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If a being from another planet was to look at a human being, it might seem as though they are only made up of one part: a physical body. However, if they were able to look through their physical body, they would soon see that they also have what could be described as a mental and emotional ... Views: 678
One of the effects of early abuse and/or neglect is that one can have no sense of their own value as an adult. Deep down, they can feel as though they have absolutely no value whatsoever.
As a result of this, it will probably be hard for them to feel comfortable in their own skin and they ... Views: 677
One thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go.
Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ... Views: 671
Perhaps, after not being in a good way for a little while or quite some time, you ended up reaching out for external support. Yet, although your intention was to change your life, you may find that this hasn’t really taken place.
You may have read a number of books and even had a few ... Views: 670
One outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs.
As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for ... Views: 667
There are a number of reasons as to why someone would end up getting into self-development. One reason that this can take place is because their emotions are rarely under control.
Having an emotional self that is often out of control is going to make it hard for them to experience a sense of ... Views: 666
What can’t be denied is that everyone on this planet is going to die at one point or another. Thus, to say this is not being ‘negative’, it is simply stating something that is part of the human experience.
This doesn’t mean that someone should endlessly think about the fact that they will ... Views: 665
One thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive.
As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ... Views: 664
Even though someone will have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both parts of their being. Instead, they could be connected to what is taking place in their head and very rarely be connected to what is taking place in their body.
Still, it doesn’t mean that ... Views: 664
Although someone will have a body and live on planet earth, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being in their body and living on the earth. This can be due to what took place when they younger.
If this is so, thanks to what they went through as a child, they won’t be able to ... Views: 662
If someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings.
This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ... Views: 662
If someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them.
Many years ... Views: 657
If you were to look back on your life, you may find that it hasn’t been easy for you to handle setbacks. It might not matter if it has related to a big or a small setback, as you could have a very similar experience.
At the same time, perhaps you have just experienced a setback and don’t need ... Views: 656
It has been said that the more in control someone feels, the better their mental and emotional health will be. This is not to say that someone needs to be a total control freak and to control everyone and everything in order to be in a good place.
What it comes down to is that when one has a ... Views: 655
In 2008 I completed my Master’s in Sustainable Development and the global financial crash was about to hit its peak, so was my stress.
Like many people in their twenties, I struggled for many years trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I had always had a love for the ... Views: 652
If someone has experienced trauma, either as an adult or as a child, they may end up suffering in silence. This is not to say that they will consciously choose to suffer as this is something that can just take place.
What took place will have had a big effect on them and it will be a ... Views: 650
When it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone.
For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ... Views: 648
A number of years ago, I read a book called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.” This is an old book, originally published in 1989, but I thought it was still excellent.
I would say that even if someone doesn’t have a borderline personality or even know ... Views: 648
If someone wants answers and ends up reaching out for support, it will show that they want to find a way to move past the challenges in their life. This could show that they have mental and emotional challenges, along with relationships that are not going as they would like them to ... Views: 647
If the word ‘aggression’ is mentioned, it is usually an indication that someone has behaved in an aggressive manner. It could also show that someone is an aggressive person, with them having the tendency to behave in a destructive way.
But, although it would be easy to see aggression as ... Views: 645
When it comes to day-to-day life, if someone’s inner world is mentioned it is likely to relate to what is going on in their conscious mind. Also, if one was to reach out for external support and ended up working with a counsellor/therapist, the same thing could take place.
It can seem as ... Views: 642
One thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected.
They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ... Views: 642
If one was to spend a certain amount of time in the company of people who have a borderline personality disorder, they are likely to end up with a fairly good understanding of what this disorder is all about. But, while this is likely to be a time in their life that is extremely informative, it ... Views: 641
When someone has an inner sense of safety, it will be possible for them to be in their body and to express themselves. What this comes down to is that in order for someone to inhabit their body, they will need to feel safe enough to do so.
As this component is in place, they will comfortable ... Views: 640
When someone wakes up in the morning, it can be as though they are simply observing what is going on around them. Once they have left their bedroom or wherever they were sleeping, their experience can be the same.
Therefore, if something takes place that annoys them, it won’t have anything to ... Views: 640
As an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves.
However, while this could be the case, ... Views: 640
If someone was to get to the point in their life where they can no longer carry on living in the same way, they could end up buying a book on self-development or they could find a therapist to work with. What this could show is that their inner world is not as they would like it to be.
As a ... Views: 639
If someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they are typically out of touch with how they feel. During the moments when this isn’t the case, that’s if they have these moments, it could be because something dramatic has taken ... Views: 635
Although there are those that are full of life and embrace the life that they have been given, there are that aren’t and are unable to so. However, this is not to say that the former will always be on the top of the world or the latter will always be down in the dumps.
What it does mean is ... Views: 634
If the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him.
He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only ... Views: 634
After a number of months have passed, a woman may see that her partner is overly focused on his mother. Regardless of if this stood out in the beginning, then, it will now be something that is only too clear.
The next step can be for her to talk to him about what is going on, to see if she ... Views: 634
There are people on this planet that have no interest in controlling anyone or anything, while there are those that want to control everyone and everything. Thus, some people will be at one end of the spectrum and some will be at the other end.
At the same time, it is likely that just about ... Views: 628
Now, although there have been certain events that have had a big effect on a lot of people in recent years, it could be said that there hasn’t been anything for a while that is quite like what is currently taking place. If there are people that haven’t heard about what is going on, it could show ... Views: 627
A number of years ago, the mainstream media spent a lot of time talking about “fake news”. This was seen as something that was “undermining democracy” and had led to a “post-truth world.”
As time passed, different social media platforms cracked down on the “fake news” and fact-checking sites ... Views: 624
If instead of doing what they usually do, someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may see that it has been one big struggle. Nonetheless, this is not to say that they won’t have ever experienced good things or have good things in their life.
There is the chance that ... Views: 623
Towards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body.
One then had a physical ... Views: 623
If someone was to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they experience a fair amount of anxiety. Along with this, they could often experience panic and even have panic attacks from time to time.
At other times, they could be overwhelmed with fear and ... Views: 621
As a result of the contagion that has had a big impact on numerous countries around the world, a lot has been said about what is going on. Like most events, there is not just one view of what is going on.
There are views floating around that can appear to be believable, while there are other ... Views: 620
If someone has been in a number of relationships that were somewhat or extremely abusive, they might have decided to stay single for a little while. Then again, they might not want to be in another relationship.
But, taking into account what they have been through, this could be seen as a ... Views: 617
From the outside, someone may come across as a strong and as though they have a good connection to themselves. Additionally, they could typically appear to be happy and full of life.
But, although they can generally create the impression that they are a well-adjusted adult, it doesn’t mean ... Views: 616
If one was to think about what someone would be like if they are nihilistic, the main thing that could come to mind is that this person will believe that life has no meaning and nothing matters. They are then not going to be full of life and they might be happy to destroy things.
Through ... Views: 613
Although a lot has changed over the years, it is not uncommon for the physical body to be seen as nothing more than a lump of meat. It is then an area that is not affected by what is taking place in someone’s internal world (their thoughts, emotions, feelings or beliefs) or what is taking place ... Views: 608
If someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they usually feel, what might become clear is that they often feel low and even depressed. This could be how they have felt for as long as they can remember.
There could also be moments when they don’t feel anything, which will give ... Views: 606
At this point in time, a woman could wonder why the man that she is with has pulled away. She might not have been with him for very long or she may have been with him for quite some time.
Either way, she is going to have the desire to find out what is going on and perhaps to do what she can ... Views: 606
There is the chance that someone has been in a number of relationships that were not very fulfilling. Thanks to this, they could question if they want to be in another relationship or if they just want to stay single forever.
Then again, they could currently be in yet another relationship ... Views: 606
Although someone might not be consciously aware of the fact that they fear their fellow human beings, they can still be aware of the consequences of having this fear. So, if someone in this position was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, what could instantly stand out is how ... Views: 605
If a man was to think about what his interactions have been like with women over the years, he could come into contact with a number of memories that he would rather forget about forever. This doesn’t mean that every moment he has shared with a woman will have been unpleasant.
No, what it ... Views: 605
There are likely to be moments in every adult’s life when they will feel like a child. When this takes place, it could be said that they will have regressed to an earlier stage of their life.
During this time, someone may feel scared, powerless or helpless, with it being irrelevant that they ... Views: 604
When it comes to what is currently taking place in the world, it is clear that it is not a very harmonious time. Due to the measures that have been put in place, irrespective of if they are the right ones, the world has been totally disrupted.
If it was said that the world would be thrown ... Views: 604
If someone was to take the time to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel good. Along with how they feel, there is going to be what takes place.
At this point in time, they could believe that what takes place causes them to feel as they do. ... Views: 604