The world we live in is full of miseries and pain. No matter how hard you try, you simply can't avoid the pain and misery that this world carries mercilessly. Therefore, almost all of us are carrying traumas and pain of our own. The only difference is that we all suffer in different ways, and we have different coping mechanisms to deal with it.

While there is not much that you can do to avoid the pain and suffering, you can heal from your trauma and rise again. Suffering and pain are not a competition, but some of us have it in the worst form, and others simply can't relate to it because they've never been in the same shoe as the person suffering from their trauma.

For example, if you've been abused physically, then one can simply not imagine the pain and trauma that you are carrying with yourself. Understandably, it'll not be easy for you to come back to life and live your life like normal people. But, you need to understand that you are important and precious. Therefore, you deserve to be happy just like everyone else, and you have all the right to claim your happiness from the world.

However, you have to take the first step all by yourself if you want your journey of healing to begin. There is no denying the fact that sometimes the process of healing can be extremely painful based on the trauma of the abuse that you are carrying with yourself. But, it is also true that you simply can't be happy if you don't take a leap of faith and make up your mind to heal yourself.

In this blog, I am going to narrow down some tried and tested tips that will help you to heal from the trauma of physical abuse.

So, without any further ado, let's see how you can start your journey of healing and achieve your peace of mind.

Here you go:

First thing first – Have Proper Closure

If you have suffered from any kind of abuse at any age, then the chances are that you've numbed the trauma, and now it is following you in everything that you try to do in life. If that's the case, then you need to get rid of it now and make sure that you have proper closure.

Having closure doesn't mean that you talk to yourself and make yourself believe that what happened is in the past. No, this way, you are just enabling your abuser to do the same to someone else as they did to you. If you want to end your suffering once in for all, then you have to confront your abuser upfront. Fighting a legal battle is up to your choice because it can be a lot to handle for someone who is already in so much pain. But, confronting your abuser by exposing them is something that can help you move on in your life and deal with the trauma.

Confronting Your Abuser is Important

If you've made your mind to confront your abuser and make them pay for what they did to you, then believe me when I say that you are bravest of all and more power to you. However, you need to understand that this fight is going to be long and tough, and you may not get the results that you deserve. But, it doesn't mean that you lose your faith in injustice.

Just make sure that you have the right people by your side while fighting to get the justice that both you and your abuser deserve. For example, if you were forced to be a part of sex trafficking, then you need to hire a sex trafficking attorney to fight your case. It is important because it is the only way to make your abuser face justice. Above all, it is important because it is a very serious and technical case, which means a lawyer who doesn't have experience in this particular field will not be able to handle the case well.

Start Talking About Your Feelings

More often than not, people who have the trauma of any kind of abuse tend to conceal their feelings because they think no one will listen. If you think the same, then you are wrong at so many levels. You deserved to be heard, and if people around you are not ready to listen to you, then it is your clue to get rid of them.

Don't let anyone tell you that your feelings about your trauma are not valid, and you are too sentimental. It is the kind of negativity that you need to cut from your life if you want to heal from any kind of trauma. Such people are not your friends, and you need to let them go.

Talk about how you feel with people actually understanding and compassionate about your feelings. But, you have to take the first step and start opening up in front of the people who actually matter to you and talk about whatever you've been concealing inside you.

Seek Professional Help

If you are able to deal with your trauma with the help of your friends and family, then you are among the lucky ones. But, if you have slightest of the doubt that your trauma is still affecting your life in one way or another, then it is about time that you start seeing a good therapist.

The first thing that physical or mental abuse breaks are your mental health and composure. Therefore, you need to focus on your mental health more than anything if you have been abused in any way. Get help of a professional therapist and tell them how you are feeling and how your trauma is coming in the way of your happiness.

Set Your New Goals

Now that you've started the process of healing, it is about time that you set new goals and start working on them. What happened has happened. You can't change the past, but you can move past it and start your life once again. It is going to be difficult and nerve-wracking, but when you are finally able to break the chains of your trauma, you feel liberated from a burden that wasn't yours to carry in the first place.

Setting new goals in life really helps in this regard as you have something new to hold on to and move forward with your life leaving your trauma behind.

Remember, It Wasn't Your Fault

We are living in the 21st century, and unfortunately, the majority of society is still stupid enough to blame the victim if something unspeakable happens to them. Therefore, if someone tries to question you about your trauma and tries to invalidate it, you need to shut them up right there and then.

No matter what these senseless goons say, you need to tell yourself every day that it wasn't your fault. If someone tries to tell you otherwise, shut them up too and just focus on your healing and growth.

Join a Support Group

Believe it or not, but when you see someone who has gone through what you've been through, it becomes easy to talk to them, and you feel comforted in their presence. It happens because to feel heard, and it is very important that the other person is also able to relate with your pain and suffering.

Therefore, if you have suffered any kind of abuse, you need to make sure that you join a support group. It is going to give you just that you need to move on with your life and heal.

Start Exploring Yourself Once Again

What happened to you doesn't change anything about you. Remember that you are the same person that you were before. You may have lost your true self for a brief time, but it's time to explore yourself once again and make sure that you find that lovely and lively person that you once were.

Don't let your inner self die. This way, you are letting your abuser win, and that is something you definitely want, right? So, take some time and spend it on yourself to make sure that you are okay, and you got this no matter what.

Focus on Your Physical Health

Apart from your mental health, your physical health also suffers when you suffer from any kind of trauma. You simply can't expect to live a full life after recovering from your trauma if you are not focusing on your physical health at the same time. Therefore, it is important to make your physical health the center of your attention.

Start eating healthy and start exercising daily. Believe it or not, but if you have a habit of working out every day, it helps to keep negative thoughts away, and you are able to think clearly about your future goals and plans.

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