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In today’s society divorce is prevalent. Either you’ve gone through a divorce, been a product of divorced parents, or you know someone that has gone through a divorce.
In the divorce environment a child can feel the hurt and pain as they watch the power struggle take shape. Sometimes as ... Views: 1375
To be or not to be that is the question...," is uttered by Hamlet in William Shakespeare's famous play Hamlet. He makes this statement when he is trying to decide whether or not to kill himself. I find this quote to be so apropos to the situation of making the decision to divorce or not. For ... Views: 2367
We all have come across that time in our life when the grass looks greener on the other side. Well, this is to help you decipher exactly what it is that you are missing in your life.
You first have to think; has there been anything major that’s happened in your life that has upset you? This ... Views: 1360
Do you dream of the moment when you can have a bath undisturbed, or go out somewhere (anywhere, you're not fussy!) without taking an hour to get everyone into the car? That time has come ... you've got a weekend to yourself and ... Instead, you can't decide what to do!You want to make the most ... Views: 1771
Albert Einstein when asked of "Relativity" answered with this. "Relativity: An hour sitting with a pretty girl on a park bench passes like a minute, but a minute sitting on a hot stove seems like an hour." So what does this have to do with your Ex showing up late? Don't we all know how long 10 ... Views: 1653
Do you find it takes time for your children to settle in when they come back from your Ex's place? If you're like me, sometimes I wonder what goes on there that means they have to change so much. I mean, they've only been away a weekend and yet it feels like I get completely different children ... Views: 1558
If you dread handovers - you're not alone. If you are frustrated because you've managed to get your kids to tidy up the house before the Ex comes to collect them, and before you know it, they're sick of waiting so it's once again transformed into the bomb-site it was only half an hour ago ... ... Views: 4560
Many questions have been coming in about the biggies. So what are the biggies? It's the problems that people are having with their Ex's over issues like geographical differences. The emotional differences between the two houses and what you're meant to do about it. And, of course, money ... ... Views: 1844
Why do you want to spend less time with your children when growing up happens so quickly these days? Don't you look back on how many years have gone already and wonder how it's passed so fast?! And to think you've got to spend less time with your children because your Ex wants them, is ... Views: 1955
Save My Marriage Today Review: What is the book anyway?
Over the years I have reviewed many save marriage type products, some of which didn't even seem to be concerned with helping people. However, when I came across Amy Waterman's course - Save My Marriage Today I began to get excited. ... Views: 900
Like every process, there has to be an end product. During your divorce mediation, the ultimate goal is to obtain a written agreement that spells out all the aspects of your divorce and the conclusions you and your spouse have reached. But I am sure that there are times when you look at the ... Views: 1013
As a divorce mediator in Chicago, IL, I spend a lot of my time educating my clients as to what custody and visitation mean. In the past, custody always went to the mom and dad got visits every other weekend. Views have changed over the years. Studies are showing that children benefit more when ... Views: 1120
Co-parenting starts the day the decision is made to divorce has been made. Even the most amicable divorces need a plan for future co-parenting. Putting your children's best interests first, no matter how much you may dislike the other parent, is the key to co-parenting.
The first thing you ... Views: 1105
Most couples with children have no structured college savings plans set up. This is even more so after divorce proceedings commence. There are so many complex issues to discuss that college planning for the children takes a back seat to everything else. Things such as, “We’ll work it out when ... Views: 1512
As a mediator, I work with many couples who must agree upon a Child Support amount that makes sense to them and benefits their children the most. In the State of Illinois, where I practice, Child Support is based on a fixed percentage of the giver's "net" income. The more children you have, ... Views: 1405
While reading this, please bear in mind that it is not just father's who leave. There are also mothers who chose to leave. Whatever their reasons are; try your best to put yourself in their shoes. This is a tool for those whom might need it. I love my father, I just don't know him.
I never ... Views: 1827
Coping with divorce for men can be confusing and frustrating. The reason is simple – support and help isn’t easy to find when it comes to men dealing with divorce. Living in the aftermath of divorce will feel like being in a slippery slope where no matter how hard you try to claw and struggle; ... Views: 5733
The lyrics as sung by Frank Sinatra: “Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again..” offer a positive way of getting through life’s challenges. Sometimes, however, it takes a lot more healing and work to get through tough times.
It is said that 3 of the most difficult ... Views: 1933
How to forgive someone?
Do you forgive your friends when they hurt you? Do you remember the positive or the negative from your friends? How can you forgive someone?
Many people want to learn how to forgive someone whether it is a friend, a family member, or colleague, but find it hard to ... Views: 1400
Children Are Not Pawns
Has your significant other become “de trop” (as the French like to say)? Has he or she gone outside of your relationship for anything other than a casual friendship? Have you cause to re-examine your relationship? All too often we allow ... Views: 3145
Things women should know and avoid in a relationship
What are the obstacles that stand in the way of the relationship’s happiness? How can a woman drive the man she loves away?
Being in a relationship is like a company that is shared between two people. Every relationship and marriage ... Views: 1724
How to save your relationship and marriage?
Do you want to save your relationships and marriage? What are the steps that you need to do to have a healthy and successful relationship and marriage?
Every single day there are couples who face challenges and they search for ways not only to ... Views: 1133
Society usually has this misinterpreted view about men and divorce. That men will be fine in the end, that they are much more stable in terms of handling pain and tremendous emotional stress and that they will generally come out fine in the end. Well much as society would like to say it is so, ... Views: 1846
Are you struggling to get through the day because of the emotional strain and pressure that post divorce has enforced upon your life? If you are then you’re not the only as there are literally thousands of men all over the world battling the same problem as well. The reason for why there are so ... Views: 2755
Divorce makes us reexamine the way we perceive a family. You have changed from a nuclear family with two parents to a one parent family. To begin this lesson I would like you to write in your journal about how you perceive parenting.
I think the most important thing in a parent-child ... Views: 1575
LESSON ONE: Dealing With the Anger
Begin this first lesson by writing down your feelings about your divorce in your journal. Don’t say “I can’t do this” or “I don’t know what to write”. You know what is in your heart and what you feel.
1. Was there another person involved in the ... Views: 1546
The road from a two parent family to a one parent family can be laced with tears, heartbreak, relief and rage. However single motherhood can be embraced, honored, and celebrated.
As a veteran single mother I find strength in looking back at my own journey. Here are a few of my secrets of ... Views: 1662
How to build healthy relationships?
How do you build healthy relationships with your partner? What should you do to build and maintain happy and healthy relationship and marriage?
Everybody wants to have happy relationships and marriages and all couples want to keep improving their ... Views: 1350
Are you wondering how to win your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back? Or perhaps you are asking yourself whether it's possible to win your ex back?
Well, a split up does not necessary cause the end of a love. Although no-one can assure that you'll surely get your ex lover back, you can always do ... Views: 979
Coping with broken relationship grief commences with understanding just what each stage is. When you know this it's simply mind boggling how much of a calming influence this tends to have on you and whilst the anguish associated with a separation won't magically go away, knowing what you should ... Views: 3775
So what does divorce for men really entail? Well for those who haven’t experienced it yet, it can be quite difficult to explain. Those who have however will tell you that it’s one of the most painful, difficult, traumatizing, and confusing experiences you will ever have to deal with in your ... Views: 1327
Children intuitively know that there are problems in a marriage, sometimes despite their parents' best efforts to hide them. They may even believe divorce is a welcome relief from their parents' hot or cold war. However, they do not share their parents' need to separate, but on the contrary, ... Views: 2309
1. Tell your children the truth, with simple explanations. Tell them where the other parent is.
2. Don’t bring up grievances or speaking derogatorily about the other parent to or in front of your children.
3. Don't discuss financial, legal or other disputes with your children.
4. Don’t ... Views: 1503
A marriage breakup is regarded as one of the toughest problems that anybody can undergo in their lifetime. Quitting a married relationship leads to a a variety of feelings and problems that can threaten to overwhelm and destroy anyone. Dealing with the breakdown of a spousal relationship is much ... Views: 2155
Even if you wanted the divorce, it entails loss. Aside from the ending of the relationship with your spouse, you may be losing your home, time with your children, in-laws, extended family, and even friends. There are inevitable financial losses, loneliness, a change of lifestyle, imagined ... Views: 2117
The emotional unbonding that can occur during divorce is the cornerstone for transformation and is my focus. The task of emotional separation involves unbonding romantic and dependent aspects of the relationship, and mourning. This is the stage where growth and transformation unfold. It includes ... Views: 1910
Divorce ranks just above death in severity of stress and is often combined with other stressors, such as marital discord, serious financial problems, a move, single parenting, multiple losses and litigation, all at once. It's a life cycle crisis that presents a crucial period of increased ... Views: 1639
Divorce is probably one of the hardest and most difficult situations anyone has to go through. While it would be somewhat unfair to say that women get the upper hand in terms of surviving divorce because of the numerous resources and documented pieces of advice that they are able to utilize, ... Views: 18345
Christian marriage counseling is used by many couples striving to follow God's will and seek His guidance when the need for marriage counseling has come. When you marriage is struggling it is important for couples to get good advice from marriage counselors. If you are Christians then it very ... Views: 939
“Life is not a difficult thing” – at least that’s how men want to appear in front of other people. As men, we want to show the world that no matter how difficult complicated, or painful a situation can be, we will always be able to deal with it easily and come out fine in the end. Well, ... Views: 2735
Men have been known to be the stronger half of the species, and while many today will generally argue this fact, it is one that has already been proven time and time again. Whether in physical or emotional aspects, men have been known to show resistance and resilience against breakdowns – but ... Views: 1265
Sharing an unhealthy relationship ultimately leads to the decision of a break up. People consider parting away a better option than staying together and arguing maximum times. But after they part away they realise that it is very painful to live without your love whenever you remember the ... Views: 2167
Brain imaging shows that a failed love relationship can be as hard to release as a cocaine addiction. What wasn't studied for this article in the Journal of Neurophysiology? Cutting cords of attachment. By Rose Rosetree, author of "Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy ... Views: 3743
Handling intrusive family members, prying friends and nosey parishioners while going through a breakup is never easy. It’s tough enough coming to grips with the fact your relationship is over. Throw in the frustrations, disappointments, stress and anger, plus, dealing with guilt as you ... Views: 2512
Lindsay feels as if she's trapped in a nightmare. She was well aware that her marriage to Sam has been rocky over the past year or two, but she always believed that the two of them would eventually work out their problems.
She was completely unprepared when Sam came home from work a few ... Views: 2811
I have coached many women, straight and gay, going through separation and divorce. One of the themes I hear from women is about their bafflement about their conflicting emotions once the separation or divorce is final. They say things like, “I couldn’t stand living with him anymore!”, “She was ... Views: 3580
You can’t plan everything, life can be pretty random. And one of the things in life that you can’t prepare is a nasty break up. You should’ve seen the break up coming, but you didn’t because your ex wait for you to get relaxed and get comfortable before he pick the ice pick down between your ... Views: 3460
A few weeks ago, I had an encounter with the past. At first, I didn’t know what or how to react, because its been months since I haven’t seen my former boyfriend, but as the conversation progresses, it turned out to be a good meeting. That night, I contemplated about the x- factor. During our ... Views: 1028
Life is about making choices. Some choices, like who you marry are big… while others are even bigger. Another choice is how to get over a break up. Some handle it calmly, while others jump into rebounds and some get free reign to whine to their friends. Yes, I believe that part of the breaking ... Views: 1294