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- ***What Does Having Sex Mean to You? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2012 from Margaret PaulI’ve been counseling individuals and couples for many years. More than half the time, when couples are having problems or the relationship is dissolving, sex is one of the major issues. There are a number of common scenarios:After a long marriage with regular sex, he comes home to discover that ...
Views: 3845(1 vote) - ***What Does It Mean To Love Yourself? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Many of us know that we need to be loving to ourselves, but what does this actually mean? ________________________________________ Since most of us had little or no role modeling regarding loving ourselves when we were growing up, it's often ...
Views: 1649(1 vote) - ***What I learned from the Rapture - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from Morgana RaeWell, the End of the World came and went (Saturday, May 21 at 6pm local time, everywhere) with a fizzle. No floating bodies or open graves or big earthquakes. What a dud. Seriously. After all that fanfare I was sort of hoping for something… maybe a celestial voice or a partial eclipse or a ...
Views: 1871(2 votes) - ***What Is A Love and Marriage Expert? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Lots of people purport to be “love and marriage experts.” The Internet is full of those who claim to be. We, like you, read their pontifications every day. But the truth is, most of those who say they are, ARE NOT! Here’s why. We have found in ...
Views: 2024(20 votes) - ***What Is Radical Forgiveness? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Colin TippingEveryone agrees that forgiveness is a good thing to do. Besides the fact that it holding onto anger and resentment makes you feel horrible and robs you of your life force energy, the link between high blood pressure and other health issues is well proven. Moreover, the research shows that ...
Views: 10198(2 votes) - ***What to do When Your Partner Lacks Empathy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you found yourself in relationships where you feel empathy for your partner but your partner lacks empathy for you? Were you born with the ability to feel others' feelings? I was, and one of the issues that I had to face was that not everyone is empathic. This was very confusing to ...
Views: 1668(1 vote) - ***What Will Love Give You? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2012 from Margaret PaulDid you grow up believing that if only someone REALLY loved you in the way you needed to be loved, then you would feel happy, safe, lovable and worthy?Certainly being truly loved by parents goes a long way toward supporting children in feeling safe and lovable, but it is not the whole story. ...
Views: 3181(1 vote) - ***When Dating for Marriage it’s Values, Values, Values! - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Amy SchoenPerhaps you have heard that in business it’s all about location, location, location! However, this dating coach believes that for relationships, it’s all about values, values and values! What do I mean about values? Let me explain: Your values are what you treasure. ...
Views: 4186(1 vote) - ***When to Have Sex in a New Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMost of us want to feel chosen, connected and cared for. Unfortunately, it's easy to be fooled into thinking you are falling in love, and one of the sure ways to cloud your judgment about your new partner is having sex too soon. Here are the top reasons how a hasty decision to have sex ...
Views: 2206(1 vote) - ***When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2011 from Margaret PaulI grew up with a very angry mother who would attack me out of the blue. As a highly sensitive only child, the fear and heartbreak of being treated so unlovingly was unbearable. So rather than feel the hurt, I numbed it out by learning to stay in my head rather than being present in my body, and ...
Views: 3878(3 votes) - ***Why Complain? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you a complainer? Are you ready to do something different? "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." - Maya Angelou Do you complain? If you do, why? ___I complain as a form of control - in the hopes ...
Views: 1448(1 vote) - ***Why Do I Attach To An Unavailable Person?" - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you addicted to trying to get love from unavailable, unloving people? Have you found yourself repeatedly 'falling in love' with an unavailable person? Have you wondered why you keep doing this? This is the question Wanda asked: "What about our wounded self causes us to attach so ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - ***Why Do People Kill? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2013 from Margaret PaulWe need to resolve the violence in our society. I'm offering a few ideas regarding the issues we need to research and address. Why? Why are these horrible killings happening? I don't pretend to know the answers, but I do have some ideas that I want to share with you. I ...
Views: 2226(1 vote) - ***Why Keeping Agreements Can Be Tough… and How YOU Can Change That! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Evelyn LevensonHave you ever told someone you’d do something and then either forgotten about it or were somehow not able to honor it? Classic lose-lose-lose situation. When we make a promise or agreement with someone and then don’t keep it, we usually feel bad about it, the other person often is upset ...
Views: 2981(1 vote) - ***Why should I hire a dating and relationship life coach? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Amy SchoenThere is a lot of buzz about hiring a dating coach with the movie “Hitch” and with TV and the latest shows like, “How to Get the Guy”. You may be considering, “Is this something that can help me? Is it worth the money?” Like anything in life, when you put focus and persistence together, you ...
Views: 3662(2 votes) - ***Worried He is Not The One? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2011 from Pamela VandervoortDo you like him, maybe even love him, but inside you know that something is not quite right with the relationship? You are not sure if it is time to move on and the thought of being alone is terrifying. Will you end up alone during the holidays with your mother asking you "whatever happened to ...
Views: 4122(1 vote) - ***Your Money Monster and Forgiveness - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from Morgana RaeReader Question: “What if my Money Monster is personified in several real people? Can I forgive them and still get rid of the Money Monster?” My Response: Brilliant question! Your “Money Monster” is the personification of any thing that has ever made you feel unworthy, unloveable, or ...
Views: 2108(1 vote) - **Do You Love Yourself? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2021 from Judi MoreoTo love and be loved is one of humanities deepest desires. Too often it remains an unsatisfied hunger, burning inside. Feeling unloved over a long period of time can cause us to feel unlovable. We retreat into ourselves, locking away our feelings and desires because we feel we are not good ...
Views: 977(1 vote) - *7-Step Foolproof Guide To Creating A Terrible Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2008 from Margaret PaulNo one SAYS they want a terrible relationship, yet so many people go about creating them that we need to assume they must WANT them! So, here's my 7 Step foolproof guide to creating a terrible relationship. 1. TAKE NO RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN FEELINGS Make sure that you do not take ...
Views: 2701(2 votes) - *Marriage Help: If You Are Thinking Of Getting a Divorce, Think Again! - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Margaret PaulAre you thinking of getting a divorce because: • Your spouse is physically abusive with you or with your children? • Your spouse is an alcoholic or drug addict and has no intention of dealing with the addiction? • Your spouse has a gambling addiction and is causing financial ...
Views: 2593(3 votes) - *Marriage: Self-Care and Remembering the Good Stuff - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2007 from Margaret PaulAre you finding yourself irritated with your spouse lately? Are you having problems remembering why you love this person - or why you even got married in the first place? You are not alone! Ramona consulted with me because this is exactly what was happening in her marriage. "When Randy and I ...
Views: 2547(3 votes) - 10 College Freshman Success Tips - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Dr. Stephen JonesEvery year millions of students go off to college with all kinds of hopes and dreams. During their high school graduation they are told the future is bright. As is common with any new experiences there are a lot of adjustments that students must make. There are a lot of encounters with ...
Views: 3549(2 votes) - 10 Creative Valentine’s Gift Ideas - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Allura JoyThe Valentine’s Day gift you choose for your loved one and how you decide to spend the day says a lot about the quality of your relationship, so give something that has real meaning to you. Gifts from the heart don’t have to be expensive and will tend to have more significance when you put some ...
Views: 2732(3 votes) - 10 Essential Single Mom Secrets (and Dad's too) on How to Keep It Together After Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship Coach10 Single Mom Secrets on How to Keep It Together After Divorce As a counselor and coach to hundreds of clients and a mom to two vibrant, smart, beautiful women ~ now young adults ~ I have learned numerous life lessons through the years. I learned to design and incorporate what I call ...
Views: 1542(1 vote) - 10 Expert Tips on How to Make Your Man Happy in a Relationship - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Furqan ArshadBy way of nature, men will do everything within their might to gain the admiration of a woman they love. That is why before they settle, they go to great lengths to find someone to love and respect them. If you have got a good man that loves you unconditionally, he deserves to feel the same way ...
Views: 1578(1 vote) - 10 free simple Characters of Printable Coloring Pages - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2019 from Wajahat AliWe created 10 free simple characters of printable coloring pages for both kids and adults. Here are the 10 best printable coloring sheets for kids and adults to print with your favorite colors. These include crayons, colored pencils, marker pens, and paint. Just click on the pages below to ...
Views: 960(1 vote) - 10 Fresh Ideas To Get Rid Of Clutter In Drawers and Closets - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Marilyn BohnIt can be so frustrating to want to be organized and try many different things to get organized but nothing seems to work. We are not all the same, we learn differently and we like different things. What will work for one person may not work for another. As a professional organizer I receive ...
Views: 2359(2 votes) - 10 Gifts you Should Only Present To Your Dentist Over Christmas - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Cynthia WitsonWith the holidays approaching, you may be looking for the perfect gift to give all of the important people in your life. But while shopping for your spouse or your children might be easy because they’ve been dropping hints for the last six months, it might be much more difficult for you to find ...
Views: 5665(1 vote) - 10 Habits that Lower Self-Esteem and Cause Depression - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2016 from Darlene LancerWhen our self-esteem is low, which is typical of codependency, we’re at greater risk for depression. Codependency is learned, and so are self-esteem and the beliefs and habits that cause both low self-esteem and codependency. Self-esteem is what we think about ourselves. It includes positive and ...
Views: 2805(2 votes) - 10 Love Relationship Don'ts - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2009 from James LeGrandAre you currently doing things that may be negatively affecting your love relationship? We don’t always understand the impact of the things we do or say until it’s too late. It’s important to avoid the things that inadvertently hurt or push our partner away. Here are 10 ...
Views: 7672(4 votes) - 10 Most Effective Ways to Invoke Kindness in Children - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2019 from Eric SimmonsThe world we live in can sometimes be complex for young children exploring life. Today’s society is de-humanizing the humans more and more and children are becoming insensitive towards nature, people and the environment. Our children are the future of the earth, and if they are not taught to be ...
Views: 879(1 vote) - 10 QUICK TIPS TO RESOLVE FAMILY FEUDS - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferFamilies can be our greatest source of joy as well as a never ending cause of stress. Comprised of a diverse blend of personalities, families are a mixture of quirky behaviors, opposing viewpoints, various needs, beliefs, and values, along with opposing methods of how members perform certain ...
Views: 2291(1 vote) - 10 Reasons to Have a Family Mealtime More Often - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2009 from Alicia BowyerWhen was the last time you had a family mealtime together? I don't mean sitting in the car munching on burgers from the drive-through. I mean sitting down at the table and sharing a home-cooked meal. If you can't remember when you last enjoyed a family mealtime, make plans to have them more ...
Views: 3057(1 vote) - 10 Reasons Why Boundaries Don’t Work - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2015 from Darlene LancerHas setting limits not worked? Despite your efforts, are your boundaries often ignored? It's frustrating, but it's not always the other person’s fault. Here's why and what to do. There are several reasons why boundaries don’t work. As I wrote in Codependency for Dummies and How to Speak Your ...
Views: 2231(2 votes) - 10 Sexy Questions Between Lovers - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2020 from Ravi DashApart from ordinary life, there should be some private topics between couples,the following 10 sexy questions will help to activate the atmosphere. 1. Who Did You Give Your First Kiss To? This is a beautiful gateway question for you and your partner.It wouldn't just relax you for further ...
Views: 787(1 vote) - 10 Spring Cleaning and Organizing Tips - by Along with Spring comes thoughts of crisp, fresh air, newly budding flowers, singing birds and a sense of renewal. Getting organized and doing a bit of spring cleaning helps to bring that wonderful fresh feeling into your home and office.
Here are 10 tips to help you start the season off ...
Views: 1773(1 vote) - 10 Steps to Creating Positive Momentum - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Ron BroussardThere is positive momentum and negative momentum. Are you creating positive momentum in your life, drawing the things you want in your life, or you pushing it away? Here are ten suggestions (or reminders) to help you focus on what really matters. 1. Take some time to decide what you want ...
Views: 2940(1 vote) - 10 Steps To Resolve Your Relationship Conflicts - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from John Schurmann"Just do what I say!" At some point in our lives we all have said this when we could not find a satisfying agreement with our spouse or partner. Everyone of us has differences and disagreements. But healthy people find ways to resolve conflicts without turning them into wars. When you have ...
Views: 2121(1 vote) - 10 Steps to Self-Love and Nurturing - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Darlene LancerThe idea of self-love and self-nurturing baffles most people, especially codependents, who by and large, received inadequate parenting. The word “nurture” comes from the Latin nutritus, meaning to suckle and nourish. It also means to protect and foster growth. For young children, this usually ...
Views: 2169(1 vote) - 10 Things Husbands Do That Win the Universe - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2015 from Nurturing MarriageOriginally published here: http://www.nurturingmarriage.org/the-little-things/10-things-husbands-do-that-win-the-universe Alright ladies, we know your husband is your Mr. Incredible. We know that some days you just stare at him in awe that you convinced this super-hero of a husband to marry ...
Views: 1693(1 vote) - 10 Things You Should Tell Your Wedding Photographer - by Submitted on May 10, 2017 from Kalyna KapurWedding day holds a lot of memories to couples. One thing they wouldn't even try messing up with is wedding photography. No one wants to compromise and let go off their moments captured so beautifully. Whenever you take a glimpse on your wedding album, it should leave you with any emotion apart ...
Views: 1277(1 vote) - 10 Tips for Getting Through the Divorce Process - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2020 from Kalyna KapurWhen you are in love, and everything is going well, life might seem like a dream come true. But because it is life after all, nothing can ever be constant. There will always be a regression to the mean. Meaning, if things are going good for a while, they might become just normal, and the scales ...
Views: 652(1 vote) - 10 Tips to Heal from the trauma if you have Been Abused - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2020 from Jaclyn TengThe world we live in is full of miseries and pain. No matter how hard you try, you simply can't avoid the pain and misery that this world carries mercilessly. Therefore, almost all of us are carrying traumas and pain of our own. The only difference is that we all suffer in different ways, and we ...
Views: 1041(1 vote) - 10 Tips To Infidelity-Proof Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Dan And JenniferInfidelity can sneak up on even the most solid partnerships. According to an infidelity poll conducted by WomanSavers.com of 6,330 women, 92% believe that emotional affairs lead to physical affairs, whereas only a mere 7% believe they do not. With the increase in technology, cheating has ...
Views: 2159(1 vote) - 10 Ways for Women to Defy Maturity - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2011 from Allura JoyYou can look and feel younger, no matter what age you are! It is just a matter of staying active and implementing more fun and adventure in your life. Don’t just exist and be a slave to the same old boring routine day after day. You don’t have to be wealthy, retired, or even have a significant ...
Views: 2990(6 votes) - 10 Ways to Boost Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Best CatcherIn any relationship, there is always a possibility to become boring regardless of how long you have been. If you don’t spend some time and effort overcoming the rough patches of your love life, the romance can easily leave your relationship indefinitely. Use below the following 10 suggestions to ...
Views: 1374(1 vote) - 10 Ways to Stop Gangs without Money! - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Stephanie MannAmerica slowly evolved from “In God we trust” to the “me generation” demanding rights without a sense of responsibility to neighbors or community. The loss of community involvement has contributed to the growth of criminal gangs. When families break down, children can become angry. They can find ...
Views: 2645(3 votes) - 11 Awesome Things to Do This Summer - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Marilyn BohnIn the summer are you frazzled and tired of your kids at the end of every day? Are you counting the days until school starts? Summer can be a time to help spark your creativity and your child’s creativity as well. Hold a family meeting where kids can choose an activity they are interested in. ...
Views: 1845(2 votes) - 11 hints for life - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2012 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriEleven Hints for Life 1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. 2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that ...
Views: 4604(1 vote) - 11 Interesting Topics to Talk About with Anyone - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2010 from Joshua UebergangAny idiot can ramble on about in conversation and bore the bejesus out of their companions, and it is a legitimate fear for many that this embarrassing turn of events may happen to them at some point. We've all been there, stuck in conversation, trying to dig out of it by throwing everything we ...
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