life in the same way. This could mean that one lives in the same ...
Views: 1538 - A heart warming story - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI would also like to share this story with you. Whilst emailing talk shows I sent an email to a particular lady host. It was strange as it took me some time to find her email address, but something told me to keep looking. Once found I emailed her. Within ten minutes I received an urgent reply, ...
Views: 1534 - Finding the Good Life - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2011 from Richard (Dick) WarnPop cans have been sharing one of life’s most powerful lessons for years: No Deposit, No Return. Yet, millions of people sit on the sidelines wishing that something good will fall from the sky. A deposit is something constructive that we do for ourselves or someone else. It can be as simple ...
Views: 1534(1 vote) - Abuse By Proxy - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from Sam VakninIf all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers – in short, third parties – to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate ...
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