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Even though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they have it together and are living a fulfilling life. Instead, their life could be one big struggle and they could be well and truly fed up.
But, if this is just what is normal, what is going on for them might not stand out. As a result ... Views: 238
What can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel when they are around others. Then again, this can be something that takes place without them consciously choosing to do so.
Due to this, they can generally create the impression that everything is fine. Naturally, this is going to stop ... Views: 207
Now that someone is an adult, they can have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. And, it might not matter what they do or how they live their life, as it might not change the sense of badness that they often experience.
Along with this, they can have an overly developed sense of ... Views: 213
Now that someone is an adult, they can have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. And, it might not matter what they do or how they live their life, as it might not change the sense of badness that they often experience.
Along with this, they can have an overly developed sense of ... Views: 174
Although someone is a separate human being with their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can feel like they are simply an extension of others.
Due to this, they are not going to have the sense that they own themselves, they will ... Views: 193
Even though someone is a valuable human being, who has the right to say no and live their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Consequently, they can be accustomed to being treated badly and putting up with things that don’t serve them, saying yes to ... Views: 229
If someone didn’t have at least one parent who was able to see them as a separate individual who had their own needs and feelings, and generally attuned to them and met their needs, they might not be aware of this. Now that they are an adult, they might not be able to remember a great deal about ... Views: 197
Even if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child.
If so, throughout this stage of their life, they ... Views: 155
Although someone might not be aware of what they believe about themselves, what they believe will still have a big impact on the experience that they have. What this illustrates is how powerful their beliefs are.
When it comes to why they wouldn’t be aware of what they believe about ... Views: 41
Even though someone acts as though they are merely an extension of their family, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The reason for this is that this can just be what is normal.
As a result of this, their main focus will be on doing what they can to please the people ... Views: 22
If someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might enter their mind is that they have a number of fears. Due to this, it is likely to make it difficult for them to embrace life.
In general, they could live in a way that causes them to be on the outside and unable ... Views: 22
It is often said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations. One of the reasons that is put forward is that, by having them, they are likely to end up being let down.
However, even if someone is able to arrive at a place where they no longer expect anything, it doesn’t mean that they won’t ... Views: 341
What someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to fall into a deep hole when something doesn’t go as they want it to. Due to this, this will be a time when they will experience disempowering thoughts and feelings.
Along with ... Views: 171
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, they may find that they have the inclination to ignore their own needs and be there for others. After this, they might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember.
Naturally, by being this way, a number ... Views: 167
Even if someone’s early years were a time when they were greatly deprived and deeply wounded, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. If they were to think about this stage of their life, they could think about how it wasn’t that bad.
They might even have a fairly ... Views: 26
If a man is in a relationship with a woman who is undermining him, he could have at least one friend who finds it hard to accept why he doesn’t cut his ties with her. Over the days, weeks and perhaps months that he has been with her, this friend might have had a number of conversations with ... Views: 271
So, shortly after I had written the previous article about Yellowstone, titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I thought about how I had more to say. In this article, I spoke about how Jamie, John’s second youngest son, is very sensible and reserved and how ... Views: 236
If a man, who is in a relationship, were to think about how his girlfriend typically behaves, he could find that she is not very supportive or respectful. He could see that she has been this way for a while.
When it comes to how she behaves, what can be normal is for her to be critical and ... Views: 106
If a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that when she is dating a man, she has the need to break him down. So, she might see that it doesn’t take long before she is critical, tries to embarrass him and is controlling.
He will then be someone who she is ... Views: 103
Although someone has a mental, emotional and physical self, they might typically only be aware of the thoughts that are in their head. In fact, they might even see themselves as a being that is purely mental.
This is going to mean that they won’t have a good connection with their body. By ... Views: 227
Life can change in a heartbeat. A few weeks ago, a family was stopped at a red light and rear-ended by a drunk driver. Their 10-year old son, Matthew, suffered a severe head trauma and is in a medically induced coma. The prognosis is not good and the family struggles to make sense of what was an ... Views: 1820
Even though someone will have had a physical birth, it doesn’t mean that they had an emotional birth. When it comes to the former, this is something that would have taken place automatically.
However, when it comes to the latter, this would have largely depended on how emotionally available ... Views: 127
It can seem as though there is only one type of birth – a physical birth. However, along with this type of birth, there is also another type of birth, and this is known as an emotional birth.
The first type will allow someone to have their own vehicle, so to speak, and the second type will ... Views: 284
If someone was able to reflect on how they typically feel, they could find that they often feel helpless and hopeless. By being this way, they are likely to spend a lot of time feeling down and even depressed.
After this, they could think about why they are this way and what could enter their ... Views: 196
There are going to be moments when someone needs to be in an active state and moments when they will need to be in a passive state. They are, after all, not a tree and neither are they a machine.
If they were more or less always in doing mode, they are likely to end up being burnt out before ... Views: 271
Although someone might not ever climb down into a hole, it doesn’t mean that they won’t ever feel like they are in a hole. They could often have moments when they feel they are deep in the ground.
Not only this but when they are in this hole, they could feel as though they will never get out ... Views: 829
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel alone, ignored and unsupported. Now, this could be a sign that they don’t have many friends and spend a lot of time by themselves, or it might not be this black and white.
If they can relate to ... Views: 279
Traumatic experiences can range from accidents to natural disasters, and they can leave lasting scars on the people who experience them. If you're one of these individuals, however, you don't have to let your trauma rule your life. You can start identifying, processing and working through your ... Views: 1163
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to eat when they are emotionally unsettled. This can be something that takes place every now and then.
Alternatively, this could take place a few times a week or it might be more often. ... Views: 209
What someone may find, that’s if they were to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that there are moments when they end up feeling completely overwhelmed by how they feel. When this takes place, it could seem as though they have absolutely no reason to feel as they do.
However, ... Views: 780
Some people feel more than others.
They are often told that they are ‘too much,’ ‘too intense,’ ‘too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional.
People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At their ... Views: 1939
When it comes to the needs that someone has, there will be at least three areas; their intellectual, emotional and survival needs. In order for them to live a fulfilling life, it will be essential for them to take care of each of these areas.
This is not to say that this is something that ... Views: 330
Although someone is likely to have been connected to and expressed their emotional needs when they were a child, it doesn’t mean that this will be the case now that they are an adult. In general, their emotional needs could be a mystery and, naturally, this will stop them from expressing ... Views: 277
There is no health without emotional health. Over 90% of all illnesses are caused by mental and emotional stress. It is the number one reason for doctor visits in America today and the psychiatric drugs prescribed are second only to painkillers.
Emotional pain is an umbrella term for: fear, ... Views: 1660
Although experiencing emotional pain from time to time is simply part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everything can relate to this experience. For some people, this is something that they will experience after a breakup, a loss, the end of a job, or when something doesn’t go as they had ... Views: 562
When it comes to someone’s life, there can be areas that are going well and areas that are not. If the areas of their life that are not going well have been this way for as long as they can remember, they could believe that there is very little that they can do.
This is likely to mean that ... Views: 393
If a man is not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will end up reaching out for the support that he needs. He might not even share what is going on for him with his friends or family, for instance.
As a result of this, he could have a number of people in his life that would be happy to ... Views: 241
When it comes to the people that have taken their own life over the years, some of these have been people that created the impression that everything was fine up until they ended it all. As a result of this, it can leave those they left behind in both a lot of pain and confusion.
If someone ... Views: 871
What someone could see, if they were to reflect on their life, is that their inability to handle their emotions is having a negative on their life. They could also see that this is nothing new as they have been this way for as long as they can remember.
Due to this, they might not need to ... Views: 207
It could be said that there are at least three types of people; those who are connected to their mental and emotional self, those who have a weak connection to their mental self and those who have a weak connection to their emotional self. Naturally, the ideal will be for someone to be connected ... Views: 488
If someone is in a position where they are typically out of touch with how they feel, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. But, if this is how they how been for quite some time, there will be no reason for it to stand out.
And, as they are likely to live in a society that is full ... Views: 251
Even though someone has a thinking and a feeling self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. Instead, they can typically be in touch with the former but not the latter.
However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they don’t have a very ... Views: 139
What someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, is that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. They could find that, in general, they are not aware of how they feel.
This is likely to show that they spend most of their life living in ... Views: 178
Now that someone is an adult, what they might notice is that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. In general, they might not know how they feel and be in a disconnected state.
But, even if they do experience a feeling or a number of feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will ... Views: 267
Someone’s emotional self will allow them to feel connected to life and others, and to feel supported. Clearly, then, this part of them will serve a very different purpose to their mental self.
This part of them will give them the ability to think, plan, reflect and understand how they feel. ... Views: 309
Even if someone’s early years were a time when their developmental needs were rarely if ever met, it doesn’t mean that they have well and truly put this stage of their life behind them. Nonetheless, there is the chance that they have completely forgotten about this stage of their life.
Or ... Views: 378
When something is not going well, it can be normal for someone to hope that things will soon change. If they didn’t feel this way, they could feel helpless, and this is not going to allow them to feel good or to see a way forward.
However, it wouldn’t be right to say that experiencing hope is ... Views: 368
In today’s world, it is often believed that human beings generally have no control over what happens to them. Also, when it comes to the ‘negative’ experiences that they have, the ‘negative’ feelings that they experience will be seen as being caused by what happens.
When someone is on board ... Views: 534
If someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect.
The time in their life that should have built them up would ... Views: 720
If someone is going through a very challenging period, there is the chance that they will have a lot going on internally. As to why this stage of their life is challenging, it could be due to a number of different reasons.
They might have just gone through a breakup, lost their job or fallen ... Views: 491